The meeting

Hello agian
How is everyone tonight. It is Saturday. And I have nor written in a few days as Thursday night I was preparing for the meeting on Friday. I needed to get up early to make it out there in time for 3 pm. But I needed to get somethings for mom and I wanted to spend a little time with her before the meeting. So I ended up getting there at 2:30. Which meant I needed to leave my house 2 hours earlier than normal. And needed to get up, 2 hours earlier. So by the time I arrived home yesterday night, I was beat. I can't fall asleep as soon as I get home. Which was 10:30 Thursday night. And I had not even eaten that day at all. I still didn't eat that night. Just some crackers. And it was 3 am when I finally was able to fall asleep. Not good.

Anyways, I was prepared. Fully. I had my downloaded information. I highlighted what I thought would be relevant. Which all of which I highlighted, I was able to use through-out the meeting. When they said this, I was able to go, well, it actually is this way. According to the law, which is what I go by.

But, the meeting went almost exactly the way I wanted it to go.. My way. Sorry. But when it comes to mom, I will fight tooth and nail to achieve the desired outcome. And I did.

Actually, it was a mistake on their part. The manager, that the PCQO spoke with, did not have the correct information. That is. I am the one who is there and it is I who make decision`s for mom.

Well it was a little bit more involved than that. There is the TSDM laws that needed to gone over. ( The Substitute Decision Maker) and things made clear that this is what I go by.

I still need to speak with a lawyer. Which I will call and book an appointment with on Monday. Just a continuation to the my concerns.

So mom has been doing well these last few days. She has a new roommate and this women I think will be fine. The women goes to bed before mom. Yes before mom. Is mostly deaf. So no TV or stereo. Nice women. The daughter is nice. Which means mom will get a good night sleep every night.

Now today was bath day. Mom was in bed all day, so she was very thirsty when I arrived. Which I immediately fixed for her.Plenty to drink and a good dinner, which mom ate all of it. And her dessert of course. She ate so much for dinner that she didn`t want all of her dessert. That is OK.

And she only wanted her face and arms done, for the spa treatment. OK as well. Mom almost fell asleep immediately after she finished dinner. The music went on and her eye`s started to close.

Afterwards it was just a matter of holding her hand and letting her falls asleep.

I am home and making a dinner for myself. Since it has been 4 days since I last ate anything of substance. I really mean this. To tired and nothing in my fridge. Poor.

Now it has been two weeks since I started my campaign to raise funds for me to get hearing aids and not a cent.

Through-out this meeting I had to continuously turn to each person so I could hear them. A few times I just didn`t and had to excuse myself.

I need to hear. I have some very important things that will come up, now, which I really need to hear.

www.Gofundme.com/yugmns

I really need your help. And my mother does as well.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

I am having a very bad day

Hello again

Yes I am, but I never show this to mom. I am always smiles with her.

Today mom had the room to herself, and when the spa treatment was over, all she wanted to do is have a good night sleep. In peace and quiet. No one coming in or no TV on. I stayed as late as I could.

When I arrived in White Rock. Which I arrived early so I could get there early to take mom out. Well I received a phone call that was important. From the a Seniors Advocacy group. This was a 45 minute call. That took care of getting there early.

I had to rush to get something for mom, for dinner. Just a salad, no time to get anything else. I needed to rush down the street to get there in time for dinner. I just made it. Then we rushed to get her drinks out of the fridge and down to her room.

Mom was very hungry this evening and ate the entire salad and the served meal, plus her dessert. It is Wednesday, so it was a day to wash her hair. Which I am so lucky to be able to do this for mom. It makes her feel so good and relaxed.

It was a break from me being upset. I always am so very happy when I am with mom. Helping her out is the best thing in the world. No matter how crappy my life is. I always feel better seeing mom smile like that. So happy to see me and enjoys my company.

I am just a nobody, and today it all came to a head. To realize I have nothing, and am nothing. If it were not for mom.

I use to like living in Coquitlam, but I hate it now. I hate even coming back here at night. I have nothing. I need hearing aids to be able to continue to function properly in this world. To be there for mom as her advocate.

But even a crowdfunding campaign is proving to be unsuccessful. Ok down right disappointing

Please help me out. I need to hear

www.Gofundme.com/yugmns

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland.

Roommate issue solved.

Hello again

Well today I arrived to find out that the roommate is moving. This was her plan anyways. As soon as a place became available near where her son lives, she would move. And it became available. So first thing in the morning she is leaving on a 7 hour trip to her new place. A long way.

I told my mother and she already new. But she did smile, with that big beautiful smile of hers. Now they just have to find an appropriate roommate for mom. They know my criteria for a roommate.

Anyways mom was happy and ready to eat and go to bed. Really. As soon as we finished dinner, and I got her changed, sat down with her, to wait to be changed and put into be. Put the music on. Mom started to fall asleep. Holding tightly, my hand against her. I just love this. I could cry each and every time. But I am strong. LOL

Afterwards I started the spa treatment and mom made it know that she only wanted the her face and arms done.

Well I need to make this short this evening. I have to do more research for a meeting on Friday at mom`s home, with the manager, social worker and the lady from the PCQO (complaint department) I have done some already. Printed it out, read through it to find out if I need to do more research.

It is print this out, then I find out I need to print this other document out, that goes along with it. Then there is other laws that I need to find information on, that needs to be printed out as well. And it goes on from there.

This is what it is like dealing with the government. One thing leads to another then another then another. and so on and so forth. Never ending. It is OK, as everything is needed to probe my case. So I have it on hand if they start to throw this law or that law at me. I have what is needed to counter it.

And if none of this works, than I scream sexism. After all it was someone there that told me right from our first meeting, when mom arrived, that it is not a mans job to take care of his mother, it was a womens job.

Yes I am the only male who takes care of his mother in the entire place. I mean all floors and both buildings. Oh well. This is what I am called to do. Period.

So thanks

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland

PS. I am asking if you could help me, by donating to my campaign to purchase hearing aids.

www.Gofundme,com/yugmns

A very hot Sunday

Hello again

Tonight I am very hot and it is late. I have been getting home after 11 pm lately. Not good, as I don't have time to do anything. The next thing I know it is 2 am. Or it is midnight and I haven't even eaten or started to make anything.

Now when I arrived to see mom she was up today, after two days of being in bed. And having to listen to the TV of the roommate up at volume 70. It has been 3 months now since I first complained. And all I wanted was the TV to be moved to a new location. And do you think these people could do a simple thing like that.

It was a light dinner for mom tonight. Sushi, avocado and chicken. It was the right amount for her. We finished this and she had a wonderful dessert.

It was a nice evening with mom tonight. Got to hold her hand while she fell asleep. We talked and laughed. I sang to her.

Some nights are not all full of strife

Below is the update I posted on Gofundme  Please help me out to purchase hearing aids. Go to

www.Gofundme.com/yugmns to donate..

God bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Well a week and nothing. 

You know today it was difficult for me. I have always wanted children and realized that I am 54 years old and most likely will not have kids. I would make a great father. 

This is because I spent my 30's being an alcoholic and pot head. To busy being a drunk to find someone and knowing I was a drunk, didn't want to put someone through that. 

I have been straight now for over a decade. 

I wanted children to watch them grow up. But I am responsible for my mother whom I get to watch die a slow death from Alzheimer's and strokes. Not a pretty death at that. I watched my father die of the same thing. 

But I get to be responsible anyways for someone. I thank GOD for this. To take care of my mother is the best thing in the world. 

So being a drunk sure did it's number on me. I am loosing my hearing and here I am begging your help to get hearing aids. 

I am a very poor person. I am responsible to take care of a certain part of her expenses. I do without fail. I go without. But so did my parents. 

All of the car accidents I have been in, all of them were the other persons fault, have taken a toll on me. I need a cane to walk and have serious back problems. 

On top of this I have Parkinson's. This, there is no cure for either. And loosing my hearing. 

I really don't know what to do about this. Here I am pouring my heart out to all of you. Thinking that I might get some help. 

As I have mentioned, I need to hear to be able to take care of mom. To speak with the staff and communicate what I desire to be done. Or to file a complaint if it needs be. 

I ask with an honest heart. Please help me to reach my goal. 

I really need your help. 

Some of the staff don't even think I realize what my mother is going through. I do, I tell them, but I need to be strong for mom. She knows what is going on. She knows she is dieing. She knows she can't speak anymore. Or use her left arm or walk. Or even wipe nose. She is aware that she is dependent on everyone for everything. And mom knows I am there to make sure she is treated right. 

I don't know if I brought this up. But when I get there, the staff don't have to feed her, get her changed for bed, make her bed, wash her up at night. Brush her teeth and so on and so on. I do this, and I do this willingly . 

Mom doesn't need someone who is always crying. Oh my mother is dieing, what to do. Do exactly what I am doing. Being strong for her. 

Don't worry I have my moments, many at that, where I just cry. I know my mother is dieing. I know this is the way it is. I read mom, that is how I know what she is saying. 

I don't know when or how long mom has left. But I am there and will be there. I know it will probably kill me when she does pass away. 

I have no family, but for mom. No one to turn to for help or support. I am alone, outside of visiting mom. I am to poor for my old friends to hang out with anymore. And they don't believe I should be doing this anyways. 

I need to hear. Please help me.