I am just really

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So they got the roommate a wireless headset. But they forgot to get the rechargeable batteries for it. So it is useless. Everyone is just looking at it and saying it should work, we left it on the charger for 24 hours.

Read the instruction manual.

And today is bath day and they left mom covered up, with no music on or the TV on. So she just had to lie there and do nothing all day long. And listen to the roommates TV with the volume up to 70.


Talk about assholes or what. Yes that is what I said. They have to be to do this to mom. The staff have not stopped tearing mom's nightgowns. I had them fixed by a seamstress and still they continue to tear them.

What kind of Bullshit is this. Nothing gets done. Nothing stops.

Oh yea, I have been stopped from being able to file any kind of complaint against them.

They refuse to tell me who this mysterious person or persons are that can get medical information released to them.

This is sexism. My rights are being violated. For being a man.

They have said and implied on many occasions that it is a womens job to do what I am doing. Why am I doing this.  Not a mans job. It is up to the daughters.

So they can now do what they want to my mother and I have no way of taking action against them.

Just as I thought. They could even, and I don't doubt that they have already done this, murder my mother. And get away with it.

This is the kind of system we have in place.

Well anyways mom was very glad to see me today. I didn't blame her. Being stuck having to deal with this bullshit.

I gave her something to drink and boy did mom drink allot today. Of course she did, Does anyone give a crap that mom is hot and thirsty. NO!

I am glad I bring her dinner. As the one served tonight. I could not even begin to tell you what it was. And mom didn't want to have anything to do with it.


And dessert, well that was a mystery as well.

I changed her sheets, and put a nightgown on her after dinner. As I usually do.

Otherwise mom is well, I am so glad that I can be there for her. Who else would. Not my bitch sisters or any other member of her family. They don't give a crap about mom. Especially my sisters. They can't get the money from mom and dad anymore. So they ignore mom.

Be warned, I am done being nice. This blog is now going to get really raw and real.

I am not going to hold anything back anymore.

I am stopping now, as I am about to blow my lid. I am livid. Beyond livid

And I am letting you know.

I don't care what anyone thinks of what I am writing on this blog. How I write it or whom it is about.

I speak and will speak with a louder voice, the truth.

The truth about Fraser Health, about Al Hogg and about the staff of Al Hogg. And my lovely sisters.lol

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher W.A. Schmuland

Help me out here. I need to hire a lawyer and I need funds for this. It is for my mother.

Is it to hard for them to understand

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Another hot day today. But thanks to the fan in mom's room it was cooler. I arrived to see mom with a blanket on her. WHAT

This was removed immediately from her and I gave mom some ice water and some of the drink I had. Hers are in the fridge and needed to be taken out, before giving them to her. 

Done right away and down to her room. So much cooler. At least they turn the fan on and left it on. But to put a blanket on her. 

And just as usual It was dinner and then dessert. ( I forgot to get her chocolates today.) First thing tomorrow that will happen. 

It was dinner and then I quickly got her ready for bed. While we waited for the care aid , we both fell asleep. We got her into bed, then I had to go and do the dishes. By the time I got back mom was already asleep, So I only did her face and arms. Then it was time to go. 

Well I saw Jane and all she did is give me the BS line, She never did answer my question. Since I am not the person to contact, then who is and I want documentation to prove it. Nothing. 

So once again I am getting the line given to me by Fraser Health. And the BS from the staff.  

Below are two pictures. The first one was taken March, 12, 2011 when mom first arrived at Al Hogg. The second one was taken January 13, 2014. 

The difference is me taking care of her. I will put up a photo of her this year,as soon as I take a good one. When mom is not so tired.

I need to go now, 

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Heat wave.

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Well mom is hot and tired. The air conditioner is not working properly. The staff didn't even turn her fan on. Really. Need to keep her room cool. Not sweltering hot. I am exaggerating a but, So after getting mom and going down to her room. That was the first thing I did, turn her fan on. And because mom is hot, this makes her tired as well.

I just picked up a burger for her and some onion rings to go with it. Mom does like this. But, again, being tired, mom was chewing and chewing and not swallowing. So tonight it took a very long time for mom to eat her dinner. It didn't matter to me. But I still had to coach her into swallowing her food. She wanted more food, I had to tell her I can't give you anymore until  you swallow what you have in your mouth.  I feel really bad doing that. It has to be done, otherwise mom would choke on her food.

Finally this was done, with just enough time to get her changed and ready for the care aid to come and put her into bed.

Well by this time, mom's room had cooled off enough, that I could turn her fan off when I left. It was just the matter of giving mom her spa treatment. This just made mom extremely relaxed, ready to sleep. And I didn't even have time to stand there and hold her hand. I had to leave.  No choice.

It was to bad, I like to hold her hand until she falls asleep. Mom tonight did not want to let go of my hand and when I did pull it away to serve her some dinner, she got upset.

It is her security blanket. So to speak.

Well.

I submitted the consent form to the complaint office and I finally received a call back from the case manager. We spoke I explained to her that there is not agreements in place. A representative agreement or Committee of person in place so it is up to the person who is the most active in the persons life that makes the health care decisions.

Well she tells me that she is going to check on the decision making. Within 10 minuets I receive a call back and the case manager telling me she can't help me, because I am not the one to go to for my mothers health care decisions.

We have been through this before. This manager Jane is sexist. She doesn't believe a man can do what I am doing.

There is nothing in place and if there is it is illegal. The courts require that whom ever is applying for committee of person has to inform all siblings of there intentions. And if they do not. Well they lied to the courts. My sisters I mean. This is something they would do, not realizing I would check this out.

Or make sure Al Hogg proves to me they have copies of the proper documents.  This Jane didn't get back to me, or answer any of my messages. Until today that is.

I arrive and one of the nurses told me Jane was looking for me. And they told her I am there whether it is raining, snowing, hot, cold etc.... No matter what I am there 7 days a week. All Jane could say was oh! This is what the nurse told me and this nurse I trust.

So now on Thursday, since tomorrow is a holiday, Canada Day. I will go really early to speak with Jane about this.

Other than this. This is causing my arm to shake more. From the Parkinson's I need to keep calm. Not be stressed out. Wait, I just thought of this. I can use this if I decide to sue Jane.


Anyways, before I make any rash decisions, I will speak with her first.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Above is the other side of dealing with Alzheimer's care. Members of family who think they have the right to do what they want. Even though they are never around. And being a male having to deal with the sexist individuals out there.

To hot, better today. But very muggy

Hello again


Nothing is being done about the roommate. I arrive today to find her TV volume up to 79, blasting away and her not even being in the room. Nobody doing anything about it.

And what I get from the complaint office is they need documentation stating that I am the decision maker. We have been through this before. I have not been able to reach them, yet, to explain what the law states concerning Temporary Substitute decision makers. It boils down to this. It is the person who is there the most, the person who provides the most care, it is the person who advocates for the loved one,. It is this person who makes the decisions. And that person is me.

So I turned down the TV and turned it off. Mom is not impressed with any of this either.

Mom was very tired today as well. I don't blame her, the heat, even though the place is suppose to be air conditioned. Not! Her fan the base was broken, so I brought her mine. I need one though, I have her old one, but again the base is broken, so I can't use it. I will get her a new one this week  In the mean time, I am very hot and did not sleep well.

I would rather mom be cool, than me.

I made mom and nice Sunday dinner. Which she enjoyed. The flavors, the aroma's, The textures. All good for her mind. Gets it working over time. Helps with her Dementia.

But mom was falling asleep before we even started dinner.

I fed her as fast as I could tonight. Got her changed for bed and then waited. In the mean time, off she went to sleep. I can tell, she holds my hand and when she is ready to sleep, mom pulls my hand close to her and falls asleep. She holds on and doesn't want to let go.

The care aid came in and I had a hard time getting my hand away from her so she could be put into bed.

We got her into bed, with a little bit of fuss. Mom grabbed my hand again, while the care aid was changing her pad. I am OK with all of this. Makes me feel loved. At least someone loves me.

Afterwards I quickly gave mom her nightly spa treatment. Just her face and arms.

And it was not long before she was fast asleep. Even when the nurse came in to give mom her medicine, it was difficult getting mom to take it. She did, and I gave her something to drink to wash the taste away.

To sleep she went.

And I just packed up, sang to her and off I went.

A little note.

I found a foreign object in one of mom's cokes, I contacted coke and they proceeded to tell me all about the stringent practices and asked me if I took medication or my mother. As I described the object as 2 " long, capsule like in shape, came apart like a capsule does. And a rubber texture.

She suggested I try an experiment. Put one of my pain killer capsules in a glass of water. I did this and it just doubled in size, not 2" long and 1/2 in circumference. It has been in the glass for days now and no change.

It did not come from me. It was in the product when purchase. They just don't want any liability issues.

They don't want to do anything about it. Except for me to send it to them and they will have it tested. They say they will let me know the results of the testing. I highly doubt it . This is a north American number. I have to send the product to Florida. At their expense of course.

I live in Canada so I think tomorrow I will be contacting Health Canada or something like that.

GOD Bless and good night

Kris Schmuland