Hello again
I have been a day a head all week. I thought yesterday was Friday, that is why I brought mom fish and chips
So today I got her something different.
And being Friday, mom is tired. This I forgot again.
It is a day to wash her hair and she was just to tired, I could see this when I was doing the dishes Her eye's where closing and she was falling asleep. I asked her if she just wanted to go to bed. She said yes, clearly.
So off we went to her room. I got her ready, read to her. But a new staff member. So I put her to bed. And was about to change her pad. When the women came in to change her.
I stayed and helped. Mom likes it when I stay and it is quicker.
After it was the usual spa treatment. Followed by exercising her legs. Mom is able to bend her knees more and more with each passing week. I am very gentle with her. I repeat over and over again relax your legs, relax your legs.
And by this time I am running off to the washroom. Being hot, I am drinking allot of water. And my tea bag broke and was drinking loose tea. Needed to refresh this, for my way home.
I stayed until after 8 again. Just holding her hand while she fell completely asleep. I sang to her and gave her a kiss good night and left.
Now on my way home. I got to the train station to hear an announcement that the trains are not stopping at my stop. A medical emergency. In other words. Someone jumped in front of the train. So we needed to get off at a stop before and catch a bus bridge to my station.
The way it goes. I didn't sleep well last night. I kept waking up every hour. And today I am in extreme pain.
Just got home not long ago. Needed to write this.
Mom was wearing the new clothing I got her the other day. She looked great. Beautiful I do say.
I am so very glad I have this opportunity to look after my mother. It is a big deal to me. I just need to be living closer.
Mom is in great health. Great blood pressure.Good heart and lungs. Just this dam stroke and dementia.
I am going to have to let you go now. I am in need of sleep. Forget eating. Twice this week I am going to bed without eating. Only because I am very tired and sore.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Friday, August 1, 2014
Everyday is a good day when taking care of mom
Hello again
How's it going. It seemed to be a rushed day for me. I kept thinking it was Friday. Even when told it was only Thursday. My body was thinking, I have to get this and that done before the weekend.
I was rushing around and when I am doing this I get impatient. Getting some clothing for mom and there is not enough cashiers on. And waiting when the lady in front is asking a million questions and disagreeing with the cashier about everything.
Not finding any staff to help me. This is a huge pet peeve for me. A major department store and not enough staff. Writing them might get some kind of a response.
Anyway, when I arrived it was not exactly cool where mom is. A little cooler than outside. Except for mom's room. With the fan going it was the coolest in the home. I asked mom if she wanted to eat dinner in their and she just said yes. So we did.
Mom was agitated and was squeezing my hand. I immediately new what the problem was. My was full/constipated and needed relief. She ate as much as she could. Fish and chips. But as much as she would normally eat.
Now when the staff came and put her to bed. We noticed that mom was trying to go. So up she went into the sling and the staff member gave mom an enema. And wow did this empty her out.
Again, it is the Tylenol that she is given everyday, 4 times a day, that is causing this. I have repeatedly said this to them, but they don't listen.
Not only does it constipate one, but it is really bad on the liver. Don't they get it. But of course they are making allot of cash by using this product. I would much prefer mom to be taking aspirin. Better for her.
Before we started I said to mom that we are going to empty her and a huge smile came onto her face. And afterwards mom looked so relaxed and felt so much better. Just a big smile with relief written all over her face.
I didn't get to read to her, I asked her if she wanted me too. But she said no. She only likes me to read to her while she is in her chair, after dinner and me sitting beside her, holding her hand, reading to her. When she is in bed. It is spa treatment time and time for me to just hold her hand while she falls asleep.
Now I am really made at the fact that the steroid injection made my arm shake even worse than it did before.
I am done.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
How's it going. It seemed to be a rushed day for me. I kept thinking it was Friday. Even when told it was only Thursday. My body was thinking, I have to get this and that done before the weekend.
I was rushing around and when I am doing this I get impatient. Getting some clothing for mom and there is not enough cashiers on. And waiting when the lady in front is asking a million questions and disagreeing with the cashier about everything.
Not finding any staff to help me. This is a huge pet peeve for me. A major department store and not enough staff. Writing them might get some kind of a response.
Anyway, when I arrived it was not exactly cool where mom is. A little cooler than outside. Except for mom's room. With the fan going it was the coolest in the home. I asked mom if she wanted to eat dinner in their and she just said yes. So we did.
Mom was agitated and was squeezing my hand. I immediately new what the problem was. My was full/constipated and needed relief. She ate as much as she could. Fish and chips. But as much as she would normally eat.
Now when the staff came and put her to bed. We noticed that mom was trying to go. So up she went into the sling and the staff member gave mom an enema. And wow did this empty her out.
Again, it is the Tylenol that she is given everyday, 4 times a day, that is causing this. I have repeatedly said this to them, but they don't listen.
Not only does it constipate one, but it is really bad on the liver. Don't they get it. But of course they are making allot of cash by using this product. I would much prefer mom to be taking aspirin. Better for her.
Before we started I said to mom that we are going to empty her and a huge smile came onto her face. And afterwards mom looked so relaxed and felt so much better. Just a big smile with relief written all over her face.
I didn't get to read to her, I asked her if she wanted me too. But she said no. She only likes me to read to her while she is in her chair, after dinner and me sitting beside her, holding her hand, reading to her. When she is in bed. It is spa treatment time and time for me to just hold her hand while she falls asleep.
Now I am really made at the fact that the steroid injection made my arm shake even worse than it did before.
I am done.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Thursday, July 31, 2014
It is hot
Hello again
We in Vancouver are not use to this kind of summer. Where we have broken records for heat. Usually, it is hot for a week, then rain for a few days. Then the cycle continues. It is this time of the year that is our summer for a month. I like the heat at about 25 c I could deal with this year round.
My arm is not as bad today. But still shaky.
Mom on the other hand is fine,but a little hot. Thank GOD for her fan. I brought mom to her room, when I arrived, the fan was on. Where I put her she could feel the breeze and she closed her eye's and enjoyed it.
Had a good dinner and washed her hair afterwards, which mom greatly enjoyed. I got her into bed and gave her the nightly spa treatment. Then I read to her for 1/2 hour. I really like it when mom is getting into the book as much as I am. Can't wait to finished the book and we will watch the movie together.
I better get a good copy of the movie for us. Which I have now done. or is downloading. Yes I stopped and found it and now I am back.
I stayed latter than usual and I now know when it is time for me to leave. Up until 8 pm it is OK, but after that is when mom just wants to sleep.
Mom was singing with the music tonight and sang along with me to our good night song. It is something I made up and it last for a few minutes. Mom really likes it and it is good with my voice.
Before I left I needed to make sure her papaya and kiwi was put into the fridge to get cold for tomorrow.
I have been giving her cherries, but removing the pit first. Don't want mom to choke on it.
Anyways after midnight again and haven't even started my dinner. Looks like it is a sandwich tonight. To last to cook. Just waiting for mom's laundry to finish and then I will watch something. No clue. the ROHO cushion is doing mom a world of good. Her sores are healed and won't come back.
I need to go now.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
We in Vancouver are not use to this kind of summer. Where we have broken records for heat. Usually, it is hot for a week, then rain for a few days. Then the cycle continues. It is this time of the year that is our summer for a month. I like the heat at about 25 c I could deal with this year round.
My arm is not as bad today. But still shaky.
Mom on the other hand is fine,but a little hot. Thank GOD for her fan. I brought mom to her room, when I arrived, the fan was on. Where I put her she could feel the breeze and she closed her eye's and enjoyed it.
Had a good dinner and washed her hair afterwards, which mom greatly enjoyed. I got her into bed and gave her the nightly spa treatment. Then I read to her for 1/2 hour. I really like it when mom is getting into the book as much as I am. Can't wait to finished the book and we will watch the movie together.
I better get a good copy of the movie for us. Which I have now done. or is downloading. Yes I stopped and found it and now I am back.
I stayed latter than usual and I now know when it is time for me to leave. Up until 8 pm it is OK, but after that is when mom just wants to sleep.
Mom was singing with the music tonight and sang along with me to our good night song. It is something I made up and it last for a few minutes. Mom really likes it and it is good with my voice.
Before I left I needed to make sure her papaya and kiwi was put into the fridge to get cold for tomorrow.
I have been giving her cherries, but removing the pit first. Don't want mom to choke on it.
Anyways after midnight again and haven't even started my dinner. Looks like it is a sandwich tonight. To last to cook. Just waiting for mom's laundry to finish and then I will watch something. No clue. the ROHO cushion is doing mom a world of good. Her sores are healed and won't come back.
I need to go now.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
A bad day for me, Good day for mom.
Hello again
My right arm is shaking very badly today. This is the worse it has ever been. It was shaking while trying to feed mom. Needless to say, I made a mess. Stuff falling off the fork, spoon etc....
The place I was to move to fell through. My cousin is going to see if her and her husband can work it out and having a male around just won't work. So I was told.
GREAT!
Well mom was and is doing fine. She always looks forward to me being their. She know what time it is that I am coming and is looking for me.
She had a good dinner this evening. Chicken pot pie that I made. And this seafood salad. Plus of course her avocado and fruit and chocolate.
I didn't get to read to her this evening. No matter what that will happen tomorrow. I will give her the spa treatment and when finished I will read to her while standing and holding her hand. As she is falling asleep. Perfect time, I think so. We will see.
Today it came across my mind that one day, I will arrive and mom will not recognize me. I will see it in her eye's. I hope this will never happen. Just thinking about it freaks me out. It makes me want to cry.
It may happen, it may not. So far she knows exactly who I am.
I do want it to stay this way.
Mom is holding her own. Very healthy and from what I can see, somewhat happy. I don't know what she is like during the day.
I am hope to find out soon.
I am looking forward to moving. I need a change. A new beginning..
This is for mom, so I can spend more time with her. I want this, I do need this.
Well not that late, compared to my usual time writing this. But late enough.
Please pray that something comes up soon. I posted an add online to see if anyone wants to share a place.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
My right arm is shaking very badly today. This is the worse it has ever been. It was shaking while trying to feed mom. Needless to say, I made a mess. Stuff falling off the fork, spoon etc....
The place I was to move to fell through. My cousin is going to see if her and her husband can work it out and having a male around just won't work. So I was told.
GREAT!
Well mom was and is doing fine. She always looks forward to me being their. She know what time it is that I am coming and is looking for me.
She had a good dinner this evening. Chicken pot pie that I made. And this seafood salad. Plus of course her avocado and fruit and chocolate.
I didn't get to read to her this evening. No matter what that will happen tomorrow. I will give her the spa treatment and when finished I will read to her while standing and holding her hand. As she is falling asleep. Perfect time, I think so. We will see.
Today it came across my mind that one day, I will arrive and mom will not recognize me. I will see it in her eye's. I hope this will never happen. Just thinking about it freaks me out. It makes me want to cry.
It may happen, it may not. So far she knows exactly who I am.
I do want it to stay this way.
Mom is holding her own. Very healthy and from what I can see, somewhat happy. I don't know what she is like during the day.
I am hope to find out soon.
I am looking forward to moving. I need a change. A new beginning..
This is for mom, so I can spend more time with her. I want this, I do need this.
Well not that late, compared to my usual time writing this. But late enough.
Please pray that something comes up soon. I posted an add online to see if anyone wants to share a place.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
It is very late
Hello again
I am writing this at 1 am. I got home and had to do laundry. And answer allot of emails. Write many. And write in my pain journal.
I didn't even get home until after 11 pm.
So today I brought mom a vegetarian lasagna, she did not like this at all. No meat. The grilled vegetables she liked. lucky there is always meat on her served dinner. It was pork. I will not use the same utensils, when it is pork they are serving. My belief, and I don't want to use the same utensil to serve mom, if I am going to put it in my mouth. Such as the smoothie. I gave mom a spoonful, but she just had some pork. I would usually take a spoonful myself.
Anyways I started to freak out a little bit. I went and grabbed a spoon so I could give mom the smoothie after I gave her a serving of pork.
It is a promise I made, that is all I am going to say.
Well mom ate a good dinner anyways.
We got to her room and the usual took place. The spa treatment. The massage. The lotion. etc....
I sang allot to her tonight. Finished all of this early, so I turned on the TV, put it on mute and stood there holding her hand. And all this time, mom had a huge smile on her face.
Even when I left and she was asleep.
OK I am now just rambling and it might make sense to all of you
GOD bless and good night.
I will try to do better tomorrow night, when I am not tired as I am now.
Kristopher Schmuland
I am writing this at 1 am. I got home and had to do laundry. And answer allot of emails. Write many. And write in my pain journal.
I didn't even get home until after 11 pm.
So today I brought mom a vegetarian lasagna, she did not like this at all. No meat. The grilled vegetables she liked. lucky there is always meat on her served dinner. It was pork. I will not use the same utensils, when it is pork they are serving. My belief, and I don't want to use the same utensil to serve mom, if I am going to put it in my mouth. Such as the smoothie. I gave mom a spoonful, but she just had some pork. I would usually take a spoonful myself.
Anyways I started to freak out a little bit. I went and grabbed a spoon so I could give mom the smoothie after I gave her a serving of pork.
It is a promise I made, that is all I am going to say.
Well mom ate a good dinner anyways.
We got to her room and the usual took place. The spa treatment. The massage. The lotion. etc....
I sang allot to her tonight. Finished all of this early, so I turned on the TV, put it on mute and stood there holding her hand. And all this time, mom had a huge smile on her face.
Even when I left and she was asleep.
OK I am now just rambling and it might make sense to all of you
GOD bless and good night.
I will try to do better tomorrow night, when I am not tired as I am now.
Kristopher Schmuland
Sunday, July 27, 2014
A nice day
Hello again
I didn't write last evening as I was very tired and in pain. I took it easy and just watched a few things.. That was my evening.
Last night the home did not even bring mom's dinner to her. It is lucky I had something that mom enjoyed and ate all of. I did complain. Sometimes mom doesn't want what I bring, sometimes mom eats both or some of each dinner.
Tonight though mom's dinner was brought to her, but she didn't want it. As she was satisfied with what I brought to her. And mom was almost finished dinner by the time they brought the served dinner. Come on!
Yesterday being Saturday, mom had her weekly bath and was in bed when I arrived. Very hot and taking the comforter off of herself. There is a fan, but they didn't use it. And I am not impressed with the way they are treating mom's property. The fan was almost toppling over. And today it was the same.
I will be putting up a sign stating "You break it, you bought it. No exceptions" They treat all of mom's electronics the same way. Like crap. With no respect. There are remote controls for everything, But they just push buttons and screw every preset up. Maybe another note.
I really hate to have to write notes. One would think they would treat the residents property with respect.
Now mom is fine, and I love the fact she wants to hold my hand all the time. Shows the love and trust she has in me. If mom is tried and thirsty, I can give her something to drink and she won't even open her eye's.
It is the usual after dinner. I get her ready for bed. Tonight I had to change her sheets. They are to lazy to even do this. And they know I have a hard time using my right arm. And I changed her sheets tonight only using my left arm. Well I used my right arm as much as I could. Given the pain.
We ate dinner in her room this evening as it was the coolest place. The home was very hot. We had the music going through out dinner. And I had the TV on for mom. Mantracker. Mom likes this show and was watching it while I feed her dinner.
I had not idea what was happening. My back was against the TV. Yet I could see from mom's eye's it was intense and she was enjoying it.
AS always, when I finish her spa treatment, mom is ready to sleep. She is completely relaxed. She reaches out for my hand and then squeezes it tightly. Bringing it to her side. closing her eye's and just relaxes.
OK I need to go, as I didn't eat dinner last night and am hungry. Nothing all day today. I only eat once a day. That is all I can afford. And I don't eat until I get home at night. Sometimes not until 1 am. I live on tea. This keeps the hunger at bay.
In any given day, mom eats five time as much as I do. I am OK with this. Mom gets good dinners, which makes her healthy.
Still my faith is day to day..... I need prayers. To help with getting out their.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher W.A. Schmuland
I didn't write last evening as I was very tired and in pain. I took it easy and just watched a few things.. That was my evening.
Last night the home did not even bring mom's dinner to her. It is lucky I had something that mom enjoyed and ate all of. I did complain. Sometimes mom doesn't want what I bring, sometimes mom eats both or some of each dinner.
Tonight though mom's dinner was brought to her, but she didn't want it. As she was satisfied with what I brought to her. And mom was almost finished dinner by the time they brought the served dinner. Come on!
Yesterday being Saturday, mom had her weekly bath and was in bed when I arrived. Very hot and taking the comforter off of herself. There is a fan, but they didn't use it. And I am not impressed with the way they are treating mom's property. The fan was almost toppling over. And today it was the same.
I will be putting up a sign stating "You break it, you bought it. No exceptions" They treat all of mom's electronics the same way. Like crap. With no respect. There are remote controls for everything, But they just push buttons and screw every preset up. Maybe another note.
I really hate to have to write notes. One would think they would treat the residents property with respect.
Now mom is fine, and I love the fact she wants to hold my hand all the time. Shows the love and trust she has in me. If mom is tried and thirsty, I can give her something to drink and she won't even open her eye's.
It is the usual after dinner. I get her ready for bed. Tonight I had to change her sheets. They are to lazy to even do this. And they know I have a hard time using my right arm. And I changed her sheets tonight only using my left arm. Well I used my right arm as much as I could. Given the pain.
We ate dinner in her room this evening as it was the coolest place. The home was very hot. We had the music going through out dinner. And I had the TV on for mom. Mantracker. Mom likes this show and was watching it while I feed her dinner.
I had not idea what was happening. My back was against the TV. Yet I could see from mom's eye's it was intense and she was enjoying it.
AS always, when I finish her spa treatment, mom is ready to sleep. She is completely relaxed. She reaches out for my hand and then squeezes it tightly. Bringing it to her side. closing her eye's and just relaxes.
OK I need to go, as I didn't eat dinner last night and am hungry. Nothing all day today. I only eat once a day. That is all I can afford. And I don't eat until I get home at night. Sometimes not until 1 am. I live on tea. This keeps the hunger at bay.
In any given day, mom eats five time as much as I do. I am OK with this. Mom gets good dinners, which makes her healthy.
Still my faith is day to day..... I need prayers. To help with getting out their.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher W.A. Schmuland
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