Hello again
Well, the response to my add turned out to be a fake. If it is to good to be true, is usually is. They sent my photo's and the suite was beautiful and the only wanted $400. a month including. Downtown by the water. Really!
Anyways, I got mom the dinner she wanted, and mom was very hungry tonight. But at the same time, very tired, again. To much of the delusions and the TV to loud and on all the time.
We can't wait.
So when mom was finished eating, her eye's started to close. Grabbed my hand tighter and started to fall asleep, before I even finished the dishes. I quickly did the dishes, got her changed for bed. The staff came in and got her into bed. Before I even had a chance to finish her spa treatment, mom was asleep. But the nurse came in and gave mom her medicine for the night. Waking her up.
It didn't take long afterwards for mom to fall back to sleep.
I stayed until after 8 pm tonight. Just standing and holding her hand. Making sure mom was completely asleep. Her hand was completely relaxed. So I knew I could easily slip my hand out. Sang our good night song and left.
With me, I am completely done being here. I can't take it anymore. It doesn't make any difference, I guess. As only two weeks left and I still can't find a place, which I can afford.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
This is the story of my mother and myself. About dealing with the institution, hospitals, the doctors and the PGT. How my mother feels thinks and what she wants. And how, as a care giver for her. My thoughts and feelings. How this all effects both my mother and myslelf. Searching for dignaty and respect. For legal purposes I have to write this is my opinion
Saturday, April 19, 2014
Friday, April 18, 2014
one down
Hello again
So, I have everything to make mom a great Easter dinner. But Sunday is her bath day and it is to difficult to feed her this type of meal in bed. So I will have to wait until Monday to serve her an Easter dinner.
I got her an Easter Lilly today.
Mom is tired and I know she can't wait until she moves to the other room. Neither can I. It will be so quite we both won't know what to do at first.
I have to stop and get mom some books tomorrow. I started to read her this one story, we will see how it goes.
I did make her a Good Friday meal . Lemon pepper cod with some side salads..... Mom loved this and ate everything. At least she has a good appetite.
And being Friday, I washed her hair and styled it. This makes her tired as well. But after her spa treatment, mom seemed to be over tired. You know that feeling, Tired but can't sleep. I just stayed, held her hand, until I really needed to leave to get back at a decent time. In other words, I got home a few minutes ago, turned on the laptop and just came straight here to write.
Nothing to download and to late to start my taxes for the last two years.
Mom loves jazz and soft R&B. I see her singing along. Not clearly, but I know she is singing along.
I massage her left arm, to get the blood circulating. And we exercise her arms as well. I have Pysio bands. Mom grabs hold of it ( with her right arm) and pulls. And I wrap it around her left hand, and mom pulls. I am bending her knee's, slightly at first. To be able to get movement in them. They are so stiff. I rub her ankles and try to get them moving as well. These are other daily things we do. It is not just the spa treatment, it is allot more to it. I bend her lets a little and get her to push.
Now
Mom is being moved, so now it is time for me to do the same. Someone answered one of my adds on Craigslist. We will see if it is legit. There are allot of fakes out their. Trying to get your money for a suite that does not exists. I have had these before.
So we will see what this person brings to the table. This person who answered my add. I wrote them and will see in the next day or so. If I can go and see it.
Now just holding mom's hand and have her happy like she is, is worth more than money it self.
I want to watch something, so I will be stopping now.
Keep praying for a place for me.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
So, I have everything to make mom a great Easter dinner. But Sunday is her bath day and it is to difficult to feed her this type of meal in bed. So I will have to wait until Monday to serve her an Easter dinner.
I got her an Easter Lilly today.
Mom is tired and I know she can't wait until she moves to the other room. Neither can I. It will be so quite we both won't know what to do at first.
I have to stop and get mom some books tomorrow. I started to read her this one story, we will see how it goes.
I did make her a Good Friday meal . Lemon pepper cod with some side salads..... Mom loved this and ate everything. At least she has a good appetite.
And being Friday, I washed her hair and styled it. This makes her tired as well. But after her spa treatment, mom seemed to be over tired. You know that feeling, Tired but can't sleep. I just stayed, held her hand, until I really needed to leave to get back at a decent time. In other words, I got home a few minutes ago, turned on the laptop and just came straight here to write.
Nothing to download and to late to start my taxes for the last two years.
Mom loves jazz and soft R&B. I see her singing along. Not clearly, but I know she is singing along.
I massage her left arm, to get the blood circulating. And we exercise her arms as well. I have Pysio bands. Mom grabs hold of it ( with her right arm) and pulls. And I wrap it around her left hand, and mom pulls. I am bending her knee's, slightly at first. To be able to get movement in them. They are so stiff. I rub her ankles and try to get them moving as well. These are other daily things we do. It is not just the spa treatment, it is allot more to it. I bend her lets a little and get her to push.
Now
Mom is being moved, so now it is time for me to do the same. Someone answered one of my adds on Craigslist. We will see if it is legit. There are allot of fakes out their. Trying to get your money for a suite that does not exists. I have had these before.
So we will see what this person brings to the table. This person who answered my add. I wrote them and will see in the next day or so. If I can go and see it.
Now just holding mom's hand and have her happy like she is, is worth more than money it self.
I want to watch something, so I will be stopping now.
Keep praying for a place for me.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
And now
Hello again
So I told mom today about the room we will be moving into and she was very happy. Peace and quite. This is what she seeks.
So one thing down. The move for mom. Now I just have to find a place for myself.
I don't need a new TV, furniture, new clothing, a stereo. Or anything that special. I have a chair, I have a bed. I just have to get cheap pots and pans from somewhere.
Why is it so difficult to do this. The only thing I want in my life is to be closer to my mother, to do more with her. To be close by in case something happens. This is my main concern. I live so far away. If something were to happen in the middle of the night, I couldn't get their. If I were living in White Rock, I could be their within minutes.
I am mom's life line, her caregiver, her friend. Mom needs me to be closer. I need to be out their as well.
What is so difficult about this.
Everyone is telling me that GOD will provide and help me. I am getting desperate. It is almost the end of the month and if I pay all the rent, I won't be eating. Period.
I pray for help finding a place and nothing. I am starting to freak out about this. And so be it. I should be. Two weeks and I am homeless, it I want to eat.
I do everything I do to make sure my mother's life is exceptional and happy.
Mom is fine, she ate well and was happy for me to be their.
I am going now.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
So I told mom today about the room we will be moving into and she was very happy. Peace and quite. This is what she seeks.
So one thing down. The move for mom. Now I just have to find a place for myself.
I don't need a new TV, furniture, new clothing, a stereo. Or anything that special. I have a chair, I have a bed. I just have to get cheap pots and pans from somewhere.
Why is it so difficult to do this. The only thing I want in my life is to be closer to my mother, to do more with her. To be close by in case something happens. This is my main concern. I live so far away. If something were to happen in the middle of the night, I couldn't get their. If I were living in White Rock, I could be their within minutes.
I am mom's life line, her caregiver, her friend. Mom needs me to be closer. I need to be out their as well.
What is so difficult about this.
Everyone is telling me that GOD will provide and help me. I am getting desperate. It is almost the end of the month and if I pay all the rent, I won't be eating. Period.
I pray for help finding a place and nothing. I am starting to freak out about this. And so be it. I should be. Two weeks and I am homeless, it I want to eat.
I do everything I do to make sure my mother's life is exceptional and happy.
Mom is fine, she ate well and was happy for me to be their.
I am going now.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Good news
Hello again
When I arrived at mom's and got her ready to eat dinner, the manager asked if she could speak with me for a minute. I said only a minute. She then told me that she received a phone call from the Patient quality care office today.
She wanted to know what it was about. She said that they told her that she will be receiving letters from me. I said I did not get to print them out and will bring them in tomorrow. But she was worried about what it was about.
I just simply stated it was about mom being moved. That it is not a reflection on her management style. I just have to do what is best for my mother. And if that means taking to the next level, so be it. I have let this go well beyond the point where I would take action. And explained that I would only ask twice about something and if not resolved, I would take action. But not this time. I allowed it to go to far.
The manager than told me that in two weeks they can move mom, and gave me a choice of two roommates. I know both of the ladies. And have decided, already, which room I want mom to move to... I will let the manager know tomorrow. Next week they have several moves to make and would not be able to take care of it.
It took me to file a complaint to get something done. Why did I not do this sooner. Next issue will be dealt with much faster. I will, as the norm, ask only twice.
Well mom had another good dinner, than off to wash her hair.
I need to get some books for us to read. Tomorrow, hopefully. And it is Easter weekend, so I will cook mom a nice Easter Sunday dinner.
Well I really need to go. It is earlier than normal, but I want to watch a movie. The medicine man. I haven't seen this in a long time. And I need to eat something.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
When I arrived at mom's and got her ready to eat dinner, the manager asked if she could speak with me for a minute. I said only a minute. She then told me that she received a phone call from the Patient quality care office today.
She wanted to know what it was about. She said that they told her that she will be receiving letters from me. I said I did not get to print them out and will bring them in tomorrow. But she was worried about what it was about.
I just simply stated it was about mom being moved. That it is not a reflection on her management style. I just have to do what is best for my mother. And if that means taking to the next level, so be it. I have let this go well beyond the point where I would take action. And explained that I would only ask twice about something and if not resolved, I would take action. But not this time. I allowed it to go to far.
The manager than told me that in two weeks they can move mom, and gave me a choice of two roommates. I know both of the ladies. And have decided, already, which room I want mom to move to... I will let the manager know tomorrow. Next week they have several moves to make and would not be able to take care of it.
It took me to file a complaint to get something done. Why did I not do this sooner. Next issue will be dealt with much faster. I will, as the norm, ask only twice.
Well mom had another good dinner, than off to wash her hair.
I need to get some books for us to read. Tomorrow, hopefully. And it is Easter weekend, so I will cook mom a nice Easter Sunday dinner.
Well I really need to go. It is earlier than normal, but I want to watch a movie. The medicine man. I haven't seen this in a long time. And I need to eat something.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Oh OK!
Hello again
I had a meeting in Vancouver today, and it went over. So I almost did not make it to mom's for dinner. Just in time. I had enough time to pick up something to go with the salad I made her. New smoothie today, as well, nice and thick. Just like a milkshake, but without the milk. OK, yogurt is used to thicken the smoothie. This time was a Strawberry, mango, banana smoothie. So I got her some candied salmon. This mom just loved.
It has been awhile since mom rubbed my face, motioning for me to give her the spa treatment. Or was it just to show me some affection. Which is the way I look at it. Well I look at it both ways. Makes me feel good and mom as well.
Being Tuesday, the roommate is getting her bath, so mom and I have the room to ourselves for an hour. And mom enjoys this time. We talk, sing, laugh. Without a TV or delusions. And the roommate was at it again, after her bath. Saying why can't you see all the dead animals up on the self. This is with her daughters their. And she argues with them about it.
Now, mom was very tired, after her dinner and just wanted to get into bed. She did put up a little bit of a fuss while giving her the spa treatment. It was just because she just wanted to hold my hand and fall asleep. This makes me want to cry, just writing about it.
I wish, I wish, I could find a place in White Rock. So I could be their for mom, more often. So I can stay latter and not have to worry about spending 3 hours traveling to get back to Coquitlam.
Well I guess that won't be much of an issue after the end of the month. Not being able to afford the place I am at now..
I finished her spa treatment and mom held on to my hand very tightly and closed her eye's for the night.
It was uneventful, but worth every second I spend with her. It does not always have to be exciting. Just being their and sitting with mom, makes my day. The staff tell me that the entire time I am with mom, she doesn't take her eye's off of me. And has a constant smile on her face. As do I.
It is after midnight and I didn't sleep well last night. Kept waking up every hour. I can't stand it here anymore.
I have put an add on Craigslist and this is not the first time. And nothing.
Have to go now.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
I had a meeting in Vancouver today, and it went over. So I almost did not make it to mom's for dinner. Just in time. I had enough time to pick up something to go with the salad I made her. New smoothie today, as well, nice and thick. Just like a milkshake, but without the milk. OK, yogurt is used to thicken the smoothie. This time was a Strawberry, mango, banana smoothie. So I got her some candied salmon. This mom just loved.
It has been awhile since mom rubbed my face, motioning for me to give her the spa treatment. Or was it just to show me some affection. Which is the way I look at it. Well I look at it both ways. Makes me feel good and mom as well.
Being Tuesday, the roommate is getting her bath, so mom and I have the room to ourselves for an hour. And mom enjoys this time. We talk, sing, laugh. Without a TV or delusions. And the roommate was at it again, after her bath. Saying why can't you see all the dead animals up on the self. This is with her daughters their. And she argues with them about it.
Now, mom was very tired, after her dinner and just wanted to get into bed. She did put up a little bit of a fuss while giving her the spa treatment. It was just because she just wanted to hold my hand and fall asleep. This makes me want to cry, just writing about it.
I wish, I wish, I could find a place in White Rock. So I could be their for mom, more often. So I can stay latter and not have to worry about spending 3 hours traveling to get back to Coquitlam.
Well I guess that won't be much of an issue after the end of the month. Not being able to afford the place I am at now..
I finished her spa treatment and mom held on to my hand very tightly and closed her eye's for the night.
It was uneventful, but worth every second I spend with her. It does not always have to be exciting. Just being their and sitting with mom, makes my day. The staff tell me that the entire time I am with mom, she doesn't take her eye's off of me. And has a constant smile on her face. As do I.
It is after midnight and I didn't sleep well last night. Kept waking up every hour. I can't stand it here anymore.
I have put an add on Craigslist and this is not the first time. And nothing.
Have to go now.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Monday, April 14, 2014
it was relatively
Hello again
I didn't get a chance to write last night, as I was very tired and still having to deal with the upstairs person.
But tonight it is quit. Which is a good thing. I can actually get somethings done. Again, a good thing. I am so far behind.
A beautiful day, and mom was in bed, bath day. I wanted to take her out today. I will try to get their early tomorrow and do this for her.
I made her a great dinner, which she ate all of it. I got her spa treatment done quickly and just sang to her and held her hand. We finished the book. Now to find something else..
It is a beautiful thing, mom being so excited to see me, the huge smile on her face. Knowing I will always be there for her.
It is so important now, especially now, that I get to White Rock. I really don't have a choice. Considering my roommate is gone in two weeks. And I still have not found a place I can afford.
I really don't know what to do.... No one to speak with about this. Not for a week anyways. And I don't think the advocate can do anything quickly for me.
Mom needs me calm and not stressed out. Or being homeless. No matter what I do, I can't afford to stay here. I might be able to pay one month. But this means I don't have anything left over. Nothing.
Now mom is healthy. It seems she is able to use her left arm more and more.
I just love that mom still has a good sense of humor. I know where I get my sarcasm from.
This is short this evening. I have several more things to do. And I didn't get home until after 11 pm tonight. So I am trying to rush and get as much done as I can before I go to bed and relax.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
I didn't get a chance to write last night, as I was very tired and still having to deal with the upstairs person.
But tonight it is quit. Which is a good thing. I can actually get somethings done. Again, a good thing. I am so far behind.
A beautiful day, and mom was in bed, bath day. I wanted to take her out today. I will try to get their early tomorrow and do this for her.
I made her a great dinner, which she ate all of it. I got her spa treatment done quickly and just sang to her and held her hand. We finished the book. Now to find something else..
It is a beautiful thing, mom being so excited to see me, the huge smile on her face. Knowing I will always be there for her.
It is so important now, especially now, that I get to White Rock. I really don't have a choice. Considering my roommate is gone in two weeks. And I still have not found a place I can afford.
I really don't know what to do.... No one to speak with about this. Not for a week anyways. And I don't think the advocate can do anything quickly for me.
Mom needs me calm and not stressed out. Or being homeless. No matter what I do, I can't afford to stay here. I might be able to pay one month. But this means I don't have anything left over. Nothing.
Now mom is healthy. It seems she is able to use her left arm more and more.
I just love that mom still has a good sense of humor. I know where I get my sarcasm from.
This is short this evening. I have several more things to do. And I didn't get home until after 11 pm tonight. So I am trying to rush and get as much done as I can before I go to bed and relax.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
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