Hello again
It was a very good day for mom today. She was in good spirits. Happy to see me. But did not want to let go of my hand today. Got upset when I had to pull it away to use both hands while feeding her. The rest of the night was the same. While giving her the nightly spa treatment, she kept reaching for my hand to hold it. I tried to do both. Hold her hand and give her the spa treatment. With not much luck. I need to use both hands while giving her the spa treatment.
Mom, Mary, was just glad I was there for her. She counts on me being there and taking care of her. The last thing she see's and hears at night is the sound of my voice. And Mary will not fall asleep, fully, until I sing to her, our good night song. This she is use to, every night for many years now.
I had allot to do today, so I wasn't able to make her dinner. It would of not been any good after traveling many hours in my bag. So I just bought her something she hasn't had for a while. I have a good dinner planed for her tomorrow.
And it is Friday, so time to wash her hair again.
I have more to say, but I am tired and haven't eaten all day, so I need to eat and just relax
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher Schmuland
Thursday, April 16, 2015
Tuesday, April 14, 2015
OH another day without anything.
Hello again
Today was just like all the rest that has been happening lately. Didn't speak to anyone, as it has been this way for quite sometime now. No conversions. I am forgetting how to speak. I have so much to do and I don't have the time. If I do more than one thing per day I am exhausted. This is besides taking care of my mother.
I have at least 6 major emails to write, A few other important projects that need to be done. I need to move, as I just can't take it here anymore. Mold,
Well mom is doing fine,as usual. Very thirsty this evening and not wanting to let go of my hand. Lonely is what she is. She cannot speak, so as I have mentioned before, the day staff doesn't think she is with it. They think she is lost in her Dementia. Not so. I prove it everyday. With our interactions.
Then it was Sushi day today. Mom ate this plus the meat portion of the served meal. Pork. I will have to have a word with the dietitian, just to stop feeding mom pork and give her some solid food. I will need to mention what I bring to her and what she eats and cannot eat anymore. Or should I say chew successfully.
Then after mom was in bed it was the massage and spa treatment to finish off her night. She really looks forward to this. Once dinner is done, she wants to be in bed right away. Of course we have to wait for the care aid to come in and put her to bed. This, by the way, is the only thing the care aids do for mom, once I get there. Nothing else. I mean nothing else. From the moment I walk through those doors, until I leave, I do everything for mom. It is a gift for me that I get to do this for another. My mother.
Really there is not much else to say. Except when I had a conversation with the manager about the clothing, It was in front of mother. I will not deal with these issues in front of my mother. I have things to say and mom does not need to have this stress put on her.
Well the conversation went something like this. I spoke with some of the staff that change your mother in the morning. They say it would be easier to have everything adapted. So to make it so they don't have to do so much work. It is hard for them to dress your mother. I pull out a article of clothing and say this is big enough that it does not have to be adapted. Oh we think it does. Start out with half a dozen outfits to get adapted and go from there.
What she really said was. " We don't care what you think, we want everything to be easy for us, we are just to damn lazy to take the effort to dress your mother." There are articles of clothing that would be ruined if they were adapted. Certain sweaters for example. Cotton knits. And some new clothing that it ruined the look of them.
And I know that the staff will not close them up as the manager has said the would do. This has been the issue in the past. The staff close the shirts up on the top and leave the rest open. Exposing mom's back, allowing her back to be touching the cold chair. This is why I removed the one adapted shirt that was purchased for mom. The manager was not in today when I arrived. I wanted to have a proper conversation with her, without mom being there. I will be informing her of what I will have adapted and what I won't. The manager thinks she has won, thinking I will listen to everything she said and agree with it.
I will be informing her of the laziness of the staff. And the fact that I have 0 respect for the day staff as they do not respect my mother and her property. Or her person. They rip her nightgowns and nothing is done about it. They slam the lift bar into the side of her head and all I get is they don't know who did it. DENY, DENY, DENY AND DENY! That is what they do. They take no responsibility for their actions. They could of killed my mother and nothing would happen. No action is ever taken.
Just like the time I saw a care aid open hand slap a resident. I reported it and she is still working.
The nurses are all up in arms about being attacked by patients. That they patient should be charged with assault. Well what about charging the staff with assault for injuring attacking a resident or patient. That doesn't happen. The staff think they are bullet proof. Time to teach them that there are consequences for your actions. Being charged.
That is one of the letters I need to get to. To write the newly appointed Seniors advocate of BC, Canada.
I NEED HELP. I NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS MOLD INFESTED HELL HOLE.
PLEASE PRAY FOR MOM AND I.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Oh yea, another person told me I will be blessed for what I am doing for my mother. I really felt like letting them have a ear full. I bit my tung
Today was just like all the rest that has been happening lately. Didn't speak to anyone, as it has been this way for quite sometime now. No conversions. I am forgetting how to speak. I have so much to do and I don't have the time. If I do more than one thing per day I am exhausted. This is besides taking care of my mother.
I have at least 6 major emails to write, A few other important projects that need to be done. I need to move, as I just can't take it here anymore. Mold,
Well mom is doing fine,as usual. Very thirsty this evening and not wanting to let go of my hand. Lonely is what she is. She cannot speak, so as I have mentioned before, the day staff doesn't think she is with it. They think she is lost in her Dementia. Not so. I prove it everyday. With our interactions.
Then it was Sushi day today. Mom ate this plus the meat portion of the served meal. Pork. I will have to have a word with the dietitian, just to stop feeding mom pork and give her some solid food. I will need to mention what I bring to her and what she eats and cannot eat anymore. Or should I say chew successfully.
Then after mom was in bed it was the massage and spa treatment to finish off her night. She really looks forward to this. Once dinner is done, she wants to be in bed right away. Of course we have to wait for the care aid to come in and put her to bed. This, by the way, is the only thing the care aids do for mom, once I get there. Nothing else. I mean nothing else. From the moment I walk through those doors, until I leave, I do everything for mom. It is a gift for me that I get to do this for another. My mother.
Really there is not much else to say. Except when I had a conversation with the manager about the clothing, It was in front of mother. I will not deal with these issues in front of my mother. I have things to say and mom does not need to have this stress put on her.
Well the conversation went something like this. I spoke with some of the staff that change your mother in the morning. They say it would be easier to have everything adapted. So to make it so they don't have to do so much work. It is hard for them to dress your mother. I pull out a article of clothing and say this is big enough that it does not have to be adapted. Oh we think it does. Start out with half a dozen outfits to get adapted and go from there.
What she really said was. " We don't care what you think, we want everything to be easy for us, we are just to damn lazy to take the effort to dress your mother." There are articles of clothing that would be ruined if they were adapted. Certain sweaters for example. Cotton knits. And some new clothing that it ruined the look of them.
And I know that the staff will not close them up as the manager has said the would do. This has been the issue in the past. The staff close the shirts up on the top and leave the rest open. Exposing mom's back, allowing her back to be touching the cold chair. This is why I removed the one adapted shirt that was purchased for mom. The manager was not in today when I arrived. I wanted to have a proper conversation with her, without mom being there. I will be informing her of what I will have adapted and what I won't. The manager thinks she has won, thinking I will listen to everything she said and agree with it.
I will be informing her of the laziness of the staff. And the fact that I have 0 respect for the day staff as they do not respect my mother and her property. Or her person. They rip her nightgowns and nothing is done about it. They slam the lift bar into the side of her head and all I get is they don't know who did it. DENY, DENY, DENY AND DENY! That is what they do. They take no responsibility for their actions. They could of killed my mother and nothing would happen. No action is ever taken.
Just like the time I saw a care aid open hand slap a resident. I reported it and she is still working.
The nurses are all up in arms about being attacked by patients. That they patient should be charged with assault. Well what about charging the staff with assault for injuring attacking a resident or patient. That doesn't happen. The staff think they are bullet proof. Time to teach them that there are consequences for your actions. Being charged.
That is one of the letters I need to get to. To write the newly appointed Seniors advocate of BC, Canada.
I NEED HELP. I NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS MOLD INFESTED HELL HOLE.
PLEASE PRAY FOR MOM AND I.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Oh yea, another person told me I will be blessed for what I am doing for my mother. I really felt like letting them have a ear full. I bit my tung
Monday, April 13, 2015
Back to rain again
Hello again
Yes rain, and we are complaining. Considering the snow everyone else has had. But it is cold again. Was 17c last week and now it is 4c. Shorts to covering up.
I picked some flowers for mom on the way down to see her. I didn't say anything. Shhhhhh! Don't tell anyone.
She loved them............. And smiled when I went Shhhhhhh!
I brought another good dinner for her. Didn't need the served meal. I will be speaking with the Dietitian this week. They think mom can't chew anything. I beg to differ. So I will just talk to her. Not get made or anything like that. I am sure everyone thinks I yell at people. No, I speak calmly, but I get my point across. Direct, but calm. Stern. With a smile.
I know how to deal with people. I read them and use what I read to speak with them.
Now mom really enjoyed her dinner, ate all of it. Nothing left on the plate, plus dessert.
I got her changed and into bed she went. Then the best part of the day for her. The spa treatment with a massage. Just pure smiles.
Of course I just sang to her as I was doing this. My voice is getting better all the time. More people ask me if I every sang before. Again, I didn't even know I could sing until I started singing to mom.
It was a slow day, nothing exciting at all happened. My hearing is as bad as usual. Nothing new there. Still upset I cannot find a place I can afford.
My only wish is to find a place I can afford. Okay, I also wish for hearing aids, so I can hear better.
I will be calling the cable company tomorrow. Yes I can be an asshole. Mom should not have to pay for someone else's cable.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Yes rain, and we are complaining. Considering the snow everyone else has had. But it is cold again. Was 17c last week and now it is 4c. Shorts to covering up.
I picked some flowers for mom on the way down to see her. I didn't say anything. Shhhhhh! Don't tell anyone.
She loved them............. And smiled when I went Shhhhhhh!
I brought another good dinner for her. Didn't need the served meal. I will be speaking with the Dietitian this week. They think mom can't chew anything. I beg to differ. So I will just talk to her. Not get made or anything like that. I am sure everyone thinks I yell at people. No, I speak calmly, but I get my point across. Direct, but calm. Stern. With a smile.
I know how to deal with people. I read them and use what I read to speak with them.
Now mom really enjoyed her dinner, ate all of it. Nothing left on the plate, plus dessert.
I got her changed and into bed she went. Then the best part of the day for her. The spa treatment with a massage. Just pure smiles.
Of course I just sang to her as I was doing this. My voice is getting better all the time. More people ask me if I every sang before. Again, I didn't even know I could sing until I started singing to mom.
It was a slow day, nothing exciting at all happened. My hearing is as bad as usual. Nothing new there. Still upset I cannot find a place I can afford.
My only wish is to find a place I can afford. Okay, I also wish for hearing aids, so I can hear better.
I will be calling the cable company tomorrow. Yes I can be an asshole. Mom should not have to pay for someone else's cable.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
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