A beginning of another year

Hello again

Happy New Year everyone in Schmuland Land. Or to those who read this blog. Thank you again every single one of you who has taken the time out of there lives to read what I have to say. I hope you have found the reading interesting. I have been fortunate enough to be read by people all over the world. Places that I would not of even thought about.  Small countries. Large countries. Influential countries and communist countries. I want to say I look forward to checking to see if I have been read by any new countries.

Tonight I tired to be at mom's early. So I arrive at 4:00 pm Good thing, as mom was tired. But very happy to see me. I know she expects me and looks for me. I know there is an internal clock that says to her, your son is going to be here any minute.

They had a New Years Eve concert of some sorts this after noon. And apparently mom was tapping her hand and singing along.

Well this almost sounds like she was upset. she tends to smack her hand on her arm rest and chatter loudly. In an aggressive manner I will ask the individual who brought this up, today. a

Mom and I got to her dinner early, but we were finished at the same time. Mom was not that hungry, well at least for real food, but for chocolate, she could not get enough of it. I can't feed her to much chocolate. I don't want her to have a stroke. This really worries me. To much sugar. Anyways, she was not that hungry as she was constipated. The care aid solved this problem. And mom felt great afterwards. A big sigh of relief came out of her mouth. And a extremely large smile.

It was Wednesday, hair day. I washed and styled her hair. This made her even more tired. By the time, her hair was washed and she was cleaned out and her nightly spa treatment, it was time to sleep. And all of this was done before 7:15. I stayed a little bit, but I was offered a ride from one of the family members I know. Mom was almost asleep, so I sang to her, tucked her in and gave her the good night kisses. And off I went.

On my way home, I stopped and had coffee with someone who has the same trustee as my mother, who needed advice and someone to speak with on this issue.

I have something in the works, but I need to be living in White Rock. Freeing up the necessary time for me to work on this.

Really, it takes me up to four hours to travel their during the day, and up to three hours at night to get home.  No joke about this. With the waiting for the buses and trains and the time it takes with the buses, it can and has mostly taken four hours to get their during the day time. It is rush hour by the time I get over the bridge.

My biggest problem is carrying what I carry. Some days it is very heavy and hard to carry. Thank GOD I am strong and have a very strong back. Or I would just collapse from all the weight of he two bags. If I could have a fridge in moms room, this would take away a large percentage of the weight.

Okay, I am done. I am very tired, still have to eat something. I don't have any idea what that will be. My tooth is still bothering me a bit. So I can't eat what I want. Don't have it and can't afford to eat what I want. I guess that is that.

One thing. I don't eat the same things I make for mom. I can't eat allot of things. Every since I stopped eating anything from a can. Yes I don't eat anything from a can. And it has been at least 8 years now since I have. I can't eat allot of things. My body just doesn't want it.

Time to say good night I hope everyone had a very good New years eve.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Another year is almost over

Hello again

Today and yesterday, were good days. Okay, it is very hard carrying everything. Can't wait for the season to be over, so I can bring everything back and get back to just carrying the normal things. Allot lighter.

I have been making mom some very good meals the last few days and she has enjoyed them greatly. I continue to arrive early to be able to spend more time with her. I get the drinks out of the way and we have time to get the dinner ready. And we finish the dinner early.

It never fails, that as soon as mom grabs my hand, her eye's close.Especially after dinner. I have been putting her into bed. This she got us to. I did it for so very long. I think in the new year I will contact one of these schools and ask if they can certify me for lifts. That way there won't be any problems.

Just being able to spend this extra time with mom has been great. I leave a little latter as well. After the spa treatment and I give her something else to drink before she falls asleep. I just turn the TV on. Put it on mute and stand there holding her hand. Perfect. She has a smile on her face as she falls asleep.

Then I leave.

I finally received the receipts back, for mom's nightgowns. I took two months. when the manager told me she will copy them and have them back to me in a few days. Right

Now to get at it and do something, since they refuse to do anything about it. The staff are continuing to rip the nightgowns. They are almost completely ripped up the back. Maybe steel on your side might be able to get some action.

Since they are not dong what they said they were going to do. As in have them fixed.

Okay, time to go. Make something to eat

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Two weeks of cold, at least it's cold for us

Hello again

I have been arriving an extra hour early. This way mom and I are not rushed to get her drinks and prepared for dinner. Time to relax. Well, not rushed for me.

Getting their at 10 to 5 is to rushed and we don't even start dinner until well after 5 pm. This gives us more time after dinner to get things done at a slower pace. I don't do well being rushed. I tend to become a turtle. Slow right down. To solve this is to get their earlier. It is working out rather well.

Mom was wide awake, when I arrived and, as usual, As soon as she grabbed my hand, her eye's started to close. I really don't know what it is. Okay, security. Knowing that I am their and she is not alone. That I will hold her hand through-out the night, until I leave.

Mom ate all of her dinner, plus allot of fruit. I made a new smoothie, today. This mom really likes. When I finish the smoothie I put it in the freezer. It starts out with everything partly frozen still. So it is nice and cold and thick when I give it to her.

And tonight, when we were finished dinner, it was lights out for mom. I mean, no sooner did we finish and I did the dishes. Mom was falling asleep. And when I changed her, she was just about asleep. So I didn't give her a full spa treatment again. I will make it up tomorrow. Mom was full and to tired for this tonight. She would of just fussed about it.

Tonight was an uneventful night. Mom and I enjoyed each other's company and I sang to her, held her hand and otherwise I was just there for her.

That is all that really matters, after all. Just being there for her. Holding  her hand, making her feel safe and loved. Nothing more. And I love every minute of it. I wouldn't trade it for anything. No amount of money can compare to what is given and received from taking care of mom. I learn from her and she gets my attention. And it is well deserved.

My mother did everything for us and I will do the same for her. I don't care what people think or say about me.

Please pray for us. It is to mom's benefit that I find a place close to her. I can do more for her and get her out of their for short trips.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Boxing Day 2014

Hello again

Well it was a bad day. It was a great day, I got to be with mom and take care of her. Feed her dinner, and do what I do everyday for her. Spa treatment, put her to bed.

I needed to try some of the clothing I bought her for Christmas. They fit, but I will take a few back and exchange them for 1 size larger, to make it easier for the care aids. See I am not that difficult. I try to make things work. Yet the care aids, the day time care aids, are just impossible to deal with. Even though I have no idea who they are, never met them.

Even though they have been asked to not tear mom's nightgowns, they continue to do so. And as usual, nothing is done about it. I will be phoning the union, once the holidays are over. It has been months and they are not fixed, as the management stated they would do. Or the what Fraser Health told me they would do.

I will take them in and get them fixed, but this time I am going to have an extra strip added to the underside of the seam. To make it stronger. And I will have the new one's done in a similar manner.

These issues I should not have to be dealing with. Everyday there is something new.

But the most important issue is the abuse. Each time they are not dressing or undressing in the manner in which I described, they are committing abuse. Al Hogg pavilion, White Rock, BC, Canada.

This issue is one that I will be dealing with right away. Since nothing is done, with the management, about this. Time to go over their heads. Which I should of done right away. I do, however, have a police file number.

Now tonight, mom was in a extra touchy mood tonight. Okay, it was I was in a stressed mood and did not want to be touched.

I really don't like to be touched by anyone. I make an exception for mom. But sometimes I find it a bit to much. Yet I do nothing about it. Mom needs to hold my hand, it is her security. Knowing I am there for her. So I just deal with it.

But tonight, others were just to much. To many people wanted to either give me a hug or shake my hand. Which I try not to do at all. I don't like being hugged. Mom is the exception.

So tonight, I didn't feel like cooking, so I just picked up something for mom. Which she really enjoyed. Not as much as last nights dinner.

I did what I could do this year for mom and over the holidays so far and will make mom something nice for new years dinner.

I have been very tired of late, so I will finish now and get something to eat. My tooth is doing a little better so I am able to eat more of variety of things. Not just over cooked rice. I will not be eating rice for a while. That is for sure.

I ask that you pray that I find a place.


GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Christmas 2014

Hello again

It has been a few days since I last wrote. But I have been busy getting mom's Christmas together. Wrapping presents, and last night cooking her the traditional Christmas dinner. Except it wasn't a Turkey it was a Cornish Game Hen. Done exactly the way a Turkey would be done.

So I have been up very late. The other night, wrapping mom's gifts, I was up until 4 AM, than last night it was 3 AM and then I am up at 9 AM. I left my house today at noon, so I could get out their early.

I arrived at 3 PM. The roads were dead, hardly anyone on the buses.

It is not just the staying up late, I have been carrying extra things the last few days, I mean the last month. The Christmas tree, all the ornaments, and the decorations to go with everything. To make mom's room looking very much in the Christmas spirit.

I do this to make mom feel it is a little bit like home. To make sure she is loved. This is part of what I do. Bring a little bit of home into her life, her room, her dinner.

Well the first thing I needed to do was get mom her drinks, and a little bit to eat. Then we opened her presents. I got mom all the presents I could afford. And I bought allot of things on sale so I was able to get a few more gifts for her. Which was great. Mom loved everyone of them. I saw a tear in her eye. She knows I love her and will do everything I can for her. Everything. I wrapped them nicely.

I cleaned up all of the boxes and wrapping paper. And then it was off to have dinner. There was a nice table cloth left over in the family room, and nobody was going to be using it tonight. So this was our place for dinner.

I had to go off to warm everything up. This took a while. I didn't like leaving mom alone, so I was back and forth with her. As long as I touched base with her, kissed her hand. I thing she was okay with this. I hope so. I really do hate leaving mom alone while I am their. I try not to do this. But I do need to warm up her dinners.

This is my guilt for the night. Having to leave her alone while I warmed up her dinner. I guess I could of brought her with me, while I did this. But mom, with her legs extended out, takes up allot of space. And it is fairly crowded where the microwave is.  The rec person moved it their, A completely stupid idea. It was in the family room and there was no problem with this. Except it bothered the rec person. Whom I cannot stand. She exudes a very scattered and negative vibe. I can feel it when she is within 10 meters of me. And it is not a very good feeling.

I do everything I can to ignore her and keep her away from me. I do not and will talk to her. She is dirty and leaves dirty dishes around for day on end.

Anyways. I finished warming up her dinner and mom ate and ate. Mom ate just about all of her dinner, plus dessert. I just love this . Each holiday I do this for her.

I say this to anyone. The best Christmas present I get each year and for the past decade. Is to make my mother's Christmas the best it can be. To make each and every holiday special. This makes my heart thump and brings a tear to my eye each time I think about her.

I am so happy mom had a good time tonight. Enjoyed herself. Loved the company. Mom is stuck with just me, so I make our time together a special as possible.

I got her ready for bed, put her into bed and then gave her the nightly spa treatment. And since I had nothing to do tonight, I didn't have to wrap anything, make a huge meal or anything like that. I stayed longer than I usually do. I left at 8:30. I arrived home a little later than normal. But that is okay with me.

I just have to make something to eat now. My tooth is getting better and I have been able to eat a little more solid foods. This I am enjoying.

I wrote, I am done, I just need to eat something and relax. Maybe, just maybe I will be able to sleep better tonight. And maybe earlier.

I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and I hope you enjoyed this special day.That our Lord and savior was born. That you were able to have your families together.

This is my Christmas. I spent the day with mom and now I am alone again. I really am use to it. There was my negative. I am always alone so it is no big deal anymore. I have no family, except for my mother. And I have no friends, which I am sure might be my fault. I am busy traveling to and from seeing my mother. I don't have time to keep friends or make new ones. I am sorry for this. But I am unwilling to stop doing what I do for my mother. No matter what. Even if this means being alone all the time.

Again Merry Christmas

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Christmas is near to us,

Hello again

Just a few days left until the big day. Hope you are all ready for it. I'm not. I will wrap what I have for mom this evening, then Christmas Eve, when I get back at this place, I will cook mom her Christmas dinner.

I don't have to worry about eating any of it. As I still can't eat anything but soft foods. Even that hurts. The pain is either going away or I am getting use to this tooth pain. But I now have a major headache.

Wrong time of the year for this to happen. But that is the way it is and the way it shall be.

I have managed to get mom a few gifts this year. So I know she will like them. This is all that counts, isn't it.

I am thankful I get to spend another Christmas with my mother. She is healthy and as happy as she can be, considering her circumstance. Stroke, Dementia, stuck in a wheelchair, completely reliant on everyone else for all your needs.

I don't know about you, but I would be pretty upset, Okay, pissed right off at this. But mom goes about her day with a brave face. I do hope that she looks forward to me coming and helping her out. It is the most important thing I have and am doing in my life. Nothing compares to this. And I don't think anything will either.

I do look forward to being their and taking care of mom, everyday. I don't complain about the travel. I just wish to live out their to spend more time with mom.

It is such a waste for me to be traveling all the time it takes me to get their. This time could be used to help mom out even more.

I can't ask enough times to pray that I find a place close to mom, which I can afford.

Anyways mom has a great appetite and ate all of which I brought her today. Plus some. It makes my day, just being able to cook for her. Even though I can't eat right now, I still am making her dinners.

Tonight and the last few nights, I have been putting mom to bed. It is not fair to  her that she has to sit in her chair for the extra time it takes for the care aid to come in and put her into the bed. She just wants out of the chair.

I stayed with her latter this evening as I needed to leave early last night. Got home early as well. Doesn't make sense. I stayed latter and got home earlier. Weird or what.

I am disappointed that mom's daughters can't take the time to be. You know what, I am just happy I can make mom's Christmas enjoyable. I will and will continue to be there for her.

I see the look of disdain on her face.

But I think I will give this a break for a few days. Until Christmas Day.

I want to wish each and everyone of you a very Merry Christmas.

May each of these days be filled with laughter and joy. That you and your family take the time to enjoy each other. It is so precious an opportunity.

Give to your fellow man, those that are in need of cheer. Search out the one;s who really need a kind word or a gentle hug. Say hello to the one's you otherwise would walk by.

Let GOD's light fill each and everyone of your souls. That it shines forth so everyone see's that you are of GOD, born of GOD.

I wish to say thank you everyone for reading this Blog. I do appreciate it, very much. This makes me want to continue to write. Thank you!

God bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

4 days until Christmas eve

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So it has been interesting. Nothing being done as they promised to do. To take care of mom's nightgowns. Fix them. This is, of course, exactly what I knew would happen. The meeting was just a waste of my time. Nothing came from it.  They still are abusing mom, by grabbing, lifting and moving her left arm. I have mentioned how I want them to dress and undress her. Any other way, but the way I prescribed, is abuse. I know exactly when they have been abusing her.

Once I stated this is the way I want mom to be dressed and undress, Then any action other than what I have prescribed is abuse.

They staff continue to tear mom's nightgowns. A few more centimeters and they will be torn completely up the back. And will be open in the back.

This is the kind of nonsense I live with. They staff can do anything they want and nothing will happen to them.

Now for the lift bar to the side of the head. I will have these and every other photo of bruises to mom, blown up to 8 x 10 and have several copies made to distribute to all who will listen. I mean everyone. I will be calling the news papers and stations. I will seek out legal aid. Speak with the Human rights Tribunal and coalition. MLA, MP etc........................

I have a new goal and that is to take them down a few notches. I want at least the person who has been abusing mom, fired. I want mom's nightgowns replaced and I want the staff to follow my instructions on the proper way of dressing and undressing mom.

As for mom. She has had a very good appetite the last several days. Which is good. And she has not wanted the served dinners at all. I ask and she clearly states NO.

Still tired though. I think the new roommate( who I asked to be moved weeks or even a month) is constantly ringing the bell for someone to do something for her. She is now always asking me to do something for her. She is interrupting the conversations I have with mom.

Over all mom is doing very well. Healthy. I love the fact that as soon as she grabs my hand, she is comfortable enough to close her eye's and relax. She is now safe......

Bath day today, so she was, as usual, in bed when I arrived. Made her a good dinner, then changed her sheets and gave her the nightly spa treatment. This is before the care aid came in and changed her. But by this time mom was so relaxed.

Clean sheets, fresh nightgown, spa treatment. Including a neck massage.

OK I am trying to come up with the funds to get mom the half tray so it will stop her from leaning. I will, I hope, get this solved ASAP. Mom really needs it. Dealing with the PGT is a nightmare. I spoke with the Canadian wholesaler, who distributes to all the medical companies. Explained my situation. They have agreed to sell it to me at a wholesale price. One in which the companies pay. Need to raise the cash.

I am also trying to help mom with her left arm and hand. She clenches her left hand. And I need to find something to put in her left hand to help her exercise it. To help keep her left hand from getting to stiff and she can't open it anymore. I found the solution and ordered it. This is going to take the last of my funds. But oh well. Whatever mom needs to assist her with her needs.

But I left tonight and mom had this beautiful smile on her face.

So I have an abscessed tooth. and it has been this way for a week now. I have antibiotics for it. But it hurts like crazy to eat, drink anything hot or cold. I have to keep my mouth closed, as the cold air hurts. You know, tooth pain! Ouch! I am barely eating, Nor can I even smoke. Hurts to breath in and out. I can only eat mushy foods. I have been living on rice. And I have to over cook it, so it is really soft. I have tried to eat other foods. But no, not going to happen. I know everyone knows exactly what I am talking about. My lip is even numb, where the abscess is.

OK, time for some rice. I put vegetables in it tonight.See how that works out. They were steamed until they were very soft.

I AM HUNGRY AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT.  It is not like I don't have any food. I just can't eat it. Even crackers hurt. At least I have cut down, way down, on my smoking. I want one now, But I know the pain I will have to endure to feed the fix.

I have done what I can do for Christmas for mom. A few gifts, some chocolate and stocking stuffer's Her room is all decorated. Everyone thinks the tree is beautiful. I have empty gift boxes under the tree, and people are checking them out. I come in each day to find them all moved around.

I will make her a stuffed Cornish Hen for Christmas dinner. I have it and mostly everything else for the dinner. Except the Brussels Sprouts and potatoes. I will get them when I go and get mom more fruit. Tomorrow, perhaps.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

It is a blessing to be able to look after mom.

Hello again

Well only 6 more sleeps and it is Christmas. The malls are crazy and the people are rude.

I would like to start with my observations today, on the giving of people to the needy. I was at a sky train station and I watched this older gentlemen singing Christmas carols, with his hat out. Looking for money. I would of given him some, but I have none. What I noticed is,it was the fellow poor who gave the most to this gentlemen. I was there for 15 minutes and out of the 25 people who gave, only 4 were of middle class. Everyone else was of, well poor, as well.

Isn't that interesting. I just thought I would bring this up.

I have mom's gifts. I spent what I could on her. Everything I have actually. But that is OK. I just want to spoil mom. To make her Christmas, as good as I can make it. I got her a bunch of small things.

I really don't know what to get her. I buy her clothing all year long. When I see a sale on something I think she would like, and I have the money. I will buy it for her. I give her fruit everyday.

I know she will be happy and this in turn will make me happy . That is all I ask for.

I really need to get mom this half tray for her chair. This will stop her leaning. I just need to come up with the funds. I will find a way I hope . It is really important for her. It will stop her back from getting sore as well as her neck.

Anyways, mom was tired again today. They just don't get it. I have sun glasses for her, and they need to put them on her. The lights in this place really bother her eye's. This in turn makes her tired. The strain form having to deal with the lights all day long.

I brought her a good dinner and she ate it all. Mom, tonight did not even want what was served to her. That is unusual for her.All is well though.

And off to bed for her. Full and tired. A good combination. She was falling asleep while I was washing the dishes.

Tonight one of the other residents son, ask if I wanted a ride to a sky train station, but he wasn't leaving until 8:30. So I stayed and just held mom's hand. She reached for my hand and the grip, wow. Mom still has strength in her hands.

I do also have to find this thing. It is for her left hand. It is squishy and will be great to help open up her hand. I tried finding it today. I looked in a few stores. No luck. Back at it tomorrow. I know exactly what it looks like and feels like. This would be perfect for mom. Keep her hand open and the sensation for mom will be great.

OK. I didn't sleep well last night again. Kept waking up. I am hungry but I have a sore tooth, and it hurts to eat. So something soft again.

And my neck is doing better, the shanking in my right arm is not so intense.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Christmas dinner

Hello again

So tonight was the Christmas dinner. Allot worse than last year, I do say so myself. As well as the year before that. To bad. The red therapist is really disorganized. Couldn't get it together if she tried.

Well I arrived and mom was laying in bed. What! I had forgotten to leave a nice sweater for her to wear, So I brought her one of the Christmas sweaters I got for her. The staff got her up, I put the sweater on her. One of the staff members did her hair. Looked good.

Remember I don't have problems with the night staff. Just the day staff.

Off we went for dinner. Where we were seated was in a corner. And I felt trapped. A little claustrophobic.

I went up and got a dinner. Everyone was asking if I got myself a plate. I just said, I don't eat, I just feed mom. Thanks though. It is to hard for me to eat and feed mom at the same time. And when mom is done eating, she just wants to go to bed. Which I finally was able to get mom out of this corner. With allot of people having to move to get us by.  To bad. Poor seating. Again, the rec therapist.

I got her changed and the staff took care of her diaper changing. By this time mom was ready for sleep. Yet, since I forgot to give her the papaya after dinner. She was more than happy to eat it. Actually she wanted to have the papaya. This is something she gets each and everyday. And mom really likes it. The only fruit she ate today. God knows this place doesn't serve real fruit. And I won't let mom eat that canned fruit they serve her. Not when I bring her fresh fruit daily.

After this mom was now ready to sleep. OK I gave mom the nightly spa treatment and she wanted the full deal, which includes bending her legs.

Done, I stayed and held her hand while she fell off to sleep. Packed up, sang to her and gave her a good night kiss.

So tonight I did dress up. I do have some nice clothing. Mind you they are all to big on me. I have lost allot of weight over the last year and a half. So tighten the belt up.

I don't wear it, as I carry allot of things. Two bags. A back pack and a duffle bag which goes over my shoulder. This bag rests on my side. So I don't wear nice clothing, as the bag rubs on my side and wears my clothing out. Put holes in them. I have had to throw many jeans and shorts out, because they are worn on the side.

Now it is late and I need to sleep.

Please  pray that this Christmas is good for mom. I don't care about myself. My present is serving my mother. Taking care of her. That is good enough for me. Thank GOD I get to do this. It is a real pleasure. No matter what anyone tells me.

It is GOD who keeps me going.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Very tired as of late

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I arrived to find mom extremely tired. I am not sure what it is. She does have a little bit of a cough. I will have to rub Vicks on her tomorrow night before I go.

And when she is tired like this she leans allot. So I have to put something behind her right shoulder to help keep her up straight. I really hate doing this with her. But it is the only way to keep her up straight. This is putting a strain on her neck and back. Her neck is becoming stiff. So I am massaging her neck lately. Trying to loosen it up. She slides in the chair and is leaning. When this happens, she gets her head caught between the head rest and the chair.

Do you think anyone even gives a crap. Does anyone even help her. NO! It has been a very long time since mom has been leaning and I have brought it up several time. But the OT has not a clue what to do. I do though.

Being Monday, mom was to get her hair done. Didn't happen. Tomorrow is the Christmas pot luck dinner. As soon as we finished dinner, I took her in and washed and styled her hair. This way it will be clean for tomorrow. And when I get their, I will go early, I will just give it a quick style.

I got her changed for bed, Because of washing her hair, we were later than usual. The care aid came in when we just got back to her room. I explained why we were late and if she could come back in a few minutes. I didn't expect her to be back right away. I got her changed and brushed her teeth. Covered her in a blanket while we waited. Mom had her eye's closed and just relaxing or trying to fall asleep.

The care aid did what she needed to do and I went and made some hot water for my tea. When I came back I gave mom her spa treatment. She was a little bit grumpy while doing this. She just wanted to sleep. I quickly finished, so I could just hold her hand for a while. Which I did. It was after I gave her something more to drink that mom just wanted to sleep. I asked her if she wanted me to leave. She clearly said yes. I can be very hot, warm blooded. and when holding her hand she gets to hot.

I sang to her and packed and left.

Now the staff are continuing to remove the undershirts again. This time they through it on the Blue Ray player behind the TV. I immediately went to the nurses station and said if they do this again and wreck the Blue Ray Player, they are replacing it. I also mentioned that I will now file a complaint. Not within, not to the manager, but I will now go outside with my complaints.

As it turns out, my meeting was a waist of time. The staff are going to get away with nothing being done to them. As mentioned they could kill my mom and nothing would every happen to them. BULLSHIT.

Time to take them down a notch or two. PERIOD!

I will include one of the photo's of the bruise on mom' temple area. As you can see it is a square edge, exactly like the end of the lift bar

I have many more photo's of bruises from the staff. Not just this one. It is dated, As you  can see a little bit either way could of A. blinded her or B. hit her in the temple and killed her. I don't even know if mom was knocked out or not.

I can't even get the name of the person/care aid who was responsible for this. This is the day after, it got worse after this. It took over a week to go away.

As mentioned before, I brought the lift bar down and put it up against the bruise. Perfect fit/match to the end of the lift bar.

Over the next few days I will be including more of the photo's I have.

This is why it is so important for me to be living out in White Rock. To get their during the day. To have more time to deal with these issues. Instead of spending it on the bus.

As you can tell I am very pissed off about this. I wish someone would just want to help me out. So I can effectively deal with this. I was not asking for funds. I been down that road already. Maybe legal advice. Or something.

Isn't it shitty that I have to deal with this before Christmas. That I have to deal with the bullshit staff being to lazy to actually remove an undershirt and complaining about it all the time.

I have the nurses and care aid's union's numbers and the people to speak to at each union.

Well I have to go. Need to get up early to get ready for tomorrow night. Will be dressing up for a change.

GOD bless and good night.


Kristopher Schmuland

Saturday

Hello again

Today was mom's usual bath day. So I knew what to expect. Mom being very hot and with to many covers on her. And extremely thirsty. Which I dealt with as soon as I walked into her room. It was just her in the room, which makes for a much more quite and pleasant evening. I got mom out of all the covers and a little cooler. But had to put a towel besides her, as she is leaning allot more lately.  Not sure what that is about. Now I can solve her leaning in her chair. Just need to put a pillow beside her while she is in bed and I am feeding her. After that mom can lean all she wants. It is good for her and good for me.

I brought her the usual fair for Saturday.  And mom ate most of it. But she was very tired again and so she was sleep eating. Eye's closed while she ate and chewed her food. Mom does this allot while I give her drinks in the evening after she is in bed. So why not do it while I feed her. OK with me. Mom trusts me enough to know I am not going to give anything bad. That is why I won't give mom her medication. No association with that, for me.

I put Christmas music on and we both were singing to it. The lights on the tree were lit. The rest of the lights in the room dimmed.

Being Saturday, I needed to change her sheets. The staff used to do this, now they put on regular home sheets. Just lazy. And again it is starting. The staff are putting mom's dirty clothing in the wash and I am having to go and dig them out.

A word will be mentioned to the manager and if it does not stop, I will be leaving a nasty note for them and I don't give a crap if it upsets them. To bad. Do your job, learn to read. Signs everywhere. Not my problem if I file a complaint. It will be theirs.

Anyways I changed mom's sheets. Can do it very quick without disturbing mom. No need to roll her at all. Within 10 minutes the bed is completely changed with mom still in it.

Now by the time I got to giving mom her spa treatment, she was mostly asleep. Yet mom wanted the full spa treatment. And yes she enjoyed it very much.

It was just holding her hand, listening to Christmas music until I needed to leave.

So here I am and now I need to go.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

A typical Friday

Hello again

I arrived today to find mom extremely tired. So it was quick to give her drinks and get her dinner into her so I could get her into bed. She was leaning and just plain tired. She was, what I call sleep eating, tonight. Eating with her eye's closed. She trusts me enough to know that I am not going to give her anything she doesn't like or do her harm in anyway. Just feed her, let her chew, and then give her some more to eat and drink.

Afterwards, I got the dishes done and off to her room we went. The care aid just wasn't coming in and it was almost 7 pm so I just put mom to bed myself. They really don't like me doing this. But to bad. Mom was tired and I am not going to make her wait until who knows whenever the care aid decided to come.

As soon as I got mom in bed. She stretched out and just relaxed. Even though she needed to be changed. And when I say changed, I mean her diaper.

The care aid finally came in and as soon as she was finished, mom was almost completely asleep. So  I just gave mom the quick spa treatment tonight. Which is just washing her face and her arms. Putting lotion on them as well. That was all she wrote for mom. Out cold. I packed up and stayed for half an hour. Sang to her and left.

:I really am tired of living in Coquitlam. I am mostly packed and now waiting to find a place.

I am done for the night. I am still very tired and I don't know why. I am not  sleeping well at all. Waking up all night long. To stressed I guess. Well I know I woke up once last night because the piece of foam shifted and I was stuck with a spring. I got up and moved the foam back into place and went back to bed. Only to wake up 2 hours later.Oh well.

Pray if you wish for a place now that I am packed. Just a few drawers to go and the rest of the clothing I wear on a regular basis'

Oh yea. I found what I was looking for. The half try arm rest. Now to find the money to pay for it. This is a need for mom. Without it mom will continue to lean to the right and will eventually hurt her back and neck.

Mom's neck was very stiff tonight so I gave her a neck massage.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

A day in the life of

Hello again

So today I got my stitches out. It is going to leave a nasty scar. No more palm reading.

Well I arrived to see mom, I got their early, and mom was leaned back in her chair. No glasses on, and directly under the light. This is not good for her eye's. What are they trying to blind her now. Or this is there goal all along. Mom has glasses and I have asked them to put them on her many times. Or not lean her back directly under the lights.

And of course this makes mom very tired. Which she was this day/evening.  I gave her something to drinks as fast as I could. It really seems that they give mom nothing to drink in the afternoon. Since she is so thirsty when I arrive.

I then brought her to her room to get everything together for dinner. And off we went.  Since mom was so tired, it was difficult to get her to eat. She just didn't want to open her mouth wide enough for me to get the fork into her mouth. We managed though. And she did eat. Very slowly. And because she was so tired, it took her a very long time to eat. When mom is tired like today, she chews and chews and chews. I have learned to be very patient with her. I just let her chew and just talk and talk to her. Eventually she swallows her food.

When done, it was a matter of getting her changed. Also when mom is tired, she tends to lean to the right. And today she was also very stiff. Her neck was hyper extended backwards and to the one side.And no matter how I tried to adjust her in her chair. As soon as I turned away, she was back in the exact position I just moved her from. I really don't know how she does this so fast. So it was difficult to change her tonight. But I managed. The staff put her to bed and when I came back I expected to see mom half asleep. But it seems that mom was over tired tonight. And we all know what that is like. No matter how tired we are, we just stare at the ceiling. As mom was doing. All through the spa treatment and even while holding her hand, before I left. I tried my hardest to calm her down to the point where she wanted to close her eye's and go to sleep. But nothing. She just stared at the ceiling.

This is when I get really worried. With her neck hyper extended like it was this evening. I did not put her bed down all the way. Instead left it up on an angle. I even explained to the nurse about mom and how she was over tried and was not falling asleep and that her neck was hyper extended and she was coughing. This is why I left her bed upright. I asked them to watch her.

Now I have been thinking about how to stop her from leaning and asked one of the nurses about this and he pointed out that mom is leaning as her arm is not even on the arm rest. I didn't even think about this. I was going to get her something to stabilize her body. I just need to get mom an half tray with a lip on the one side to keep her arm on the tray. This way she can keep her arm on the half tray/ arm rest. So when she pushes with her left arm. Which is why she ends up leaning to the right. She will just adjust herself to the upright position.  Now she pushes with her left arm and there is no support to stop her arm from coming off on the right side. So with this she will automatically center herself.

I found it on line tonight after I got back to Coquitlam. I just need to find a local distributor. And all will be fine with this one solution.

I didn't right last night, as I was so tired I was falling asleep everywhere. On the bus, on the sky train. Even standing. So I was out cold by 1:30 after making mom dinner. And I am there again.

I need to go and get some rest. I have been exhausted lately. I don't know why. I am, however, very stressed about not being able to find a place. I only have until the end of January. Then I am homeless. The landlord is going to renovate and just rent rooms to students.

I can afford a place of my own, provided it is cheap enough. I will barely make it, but at least I will be in White Rock. I won't have anything for my place. OK a few things. A bedroom suite. But again my bed is trashed. As I explained the springs are sticking through. I did put a piece of foam over the area. OK for now. It is a need in my mind. Maybe a want, since I do still have a bed and there are others who don't.

Got to go.

Pray, please.

GOD bless and good night.

It was a good day

Hello again

I arrived at mom's early again, so I could get her drinks done and start our dinner. The roommate issue has been solved. She is out, reading. At the end of the hall. Plenty of room for her guests to visit. And the room is empty for mom and I. Then we get privacy while I get mom ready for bed and her spa treatment.

Tonight we ate in the room. I turned the Christmas lights on, turn the lights out on the other side of the room. So the tree looks good. Which it does. It is on a table now, and I have decorated under the tree as well.

While I was feeding mom, I saw her looking at the tree and I could feel that she was a little depressed. She loves the tree, but it is not Christmas anymore. No family gathering. People stopping by. Just no one. Not even her own children or her brother.

There has to be at least 20 or more around, but no one shows up. And since the girls already gave mom her Christmas present and card. They aren't going to be around until the new year. This is when they do their Christmas shopping. They raid mom's closet and take clothing. As they have done year after year. And no one does a f....ing thing about it. Even though I say they are not to take anything. NOT A SINGLE THING I will be putting up signs again and I will bring up to each and every staff member. That if they allow anything to be taken, they are responsible for it's replacement.

I really don't give a crap what they think. My mother's daughter's are not getting anything. Stealing from there own mother, like that. When they can't even visit her during the holidays. I know this, as last year was the same thing. Came weeks before Christmas and never showed up until the new year and then helped themselves to mom' clothing.


Well back to this evening. as I said I could see mom getting depressed. The room is looking good, warm and inviting. It was all I could do to hold back the tears. But wasn't able to hold them back completely. I just apologized to mom and held her hand even tighter.

Tonight mom did not want to let go of my hand. When I tried to pull it away, to cut something or do something. Mom just held onto my hand even more.

As mentioned, I apologized to her, and said that it is just you and me mom. As usual. Mom I will always be here for you, no matter what. As I have been .

It is an honor to be able to look after mom like this. She still says that she is a baby. Tonight I just said to her. You are not a baby, you are a full grown women. Who happened to have some strokes and has a bit or more of Dementia. I am only here to help you out. Assist you as much as I can.

You see. it is a little bit more difficult taking care of my mother. Most Dementia patients just have their memory problems. They still speak, sometime incoherently, but they still speak. Mom doesn't speak. I just have a gift of being able to read people and know what they are thinking.

And in most cases, know allot about them. It is a gift that has been developed over time and with education. /Sometimes I just try to turn it off, with no luck. I say I don't want to know that about them. It creeps me out sometimes. Knowing to much about people.

But this is, what I believe, is one of the reasons I have been given this gift. To read my mother and to take care of her. To know what she is saying and what her needs and wants are. It is a perfect fit. I can read people extremely well and mom needs me to be able to discern what she is saying and thinking.

So this year I need to make sure mom has a great Christmas. I will sing as much as possible. She enjoys it. Or just tolerates it. I am not sure which one. But that is OK. I will continue anyways.

I wish someone else would help me out to make mom's Christmas Great. That won't happen. It is up to me.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

The meeting

Hello again

Today I meet with the manager and the director. We discussed 3 items. One being a fridge for mom. and I was given the typical corporate brush off . We will have to look at the.... The others were grandfathered in.... etc.....etc....... In other words, no fridge for mom. So this Christmas there will be no place to store mom's items.

The second was the night gowns. No ownership was taken by either the management or the staff. Everyone denies that anything has taken place or they blame mom, for being a difficult person to dress and undress. Well they don't get her ready for bed at night. I do. They may, and I mean may some time change mom during the day. But rarely does this happen. Only if mom gets sick. I made my complaint know on how I want them to dress and undress her. Not grabbing her left arm and pulling it straight over her head. Then complain that mom is difficult. They are injuring her each and every time they pull her left arm over her head. And do you think this will stop. Not from what I heard. We will get the OT to re access her to see where we are at with doing things differently, the way we change her.

I explained that the staff are just  grabbing mom's clothing and pulling them straight up over her head and this is how the night gowns are being torn. So they say to me, well the staff find it easier if you use adaptive clothing.

My response is I am not paying that kind of money for junk, the ugliest clothing around. Everyone, just look up adaptive clothing and you will see for yourselves what I am speaking about.

We sort of settled on the home mending the nightgowns the way I wish them to be and in the future to get something a few sizes bigger to be able to have them adapted. Which I will do myself. But in the mean time, the staff will just continue to abuse mom's clothing.

Again, what is being said is they are protecting the staff and nothing is going to be done about it.
They could kill my mother, maim her, knock her out. Whatever and nothing will be done about it. They tell me there is a process for this and it takes time. Well any other organization will suspend the individual until the process has been completed. Due coarse. But not her or any other seniors home.

The staff deny it, and keep denying it.  As the director said to me, no one has come forward to admit anything. Of course not. They are cowards.

I lastly spoke about the bruise on mom's head from the lift bar. I said I want this person fired. Of course, you guessed it. Protect, Protect, Protect the staff. Blame mom, blame everyone else but the one who actually hit mom with the lift bar.

We have a process, That was their go to answer. And there is confidentiality. We cannot disclose the name of the individual we are investigating. Of course I replied, but if I want the name of this person I can easily get it.  "How", they replied. Well it would be as easy as filing a small claims case against said person and you would be compelled by law to produce there name. Or... I left it at that. I showed them the photo of the bruise and told them I have photo's of every bruise mom has gotten since being here.

Yes I take photo's of everything. I take notes of everything. I just happen to have an great memory when it comes to conversations. So I write it down on here and in my notes. I keep track of everything. And will continue to do so.

What I walked away with, is that they are protecting their staff no matter what and will continue to do so. There are no consequences to their actions. Beat them, injure them, then deny it over and over again. And nothing will be done. Just as the time I saw a staff slap a resident. Nothing was done to her. So it is the same. It is Fraser Health. Deny and tell the person there is a process that has to be followed. Not tell the person if anything was or is being done.

OK I had to end the meeting as it was starting to get near to mom expecting me. Mom is first. I can always get back to them .Which I will tomorrow.

Now mom was very happy to see me, big smiles. Her hair was done today, being Monday. I made her another nice dinner and she ate most of it as well as a good portion of the served meal.

I needed to leave a little early so we got the dishes done and for once the care aid came in early and put mom to bed. I gave mom the full spa treatment and still was able to stay with her holding her hand for a long time, before I needed to leave.

I will speak more about mom tomorrow and let you know what else happened when I speak to them again.

I know I will be seeking legal advice. I will be filing a complaint with the patient care quality office.

I mentioned last night that one of my needs is a new bed. Yes it is a need, the mattress is sagging and the springs are poking through in certain spots. I did put foam over those spots. I am not sure if is a need or a want. Thought I would just throw that out there. Please pray for me anyways. If you could. But, again, I am grateful for having a mattress to begin with.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

I can't believe it is only a few weeks away.

Hello again

Beautiful day today in my part of the world. Sunny, but a storm is expected.

So I manged to get out to mom's early today. The traffic was good, the bus was almost empty and not to many people to pick up. This is a first for this run. Usually it is packed. I liked it, change of pace.

Got to White Rock and it was an hour and half early. So I just grabbed what I needed and off I went. Mom was a little surprised at me being early  Gave me a puzzled look, but none the less reached out her hand to me and gave me one of her great smiles. It was off to get her drinks and to her room.

The tree looks good.  I had a few more decorations that I brought with me. For the wall and door. Found them cleaning up last night. What a clean up that was.

Well I gave mom as much to drink as she wanted, plus the daily chocolate from her Lindt advent calender. Day 7, Wow.

I had extra Chicken from the other day, so last night I made individual Chicken pot pies. I had everything I needed in my fridge, so why not. I really enjoyed it. So I knew mom would, as well. Plus she had the left over salads from last night.

We managed to get out to our table and start to eat before the other's, so by the time the served meal came. Mom was almost done eating. It was, at this time, a matter of having dessert. Which was a lemon pudding cake and her fruit and Lindt chocolate.

After dessert mom was still hungry.Lucky I don't throw anything she doesn't eat, before her dessert, away. Then she finished this off. I am not sure if she just wants her dessert, or. When my father had his stroke and developed Dementia, he would eat dinner, then go to the bathroom. When he came back, he would say "Whats for dinner" Forgetting that quick. I don't think mom is like this yet, but one never knows. I really think she just wants her dessert.

I tell her all the time, eat what you want, as much as you want, and if you want dessert first, So be it. As long as you eat. I doesn't matter to me which order you eat in.

So we finished early, got the dishes done.

I spoke with the nurse about using an end table to put the tree on. So by the time we arrived back to her room. He had already put the tree on it. I just needed to fix it up a bit. I brought a star, that lights up, for the top of the tree. Man does it look good. Have to take a photo of it and post it.

She was put to bed, and I gave her a complete spa treatment tonight. She already received her nightly medicine while I read to her. So when I finished mom was already asleep. I mean fully out. I had plenty of time, so I just held her hand and stayed for a while.

On my way back, I knew the bus driver and he was asking me if I did all my Christmas shopping. I replied that I have only a few more presents to get. He also asked what I wanted for Christmas.

I had to think. As no one has asked me that question in a very long time. Well I said to him, that the best Christmas present I could get was being able to spend another Christmas with my mother and to be able to cook her Christmas dinner. Spending time with her. This is everything I need, I said. Just mom and I will be spending Christmas together. As usual.

But after I got on the sky train, I though about it. And what I could use, not what I want, is a new mattress. You see mine is getting old. The springs are starting to poke through. I roll over and Ouch . This is something I could use, a queen size mattress and box spring. But I am dealing with it. As I can't afford one, so I just put this piece of foam, I have , over the spot where the springs are poking through. Good enough.

One day I might get a new mattress, GOD knows it has been long enough. But I get to spend another Christmas with my mother..

That alone is the best present I could ever ask for. I don't know how many more Christmas' mom has, so I will be thankful for each and every one I get to spend with mom.

As a matter of fact. I am extremely grateful for each and every day I get to spend with mom. I am grateful for each dinner I get to cook for her. I am grateful for each day I get to hold her hand, while she falls asleep. And I am grateful, that mom enjoys my singing. Sometimes I think she just tolerates it because I am her son.

I am grateful that I am healthy enough to be able to travel to and from White Rock. And I am grateful that I even have a bed to sleep on. There are allot of those out there that don't have this. Even though I don't want to be living here. That I don't even like coming back. But I at least have a place to come back too.

:Last, I am grateful that I have a GOD that loves me and protects me. How else would I  be able to do what I do for my mother. If it were not for the grace of GOD.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

It is just real

Hello again

My hand hurts and my arm from the tetanus shot. Oh well. Things happen. I know I am not the only one who is a klutz.

Bath day for mom. So when I arrived, the lights were out in the room and most likely that way all day. Mom was very hot. They had so many blankets on her. I immediately stripped the blankets off of her. And hurried to get the drinks out of the bags, I gave her cold drinks ASAP. Cold ice water. And she drank allot of this.

Mom was hungry today, as she didn't eat as much as usual last night. I got her some of her favorite salads and a large burger. On top of being to hot, she was also tired. Who  wouldn't with the lights off all day. As well as it was raining out and cold.

I finally finished her tree and decorations. I am not sure if I wrote last night. I have been staying later and being very tired when I got home. I just needed to just eat and relax. I barely was able to watch one show. Had to keep starting over from where I remember drifting off to sleep.

Now back to mom, Being so tired,as she was. Mom only wanted a quick spa treatment. Her face and arms only. Afterwards is when I finished the tree and decorations. All the while mom was reaching out her hand for me to hold it while she falls asleep.

I felt very guilty that I couldn't do this, because of finishing up her Christmas decorations. I stopped and grabbed her hand, gave her a kiss and let her know that I am trying to finish as quickly as I can. But when I did finish it was almost 8:30 pm. I still needed to pack up everything. I did this quickly. And held mom's hand as long as I could. But needed to leave. It doesn't matter what time I got home.

Mom has been feeling good. Happy and smiling allot.

The other day, this one women sat down to speak with me, and stayed for 10 minutes. And mom did not like this at all.  When I am their mom does not like me speaking with anyone. I don't blame her. She is alone all day. As she doesn't speak. Others don't talk to her. The staff ignore her, Mom will squeeze my hand tighter and pull at me. To stop me from speaking with others. She will get vocal in her upset manner. I understand what is happening. Others have no idea.

We listened to Christmas music tonight. And while I was finishing up the decorations I sang along with the Christmas music. I heard mom  singing along as well. I saw her smile brightly,when I came over to her to sing to her. ..

I am and can be goofy, and will sing in this manner. She laughs and smiles. I let go and just be, for mom. I don't with hold any emotions from her. I let her see the real me. No one else has or cares to. Mom knows.

Tonight I needed to clean up a corner in my room. Pack it up. It was mostly garbage. Things I don't need or haven't used in a very long time. Just finished before writing this.

It is now getting late and I still need to eat and just sit back and relax. My hand need the rest.

I ask again if you would pray for me to find a place ASAP that is affordable for me.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Not today

Hello again

So I was going to include photo's of all of mom's bruises. But this won't be happening this evening. I first have to download them off of my phone.

But either way, it is not happening this evening. But will in the next few days.

I just don't have it in me today. This morning I had a battle with a hand blender and I lost. Let me explain.

I was about to make my mother her smoothie. So I got out the blender and, what I normally do is attach the blade part first then plug the machine in. But this time I plugged the blender in and then proceeded to attach the blade section. I grabbed the handle, then the blade section and started to attach it. Remember it was plugged in. As soon as I pushed them together. Well it started and chewed up part of the palm of my hand. But I just cleaned it up and put a cloth around it and continued to make mom's smoothie. But using my left hand. No problems there.

Five stitches and a tetanus shot latter and some painkillers, I am in no mood to do anything. My right hand, yes the right hand, my dominant hand, is very sore.

Not looking for any sympathy, just letting you know what kind of klutz I can be. I walk into doors and all. This is not the first time I cut myself and won't be the last. At least I know it.

OK, I made mom the salad she loves. I named it the Rose Salad, after mom's middle name. As it is something I put together, which has all the nutrients one needs A mixture of raw vegetables. And chicken Parmesan  Well this mom ate, but she was a little tired so she didn't eat as much as usual. Not sure why. But it was OK, she ate her fruit, afterwards Lots of it.

I just got her ready for bed, read to her, and then once she was in bed, gave her the nightly spa treatment. I had to use a glove over my right hand. So I wouldn't get it infected from the lotions. I get the stitches out next week.

After the spa treatment, I needed to put the lights up on her tree. Looks good. Red lights and Red and gold ornaments.

I did this as quick as I could so I could spend time just holding mom's hand while she fell asleep. As soon as I finished, with the tree, mom reached out her hand for me to grab.

I need to go again. I will try to get this done as soon as I can.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

I am back

Hello again

I wasn't able to write last night, as the night before I barely slept if any. I was over tired and just couldn't stay asleep. So last night when I got home, I just downloaded a few shows, crawled into bed and watch all of one before waking up to the show in a continuous repeat pattern. I keep forgetting to turn the repeat off.

I slept right to my alarm going off.  10 am. First time in a very long time. I am usually awake before the alarm goes off. And as soon as I got up I threw a load of laundry in. Done well before I left. Mom's laundry. I will do the same tomorrow morning.

So the staff have stopped taking the undershirts out of the drawer, for now,  I decided I won't be writing any notes. I will just keep putting them back in the drawer.

Tonight I was just going to put photo's up of all the bruises that mom has received since being at Al Hogg. And each and every time, their answer is always the same. We don't know how that happened. I don't know. And yet mom doesn't fall out of her bed, nor smack herself in the head.

So tomorrow I will be doing this. I will just be writing a short blurb about the day and then just posting all the photo's I have of mom's bruises.

Now the last few days mom has been doing OK. A little tired.. And last night she didn't eat as much as she would normally eat, but enough. And tonight she made up for it. Thank GOD. I get worried when mom doesn't eat allot. Like she usually does at dinner.

Oh yea I hauled out her Christmas Tree yesterday, with everything else I bring. I can honestly say, it was heavy.  Everything I mean.

Set the tree up tonight and will decorate it tomorrow.

Last night I needed to leave early, but mom was not asleep yet. I felt really bad about this, as I needed to get back to get a few things for mom's smoothies.

Tonight mom was mostly asleep before she was even put to bed. So it was a quick spa treatment tonight. This is just the face and arms. After this mom was fast asleep. But I made sure I stayed, just holding her hand. When I do this, mom has this beautiful smile on her face.

OK now I need to go. 12:42 am. Bed time.

Please Pray that I find a place soon. I am pretty much packed. I don't have anywhere else to store anything. My room is packed up the walls.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

We or I complain to much

Hello again

So the undershirts were removed from the drawer again. I just took them out of the bag and put them back in the drawer. I have already gone through this with the patient coordinator many months ago. They are not to small. In fact they stretch allot.

The day staff are just being difficult. OK they are being fools if they think they can pull anything over on me. I will just keep taking them out of the bag and putting them back in the drawer.

But my next move is to leave a letter stating. The undershirts stay, deal with it. If this continues I will file a complaint with the Quality care patient office. I have written the letter and will just press send. You have know idea how far I am willing to take this. Or how far I have taken things in the past. I will not let anyone take liberties with my mother or her belongings as you have with the nightgowns and other articles of clothing.

I have decided to contact the police concerning the bruise on mom's temple. A few centimeters and they would of killed my mother. Yes that is how hard mom was hit with the lift bar. Not going to allow this kind of behavior to continue.

I will be meeting with the Director next Monday and will have my list handy. The items that I feel are relevant.

Now tonight as soon as I walked in, mom knew I was there. She wasn't looking my way. But I saw her reach out her hand. She heard my voice. I am sure of.

I was just on time, which mean't I started to feed her late. She knew it and was very impatient. But somewhat understanding. I just explained everything that caused me to be late. So she ate and before she was even finished mom grabbed my hand and closed her eye's. Not time yet mom. Soon we will get you into bed. It is just such as great feeling when mom just knows and trusts me like she does.

A different staff member was on this evening, so I had time to read to mom. We are getting closer to the end of the Life of Pi. Then the movie. Can't wait. I hope mom feels the same way.

Tonight it was the full spa treatment for mom. Last night she was to tired so I didn't get to do everything. Sometimes these things happen.

And when she was done, it was off to sleep. I stayed holding her hand as long as I could. Needed to get home. I had some cleaning to do.

Even if mom is asleep she still smiles when I sing to her each night. Our good night song. Just loving it.

Time to go. Very tired and need to be up really early.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Very cold for us

Hello again

As stated yesterday, the little amount of snow we did receive, caused many, many accidents around the Lower Mainland. Most people who live here have no clue how to drive in this weather. And it is just a little bit of snow. I guess around 10 cm.

But it is very cold today. With the wind chill, colder even. Unless you live on the coast you would not understand that it is a damp cold. Cold to the bones. We can layer up and it is still cold. A damp cold.

The sun was out, making it a beautiful day. The Grey Cup is on Tomorrow, Sunday. For those of you who do not live here, it is our Super Bowl of Football. Events around town for the last week. A big deal in Canada.

Anyways, it is Saturday and bath day for mom. So they put her right back into bed. They turn her TV on, but neglect to take the cover off of the rails. So she can't even watch the TV.  The music is off. So mom has to lie there bored out of her face. Very hot, as they have all sorts of covers on her. She  does her best to remove them. But only having the use of one arm, makes it more difficult for her.

It is just to bad that these care aids have no clue. They obviously don't check on her. Otherwise they would know she is hot and do something about it.

So when I get their, all of mom's undershirts were in a bag,with a note telling me to take them home, as they don't fit her. Mom has had these undershirts for many months now, and nothing was said to date. Well, I am and was livid. This,again, is just laziness on there part. They are one size larger and they stretch each way. The undershirts are fine. I know what size mom takes and that is what I buy. The undershirts stay, and deal with it.

I,after, seeing this, went right out and spoke with the nurse. I told her these are the right size and I am not taking them home. To bad. They say we have a problem with them. My response is that is not my problem. I put them on her and take them off of her, without any difficulties.  They kept making excuses. She is sweaty in the morning, mom makes a fuss.

Look I said, they shirts are staying, tell them to deal with it. There hasn't been an issue to date, why  all of a sudden.  Your mom puts up resistance, she is very stiff. Well get her to relax and it will be easier for you. As I do. Well you are her son, you are strong and the girls are not. I don't use any strength with mom. I get her to relax and it is easy then. Then I told them, I guess I will have to come in and teach them how to dress and undress mom. They thought I was kidding them. No I said. We know how to dress and undress her. Obviously not was my reply.

It was latter that I found out why mom puts up resistance. Mom has a bad and sore left arm. I gently put her arm through the sleeve hole and pull it up. Dress her from the left and undress her from the right

What they do is grab her left arm and lift it straight up and put her arm through the sleeve. REALLY. No wonder mom puts up a fight. They are hurting her each and every time they dress or undress her. I would get pissed off to,if someone was yanking on my sore arm all day, everyday. This is why mom is always holding her left arm with her right arm. It is painful for her.

So I guess I really do need to come in and teach them how to dress and undress them. They seem to forget that I have been doing this for a very long time and can do their job as well or better then them. If you are in it for the money and don't care about how you treat the residents. You should not be doing this. And this is the way with allot of them. Money. And they don't seem to understand that I am brilliant and can figure anything out.

Well anyways,again. I brought mom a very nice dinner and dessert as promised. Plus a new smoothie. This she liked. Cold and thick. And it should stay this way, as the fridge is turn down, making it nice and cold.

Afterwards I changed her sheets. I don't even have to roll mom. I guess this is where being strong comes into play. And immediately mom was very relaxed. The staff just put the homes sheets on her. That is OK, as I like to change the sheets and put a clean nightgown on her, after dinner.

Mom was very relaxed and now tired. She was putting up a bit of a fuss when I started her spa treatment, but quickly became relaxed again and let me dot this for her. With a smile on her face. Then it was back falling asleep. Even when the nurse came in to give mom her nightly medicine, mom was hard to wake up. After I gave her something to drink, to wash the taste of the medicine down and a touch up of her lip balm and face lotion.

OK, now it is Midnight. Time for me to go and well watch something. I don't have any idea what I will watch tonight.

And for me, it is very cold coming home at nights these last few days. I do Pray to find a place. I am the usual, in pain and hid it when I get to mom's.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Our Winter is beginning

Hello again

Well tonight it is -7 c and it is snowing. Not snow as they have back east. That would shut this city completely down. Even 10 cm would do allot of damage to Vancouver and surrounding areas. The Lower Mainland

And on the way home this evening, I could see it was lighter over my area. Meaning it was already snowing here, when I left White Rock. Spoke with my landlord and he told me that it started snowing around 7 pm. Nothing in White Rock though.

We will see tomorrow.

So it was Black Friday, really there were not that many great deals. I wanted a pair of pants that I saw yesterday, but wanted to wait until today. Same price, no discount. Really. I'll wait until they are on sale. Probably next week. Did get a pair of fleece bottoms for $5.00. Needed them as the bottoms I change into when I get home at night, were scrubs and no matter how tight I tie them, they always fall down. Made for a frustrated night. Every night and every morning.

Mom was in a great mood today, but tired. So dinner was longer than expected. As she will just chew and chew, but not swallow for a long time. It looks like she is full and so I ask her if she is full and wants dessert. She nodes yes, so I put everything away and throw what she didn't eat out. Then after mom eats her dessert, she is still hungry. I have nothing left to give her Until we get back to her room.

I had to throw mom's smoothie out, as the Rec therapist had the fridge turned down to 3. Not cold enough. I turned it up and will do it again if it gets turned down again. This is to keep the food safe.

We finished dinner and I washed her hair and tried to use the curling iron, but I have no idea how to use one.

My Internet just went out again, 4 times this week. Just stops working, even thought the router has the flashing light telling me it is operational. I have to go upstairs and re-set the router.

So mom`s hair was a little curly, but not so much. Looked good anyways.

We got her changed and into bed. She was ready for sleep. Mom does not nap during the day. So by the time she has her dinner, listening to soft music and getting a nightly spa treatment, she is ready for sleep. I am glad I can do these things for her. It makes me feel good about myself, that I am helping someone out. Don`t get me wrong. If it were not for mom raising me with values and to be this way. It is mom who deserves all the praise for raising me to be like this. To take care of her, without hesitation.

Got her stereo turned on and sang to her. Then just stood there with her for a while, as she fell off to a deep sleep.

Getting late again so I need to eat and get some sleep. I have to be up early again tomorrow, well today.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

I do say it is another nice day.

Hello again

Today was a very warm and beautiful day. I arrived and spoke with the manager concerning what is happening with the nightgown situation. Doesn't know and we will deal with everything when I speak to the director next week.

I am OK with that.

One of her nightgowns is almost ripped completely up the back. They still are at it. Even though they have been spoken to about this. It is now just deliberate.

Now mom saw me and this huge smile came upon her face. It is such a great feeling just seeing this. It melts my heart. Warm and fuzzy.

I noticed right away that mom was wearing new slippers. So this meant mom's daughters were their today. And of course they brought the slippers as her Christmas present and a card. They might of got her some clothing. I don't know this, so I can't say for sure. But I do know one thing, that they are not going to be coming to see mom during Christmas. This is it until the new year. Otherwise why bring her a gift now and why not wait until it is actually Christmas.

That is so nice, isn't it. I asked mom is she enjoyed her visit with her daughters, she never said anything. Not a word. She will usually say yes or no. But nothing. Mom knows they won't be around now, until the new year.

I just said to her, it is just you and me, I hope you can stand it just being me around you at Christmas and New Year. Mom just laughed. I thought it was funny as well.

A nice dinner followed by mom's usual treatment. As mentioned, I have been working on bending her legs. Since they were so stiff. She can now bend them half way. Soon all the way.

Mom also get me to help exercise her left arm. By getting her to push against my hand and then pull. It is mom who initiates this. By grabbing her left arm with her right arm. This is here way of asking me to help with this. Her arm is strong and getting stronger. I now just have to work on getting her to open up her left hand. I will,it will just take time.

And when we were done, it didn't take mom to long to fall asleep. I stuck around for a while just holding her hand. Didn't need to get anywhere in particular. Just back here. Where I don't want to be.

Today, my pain wasn't that bad. My back is getting a little better. This all takes time. Still have a headache. I have had it since the end of April. Use to it by now.

Need to go. I am very tired of late. Going to bed late and getting up early. As I did again this morning. Needed to get some picture ID>

I hate being in this place. Need to move to White Rock and free up 7 or 8 hours of my day to pursue other things. Compile my book of poetry, finish the book  on care-giving that I started to write. You read right. I have been doing this for a very long time now. Almost a decade.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Really it is but a

Hello again

When I arrived this day, I spoke with the manager, concerning everything that has been going on in the last three months. She will be setting a meeting up  with her Director. This is a good thing. Within the next week.

Anyways I am called many things by a few individuals, that write comments to me. Now let me tell you about an individual who warrants these negative comments.

I was warming up mom's fish and chips tonight and I happened to over here a man, telling his mother. He said out loud, maybe he didn't even hear himself speaking or know how loud he actually was, but what he said made me extremely angry.

He said to his mother. " I traveled all this way, and this is how you act." He was feeding her and she was shying away from him. It is obvious that he was speaking to her in a condescending manner before he became so vocal. What an asshole he was and I wold say without a doubt he is like this on a regular basis'. Why even bother to come, which I have never seen him before this evening. And as you are aware, I am their every single day. And he is one of those people who, well, are abusive in nature.

I wanted to just walk straight over there and have a few words with him. But I think it would of gotten out of control. Don't get me wrong, I am a pacifist by nature And will only take it further if it warranted it. Which is not very often at all. If at all.

Then latter on he was becoming very confrontational towards the staff, very demanding.

And I am the one who this individual has negative words about. I am the kindest, gentlest, patient person around. People tell me everything about there lives, After just meeting me. I am nothing but tender when it comes to my mother.

Now to mom.

Mom just loved her dinner tonight, ate all of it. I also had a nice dessert for her. A mango mouse cake. And her usual.

It took longer than usual for mom to eat this evening. But it is all good. To me, it doesn't matter how long it takes mom to eat. And afterwards, being  Wednesday, I washed her hair. By this time mom was so relaxed and tired. As soon as she got into bed, it was only a quick spa treatment for her. Mom made a point of letting me know, she only wanted her face and arms done tonight. After this I just held her hand and fell off to sleep,but woke up, before I left to get something to drink. And then back to sleep she went. OK, after I sang her good night song to her. And tonight, mom sang with me. And told me she loved me. I heard it and understood it.

I left late, after 8 pm. Then caught the 8:30 bus. So I ended up home at 11. Which is fine. I have accomplished what I wanted to do when I got home.

Now to eat and sleep. I have to get up early again tomorrow. Today, I was up and did mom's wash, both washed and dried, showered and changed, before my alarm went off at 10 am.

I can really tell how much pain I am really in, by being so busy for the last few weeks. And it doesn't seem to be letting up for the next week or so.

I fell asleep last night during the first show I was watching. I usually can watch two shows and I fall asleep during a third one.

Well thank you for reading.

Please pray that I find a place.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

It keeps on happening

Hello again

Today I arrive and find my mother in a Tee Shirt, with a light cotton undershirt on. No sweater or nothing. Mom was cold and  shivering. Then when I go to change her I find out that the back of her Tee Shirt and Undershirt are wet.

She had her hair done today and they soaked her back and did not even tell anyone that my mother's shirts need to be changed. My mother sat from 1 pm until I changed her at 6:30 pm with wet shirts. They were still wet.

ABUSE! ABUSE! ABUSE! I don't know how many times I need to say this. ABUSE! Now I need to say it to the manager. Loudly.

And for Olive. Does this sound like something I should be upset about. Probably not to you.

I the last few months, the staff have ruined my mother's night gowns. They have made me have to go digging in the laundry for her clothing. Even though there are signs all over the place telling them not to put her clothing into the laundry. I threw my back out once. I could of caught a serious disease from doing this.

They slammed the lift bar into my mothers head and left a serious bruise. Without even saying anything about it.

And now, mom sits all afternoon and into the evening in wet clothing.

Is it not time to do something about it. Yes I mean to take legal action against the home.

Does my mother have to suffer even more before these staff members are fired. I think not.

I am going to bed each night angry.

I AM DONE BEING NICE!

TIME TO  TURN ON MY ASSHOLE.

Time to contact a lawyer who will fight for the rights of the disabled.

Mom was tired, I don't blame her. Cold and shivering. No one there to help her or even give a crap. So she didn't eat allot for dinner.

She better not get sick from this abuse.

Months and months now. The same old shit.

The manager is setting a president, that the staff can do whatever they please and with no repercussions

This is what happens in all the homes. Not just this one.

I have seen a staff member haul off and slap someone

I did nothing for fear that they will abuse my mother.

What a mistake that was.

SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE TO TEACH THIS STAFF THAT YOU CAN'T ABUSE SOMEONE AND GET AWAY WITH IT.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

The end of a great weekend

Hello again

I am going to say this, that more and more people are making comments concerning mom's bruise on her temple. They are also mentioning that their loved one's get the same treatment. Carelessness on behave of the staff.

These staff members should be fired. This does constitute abuse.

Mom today was very hungry, and I feed her well. A nice pasta, and some salads, her usual avocado, and papaya. Plus of course her Lindt chocolates. You know I wrote that company and they never did write me back. Just as I have recently written Biotherm, wanting to send them a picture of my 85 year old Biotherm mother. And it has been three weeks since I sent the email.

Back to mom. I needed to try on some sweaters, even though I have been buying mom's clothing for years. This nurse is telling me to try them on, To see if will be difficult for the staff to take on and off I HAVE BEEN BUYING HER CLOTHING FOR YEARS. If I can take them off with ease, so can they. This is exactly how lazy they are. This is how they are tearing and ripping mom's nightgowns. Out of pure laziness, nothing more. To lazy to take the time. This is how mom gets hurt. Just as she has recently.

I will be setting the record straight with these nurses. I don't give a crap what they think. They are lucky I haven't gone to the police yet, to see if there is anything I can do.

Got mom changed, read to her. The staff came in and changed her diaper and put her into the bed. Then I gave her a nice spa treatment. Mom just wanted her face and arms done tonight. Sunday and tired............

I held her hand and then realized it was 8 pm and I quickly packed up and sang our song. Then rushed up to the bus loop. Missed the 8:15 bus. Caught the 8:30  I arrived home at 11:15. And here I am..

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland.

A beautiful day and cold

Hello again

Today my back is a little better but still hurts allot.

I arrived to see mom, and being Saturday, was in bed. Now the TV was on, but no volume. This is how they are treating mom. Just like the staff member who, which is what I think happened to mom, smacked my mothers head with the lift bar. They are not doing anything about it. Everyone is commenting and asking what happened to my mother. It could of been done by accident, but still someone should of said something. If they did do this, I hope they feel really guilty every time they see this bruise.

I am just guessing as to what happened. But I did check it out and it is a perfect match to the end of the lift bar

That chicken ass staff member who,might of done this, could of killed mom. A little bit more to the left and it would of hit her temple. Mom could of been knocked right out. I don't know. Only the staff member who, may or may not of done this knows for sure.

This could be the same staff who have been destroying my mothers nightgowns. Who, with all the signs, where putting mom's nightgowns in the laundry. I have heard nothing about this either. The manager has not even given me back my receipts. I will have them for a few days, then I will give them back to you. Is what  she told me.  More BS.

Anyways I made mom a great dinner and she just loved it. Had our dessert. I changed her sheets tonight without even rolling her over. And it took no time at all. I did find it difficult to change mom into her nightgown, while in bed. Allot easier to do it, while she is in her chair.

But got it done. Just when I finished doing this, the staff member came in and changed her diapers. Giving me enough time to get the dishes done and go to the washroom. It is a very long journey out their and sometimes I just can't find a bathroom. So I wait until mom is being changed, before I go. A long time.

I did her spa treatment very quickly this evening, as I needed to get to a grocery store. Well a certain store. I need to get some Christmas lights. Red and gold ornaments on the tree,with Red lights. It has been with Blue lights for years now. Time for a change. Couldn't afford it, but have to do it for mom. I will just cut back on my smoking to make up for it.

Mom did not want me to leave, she was still awake. Not use to this. I will make sure I stay latter tomorrow night. I did, however, feel guilty and still do. I know she understood me, but still did not want to let go of my hand. After I do her spa treatment, I usually spend, at least half an hour, just holding her hand, making sure she is asleep.

Need to go now, very tired. Thinking about moving and why I can't find an affordable place. I will spend most of what I get each month on rent, just to get out their. But need to finish packing. To see what happens.

Just feel the need to pack. It is just repeating in my head. Just Pack. Just Pack. Just Pack over and over again. Need to do it. Even if it kills my back.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Back to being Raincouver

Hello again

My back is still out and it is very sore. Especially when mom wants to give me hugs, holding my hand and pulling me. It is better than yesterday.

Well yesterday the residential client coordinator, gave me a call to let me know that there is  a bruise on mom's temple. I told her I know and it was caused by the lift. She wasn't sure and would check it out. Exact match to the bar on the lift. The part that bothers me the most is the staff member who did this, didn't even report it. Of course not, just let it go. I don't want to get into trouble. Is what they are thinking. And I brought this up with the manager and she is in denial that a staff member would do this.

Come on, abuse is happening in our care home, facilities all the time. And nothing is being done about it.

My goal is to do something about it.

Now it is tender, so I am not touching this area when I give mom her spa treatment at night.

Mom has a great appetite and eats almost everything I bring her plus the served dinner. She is very healthy.

Happy I would say. The problem is when mom wants to sleep, the roommate has the lights on and who knows when they are turned off. When your in bed all the time, you sleep and this keeps one up at night.  Not impressed with this. I have spoken with the manager and they said they are going to do something about it. But I will not be waiting weeks for something to get done. One week and I do what is necessary to get this women moved.

I read to mom, and mom listens to music. Not my problem if this women doesn't like music or me reading to mom.

I do what I can for mom. I want to do more. Yet it is finding a place in White Rock. I have even raised what I can't afford to pay for rent. I will pay a higher price, and figure everything else out once I am living their.

I was packing, but my back went out. No fault but my own. Didn't bend over properly while lifting and putting a heavy object down.

I will continue tomorrow morning, whether my back hurts or not.

The past few days, mom has been very affectionate. I don't mind this. As well as very tired. She is up all day long and doesn't nap. So you see why, when we are finished dinner and I am doing the dishes, mom is falling asleep in her chair.

This is the way mom wants it, or likes it, so this is what I do. Finish the dishes and get her ready for bed.

I am staying longer than I did before. Just to make sure mom is asleep when I leave at night. I want to bring some of her clothing home, but I don't want to be packing them up and bring them home, Then pack them up again and bring them back to White Rock.

I am confident that as soon as I finish packing I will find a place. Hopefully.

There is not much to tell today. Mom is doing fine. My back is killing me, but this doesn't stop me from getting out their to look after mom.

I am very tired today, barely slept last night. So I will continue tomorrow

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Ouch

Hello again

Today was not a good day for me. My back is in extreme pain today. I can barely stand up straight. Sitting or standing is painful.

And mom was overly affectionate today. Wanting to hold my hand and pull. Even though  I mentioned to her that my back was killing me. Wanting hugs and more hugs. Maybe she was feeling sorry for me and thought that by hugging me would be of comfort. I really just didn't want to be touched today. But I can't expect mom to understand that. It would be nice though.

As soon as I arrived mom was very affectionate. Immediately reaching for my hand and pulling me close to her.I tried, but sometimes I just needed to pull away and let go of her hand. It was just to painful.

Other than that. Lets see. Mom has a bruise above her right eye.Actually, it is 4 cm beside her eye and I asked what happened. No one could tell me. Then I have been thinking about it. There is a very distinctive straight line within her bruise. What could of caused such a line. Mom is in a wheelchair, Nothing for her to hit her head on. There is padding all of the bed.

Then on the way home it dawned on me. Yesterday, when I arrived mom was in her room. Facing the TV with her right side. Not usually the way they position her to watch TV in her room. Right next to the corner of the wall. It was not mom who pulled herself against the wall. She could not possibly pull herself that hard to cause such a bruise. It was when the staff member who positioned her, that this happened. They must of used some force to cause such a noticeable straight line.

I am saying straight up, that this is exactly what happened. No if's and buts about it. They are abusing her clothing. Destroying the nightgowns. And since I have complained about it. They are taking it out on mom, now.

Of course they will all deny that this happened and that they never abuse the residents. Bullshit I say. I have witnessed this happening over and over again. I saw a care aid, open handed, slap a resident. That is just one of the infractions I have witnessed. So they can say anything they want. This is what happened.

That is why mom was so very talkative yesterday. We can count the hours. It was the night staff who noticed the bruising on mom's face. And it takes 6 to 12 hours for a bruise to appear. It was not presenting while I was there, So it happened in the early afternoon. And this is why mom has been flinching allot lately. I thought something was up. Now I know.

And if any of you,who read this Blog are a care aid or nurse. You know dame well this happens all the time. But you deny it. To protect your job. '

Whoever is a care aid and are abusing anyone. You should be fired. And bared from every working in this business again.

You know who you are!

Other than that mom was in a good mood. As mentioned above. We finished dinner late and got her hair done, latter than usual. But it was OK.

I really can't believe how much mom has been eating lately. It is all good. I like it when mom has an appetite.

I am now going I am in real pain and need to lay down, flat on my back. I have to first sit, then roll myself onto my side, before I can lay flat on my back.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

A reply

I was going to write about our day, but I chose to include this letter that I wrote as a reply to a comment that was addressed to myself. Well emailed to me. From Olive Brutus

Again you are......................

I think you need to go back to school and learn to read. If you read the Blog, you would notice it states that this women is the one complaining to all who would listen. Not me. And that this women is nice to my face and does all of this when I am not around. Two faced is the proper word. 

This new roommate has only been their less than three weeks and started to complain within a week of her being placed in with my mother. 

If you understand anything at all about peoples behaviors, you should know that if I give into or they give into, anything this women complains about, she will want everything. It is obvious you have no idea how to read people.

First fool, I am not doing anything differently, than I do everyday for my mother. 

Secondly, I chose not to speak with the manager, yesterday, as I threw my back out and was not in any kind of mood to speak with her. If I spoke to her yesterday, I might of spoken out of pain and said things that would not be pleasant. So I decided to wait until today, when I feel a little better. Which I do. 

The manager is their everyday. And is available to speak with.  A dated letter needs to accompany  said conversation to prove that I addressed this issue and what my intentions are.  

And I did speak with the manager today and they are going to try to move her. Period.  We had a good talk today, as I felt better than yesterday and was as pleasant but firm.

Concerning the other roommate. I made complaints after complaints. But nothing was done until I filed a complaint with the Patient care quality office, that something was done about it. That is how mom was moved. 

You have no idea what lengths I have gone through to protect my mother. You would not have the balls to do what I have done. 

I will, however, continue to read to my mother, I will continue to sing to her, I will continue to play music for her. You are the ignorant one.  Why should my mother have to go without anything that makes her happy and keeps her healthy. I do not have the music on at a level that would be a bother to her. I only turn the volume up if there is no one in the room. When I leave at night, I face the stereo towards my mother and turn the music down.  I am not going to turn it down so low that mom cannot even hear it. Not going to happen.

You write, what about this poor women. 

And what about my mother, she is stuck in a wheelchair, can`t read for herself, can`t feed herself, can`t`even use her left arm,thanks to the side effects of the anti psychotic medication that the doctors at her previous places have given her.  It was a huge battle to get mom off of these drugs. Fighting with 6 different individuals, doctors, social workers, therapists, nurses etc. My mother is completely dependent on everyone for everything. 

This women can feed herself, can read for herself. All she wants to do is complain like you do.  You, like most people do not have it in them to do what I do. Who will fight and fight for the rights of someone who can`t defend themselves. This is not an insult to you or others. Some people have what it takes and others don`t. 

I will go to any lengths to defend  my mother. Whatever it takes, that is what I will do. 

You and the rest of my family have no clue what is going on.

Now, I do not use social media, except for  this Blog and a occasional tweet. I don't even have a Linkdin account.  I have contacted Linkdin and told them that is not my account and please remove it.  They are going to remove it within a few days. Thanks for the heads up. I do, however, have a facebook and Twitter account but don't use it, often. 

Again, if you don't like what I write, DON'T READ IT! 

REALLY!

I boils down to this. You are a selfish individual. You only write to complain. What about writing about the good that I do, not just for my mother but the other residents as well.  As well as the fact I am there everyday and have been as long as mom has been in White Rock, and years before this at all the places mom has lived. Once I arrive, the staff do not have to do anything for mom except change her diapers. What I do for my mother, no one would do this. I go to see her no matter what I feel like, in pain, depressed etc... I just don`t stop. Or the fact that my family does nothing except complain like you do. Or my family goes to visits. once a month or so, and just sits there and stares at each other. Like the morons they are. Including yourself. 

I have some nasty words for you but I will not lower myself to your level.  

Sincerely,

The Jerk

This women only writes to  try to insult me. I know she is well meaning. Concerned for herself and not be able to give to others. To reach out and help someone. Last year she wrote to brag about how her family helps people at Christmas. At Christmas is the key word.  Not any other time of the year, but at Christmas. 

I don`t brag to people about what I do. I don`t even like being given praise for what I am doing. It is simply the right thing to do. 

When asked what I do. I tell people I am but a humble individual who has been given a rare opportunity to do what is right in this world and care for someone else. That is what I do, and I leave it at that.

So I will write tomorrow about real issue and what has been going on.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland