Hello again
I want to first report that the grandsons, grandmother is doing fine.
Now today I went to physiotherapy, and found out that the physiotherapist is not going to be around for a while. And he mentioned that I should go to their other clinic. Which means I have to start all over again.
As it is they have not been doing much for my injuries. I am still in allot of pain, I have done no exercises. I just have been lying on heat pads and have had this machine attached to me, providing current to my muscles. That has been the extent of my physio.
Spoke with the insurance company today and they are starting their nonsense. You have options, you could settle and do what needs to be done on your own. Then there is hiring a lawyer. I know what both are like.
The insurance company wants to settle and pay out as little as possible. On the other hand the lawyer, although they say they will work on a contingency basis, they neglect to tell you that you will be charged for every letter, phone call, photo copy etc... etc... that they do. So you go from the lawyer saying they will only charge you 33% if they win, but what it actually turns out to be is closer to 45% of the final settlement.
I do have a year from the date of the accident to hire a lawyer. Which I will be calling the insurance company back on Monday and letting them know that this is my right and that I know their game.
Anyways.
Mom was a little tired today when I arrived, but as soon as she saw me, she woke right up with a huge smile on her face.
I just love this.
I took her down to her room to get what was needed for dinner and gave mom her drinks... She is always very thirsty when I arrive. It is as if they do not even give her something to drink during the day.
If I relied on them to keep my mother alive, she would of passed away long ago. Not just this home, but every other home mom has been in. I have been a pain in their ass, at each and every home. I am their making sure mom is well looked after. That they are doing what I require.
It is I who knows what is best for my mother. Not them. I have been doing this for over a decade. And through out this whole time I have conducted research on her illness's. On care giving. Been their looking after mom at each step of the way, as she progresses through her illness.
No one takes better care of their mother than I do. I don't get angry, frustrated, upset. I am extremely patient, gentle, tender and caring.
I do everything to keep mom relaxed and well feed, full of the proper nutrition. Including supplements.
OK mom really enjoyed her dinner and we got her ready for bed early. I read to her for a while, as we waited for the temp staff to come and put her to bed.
When that was done, it was the spa treatment time. Wow does mom every enjoy this. Who wouldn't, being pampered like this. And I am glad to do this for my mother.
I held her hand for a while. Half hour and then sang our good night song and left. Of course I tell mom I love her, and she says it back to me.
My right arm is very bad today. I am dropping things, it is shaking and very painful.
This dam headache just won't go away.
The worse thing about this accident is I can't do the things I need to do. And I hate coming back here every night. I am so sick of it. I don't want to be here anymore.
Finished for the night. To painful to continue to type and I have to write in my pain journal yet.
My faith is still very much day to day. I read a passage and it stood out to me that GOD said that Yes I will help you. I am with you. I really do wish I could believe this 100% and to trust. I am a septic at this moment in time. I need to see something real and tangible.
But here I am, stuck in a place that I don't want to even come back to at night. I really would rather sleep on a bench or tent. I don't like the people I live with. I don't trust them. I have to keep everything locked up in my room. I can't leave anything lying around, they will take it.
So I am in extreme pain all the time, more so than before this. and nothing. Still looking.
I am glad I am looking after my mother, I will have to thank her tomorrow for allowing me the opportunity to do this for her. It is wonderful
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Friday, July 4, 2014
And we are......
Hello again
So today I was able to wash mom's hair. Normally I wash it Wednesday's and Friday's. But because of the dental work mom had done yesterday, she was to tired for me to do this.
So I asked if the room was available and everyone said yes, go ahead and was your mom's hair. So I got everything from her room, then the girl asked me how long I will be, that she needs to use this room. Within 10 minutes of them telling me it was OK to wash my mother's hair.
Really!
We have it down pat. 10 minutes to wash and dry it. But the girl was hovering around in the tub room. Rushing us. Being a nag. Wouldn't leave us alone. Just stayed in the room the entire time I was washing mom's hair.
Trust me I will be bringing this up tomorrow.
I brought mom dinner, as nice dinner. I knew she would be hungry after last night. Just eating fruit. Big smiles on mom's face when I served her the dinner I made for her.
We were almost finished when they finally brought the dinner that the home was serving. The girl tries to leave the tray. Even after I said to her, we don't need it, mom is almost finished dinner and on to dessert. You don't want anything from the tray. No, mom is finished dinner.
Now if I didn't bring mom dinner, she would of waited a half hour to be served and cold food at that.
Really!
Tonight I found out that another resident was not doing well. I spoke to her grandson. And the doctor told the grandson that his grandmother is dying and it will be only a matter of days.
Well the grandson, didn't take this lightly. He got her transferred to the hospital for tests. And she is back in her room, doing better. It was just a blockage in the bowels. They did what was needed to be done.
This is how they work. When someone is very ill, they don't send them for tests to see what is wrong, they just say they are dying. They stop feeding them. And let them starve to death. Yes that is what I said.
I hear it all the time. "They haven't eaten in several days, so it is a matter of time, now" Of course it is a matter of time. They are starved to death.
I don't make this up. This is a routine with every resident that is very sick. I would guess that 8 out of 10 of the deaths could of been prevented. By simply taking them for testing. And this is at all the extended care facilities. Yes everyone of them. The residents are their for maintenance, not treatment.
There is a reason for someone being ill.
This is why most homes are not my biggest fans. I will tell the truth and write about it. I need to let everyone know what it is like in our care facilities. Where we send our loved one's to be looked after by people who are only doing this for the job. Most don't care.
Excuse me, to be warehoused.
If I had a place where I could bring mom, I would do it in a heart beat. I would look after her 24/7, without blinking an eye. I don't though. This is why I what and need to be living in White Rock. Not to free up time, but to spend more time with my mother. Seeing that I am not able to have her live with me. I wish that I had the money and a place that this could happen. A van to take her around to where mom wants to go and needs to go.
While speaking with the grandson, he told me that his grandmother was on 3 different anti psychotic medication. This is what I have researched thoroughly, and put a stop to this nonsense with my mother. I had my mother off of these killers very quickly. OK, it took me 4 months of fighting with the Psychiatrists. But I prevailed. And I explained to the grandson that these drugs are killers, that they should not be given to our seniors. That the FDA has put a black box warning on these drugs.
Not to give to seniors, as it may cause strokes, heart attacks, death.
He took everything I said to him, to heart and he will be speaking with the doctor about this. I explained my story with mom and what I had to do to get her off of these drugs.
Well back to mom.
After we finished washing her hair, it was off to bed for mom. She is still feeling the affects of the Adivan she was given yesterday.
She was put into bed, stretched out, relaxed, grabbed my hand and started to fall asleep. It was very early. I just turned to TV on and stayed until the usual time that I would leave.
For me, my shoulder is very bad today. My arm is numb and shaking. My headache is worse. And I am having a hard time standing straight.
That is all I am going to say about that.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
So today I was able to wash mom's hair. Normally I wash it Wednesday's and Friday's. But because of the dental work mom had done yesterday, she was to tired for me to do this.
So I asked if the room was available and everyone said yes, go ahead and was your mom's hair. So I got everything from her room, then the girl asked me how long I will be, that she needs to use this room. Within 10 minutes of them telling me it was OK to wash my mother's hair.
Really!
We have it down pat. 10 minutes to wash and dry it. But the girl was hovering around in the tub room. Rushing us. Being a nag. Wouldn't leave us alone. Just stayed in the room the entire time I was washing mom's hair.
Trust me I will be bringing this up tomorrow.
I brought mom dinner, as nice dinner. I knew she would be hungry after last night. Just eating fruit. Big smiles on mom's face when I served her the dinner I made for her.
We were almost finished when they finally brought the dinner that the home was serving. The girl tries to leave the tray. Even after I said to her, we don't need it, mom is almost finished dinner and on to dessert. You don't want anything from the tray. No, mom is finished dinner.
Now if I didn't bring mom dinner, she would of waited a half hour to be served and cold food at that.
Really!
Tonight I found out that another resident was not doing well. I spoke to her grandson. And the doctor told the grandson that his grandmother is dying and it will be only a matter of days.
Well the grandson, didn't take this lightly. He got her transferred to the hospital for tests. And she is back in her room, doing better. It was just a blockage in the bowels. They did what was needed to be done.
This is how they work. When someone is very ill, they don't send them for tests to see what is wrong, they just say they are dying. They stop feeding them. And let them starve to death. Yes that is what I said.
I hear it all the time. "They haven't eaten in several days, so it is a matter of time, now" Of course it is a matter of time. They are starved to death.
I don't make this up. This is a routine with every resident that is very sick. I would guess that 8 out of 10 of the deaths could of been prevented. By simply taking them for testing. And this is at all the extended care facilities. Yes everyone of them. The residents are their for maintenance, not treatment.
There is a reason for someone being ill.
This is why most homes are not my biggest fans. I will tell the truth and write about it. I need to let everyone know what it is like in our care facilities. Where we send our loved one's to be looked after by people who are only doing this for the job. Most don't care.
Excuse me, to be warehoused.
If I had a place where I could bring mom, I would do it in a heart beat. I would look after her 24/7, without blinking an eye. I don't though. This is why I what and need to be living in White Rock. Not to free up time, but to spend more time with my mother. Seeing that I am not able to have her live with me. I wish that I had the money and a place that this could happen. A van to take her around to where mom wants to go and needs to go.
While speaking with the grandson, he told me that his grandmother was on 3 different anti psychotic medication. This is what I have researched thoroughly, and put a stop to this nonsense with my mother. I had my mother off of these killers very quickly. OK, it took me 4 months of fighting with the Psychiatrists. But I prevailed. And I explained to the grandson that these drugs are killers, that they should not be given to our seniors. That the FDA has put a black box warning on these drugs.
Not to give to seniors, as it may cause strokes, heart attacks, death.
He took everything I said to him, to heart and he will be speaking with the doctor about this. I explained my story with mom and what I had to do to get her off of these drugs.
Well back to mom.
After we finished washing her hair, it was off to bed for mom. She is still feeling the affects of the Adivan she was given yesterday.
She was put into bed, stretched out, relaxed, grabbed my hand and started to fall asleep. It was very early. I just turned to TV on and stayed until the usual time that I would leave.
For me, my shoulder is very bad today. My arm is numb and shaking. My headache is worse. And I am having a hard time standing straight.
That is all I am going to say about that.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Wednesday, July 2, 2014
A little tired
Hello again
Today when I arrived mom was in her room, tilted back in her chair and asleep. It took me a while to wake her. I gave her the drinks she likes and this seemed to wake her up a bit. I brought her down for dinner and tried to feed her the pasta dish I made. She only had one bit. I tired it and wow was it spicy. I am glad mom was tired today.
I grabbed the wrong jar of sauce from the store. A very spicy sauce. When I got home I tried the extra that I put in the freezer. OH yea, extremely spicy. I can't eat this, let alone feed this to mom. I usually can eat spicy, but since the food poisoning, I haven't got my stomach back. It has only been a few weeks and I have only eaten mild things.
So because mom was so tired, I though it best to just give her fruit, yogurt and some ice cream, of course the smoothie was in on it.
When she is this tired, she doesn't want to eat, but mom ate a papaya, mango, kiwi, an avocado, some cheese and the smoothie. Mom was full afterwards. Oh yea let us not forget her chocolates.
Wednesday is one of the days I wash her hair, not in the mood for it. I will do this tomorrow, instead. I got her changed for bed and right away the care aid came in and changed her pad, put her into the bed.
When I came back, after she was done, the nurse was their and I mentioned to her how tired mom was today. It was then that I found out mom had gone to see the dentist today and was given an Adivan.
Communication, what communication. I was worried that something was wrong and it was just she was drugged.
This didn't change the fact that mom still wanted her full spa treatment tonight. Which I gladly gave her. Then mom just wanted to sleep. She wanted to hold my hand, but only for a little while and then pushed it away. Meaning, it was time for her to sleep, undisturbed.
I was in allot of pain anyways, worked out for the both of us. Still in great pain. Tried writing again on the bus, but not working. To painful. I am loosing so many ideas. When they come, I need to write them down. The insurance company doesn't seem to get it. I was trying to write a letter to them for something to do with this claim. I lost most of what I was thinking about.
When it comes to me, I must write it down immediately or it is gone. This is how I have written most of my poems. On the spot. Write it down on whatever I had handy or could find. This is how I work. This is how ideas come to me.
Have a major headache and my arm is very sore, have to go now. Still have to write in my pain journal and try to write this letter to the insurance company.
My faith is still day to day
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Today when I arrived mom was in her room, tilted back in her chair and asleep. It took me a while to wake her. I gave her the drinks she likes and this seemed to wake her up a bit. I brought her down for dinner and tried to feed her the pasta dish I made. She only had one bit. I tired it and wow was it spicy. I am glad mom was tired today.
I grabbed the wrong jar of sauce from the store. A very spicy sauce. When I got home I tried the extra that I put in the freezer. OH yea, extremely spicy. I can't eat this, let alone feed this to mom. I usually can eat spicy, but since the food poisoning, I haven't got my stomach back. It has only been a few weeks and I have only eaten mild things.
So because mom was so tired, I though it best to just give her fruit, yogurt and some ice cream, of course the smoothie was in on it.
When she is this tired, she doesn't want to eat, but mom ate a papaya, mango, kiwi, an avocado, some cheese and the smoothie. Mom was full afterwards. Oh yea let us not forget her chocolates.
Wednesday is one of the days I wash her hair, not in the mood for it. I will do this tomorrow, instead. I got her changed for bed and right away the care aid came in and changed her pad, put her into the bed.
When I came back, after she was done, the nurse was their and I mentioned to her how tired mom was today. It was then that I found out mom had gone to see the dentist today and was given an Adivan.
Communication, what communication. I was worried that something was wrong and it was just she was drugged.
This didn't change the fact that mom still wanted her full spa treatment tonight. Which I gladly gave her. Then mom just wanted to sleep. She wanted to hold my hand, but only for a little while and then pushed it away. Meaning, it was time for her to sleep, undisturbed.
I was in allot of pain anyways, worked out for the both of us. Still in great pain. Tried writing again on the bus, but not working. To painful. I am loosing so many ideas. When they come, I need to write them down. The insurance company doesn't seem to get it. I was trying to write a letter to them for something to do with this claim. I lost most of what I was thinking about.
When it comes to me, I must write it down immediately or it is gone. This is how I have written most of my poems. On the spot. Write it down on whatever I had handy or could find. This is how I work. This is how ideas come to me.
Have a major headache and my arm is very sore, have to go now. Still have to write in my pain journal and try to write this letter to the insurance company.
My faith is still day to day
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Monday, June 30, 2014
I am lost
Hello again
Today I had to go to physiotherapy, and now I am in extreme pain. Third appointment.
Was late getting their, even though I left early. Missed a bus by 2 minutes and decided to take this other bus. Well that made me half hour late. If I would of waited 20 minutes for the other bus, I would of only been 5 minutes late. So had a half hour appointment and it cost me the usual $25.00. Money I can't afford to spend. This is my grocery money I am spending on physio. So I eat even less. Oh well, shit happens.
I also would of been at mom's a little early as well. I really need to be out their. Pray and pray, please. It happens quickly, and mom could be really sick. She isn't but.
I was able to get her some dinner, or make some dinner for her last night. Difficult when your right handed and have to chop with your left hand and do most things with one's left arm. Very different.
And we had time after dinner and dishes for me to read a fair bit to mom this evening. I think she likes this book. Mom is smiling while I read to her.
The life of Pi. So far a good book. When I am done with it, I will sit down and watch the movie with mom.
Her medicine was given to her early tonight, and I finished the spa treatment early. I just stayed until 8 pm tonight. I almost fell asleep, standing up, holding her hand, listening to music.
I can't emphasize strong enough, that it is very important to my mother that I move out their as quick as possible. To enjoy the summer with her, having her over for dinners. See her more often.
It is even more important now, that I found out that my cousin treats her mother the same way as everyone else. Ignores her, OK, not completely, but is not trying to make her life better and try to make her mom healthier.
I really do guess I am unique in how I treat my mother. How I look after her. I thought that, her seeing how I treat my mother, she would follow suite.
She tells me her mom is gone, not all their anymore. So!. My mother is not the same as before, but I won't treat her any differently. Well I do, but I don't look at it as mom being gone. I speak with her the same as I use to. Honest, letting her know what is going on. Asking her questions and having a conversation.
I will continue to make sure mom is healthy, has home cooked meals. This is what I meant, my cousin doesn't bring her any fresh fruit, or home made meals. She just thinks, like the rest, that the meals provided are good enough. Not even close. My cousin won't even bring her mother fresh drinks.
I am unique in I won't let my mother be alone, without someone she can count on. Mom will hold my hand the entire time I am their with her. Except when feeding her, even then, when I let go to do something, mom will try to grab my hand again. I just tell her I will hold her hand again, in a minute. Which I do.
OK time for me to go again.
I really do need to free up time to work on several projects to benefit mom and others.
GOD bless and good night.
Still my faith is day to day.
Kris Schmuland
Today I had to go to physiotherapy, and now I am in extreme pain. Third appointment.
Was late getting their, even though I left early. Missed a bus by 2 minutes and decided to take this other bus. Well that made me half hour late. If I would of waited 20 minutes for the other bus, I would of only been 5 minutes late. So had a half hour appointment and it cost me the usual $25.00. Money I can't afford to spend. This is my grocery money I am spending on physio. So I eat even less. Oh well, shit happens.
I also would of been at mom's a little early as well. I really need to be out their. Pray and pray, please. It happens quickly, and mom could be really sick. She isn't but.
I was able to get her some dinner, or make some dinner for her last night. Difficult when your right handed and have to chop with your left hand and do most things with one's left arm. Very different.
And we had time after dinner and dishes for me to read a fair bit to mom this evening. I think she likes this book. Mom is smiling while I read to her.
The life of Pi. So far a good book. When I am done with it, I will sit down and watch the movie with mom.
Her medicine was given to her early tonight, and I finished the spa treatment early. I just stayed until 8 pm tonight. I almost fell asleep, standing up, holding her hand, listening to music.
I can't emphasize strong enough, that it is very important to my mother that I move out their as quick as possible. To enjoy the summer with her, having her over for dinners. See her more often.
It is even more important now, that I found out that my cousin treats her mother the same way as everyone else. Ignores her, OK, not completely, but is not trying to make her life better and try to make her mom healthier.
I really do guess I am unique in how I treat my mother. How I look after her. I thought that, her seeing how I treat my mother, she would follow suite.
She tells me her mom is gone, not all their anymore. So!. My mother is not the same as before, but I won't treat her any differently. Well I do, but I don't look at it as mom being gone. I speak with her the same as I use to. Honest, letting her know what is going on. Asking her questions and having a conversation.
I will continue to make sure mom is healthy, has home cooked meals. This is what I meant, my cousin doesn't bring her any fresh fruit, or home made meals. She just thinks, like the rest, that the meals provided are good enough. Not even close. My cousin won't even bring her mother fresh drinks.
I am unique in I won't let my mother be alone, without someone she can count on. Mom will hold my hand the entire time I am their with her. Except when feeding her, even then, when I let go to do something, mom will try to grab my hand again. I just tell her I will hold her hand again, in a minute. Which I do.
OK time for me to go again.
I really do need to free up time to work on several projects to benefit mom and others.
GOD bless and good night.
Still my faith is day to day.
Kris Schmuland
Things are not always the same
Hello again
A beautiful day. I decided to leave early to take mom out for a walk. Yes it would hurt but there is an electric wheel chair they can put mom in for me to take her out with.
I leave and then in Surrey, this women gets on. She is on a scooter. But it doesn't work properly. It took 15 minutes for her to get into position. Reverse didn't work. Then in White Rock another 15 minutes to get her off. So the 35 minute bus ride took over an hour today. I was not early at all. I just had enough time to get a few things for mom and get down to her place for dinner.
They started to give mom the liquid B vitamins. And mom is a little hyper. A little impatient. I mentioned to her again that I am sore and I am slower than normal. I think mom understood. Maybe not.
But she was leaning again. So I put a towel on the side she was leaning towards. This kept her straight. I explained that I don't like to keep pushing her straight. I didn't want to hurt her. So I need to do this.
Well mom was trying and trying to lean over. I told her kept trying, I don't think it is going to work. Mom smiled and laughed. But she kept trying anyways.
I know she just wants to be close to me. She needs to be touched and loved. I know this. But for her safety she needs to have this towel their. I don't want her falling out of the chair.
Still impatient though.
We finished dinner, got he dishes done and off to her room. After I got her changed we had some time. So I continued reading to her. We are moving along with this book. Mom seems to enjoy it.
Mom was put into bed, by myself. I am patient, but for only so long. Then I just did it myself. I have been doing this for many years so I know what I am doing. Besides, mom doesn't want to sit in the chair forever.
She got her medicine early. And when done her spa treatment mom was almost asleep.
I stayed for a while and sang our song to her.
It is great when I leave mom has a huge smile on her face. While falling asleep.
I am trying not to use my arm and keeping myself as straight as possible to minimize the pain. But it can only do so much.
Very hard not to use my dominant hand. I really have to think about doing everything now.
OK I need to eat and watch something. Go to bed
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
A beautiful day. I decided to leave early to take mom out for a walk. Yes it would hurt but there is an electric wheel chair they can put mom in for me to take her out with.
I leave and then in Surrey, this women gets on. She is on a scooter. But it doesn't work properly. It took 15 minutes for her to get into position. Reverse didn't work. Then in White Rock another 15 minutes to get her off. So the 35 minute bus ride took over an hour today. I was not early at all. I just had enough time to get a few things for mom and get down to her place for dinner.
They started to give mom the liquid B vitamins. And mom is a little hyper. A little impatient. I mentioned to her again that I am sore and I am slower than normal. I think mom understood. Maybe not.
But she was leaning again. So I put a towel on the side she was leaning towards. This kept her straight. I explained that I don't like to keep pushing her straight. I didn't want to hurt her. So I need to do this.
Well mom was trying and trying to lean over. I told her kept trying, I don't think it is going to work. Mom smiled and laughed. But she kept trying anyways.
I know she just wants to be close to me. She needs to be touched and loved. I know this. But for her safety she needs to have this towel their. I don't want her falling out of the chair.
Still impatient though.
We finished dinner, got he dishes done and off to her room. After I got her changed we had some time. So I continued reading to her. We are moving along with this book. Mom seems to enjoy it.
Mom was put into bed, by myself. I am patient, but for only so long. Then I just did it myself. I have been doing this for many years so I know what I am doing. Besides, mom doesn't want to sit in the chair forever.
She got her medicine early. And when done her spa treatment mom was almost asleep.
I stayed for a while and sang our song to her.
It is great when I leave mom has a huge smile on her face. While falling asleep.
I am trying not to use my arm and keeping myself as straight as possible to minimize the pain. But it can only do so much.
Very hard not to use my dominant hand. I really have to think about doing everything now.
OK I need to eat and watch something. Go to bed
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
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