Saturday, July 18, 2015

Friday and mom was in bed again.

Hello again

It is Friday and when I woke up I had a feeling mom would be in bed when I arrived there today. And guess what. She was. So now it will be until Sunday when she is up and about again. I really do hate this. I don't like to see mom in bed unless she is sick. And mom doesn't get sick. The same with me. We just don't get sick.

This time, however, it was okay. Mom had an accident. So we don't want her to sit in that all day. As they let her do most of the time. Again, I say this. We wouldn't let a baby sit in their own filth, so why do we let our loved one's sit in their own filth. I say, and will always say. It is pure laziness.

Because of this and mom getting a little sick, this morning. I did not want to give mom to much sweets. I did have blueberries for her. And her daily chocolate. I brought her some lasagna and a nice chick pea salad. Mom was very happy with this, and there is some lasagna left over for tomorrow.

Since mom was changed early, we did not have to wait for the staff to come. It was dinner and then the spa treatment. And hold her hand while she fell asleep. Oh yea, after she had her medication and something to drink to wash it down with and then a touch up.

I did just that. Held her hand, sang to her, plus our good night song. And left.

I didn't end up getting home until after 11 pm this evening.

Well it is done for another day.

Just going to watch something and fall asleep. I won't be eating tonight. Not hungry. To upset that my campaign to get hearing aids is just flat. Nothing happening with it.

I really did think I could raise the money for something I desperately need, through a crowd funding campaign.  Since I have no friends or family to help me out. This is my last resort.

GOD is not helping me. I sure do need his help.

I am loosing my hearing. I am seriously hurt from car accidents and I now have Parkinson's disease. All can be proven, by the way.

To strangers I am a very well liked person. But family and those who try to take advantage or hurt my mother, I am not well liked. Most would consider me an asshole looser.

I do what I can for my mother. And I do a great job taking care of her. No one else is stepping up to the plate to do anything. I am there every single day. Coming up to four years.

Oh do I hate bragging about it. I really don't tell anyone that this is what I do. I believe in actions.

SO HELP ME OUT. PLEASE.

www.Gofundme.com/yugmns

I need the hearing aids to be able to continue to take care of mom and advocate for her.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

A better day

Hello again

Before I start. www.Gofundme.com/yugmns

Well today was a little better except that I haven't been taking my Parkinson's medication and my right arm shook so bad today, I couldn't write anything for a while. And I asked a question of one of the staff members and I couldn't make out what she said from down the hall. It was relayed to me.

Now I ended up getting to mom's at 4:50. I planned on being there early, to start dinner early, so we could get her hair washed. I know she eats even slower now. So I do try to get there earlier, if I need to wash her hair.

So tonight. I had to say to mom, we need to finish up, but after I wash your hair you can have as much as you want to eat.

We only have a certain amount of time, for mom to eat. The staff come in at around 6:30 to put her to bed. And it was just after 6 when mom started her dessert. We finished her hair latter than normal. It really doesn't matter to me how long it takes her. It is I, who is not getting there early enough

But afterwards, mom was so relaxed. Well I washed, dried and styled her hair, than a spa treatment. With a neck massage. Yea I guess she was relaxed and didn't want anything to eat.

I know we have nothing to get done tomorrow night. But from now on, I am going to make it a point of getting there early. Before 4:30.

Well, that pretty much sums up the evening.

Typing is a little easier for me, with the shaking arm. It still shakes, but I have the desk to steady my arm.

I just wish to hear properly again. I know the shaking will never go away, in fact it is only going to get worse over the years. I can accept this. I just want to hear!

Please help, If it was just me, alone, who gives a crap. But it is mom I worry about. I need to be able to hear when I am going to file a complaint or have a meeting about her. Discuss what is going on with he doctor or staff.

I need to hear. Please. GOD will bless you for this

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland


Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Maybe something might get done

Hello again

So I arrived to the manager setting up a meeting next Friday with herself, the social worker and the lady from the Patients Care Quality Office. We will see. I only have one major problem and if this is not fixed immediately I will have to go to Pivot. A legal firm that helps the disenfranchised And state discrimination/Sexism.

After sitting down with the manager, it was now 5 pm and getting to be dinner time. Today I was only able to bring mom a salad. A carrot, red cabbage and green onion salad, with a creamy poppyseed dressing. Then she also had the served dinner. Oh yea, I didn't even have a papaya for her today. Just two gold kiwi's. Her chocolate, some other dessert. And she was still hungry. So I gave her crackers with peanut butter and jam on them, plus another piece of butter tart. And allot to drink.

Wow. That was allot. I don't ever eat as much as mom does. And I am suppose to eat allot more often than I do. As I need to eat to take my Parkinson medication. Which I don't. So I don't take the medication that is to make me better. It really bother's the stomach without food. I know. I have done this already. And not good. I need a high Fiber diet. Since the medication causes extreme constipation. I have experienced this from the start and it far worse off, if I don't eat. That is why I needed to stop the medication for now. I can only afford to eat once a day at this present time. I need to take this medicine 3 times a day.

There is my pity pot. Oh yea, I have a campaign going on to help me raise money to purchase hearing aids.

www.Gofundme,com/yugmns. If you thought of donating to me for my mothers sake. There is the spot to do so.

I have meetings set up and I have multiple people in these meetings. I have to hear everyone. Or else I won't be able to accomplish what it is I am trying to do within each meeting.

And; these meetings are not for me. They are to insure mom is treated correctly and with respect. To make sure I can get the needed medical information from the hospital. Not being told you are not the one who we go too.

I am their and I am the one looking after my mother.

I didn't want to say anything,but it is needed. On Sunday, I was just leaving the mall, up the street from mom's, I saw my nephew and his family. Of course he didn't speak or acknowledge my presence. That was OK. I thought they went and saw my mother. So when I arrived at mom's I was asking everyone if anyone had come to see mom today.

The answer was a unanimous NO! This is what I have to deal with. And this is why my name needs to be  the person to go too.

Now after mom ate more, I brushed her teeth, I had already got her ready for bed. The staff came in, we got her into bed. Now she was tired. I quickly went and did the dishes, and when I came back, mom was ready for sleep.

I gave her the nightly spa treatment, but she did not want her legs done this evening. She just wanted to hold my hand. Which she did. She grabbed my hand and pulled it close to her. Mumbled a few things and closed her eye's. The music was playing and she was singing with me.

I have been staying latter as of late. Don't know why, but I have been and getting home a little later as well. I am just waiting for mom to fall asleep before I leave.

I do need to go now.

Please go to the site www.Gofundme.com/yugmns. Donate for my hearing aids. And pray for us.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Monday, July 13, 2015

A cooler day

Hello again

The feeling in the world is each night my mother pulls my hand close to her and falls asleep. I can cry each time. Nothing in this world or my life can replace this feeling. I am truly blessed to have this opportunity to take care of my mother. As it was with my father. Twice blessed. Thank you GOD.

Just a Sunday. Cooler outside. Compared to the 37 c days we had. 19, 20 almost feels cold. So I needed to wear a sweater today. But once I arrived in White Rock I needed to remove the sweater.

Then mom, was looking around for me when I arrived at her home. She saw me and a big smile came upon her face. Beautiful it was.

Now I just brought her down to her room and gave her something to drink. And warmed dinner up. I didn't have much tonight. But what I had and the served dinner was plenty for mom.

And of course afterwards I just got her ready for bed. Then sat with her while we waited for the care aid ot come and change mom. But while we were waiting, we both fell asleep.  OK I didn't fall asleep, but entered my dream world. A new movie each time. It is actually cool how I can do this. I can even read things in this world. Zoom in to read things I mean.

Well the care aid came in, we got mom to bed and I gave her the nightly spa treatment. Something more to drink, before I packed everything up. Then, as I said, mom pulled my hand close to her and fell asleep. As I was singing to her. At least someone likes my singing. LOL People do think I sang before.

Then I left. After I made sure mom was asleep.

OK now. I have mentioned that I need to get hearing aids. It is hard for me to hear people.Especially from behind me. Okay, I can't hear them at all. I am officially partially  deaf. On top of having Parkinson's. I am to take the medication with food.  I barely eat, so it is doing a number on my stomach. I am suppose to take it three times a day. Ok I do, but without food. Not suppose to do this. It is really hard on the stomach. Nothing I can do about it.

Anyways. I need hearing aids and someone suggested I try crowdfunding. So I have one on the go. Just started yesterday.

I am raising money to purchase a pair of hearing aids. I need to hear to advocate properly for mom. We are in the midst of a situation and it is hard to hear what everyone is saying.

So I started this crowdfunding campaign on Gofundme.

I have asked y'all to assist me in the past. Pray for me, etc...

I now ask if you could help me to purchase hearing aids for myself. It is for mom that I really need them. I need to now and will continue to have to fight for her rights. I AM HER VOICE, I AM HER ADVOCATE.

Help with this, share the site, spread the site address with everyone. Donate to this cause. It is worth it. For my mother sake.

I will be putting this address up each night.

www.GoFundMe.com/yugmns

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland