Hello again
It is Friday and the other day of the week I wash mom's hair. She really enjoys this immensely. I massage her scalp while washing her hair.
I brought her a good dinner. I am glad she ate it. As the other day I ate something and got food poisoning. It was either the ground beef I added to the pasta or the cashews in oil I bought from the dollar store. I woke up yesterday and my stomach felt a little off, and by the end of the day, I was in serious pain. Major cramps and bloating. I was going I hope mom doesn't get sick like this and I was worried all day today, until I got their.
And this morning it was worse. Had to go and go. Finally stable. I could go out now and get to mom's
When I arrived mom was smiling. This said to me that mom is OK. She didn't get food poisoning as I did. I guess that eliminated the ground beef.
So it was the oil packaged cashews.
I will be contacting the company and complaining about this. Last night I was going to make myself some nachos, but I just put everything away and went to bed and watched a movie. I was very hungry but I couldn't eat, nor did I eat today, Still cramps.
I called 811 and spoke with a nurse about this.
Anyways
Mom is OK Happy, healthy and smiling. Perfect. She ate everything at dinner. Had her fruit and then I washed her hair, got her changed for bed.
I don't know if it is getting more difficult for mom to make the distinction between yes and no or I am just suffering with the different pain and not noticing mom's responses. It is when I ask her if she wants this or that and I don't really see her nodding yes or no. I know mom does not speak clearly or much at all. But she does nod her head and hears me. I see that.
It is a hard thing seeing your loved one decline like this.
So today I went for my first physiotherapy session, He assessed me by poking and prodding me. I walked out of their feeling worse than when I went in.
The worst part of this is I am covered by ICBC for 20 sessions, but I have to pay the user fee of $25.00.
Yea right
I payed for today. I might be able to pay for Mondays session. I don't think I can cover Wednesdays and Fridays. Unless the insurance company sends me some money. I am to go 3 times a week. That is allot of money when one does not have it.
The therapist wants me to go get x-rays of my neck. He said it should not be that amount of limited motion after 2 months. I agree.
I need these sessions. But when you have no money, what do you do. Don't go I guess, and not get better. And by not going, the insurance company thinks that you are better and won't do anything for you.
A catch 22 situation.
Please pray for me, that something happens.
Oh yea. The person who is staying here is only here until the middle of August. Then I pay everything.
I have been looking into places, but not luck so far.
GOD bless and good night
Need to go, in pain and major cramping going on. Need to just lye down. Hungry but not
Kris Schmuland
Friday, June 13, 2014
Thursday, June 12, 2014
It happened to be....
Hello again
So last night I get home to no Internet access, and I could not gain access to the upstairs where the modem is. Just got it connected a few minutes ago.
Well it was hair day for mom yesterday and this completely relaxes her. I mean one of the days each week when I wash her hair and make her feel great.
Before this I had brought mom some McDonald's, a couple of burgers as well as a seafood salad. She ate all of it. Of course she would, she was empty. You know what I mean.
We got that done, I got her ready for bed, then read to her. We are moving along quite well with the Life of Pi, the book I am reading to her.
I have been burning DVD's for her, so they can be played when they put mom in her room or when she is in bed. Instead of the murder mystery channel. Not a good choice at all for a senior.
She was put to bed and of course the usual spa treatment, Then off to sleep she went. I stayed and just held her hand, making sure she was completely asleep, before I left.
Mom gets impatient, and I try to tell her, when changing her, that my arm hurts and not to pull on it.
I wonder some times how much mom knows. How much of her brain has been affected by the strokes and the Dementia. How much mom actually knows and remembers.
I have seen so much of her being lost over the years. This hurts allot. This is why I am their for her. I know mom is frustrated with not being able to communicate or use her arm and hand. Being stuck in a wheel chair and the most important thing is, having to rely on everyone for everything.
I know I wouldn't take that to well.
This is why I am their. To let her know that someone cares enough to make sure she is loved. Someone who understands.
OK I don't understand everything about Dementia and strokes. I have done allot of research on these subjects over the years.
I don't, however, understand what it is like to not communicate, to be stuck in a chair and to have to depend on everyone. Not being able to take a drinks, by myself, would be horrible. Let alone everything else going on with her.
I have to leave you now, need to get ready and get going. It is 3 hours to White Rock.
GOD bless and I hope your day is going well.
Kris Schmuland
So last night I get home to no Internet access, and I could not gain access to the upstairs where the modem is. Just got it connected a few minutes ago.
Well it was hair day for mom yesterday and this completely relaxes her. I mean one of the days each week when I wash her hair and make her feel great.
Before this I had brought mom some McDonald's, a couple of burgers as well as a seafood salad. She ate all of it. Of course she would, she was empty. You know what I mean.
We got that done, I got her ready for bed, then read to her. We are moving along quite well with the Life of Pi, the book I am reading to her.
I have been burning DVD's for her, so they can be played when they put mom in her room or when she is in bed. Instead of the murder mystery channel. Not a good choice at all for a senior.
She was put to bed and of course the usual spa treatment, Then off to sleep she went. I stayed and just held her hand, making sure she was completely asleep, before I left.
Mom gets impatient, and I try to tell her, when changing her, that my arm hurts and not to pull on it.
I wonder some times how much mom knows. How much of her brain has been affected by the strokes and the Dementia. How much mom actually knows and remembers.
I have seen so much of her being lost over the years. This hurts allot. This is why I am their for her. I know mom is frustrated with not being able to communicate or use her arm and hand. Being stuck in a wheel chair and the most important thing is, having to rely on everyone for everything.
I know I wouldn't take that to well.
This is why I am their. To let her know that someone cares enough to make sure she is loved. Someone who understands.
OK I don't understand everything about Dementia and strokes. I have done allot of research on these subjects over the years.
I don't, however, understand what it is like to not communicate, to be stuck in a chair and to have to depend on everyone. Not being able to take a drinks, by myself, would be horrible. Let alone everything else going on with her.
I have to leave you now, need to get ready and get going. It is 3 hours to White Rock.
GOD bless and I hope your day is going well.
Kris Schmuland
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Daily we go
Hello again
Today was another day, except I had to go to the doctors and deal with the insurance company. I tell the insurance company I need help with things, that I am having a difficult time using my right arm and side. Well we can't help with that, you need a doctors note/letter.
I go to my doctors and he tells me that it is the insurance company who submits the requests to the doctor and he, in return, writes them back with his recommendations. So tomorrow I will have to call the insurance company back and let them know my requests.
One being, and the most important, I need a bag on wheels, carrying the two bags is hurting my shoulder and neck, that I am experiencing difficulties using my right arm. That the pain is to great for me to continue to carry the backpack and then the sports bag. Filled with things.
I have to bring things back an forth to mom's. There are certain things, if left their, will be stolen/taken. I can't put a fridge in mom's room. So therefore I need to bring some of her drinks home with me at night. No other choice. There is only so much room in the guest fridge, that I can use. And it is full of mom's fruit, vegetables, cheese, and other things that need to be refrigerated. Mom likes her fruit cold. Yea the papaya tastes so much better when it is cold.
So what I am saying is I need a bag on wheels to bring what is needed back and forth.
Anyways, last night mom was having an off day, she was not hungry, I could only get her to eat a couple of yogurts and fruit. As it turns out, mom was very full, inside her, as I wrote about a week ago. And she filled anther bed pan up. No wonder mom was not hungry. I wouldn't be either if I was backed up like that.
I put her to bed early, as she was so tired, and after finishing a quick spa treatment, it didn't take long before mom was sound asleep. So I just held her hand for a while, to make sure she was fully asleep.
Tonight was a different story. OK, when I arrived she was very tired. This,again, is due to her getting her dinner meds to early and they kick in right as I am serving her dinner or just before, As was the case tonight. But mom was hungry, very hungry. I knew she would be. And she ate and ate. What I brought her and some of what was served to her, plus fruit and chocolate and allot to drink.
Full spa treatment for her tonight. This she loves, and it makes me feel good when mom is smiling while I wash her face, arms and legs. And put the lotion on her.
This relaxed her and it was not long before mom was asleep tonight.
People say it is a wast of my time spending so much time with mom. But it is all worth it, every bit of it, when mom is smiling while falling and is asleep.
Worth every bit of the traveling I do. Would prefer to be living close by. This I will say that this accident has caused me to have to turn down a place. Needed the extra income from this one thing I was working on. I had to be living in White Rock to do this.
I did tell the insurance company this, but no response from them, while on the phone with them this afternoon.
Mom is good anyways. I am going to be starting her on liquid B Complex to go along with her Vega One supplement.
I received the posters from the Yukon I asked for. And checked out the cost of framing them. Not to bad, free is better, but we know that is not going to happen. So the cost is not to bad. Considering the size of the posters. Mom will love them on her wall.
I am also burning DVD's for mom. The Blue Planet, Planer earth. Bob Hope and Bing Crosby movies and shows. I have all of Gilligan's Island.etc... You know the show I am talking about. John Wayne movies, Maybe, I don't think mom likes westerns. I try one out.
Still scanning her photo's, to put onto a digital photo frame. I only have so much time. This is why living in White Rock is important, allowing me more time for these things.
Well have to go again. Have other things I need to get done before going to bed.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Today was another day, except I had to go to the doctors and deal with the insurance company. I tell the insurance company I need help with things, that I am having a difficult time using my right arm and side. Well we can't help with that, you need a doctors note/letter.
I go to my doctors and he tells me that it is the insurance company who submits the requests to the doctor and he, in return, writes them back with his recommendations. So tomorrow I will have to call the insurance company back and let them know my requests.
One being, and the most important, I need a bag on wheels, carrying the two bags is hurting my shoulder and neck, that I am experiencing difficulties using my right arm. That the pain is to great for me to continue to carry the backpack and then the sports bag. Filled with things.
I have to bring things back an forth to mom's. There are certain things, if left their, will be stolen/taken. I can't put a fridge in mom's room. So therefore I need to bring some of her drinks home with me at night. No other choice. There is only so much room in the guest fridge, that I can use. And it is full of mom's fruit, vegetables, cheese, and other things that need to be refrigerated. Mom likes her fruit cold. Yea the papaya tastes so much better when it is cold.
So what I am saying is I need a bag on wheels to bring what is needed back and forth.
Anyways, last night mom was having an off day, she was not hungry, I could only get her to eat a couple of yogurts and fruit. As it turns out, mom was very full, inside her, as I wrote about a week ago. And she filled anther bed pan up. No wonder mom was not hungry. I wouldn't be either if I was backed up like that.
I put her to bed early, as she was so tired, and after finishing a quick spa treatment, it didn't take long before mom was sound asleep. So I just held her hand for a while, to make sure she was fully asleep.
Tonight was a different story. OK, when I arrived she was very tired. This,again, is due to her getting her dinner meds to early and they kick in right as I am serving her dinner or just before, As was the case tonight. But mom was hungry, very hungry. I knew she would be. And she ate and ate. What I brought her and some of what was served to her, plus fruit and chocolate and allot to drink.
Full spa treatment for her tonight. This she loves, and it makes me feel good when mom is smiling while I wash her face, arms and legs. And put the lotion on her.
This relaxed her and it was not long before mom was asleep tonight.
People say it is a wast of my time spending so much time with mom. But it is all worth it, every bit of it, when mom is smiling while falling and is asleep.
Worth every bit of the traveling I do. Would prefer to be living close by. This I will say that this accident has caused me to have to turn down a place. Needed the extra income from this one thing I was working on. I had to be living in White Rock to do this.
I did tell the insurance company this, but no response from them, while on the phone with them this afternoon.
Mom is good anyways. I am going to be starting her on liquid B Complex to go along with her Vega One supplement.
I received the posters from the Yukon I asked for. And checked out the cost of framing them. Not to bad, free is better, but we know that is not going to happen. So the cost is not to bad. Considering the size of the posters. Mom will love them on her wall.
I am also burning DVD's for mom. The Blue Planet, Planer earth. Bob Hope and Bing Crosby movies and shows. I have all of Gilligan's Island.etc... You know the show I am talking about. John Wayne movies, Maybe, I don't think mom likes westerns. I try one out.
Still scanning her photo's, to put onto a digital photo frame. I only have so much time. This is why living in White Rock is important, allowing me more time for these things.
Well have to go again. Have other things I need to get done before going to bed.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Monday, June 9, 2014
A day and a day
Hello again
How are you, I am fine thank you. Except for the extreme continuous pain that I am in. Not being able to use my right arm as I did a month ago, not being able to carry what I use to. As in tonight, while on my way home I needed to stop at a store and get mom her soft drinks she likes. They are on sale, so I usually get two 6 packs. That is all I can carry. Not tonight. After getting them and getting off the bus, by my home, I had to stop every 50 feet and set the bag down and take a break. Took me twice as long to get home as it did. And now I am feeling the pain.
Anyways, enough about me. Maybe not.
This one women, tonight, was speaking with me and telling me that she lives closer than I do and drives, but she complains about it. She doesn't understand how I take the bus 3 hours each way, everyday.
Well let me tell you. I have this built in loyal thing. When I say I will be their for someone, I am their for them. No matter what, I will go through whatever it takes to get there and be there. Whether I hurt or not, I will continue to go. Without exception. And, again, I made a promise to my father, on his death bed, that I would take care of mom and look after her. So that is that.
Tonight mom was overly impatient. Even though I try to explain to her that I am slower than normal, because of the accident and will be for a while. She wanted her drinks right away, her dinner right away, and dessert. And when I was doing the dishes, she was trying to get out of her chair, she just wanted to be in the bed, stretched out.
I had to change the sheets, put the clean duvet cover on, and she continued to try to get out of her chair. I had to just keep explaining to her that it is going to take time. I wanted her to get into bed with clean sheets, pillow cases and the duvet. So you have to wait I said to her. Well not good enough for her. She was getting frustrated and was talking away, very quickly, so I could not understand her.
The care aid came in wanting to transfer to bed and change her pad. So I had mom and the care aid rushing me. I just explained to the care aid that I needed to change everything.
Finally I finished and was able to just sit down next to mom, she grabbed my hand right away and closed her eye's. It is a natural thing for mom to do when she grabs my hand. Close her eye's. It is a nice feeling, that she trusts me so much.
She got to bed, I did her spa treatment and she reached for my hand before I even finished. When done I gave her something to eat, yogurt and some drinks. I laid her bed back to a relaxed position and held her hand while she fell asleep.
I waited until her hand was completely relaxed, which meant mom was asleep, sang our good night song to her, packed everything up and left.
I got home not to long ago and put one of her sweaters in to soak, as I spilled tea on her cotton sweater and it is a bitch to get out. I have soaked it three times already and will need to soak it, probable three more times. I have even put this stain remover on it.
OK I need to go and make something to eat. Watch something and go to sleep. Yea if I will ever get a good, solid nights sleep. Haven't since the accident. I am even taking something to help me sleep. Works for about 2 hours and then it is every two hours I am waking up. Big dark circles under my eye's
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland.
How are you, I am fine thank you. Except for the extreme continuous pain that I am in. Not being able to use my right arm as I did a month ago, not being able to carry what I use to. As in tonight, while on my way home I needed to stop at a store and get mom her soft drinks she likes. They are on sale, so I usually get two 6 packs. That is all I can carry. Not tonight. After getting them and getting off the bus, by my home, I had to stop every 50 feet and set the bag down and take a break. Took me twice as long to get home as it did. And now I am feeling the pain.
Anyways, enough about me. Maybe not.
This one women, tonight, was speaking with me and telling me that she lives closer than I do and drives, but she complains about it. She doesn't understand how I take the bus 3 hours each way, everyday.
Well let me tell you. I have this built in loyal thing. When I say I will be their for someone, I am their for them. No matter what, I will go through whatever it takes to get there and be there. Whether I hurt or not, I will continue to go. Without exception. And, again, I made a promise to my father, on his death bed, that I would take care of mom and look after her. So that is that.
Tonight mom was overly impatient. Even though I try to explain to her that I am slower than normal, because of the accident and will be for a while. She wanted her drinks right away, her dinner right away, and dessert. And when I was doing the dishes, she was trying to get out of her chair, she just wanted to be in the bed, stretched out.
I had to change the sheets, put the clean duvet cover on, and she continued to try to get out of her chair. I had to just keep explaining to her that it is going to take time. I wanted her to get into bed with clean sheets, pillow cases and the duvet. So you have to wait I said to her. Well not good enough for her. She was getting frustrated and was talking away, very quickly, so I could not understand her.
The care aid came in wanting to transfer to bed and change her pad. So I had mom and the care aid rushing me. I just explained to the care aid that I needed to change everything.
Finally I finished and was able to just sit down next to mom, she grabbed my hand right away and closed her eye's. It is a natural thing for mom to do when she grabs my hand. Close her eye's. It is a nice feeling, that she trusts me so much.
She got to bed, I did her spa treatment and she reached for my hand before I even finished. When done I gave her something to eat, yogurt and some drinks. I laid her bed back to a relaxed position and held her hand while she fell asleep.
I waited until her hand was completely relaxed, which meant mom was asleep, sang our good night song to her, packed everything up and left.
I got home not to long ago and put one of her sweaters in to soak, as I spilled tea on her cotton sweater and it is a bitch to get out. I have soaked it three times already and will need to soak it, probable three more times. I have even put this stain remover on it.
OK I need to go and make something to eat. Watch something and go to sleep. Yea if I will ever get a good, solid nights sleep. Haven't since the accident. I am even taking something to help me sleep. Works for about 2 hours and then it is every two hours I am waking up. Big dark circles under my eye's
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland.
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