I am right

Hello again

So last night I apologized in advanced if I was wrong about the new roommate. Well my profile was 100% correct. Demanding to hell. Completely disruptive. And trying to get me involved in her situation.

100% correct in my profile.

Tonight for example I usually have mom's spa treatment finished by 6:30 or so and tonight I could not even start her spa treatment until 7:00 pm. I get mom changed and into bed right after dinner. This women moved mom's bed, with the help of the staff. After I told them the way I want mom's bed to be. And then completely disregarding my wishes.

Now I brought mom into her room at about 6 pm and started to get things ready and change her into her night gown. This women was constantly calling for the nurse complaining about the service. Trying to get me to help her into bed. I closed the curtain to change mom and this women opened it right away.

The staff came in after this women repeatedly was calling for her. Then said that she was going to change both of them. So off I went to make some hot water for tea. I went back towards the room and waited and waited. The staff member came out over 1/2 hour latter and I asked if she was done. No I am going to do your mother now. And at this point it is 6:45 and mom is now getting angry. The staff member needed help with mom, as she has not even had any of the spa treatment done yet. Because of this women and was upset. After she finished changing mom, she comes out and tells me that mom took a swing at her and got her in the jaw. I explained that mom was tired and this is how she reacts when no one is listening to her. Then this staff member tells me that I should put mom to bed earlier. I explained, once again, that by this time mom has already had her spa treatment and is just waiting to bed changed.

Basically, I could only wash mom's face and nothing else. Mom was fighting with me, of course! I barely got to brush her teeth. And had to hurry to get everything done.

Mom does not like this women and still doesn't. Two nights in a row, this women has been completely disrupted. And then there is the fact that mom wants to sleep and this women has the light on and is reading. I already see it has affected mom. The bags under her eyes.

The staff at Al Hogg, tells me they try to match roommates up. Not likely. Another lie that has been told to me. There was no matching anybody up in this situation.

This women has to be moved. That is all that is to it. Or I want mom moved to another facility. Period

Now this is the only way I can have my sisters understand what is going on. As they are not around to see this. So to my sisters, call and complain as well.

What I write is completely accurate and is exactly what happened tonight

Well it is now getting latter and I need to still do a few things online so I must leave you know. This is my rant for today.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland

A new entry

Hello again

I want to first start by letting you all know that mom has a new roommate as of today. And this is not going to work out. Problems already and the women just moved into the room.

Now mom actually whispered to me tonight. And mom has never, every, whispered anything to me. Problem 1.

They have an issue with me being a male. Having to go to her side of the room to get the lift to put mom to bed. Which I brought up before the roommate moved in. The other day to be exact. I new in my soul that this would be a problem for them.

Now for the roommate. She is an aggressive individual, who wants her own way all the time. She has two daughters. The eldest is like mom. Aggressive in nature. The dominant of the two siblings. Putting on an Arie of sophistication, which is actually masking her class in society. She tries to dress in a way the states her wanting to be of a different class in society The younger of the two is the passive one. With all the tell tale signs that the oldest of the two pushed her around growing up.She dresses down, showing her insecurities and her lack of confidence in herself

This is just my opinion and my opinion only.

Now mom did not want me to even leave tonight. She has already expressed displeasure with this arrangement.

Something has to be done and not in a week or two, but now. I will not allow mom to be verbally abuse by someone. It is stress I already see in mom's eyes. This stress will have a negative impact on moms health.

The women likes to read before she goes to bed, and mom wants darkness to sleep. As we all do. This is going to be an issue. I get mom ready for bed right after dinner and by 7 to 7:30 pm mom is ready to sleep. And she gets upset if it is any latter than this. And this is pushing it. So mom needs darkness to sleep. I can't expect the other women to bend to moms preferences either.

Yes there is an adjustment period, but this should of been seen before she even moved into the room with mom. This is not a good match. It seems that there was no taking into account the individuals and their personalities. The reason the women moved from Queens park, her likes and dislikes, her habits etc..... and matching them up with moms personality.

They again, think mom is not aware of what is going on around her. It is extremely evident, from tonight, that mom knows and hears what is going on. And she expressed to me what she heard this evening.

I can't make any of this up.

A space became available and no consideration for mom was taken into account. The women was just put into the room because there was an empty bed.

Now today, I was going to bring mom a burger. But I was walking to the bus, which I take at 3:25 pm, 4 or 5 days a week. With the same bus driver. She knows me and knows I walk with a cane and can't run. I had to get off of the skytrain a stop before King George station, to go to T&T grocery store to get mom a Papaya and some other things. I new the time. I walked over to King George station and was 30 feet from the bus. I saw her close the door. I started waiving and yelling. Thinking she would wait the minute it would take me to get their.

Now I missed this bus and had to wait for a half an hour for the next one. This means it is an hour on the other end that I was behind. So I got to White Rock at 4:50 and had no time to do anything, except hustle my butt down to the home.

Tomorrow I will be bringing her a hamburger, from Fatburger. They are suppose to have great burgers. And I have a two for one coupon.

Now I could be completely wrong about this women and her children, but I am usually not wrong about reading people. But if I am, I do apologize in advance. Yet I will be calling the social worker in the morning about my concerns

So it is late and I need to do a few more things online before I go to bed and watch some TV

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

living the truth

Hello again


It is unbelievable that people still don't get what I am doing. I am serving my mother and it is not anyone who I care if they are watching me. There is only one who matters that is watching me. And that is GOD.

I don't do anything I do for anyone, not for me, not for you. But only for my mother. It is her that needs me to be their for her.

It is faith that I am doing the right thing keeps me going day in and day out. I shall not wavier with my dedication to my mother. I do not doubt what I do, at all and anytime.

It is only once in someones life they get to do for another.To be their for them.

I do not know how long mom has left. But it is OK, whatever time she has left will be made to be the best time I can possibly give to her. Do everything I can, get her out to as many places I can take her. To see as much as possible. The beach, the city, all her friends. Just a drive around the lower mainland or wherever.

Anything and everything for mom should be done to make whatever time she has left enjoyable.

It is GOD who keeps me going day in and day out.

Yes, sometimes I don't even know if I will eat tomorrow. But something happens and I do. Ok there are times when I go for a few weeks without eating. But I am still alive.

Yes my clothing is 4 sizes to big now, that I have lost all this weight. But I mange. And my cable and phone have been disconnected. Oh well, what can I do. Oh yea, pay the bill.

But wait, I have no money to do this. I guess I over extended myself or I should not of even had cable or a phone if I could not afford them.

I ask for help, but nothing is given. I should only be asking GOD for help. As I have a hard time believing that people will assist me. Oh wait, I have asked and asked and I have not received any help from anyone.

It would be nice to speak with someone about what is going on or how I am doing.  This would be nice once in a while. But doesn't happen. So I place my care in GOD's hands.

This is why I have a hard time trusting people.

I am Christian and it is a true Christian that give of themselves without asking for anything in return. Gives freely to those in need

I guess I have not met any true Christians yet. But I believe that I will and soon.

I have started a campaign to get mom a wheelchair equipped van and insurance for said van. This is needed to get mom out and about.

indiegogo.com/momsbucketlist

Yet so far nothing. No funding. This is for mom. Me moving to White Rock is for mom. I will not stop looking after mom, I will be there to the end.

I  will continue to write my feeling and write about the situation

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Again Monday

Hello again

So today when mom was finished dinner mom and I went to her room and we discussed the new space where they moved her.

First mom was extremely upset at the fact her new roommate passed away within a few weeks of her being their. We talked about this and I just told her they were ill and this is not going to happen to her. That she was healthier than me. Better blood pressure than I have.

After that we spoke about the new arrangements and I asked mom is she is OK with the new space, being moved to the other side of the room. Mom pointed out that the sink was closer to her bed, line of sight, and the space was larger. So I asked her if she was fine with being moved over to the other side of the room and she was happy with it.

After all I can make all the decisions I want but it comes down to if mom wants and likes it. And she does, so that is that. I called the manager back and left a message for her concerning my mother's and my conversation. So mom stays where she is.

As long as mom can make decisions, I will listen and respect those decisions. Period. I discuss everything with her. And mom responds accordingly.

So I leave you now

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

This Monday

Hello again

So today I get a call Al Hogs stating that moms new roommate passed  way last night. Of course while I was their. And they mentioned that they are going to move mom over to that spot. Well, after her last roommate passed away I tried mom over there and mom can't see outside as she can where she is now.

Mom and I both look outside while I give mom her nightly spa treatment and when sitting there. This she enjoys very much and to take this away from her and say we will try to get her looking outside more during the day is ridiculous at best. Not even the same thing. Mom already looks outside enough in the day room. She wants to see and watch  what's going on while in bed. As in the rain coming down a lightning storm etc...

Just to see the outdoors while she lays in bed is peaceful and calming for her. This I cannot take away from her. Even though it is a larger space. I been thinking about this since I received the call and every fiber of my being says NO leave mom were she is. I will, however, ask mom about it. I am sure her answer is going to be no

I will war and see

GOD bless and good day

Kris Schmuland