A rainy day

Hello again

So today I brought mom one of the items I have pre made. The orange marinated, Italian/Parmesan crusty chicken breast. I looked at it and thought there has to be something else I can do to it. So I covered it in mild salsa, and added some provolone cheese, and then put more salsa on it.

I warmed it up when I arrived and served it with and avocado. Well, mom just loved it. She ate the whole thing. It was a large breast. And the whole avocado. Plus a papaya and a pack of three of her favorite Lindt Chocolate and the Nanimo bar. Plus tea, coke, fuze and water.

It was good that she ate so much today. As she hasn't been eating all that well.

I brought her 7 undershirts, as it is fall/winter and it does get cold at night. So I purchased these undershirts for mom to wear.

I have found her a micro stereo system. This way I can download her music onto a flash drive for her to listen to when I am not their.

After dinner I got her change for bed. She wasn't wearing a shirt under her sweater so I put a T-Shirt on her before I put on her night gown. Got her into bed and the nightly spa treatment. Mom was very tired and did not want to have her lower legs and feet washed tonight. So I just put lotion on them for her.

I sang to her, our good night song, held her hand while she fell asleep.Then off I went. It was just pouring rain out tonight.

Fall is here now. Raincouver, as we call it here. Rain until April. It is OK, I am a duck. Born and raised here. an umbrella, what's that.

When I arrived their tonight, the manager spoke with me about moving mom to anther room. They are trying. This is a good thing. I thanked her.

I got home to find a note on my door from the land lady. Asking me to leave my door open, so they can change the door.

The answer will be no. I will leave a note for her. Or give her a call.

I don't want her even in this house when no one is home. Let alone in my room.

She has obsessive compulsive disorder. And has to have things exactly her way. Clean to her standards. No one can live up to it. She keeps throwing things away. Even though I tell her to leave things alone and not throw anything out. After all it is not her things she is throwing out.

I like things clean, the kitchen, bathroom and living room. But I am in my bedroom all the time. I eat in their, watch TV in their.  So it is not exactly clean to her standards. And she will start to clean and throw things out.

Anyway I don't want her in my room. Or anyone in my room, when I am not here. Or anytime, for that fact. She can leave the door and the lock. I will just change it myself. Other wise it is not going to happen, and if she does go in their, after I told her not too. I will just call the police and have her charged with breaking and  enter.

She does not get things. She is not even suppose to come over without notice. She knows this, but doesn't care. OK there is some work to do, and I have to give a little. So I will, but no one is going into my room without my permission.

Well, mom's photo's have still not been release. Thanks to my sisters, so I guess. I bought a new printer with a GST/HST cheque I received. I got a very good deal on it. This is to, restore the photo's to their original condition. After being water damaged, from being left in a leaking shed.

I have the program to do this and am looking forward to it. It has been a while since I have used Photoshop. I have missed it. I was pretty good at it.

The PGT will release them to me, if my sister's agree to it. And again, I plan on making copies of them for my sisters, plus putting them onto a DVD. Then return the photo's to the PGT. I just want to make mom's room full of memories.

You know, everyone tells me I am doing enough. But I need to do more. And because of this crazy land lady, I really need to move. But that is not why I need to move. It is one of the reasons. But I need to move to White Rock, to be closer to mom and do more for her. Get their  for her lunch and be able to take her places. And be able to eliminate the 6 hours of traveling I do. Don't get me wrong. I will continue to do this, without reservations. But to free up this time, is a benefit to mom. I can get to bed earlier and be able to get up and get more things done for her. As well as take care of the problems I have.

The eating disorder I have developed. Or the medical reason behind it. I cannot eat anything made with flour, or any dairy products

Enough though, I need to go to bed and watch  a few of the shows I downloaded.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

moms birthday

Hello again

I guess I did not write about my mother's birthday. Excuse me for this.

So Friday, was mom's birthday My sisters were their that day. They brought her cards and I guess some gifts. There is a new pair of slippers and body lotions. ( Bio therme is the only lotion I will use on mom) but I am glad they came to see her, on the day of her birthday.

Now I made mom a seafood and chicken cannelloni, this huge salad with everything in it, spinach based.with bean sprouts, red, yellow and orange peppers. cucumber, two different types of onions, two different types of mushrooms. When served it is served with an avocado and cheese.

I brought her a bouquet of flowers. Several articles of clothing. I got her a small cheese cake, and put a candle on it. This is the part that was sad. When I lit the candle and asked mom to blow it out. I noticed mom looking at it. Trying to figure out how to do this. She had forgotten. But I just stood beside her and said to her "lets do this together" and we did.

Mom ate most of her dinner and then off to her spa treatment.

I am trying to get her a micro stereo system, found one, but it is not on sale anymore. Even though I tried to purchase it before mom's birthday, but couldn't get any help from the staff. Went into the store four times and  did not get help.  Will find one.

Since then mom has been overly tired. Not getting the proper sleep she needs. She keeps getting awaken by her roommate.

But I am doing something about this

Now tonight mom was not feeling good about things. She was upset about my sisters, not doing more for her. She was feeling un loved by them. I don't blame her.

I had made a lemon pie for her. Yes I made it. and she had a piece, but not much of her dinner. I was and am worried. I sat with her while she fell asleep. This is the time when I really get worried. Mom was not happy and couldn't fall asleep. Even though she was extremely tired. She just starred at the wall.

I need to move to White Rock and now, not latter. I need to be 5, 10 minutes away, maximum. I need GOD to help me out here. I can't wait any longer. Mom needs me to be their for her as much as possible. I need to do things with her. Even if it is just sitting and reading to her. Telling her stories. Anything and everything. Someone, tonight, said to me that I am doing enough. No, I am not. I need to do allot more. Mom deserves it.


This is very emotional for me. I was tearing up on the bus, on the skytrain and walking home. I am tearing up now. I feel that I am useless and not a good son.

Mom is sad and when mom is sad I am sad.

I need to go now, as I am starting to really become emotional.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

I have had enough

Hello again

I am going to say this one more time.

WOULD YOU ALLOW A BABY TO SIT IN SOILED DIAPERS FOR ANY LENGTH OF TIME. I THINK NOT.

WHY, THEN, WOULD ONE ALLOW A SENIOR CITIZEN SIT FOR HOURS AND HOURS IN SOILED DIAPERS.

THIS ABUSE, ABUSE, AND MORE ABUSE. PLAIN AND SIMPLE

So I get their today, get mom's dinner ready and go over to her. I see that she is almost falling out of her wheel chair I get over to her and start to help her and then a staff member comes over and asks me if he can help me. I said no, now that I have already got the situation under control.

The nurse that threatened me is over by the desk chatting away. This guy is over there too. Where is the staff to even of seen that mom was falling out of her chair. NO WHERE

Now it has been over a month since I asked for mom's roommate to be moved so mom can get the proper rest she needs. And nothing.

I AM DONE BEING NICE. I WILL NOW BE RUTHLESS.

If they don't do something about that nurse, then I will. If they don't stop letting mom sit in her soiled diapers, then I will. If they don't get mom's roommate moved, then I will

If they make any threats against me, as in trying to stop me from seeing mom, I will call the police and file charges of abuse. Along with all the photo's of all the bruises mom has had on her.

I will call Fraser Health and complain, I will call the unions and complain. I will call/visit the MLA or MP and file a complaint. I will call and/or write the news papers out in White Rock.

And I will call every agency that deals with seniors abuse, File a complaint with the human rights tribunal They seem to not care what the children of the residents think or say.

They have no idea how to look after mom. They have no idea what her nutritional requirements are. After all I have only been doing this for, Oh 10 years now. I think I know what is best for my mother. No one else has even a clue. Including my sisters and that side of the family.

Now about mom's memories and photo of them. It is not the PGT that is stopping me from getting them. It is my sister's. It is bad enough that they cleaned mom and dad out when they conned them into selling their home. It was them who ruined the photo's and thus will take me many hours to restore them. But I will and again, make copies for everyone.

It is now late and time to get to bed. Watch a little TV and, well you know.

GOD Bless and good night

Kris Schmuland