This is amazing, but true

Hello again

Well today was a day for the history books.

Here's a first. My roommate is in the hospital for something. She calls me and asked me to bring her something. She tells me she is in the AL Hogg building,1st floor. This was the building mom was in, but the 3 Rd floor.

I go there and we were sitting outside. OK the smoking section. And out comes this woman, with a security guard, and tells me that I have to leave, that I am not allowed in the building.

Check this out. There is a memo, that the manager left, before she went on vacation, stating that I, Kris Schmuland, is not allowed in the building

To cool. I rate a memo. That is how disliked I am. And how two faced the managers are. All there niceties were phony

Even though the staff did not have to do a single thing for mom. Once I arrived. Nothing. Except they changed her pad. And even I had to do this many, many times.

I said from the beginning that I am a nice person. But I will do whatever it takes to make sure mom's rights were protected. Whatever it takes. And I did just that.

Yes I needed to go over the managers head sometimes.  But if your not going to get something done, in a reasonable time frame. Then I need to take the next steps.
I did it for my mother's protection.

I have always said that abuse is rampant in care homes and nobody does anything about it.

I know I have mentioned, numerous times, that I have been trying to start a company, well organization, to protect seniors rights and to stop seniors abuse. 

I am a seniors advocate. I have advocated for several seniors over the years. People write me, because of this Blog, and tell me their horror stories, about the abuse their parents went through. 

How they were to afraid to say anything about it, for fear that their parents would be treated poorly. So nothing is ever done. 

People are to afraid to say anything. That is how Fraser Health and all other health care systems work. 

There is protectionism of the staff. The staff can kill the residents and they are not to blame. The nurses complain about the abuse they have to live through. That patients are aggressive

Lets see now. You have an 85 years man/woman, who has Dementia/Alzheimer's. You fill them full of drugs, that should never be given to any senior citizen. Drugs that the FDA has said not to give to seniors, they can give them strokes, heart attacks and kill them. 

The residents are so drugged up,they have no idea what is going on. Then you have staff how are trying to man handle these residents. What do you think is going to happen. The residents are going to react. They are doped up. 

The nurses and other staff want to be able to charge these residents with assault. Really. what about charging the staff with assault, abuse, neglect. and on and on and on.. 

There is never any mention of this in the newspapers or on TV news. No just about the staff wanting to charge patients/residents. 

Our parents are the one's who are suffering. Not the staff. They are paid very well and they go to school for this. Don't you think that this is brought up when they are studying. 

That sometimes patients will react badly to certain medication and they will become aggressive or loud. 

After all they chose this type of work. To work with the elderly. And when this is your chosen profession. You know that this is going to happen and you need to learn how to deal with each situation as it arises. 

These are people with Alzheimer's and Dementia. They have lost a great part of their lives. They don't remember who they are or even their children. 

Just think of how they feel. don't you think that they are in pain, emotionally,physically , psychologically. 

I do know how they feel, I have seen it, over and over again. What happens to one who suffers from this horrible disease. It is not nice, to say the least. 

They don't do any research on current treatments. How music is a cure to calm any and all of our seniors down. It just works. I have spent many a year doing research on this exact subject. 

They are not there to help the residents, to treat them. They are only there to maintain them. And when they think. The word is "They" it is time for the resident to die, they do everything to help that along. After all someone who is really sick, takes up to much time. 

This was exactly the case with my mother. The day staff was to feed my mother thickened water every 5 minutes. I would get there in the early afternoon and they had not even given her anything to eat or drink. This was when mom was ill a few months before she passed away. 

I know it was Al Hogg's staff that killed my  mother. The nurses. I said mom was sick and they did nothing about it for a month. Again, it was not until I threatened to take mom to emergency, that the they nurses had the doctor check her out. 

So a month goes by and mom is just getting worse. Oh there is nothing wrong with her. Her temperature is fine. I say, she doesn't have to have a temperature to be sick and she didn't have one. 

Mom had a bladder infection that was caught to late and it took it's toll out on mom. Which as we know, killed her. 

This is how much they listen. I tell them not to ever give mom morphine, never. When I was not there they did it anyways. I tell them that giving mom morphine will kill her. And it did. 

Yes I am guilty that I didn't do something sooner. But I believe it was the negligence of the staff that killed mom. By disregarding my direct orders. 

I could go on and on about this. And I will again. But I have to concentrate on giving mom a memorial service. To get that done. Then I will be back at it.

And this being done, when I have not even been near the place or even though of going to Al Hogg any time soon. I was going to wait a good 6 months and then approach the management about a reading program. I guess that is not going to happen. 

I also want to tell you more about mom's life, through the ten years, she lived with this disease. As well as strokes. 

I have to ask again, to please donate to my campaign. So I can give mom and proper memorial service. I will deal with the other issue another time. Giving mom this the most important thing right now. 

Just $5.00, $10.00 dollars is all I ask of you. I will put your name up on a board at the memorial service saying that if it were not for these people, none of this would of happened. Or even on the cards that are given to all who come to the service. I will have it printed on them. So all who come, know who help put this together. 

https://www.gofundme.com/ka556fdk 

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

  

Remembering mom

Hello again

Today it was a day of painful memories. I was thinking about mom all day, thinking how I can give mom a memorial service she deserves.

I have a crowd funding campaign  and I just have two donations so far. I have lots of twitter followers and FaceBook friends. I write and ask daily, several times a day. I put it up there. Yes there is the funds needed to go to Supreme Court.

But my main concern is a memorial service for mom. I believe that mom is waiting for this to happen. It should of happened within two weeks of her passing. As my and my mother's religious beliefs states. But no, It didn't happen the way it should of . '

Now I have no money to give her this service. That is why I started a campaign to raise money for this.

I have asked that all who follow me and are my FaceBook friends, just donate $5.00 dollars each. And everything would be solved. I would be able to have a service for mom within a week of getting the funding I need. I have enough of them and I know there is several people who read this Blog. So I ask you to do the same. Just $5.00 dollars each.

This is the most important thing for me. To have the service and pay homage to my mother. To allow her to move on, freely. As she should.

I feel she is still waiting for this to happen. We all need closer. And that is what this would bring. Closer to us and closer to mom.

I am remembering the beauty that was my mother. Her Kindness to all. Her love of her husband. Her grace. I am remembering her generosity. towards others. Mom would help out if she could. No matter what.

I know mom and dad sacrificed for us children. I played allot of sports and was an academic as well.And this was not easy on them. The time that is necessary to take me around for my games. For my events.

Mom always was there for us and others.

I know my mother worked very hard in her life. But never complained. Or at least I didn't hear her. My mother made sure that my sisters had what they needed. They did not want for anything. I know if it were not for my parents my sisters would not have anything. But parents help their children out. I guess that is the way it is and was.

I did receive my share of help.. I won't deny that.

I remember the smell of home made bread, that mom made from scratch. I remember her cooking.

I just am looking to give mom a special memorial service she deserves and have the people who knew her for the last 10 years or so. Tell everyone what mom was like. How her smile was infectious.

What I remember is people always telling me what a beautiful smile mom had.

I remember. I will never forget. Those last moments of her life, bring me to tears, each and every time I think about them.

I will continue telling you all about mom's life for the last ten years and before that.

But I have to ask again. I need to give mom a memorial service. Please donate to this cause.

I looked after mom all those years. I am not a rich man by any means. I am in fact a very poor man. I don't have anything. This  is what I have. My laptop. Mom's small TV, mom's stereo. My bedroom suite.( very old) Some clothing. The rest don't fit as I lost 80 lbs over the last few years.

My life consisted of traveling to and from mom's home. Cooking for her, doing her laundry. On the way to see her, picking up whatever she needs. Fresh fruit. Making play lists for her. And everything I did while I was taking care of her for  the 4 hours each day. I wish I could of spent more time with her. But I lived so far away.

And now she has passed away, I move to White Rock.

GOD bless and goodnight

Kristopher Schmuland

Crowd funding site.

https://www.gofundme.com/ka556fdk

Please help out. Mom and I both would really appreciate it.

Sundays, very difficult

Hello again

As mentioned Sundays are the most difficult day of the week for me. I need to be alone all day. I can't be around people or I will just break down. As it is I break down anyways.

My mom was a very strong and caring women. She worked and looked after us kids. I can always remember mom doing something for someone. Be it sewing something for them. Giving them a perm, Cooking a huge meal and inviting others, less fortunate over for a holiday meal.

Mom drove me to all my swim team practices. 4 am daily. And to the meets. A remarkable women.

It was very difficult to watch mom decline the way she did. First it was her short term memory, Repeating the same tasks. Then mom had a few small strokes. She broke her hip and that was that. My sister decided that she no longer wanted to take care of mom. I am glad about that. She wasn't looking after that well at all. Not feeding her properly. So when mom went into a seniors home, I was happy for her. OK no I wasn't. I wanted to look after her. But I did not own a home, just rented and the PGT was not going to help with that. Turned down. So a home was the best place for her.

She was going to get a nice room, three meal a day, snacks. Plus the snacks I brought each day. And dad was in the same home as mom.

Yes it was a long way for me to travel, but I was out voted. Actually, the girls said they would be there to look after mom, And guess what, they weren't! Though a long way, I made sure I was there as much as I could. That was 6 days a week. However way I could get there. Which was walking, bus, hitchhiking, train. Anyway I could get out there, I did it. I needed to be there for mom. No matter what. No matter what. And that is what I did.

It was nice, a nice place, Great staff, I could visit day and mom at the same time. But dad was in real bad shape when he got there. A serious stroke and that was the death of him. He slept allot. So I spent most of my time just hanging out with mom. We would talk, laugh and watch TV together. We would go down and be part of whatever was going on.  Sometimes mom just wanted to do her own thing without me being there. I understood, and left.

But all of it was great. Mom could speak at that point. So she had some Dementia, I worked around it. I understood and dealt with it. And we did have many great conversations. I learned allot about her. I asked questions, so to keep mom's memory sharp. And it worked.

She participated in many of the functions that were happening at the home. I loved that mom was getting involved.

Dad was getting worse, day by day. It was not a good time for him. And very difficult for mom as well. To see her war veteran husband decline like that. Dam it was hard on me.

I continued to travel out there all the time.

I will continue the story tomorrow night. I just want to watch something and go to sleep. A big day tomorrow.

I ask for your help. Again. But this time I am only asking for help to give mom a funeral service. She has not had one yet and it is coming up to two months since she passed away.

I know I was asking for funds to hire a lawyer but I am going to do most of it myself and to represnet myself in the Supreme Court. The will is going to take a least a year to finalize. So I have time to look after that. But it is the service that is the most important thing right now.

So I ask for any help you can spare. All of it going to the service at the moment.

https://www.gofundme.com/ka556fdk

Please read it, It was changed.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland