Hello again
I wish to start by saying that I want no one's pity. I just wish for you prayer's to help my mother, by finding a place close to her. I can spend more quality time with her and I don't have to rush off each night. Even when my mother doesn't want me to go. That is the hardest part of living so far away. Mom actually saying don't go, when it is time for me to leave each night.
She is not yet asleep, and just wants me to stay until she is asleep. But if I leave to late, I don't get home until midnight. Then I have things to do, such as write this blog and write in my accident journal.
So I went to the physiotherapists office and asked for them to get approval from ICBC ( our insurance provider). ICBC tells me that they will cover me 100% for active physiotherapy. Than on Friday the physiotherapist office calls me and tells me that ICBC won't cover me for the full amount, that I still have to pay the user fee. This fee is $59.00 per half hour. And they want me to attend 3 one hour sessions a week. Up to 20 sessions. $120.00 per session.
Well last night I had to go through many days worth of journal entries to find out when ICBC told me they would cover me 100% I found the page and it was September 3, 2014. Now I have to deal with them again.
This is denying me access to physiotherapy
That was my bitch.
So for the last few days mom has been very happy, but a little tired. Friday, after dinner, I washed her hair, as usual. This makes her feel so much better, and relaxed.
I don't have much, but I have enough groceries to make mom dinners. So I made her a honey/orange cod. for Friday and this mom enjoyed greatly. With everything else I serve her. And a good meal this evening. Which she also enjoyed.
Last night I was looking for this certain album, and came across a live video of Dianna Krall in Paris. I downloaded this and put it on for mom and I to watch tonight. Mom really enjoys her music. We didn't finish it, so we will tomorrow..
Bath day and mom's is in bed. They didn't change her sheets again today and put a clean nighty on her. But that is OK. As I didn't want to get it dirty, while feeding her anyways. So after dinner I changed her into the clean night gown. Then after the care aid came and changed mom, I asked her to help me change mom's sheets.
This is something I did myself, before this accident. Now I just can't do it without help. My right arm does not work properly.
Tonight I took my time giving mom her spa treatment, so she could watch and listen to the live video of Dianna Krall. Mom was to relaxed to watch it, but she sure enjoyed it. I could see her singing along to it. She knows all of her songs. I sing to her all the time, so she doesn't have a problem singing around me. Even though, she is not singing out loud. Just trying her best. Which, to me, is her best and the greatest.
Tonight I tried to stay longer, and I did manage to stay until after 8 pm. Which let me catch the 8:30 bus. then I got home at 11 pm.
Mom was not fully asleep when I left, and wanted me to stay even longer. I really feel guilty that I can't do this simple thing for her.
She looked so comfortable. Clean night gown, clean sheets and pillow cases. Fresh spa treatment. Yet needed more time with me.
I just want to be closer to her. I only need a few things to live . I just need kitchen things. I have everything else that I need. My needs, not what I want.
I am satisfied with just my needs being met. Everything else will come.
As long as I am close to mom and able to bring her over. Have use of a washer and dryer. plus Internet. I am fine.
Again I ask for your prayers
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
Saturday, October 18, 2014
Thursday, October 16, 2014
A reprieve
Hello again
Another beautiful day today. Bright and sunny. Not as it is to be for the rest of the week. Oh well.
I just love the huge smile that comes upon mom's face when she see's me walk in. Reaches for my hand. And as soon as she does grab my hand, I feel this amazing relaxation come upon her.
I just brought mom this really healthy sandwich, plus some pork and beans. This she really enjoys.
And as soon as dinner was finished mom was now ready for bed. Did the dishes and got mom changed. Sat down to read to her and the care aid came in.
Now mom was ready to sleep. I finished her spa treatment and mom was done for the night. Again I quickly did this spa treatment.
Mom just grabbed my hand and squeezed it hard, and wouldn't let it go. I was totally OK with this. I just packed up and held her hand again.
She didn't want anything else to drink. Just to sleep. I had to window open for a while, to get some fresh air in her room. Mom really liked this.
I am just waiting for a place to come up for me to move to. It is very difficult, this 7 hours a day of traveling.
Especially since I am injured and just hurt all the time. I carry so much back and forth. And need to do this. I don't mind doing this. But not this distance. I will continue.
Mom is worth it. I can't get her a fridge, their rules, I do have the directors number which was given to me by the manger. Need to speak with her.
Well nothing more for me to say. Oh I do have a lot to say, but I need to go to bed and get some rest. I wake up every two hours. 4 am 6 am and then I get up by 10 am. That is my night. I am always extremely tired.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher.W. A. Schmuland
Another beautiful day today. Bright and sunny. Not as it is to be for the rest of the week. Oh well.
I just love the huge smile that comes upon mom's face when she see's me walk in. Reaches for my hand. And as soon as she does grab my hand, I feel this amazing relaxation come upon her.
I just brought mom this really healthy sandwich, plus some pork and beans. This she really enjoys.
And as soon as dinner was finished mom was now ready for bed. Did the dishes and got mom changed. Sat down to read to her and the care aid came in.
Now mom was ready to sleep. I finished her spa treatment and mom was done for the night. Again I quickly did this spa treatment.
Mom just grabbed my hand and squeezed it hard, and wouldn't let it go. I was totally OK with this. I just packed up and held her hand again.
She didn't want anything else to drink. Just to sleep. I had to window open for a while, to get some fresh air in her room. Mom really liked this.
I am just waiting for a place to come up for me to move to. It is very difficult, this 7 hours a day of traveling.
Especially since I am injured and just hurt all the time. I carry so much back and forth. And need to do this. I don't mind doing this. But not this distance. I will continue.
Mom is worth it. I can't get her a fridge, their rules, I do have the directors number which was given to me by the manger. Need to speak with her.
Well nothing more for me to say. Oh I do have a lot to say, but I need to go to bed and get some rest. I wake up every two hours. 4 am 6 am and then I get up by 10 am. That is my night. I am always extremely tired.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher.W. A. Schmuland
Pouring rain
Hello again
So today I had to wear jeans. It was cold out this morning and the rain was just coming down. As they say, cats and dogs. I really wonder where that saying came from. I will have to look it up. Then I will let y'all know.
Even though I needed to where jeans I was very hot. Not use to wearing pants yet. We had a very good run of beautiful weather.
I didn't make mom dinner today. Nothing at home to cook with. Fixed that. So it was a seafood salad and a nice beef pot pie. They make them fresh at this store by mom's.
I again found a bed pillow under mom's legs. Even though there are the proper pillows, that mom does not use under her head, right there, sitting on the chair. I did bring mom to the manager and said there you go. Daily something is wrong.
Yes I have OCD when it comes to the closet. Order! and I explained to the manager that I have this and it bothers me the staff just shove the cloths anywhere. Yet I can't expect any one else to live up to my OCD when it comes to mom's closet. I said it bothers me, but I let it go for the reason I just wrote.
But to have mom's pillows that she uses to sleep on, under her feet. To much. Then there is them constantly putting the sheet on backwards.
I am picky about this., as I put lotion on mom's lower legs and feet. Which means that the lotion will get on the sheets. And if they are put on backwards, mom could get lotion in her eye's. And this could cause an infection.
Would one do this at home. Put the top sheet on upside down. I don't think so. You put it on the way it is suppose to go.
Anyways enough of my bitching.
Mom enjoyed her dinner and we got this done early so I could wash mom's hair. It was getting greasy. Since Monday was a holiday and she didn't get her hair done. And it also makes mom feel much better before she goes to bed.
After I got her changed as quick as I could, but being gentle. When mom is very tired, she doesn't want to be fused with to much and I need to be extra gentle with her. I want mom to be relaxed and enjoy her nightly ritual. Pleasant, comfortable, secure.
Mom wanted me to read to her. I said OK, but as soon as I get you covered with a blanket and get my glasses out and open the book, the care aid will come in. Sure enough. I just sat down and.....
Well, it was OK. Mom just wanted to be put in bed, have her spa treatment done and for me to hold her hand while she falls asleep.
Mom will not completely go to sleep without me first singing her our good night song. She waits for this and as soon as I sing it to her, she will close her eye's. Without fail.
Another reason I do what I do.
There is no words to describe what I feel taking care of mom. It is just beautiful It is a pleasure having this opportunity. I can't say it enough.
I am humble before GOD.
I may be nothing, I may having nothing. It seems to me I am stuck in Coquitlam, yet I am everything to mom and she is everything to me.
I love my mother and am just doing what is right before GOD. Even though I have a hard time believing. It seems nothing every happens.
I just pray that GOD helps me find a place I can afford or points me in the right direction or puts someone in front of me.
I pray for nothing else for myself. I only pray that GOD keeps mom safe and healthy. I do pray that HE heals her.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W.A.Schmuland
So today I had to wear jeans. It was cold out this morning and the rain was just coming down. As they say, cats and dogs. I really wonder where that saying came from. I will have to look it up. Then I will let y'all know.
Even though I needed to where jeans I was very hot. Not use to wearing pants yet. We had a very good run of beautiful weather.
I didn't make mom dinner today. Nothing at home to cook with. Fixed that. So it was a seafood salad and a nice beef pot pie. They make them fresh at this store by mom's.
I again found a bed pillow under mom's legs. Even though there are the proper pillows, that mom does not use under her head, right there, sitting on the chair. I did bring mom to the manager and said there you go. Daily something is wrong.
Yes I have OCD when it comes to the closet. Order! and I explained to the manager that I have this and it bothers me the staff just shove the cloths anywhere. Yet I can't expect any one else to live up to my OCD when it comes to mom's closet. I said it bothers me, but I let it go for the reason I just wrote.
But to have mom's pillows that she uses to sleep on, under her feet. To much. Then there is them constantly putting the sheet on backwards.
I am picky about this., as I put lotion on mom's lower legs and feet. Which means that the lotion will get on the sheets. And if they are put on backwards, mom could get lotion in her eye's. And this could cause an infection.
Would one do this at home. Put the top sheet on upside down. I don't think so. You put it on the way it is suppose to go.
Anyways enough of my bitching.
Mom enjoyed her dinner and we got this done early so I could wash mom's hair. It was getting greasy. Since Monday was a holiday and she didn't get her hair done. And it also makes mom feel much better before she goes to bed.
After I got her changed as quick as I could, but being gentle. When mom is very tired, she doesn't want to be fused with to much and I need to be extra gentle with her. I want mom to be relaxed and enjoy her nightly ritual. Pleasant, comfortable, secure.
Mom wanted me to read to her. I said OK, but as soon as I get you covered with a blanket and get my glasses out and open the book, the care aid will come in. Sure enough. I just sat down and.....
Well, it was OK. Mom just wanted to be put in bed, have her spa treatment done and for me to hold her hand while she falls asleep.
Mom will not completely go to sleep without me first singing her our good night song. She waits for this and as soon as I sing it to her, she will close her eye's. Without fail.
Another reason I do what I do.
There is no words to describe what I feel taking care of mom. It is just beautiful It is a pleasure having this opportunity. I can't say it enough.
I am humble before GOD.
I may be nothing, I may having nothing. It seems to me I am stuck in Coquitlam, yet I am everything to mom and she is everything to me.
I love my mother and am just doing what is right before GOD. Even though I have a hard time believing. It seems nothing every happens.
I just pray that GOD helps me find a place I can afford or points me in the right direction or puts someone in front of me.
I pray for nothing else for myself. I only pray that GOD keeps mom safe and healthy. I do pray that HE heals her.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W.A.Schmuland
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
Glad
Hello again
I am so glad I have chosen to take the time to look after my mother. The best decision I have ever made...
Just knowing that mom trusts me like she does.
Mom knows my touch and is trusting of it. Her reaching out for my hand and wanting to hold it all the time is proof enough that I am doing the right thing.
Just standing there as she holds my hand and falls asleep.
Allowing me to get her ready for bed and helping out as well as she can.
I know my has her problems. I don't treat her as if she is not there. I know mom understands me, but the stroke took her speech away.
Watching her relax as I give her the daily spa treatment.
Knowing what she is saying without a word being spoken.
Taking the time and being patient.
This is what she needs.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W.A.Schmuland
I am so glad I have chosen to take the time to look after my mother. The best decision I have ever made...
Just knowing that mom trusts me like she does.
Mom knows my touch and is trusting of it. Her reaching out for my hand and wanting to hold it all the time is proof enough that I am doing the right thing.
Just standing there as she holds my hand and falls asleep.
Allowing me to get her ready for bed and helping out as well as she can.
I know my has her problems. I don't treat her as if she is not there. I know mom understands me, but the stroke took her speech away.
Watching her relax as I give her the daily spa treatment.
Knowing what she is saying without a word being spoken.
Taking the time and being patient.
This is what she needs.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W.A.Schmuland
It's warm and rainy
Hello again
The weather is great. I am still able to wear shorts. But I am getting lots of looks. Most people are wearing their winter gear. I wonder what they are going to do when it is actually cold outside.
I am dry and warm. That is all I need to keep wearing shorts. Yes I am crazy.
Mom was looking good today. A big smile on her face whens she saw me. I mad her another nice dinner. Shrimp and cheese omelet and left over stuffing. There is still stuffing.
We wrapped up dinner in the usual way. Fruit. And took care of the dishes. We finished early. As I started to feed her early. So by the time they brought the tray, mom was already onto dessert.
This mean't I had a chance to read to her tonight. Which we got through five pages before the care aid came into put mom to bed.
Mom was really enjoying the music tonight. Relaxed, and comfortable.
After mom was in bed, which was really early, and the spa treatment was complete. She was a little anxious. I forgot, that she wanted her ears cleaned. But it is to difficult to do this when she is in bed. I need to do this, while in her chair. Before she is put into bed.
I said that I won't forget, and I will do this tomorrow. Which I will.
I gave her some more to drink and waited for the nurse to come in and give mom her nightly medicine. After this, I needed to give mom some more to drink. To wash the medicine taste away. Then it was time for mom to sleep. So I thought. Mom was restless. I thought she wanted me to leave so she could sleep. I asked her and she said no. So I stayed latter and caught the 8:30 pm bus. This gets me home after 11 pm. It is OK.
No laundry to do. OK there is some, but I was not going to do this tonight. Just tried. And I thought this morning, that when I get home, I would just download what I wanted to watch and go to bed right away.
Not a chance. Maybe, one day, when I finally move to White Rock , I will be able to get to bed before 3 am.
So mom was fully asleep when I left this evening.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
The weather is great. I am still able to wear shorts. But I am getting lots of looks. Most people are wearing their winter gear. I wonder what they are going to do when it is actually cold outside.
I am dry and warm. That is all I need to keep wearing shorts. Yes I am crazy.
Mom was looking good today. A big smile on her face whens she saw me. I mad her another nice dinner. Shrimp and cheese omelet and left over stuffing. There is still stuffing.
We wrapped up dinner in the usual way. Fruit. And took care of the dishes. We finished early. As I started to feed her early. So by the time they brought the tray, mom was already onto dessert.
This mean't I had a chance to read to her tonight. Which we got through five pages before the care aid came into put mom to bed.
Mom was really enjoying the music tonight. Relaxed, and comfortable.
After mom was in bed, which was really early, and the spa treatment was complete. She was a little anxious. I forgot, that she wanted her ears cleaned. But it is to difficult to do this when she is in bed. I need to do this, while in her chair. Before she is put into bed.
I said that I won't forget, and I will do this tomorrow. Which I will.
I gave her some more to drink and waited for the nurse to come in and give mom her nightly medicine. After this, I needed to give mom some more to drink. To wash the medicine taste away. Then it was time for mom to sleep. So I thought. Mom was restless. I thought she wanted me to leave so she could sleep. I asked her and she said no. So I stayed latter and caught the 8:30 pm bus. This gets me home after 11 pm. It is OK.
No laundry to do. OK there is some, but I was not going to do this tonight. Just tried. And I thought this morning, that when I get home, I would just download what I wanted to watch and go to bed right away.
Not a chance. Maybe, one day, when I finally move to White Rock , I will be able to get to bed before 3 am.
So mom was fully asleep when I left this evening.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Happy Birthday to mom
Hello again
It was mom's Birthday today. 85 years old and looks 70. Clear wrinkle free skin. Thanks to continuously applying lotion. Her daily spa treatment
Since it was or is Thanksgiving here in Canada. I made mom a special combination dinner. Stuffed Cornish game hen with a Asian pear, onion and mushroom stuffing. A Honey Orange reduction to based the bird with. Brussels sprouts. Extra stuffing on the side. I didn't make potatoes, as there is always potatoes served.. Ice cream and her fruit and chocolate for dessert. Mom ate most of it. I just love it when mom enjoys her dinners.
The honey orange reduction. Well it reduced. It is a paste now. With extreme taste.
Then mom was tired. So I quickly got her changed for bed. The care aid came in and put her to bed. And as soon as I got back to the room. The quick version of the spa treatment. It is the same as the slower version. I just don't take my time. Mom is bending her legs more and more.
The music was playing, I thanked mom for the opportunity to cook for her. It is always a pleasure making mom special meals. And cooking her meal everyday. If I didn't have mom to cook for, I think my skills would be lost. But none the less, I thanked her for allowing me to cook for her.
She was full and relaxed. What more could you ask for. I stood and held her hand until it was time to leave.
Then our good night song and kisses and off I went.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W.A. Schmuland
It was mom's Birthday today. 85 years old and looks 70. Clear wrinkle free skin. Thanks to continuously applying lotion. Her daily spa treatment
Since it was or is Thanksgiving here in Canada. I made mom a special combination dinner. Stuffed Cornish game hen with a Asian pear, onion and mushroom stuffing. A Honey Orange reduction to based the bird with. Brussels sprouts. Extra stuffing on the side. I didn't make potatoes, as there is always potatoes served.. Ice cream and her fruit and chocolate for dessert. Mom ate most of it. I just love it when mom enjoys her dinners.
The honey orange reduction. Well it reduced. It is a paste now. With extreme taste.
Then mom was tired. So I quickly got her changed for bed. The care aid came in and put her to bed. And as soon as I got back to the room. The quick version of the spa treatment. It is the same as the slower version. I just don't take my time. Mom is bending her legs more and more.
The music was playing, I thanked mom for the opportunity to cook for her. It is always a pleasure making mom special meals. And cooking her meal everyday. If I didn't have mom to cook for, I think my skills would be lost. But none the less, I thanked her for allowing me to cook for her.
She was full and relaxed. What more could you ask for. I stood and held her hand until it was time to leave.
Then our good night song and kisses and off I went.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W.A. Schmuland
The weather is so....... changing
Hello again
Today is Saturday and bath day for mom. As usual. So she is in bed. Now there is a large container with a swing lid, sitting right beside the night stand. There are four signs up stating the family does laundry. Plus my sign asking if they would not put mom's clothing in the laundry, as I, her son, will do it;
Do you think that these, individuals, could actually read the signs. NO. Since this container has been their, only three times has the laundry been placed in it. And today, the dirty sheet, yes I said sheet. Singular. As they didn't even bother to change mom's sheets today. But anyways. the bottom sheet was put into the container. Yet I had to go to the laundry room and dig out mom's undershirt and nightgown.
REALLY!
What I have to say is this. If I am injured or catch anything, because of there negligence, I am going to speak with a lawyer. I am done being nice about this. It has been going on now for almost two months. Enough is enough. PERIOD. As it is I am suffering injuries because of the accident. My back goes out, my right arm is not working properly. Or should I say, my right elbow is in extreme pain all the time and wakes me up at night.
Enough of my rants for now.
In bed and thirsty. I gave her so much to drink tonight. Needed to remove some of the covers. I made mom a really good smoothie today. And it was extremely cold. As I put it in the freezer as soon as I made it and it sat in there for 2 hours before I left today. Then it was surrounded by frozen water. So it stayed really cold.
I made her a nice sweet and sour meatball dinner. With everything else, mom ate well, as usual.
I changed her sheets. With the help of a care aid. And then her spa treatment.
When I arrived I put in a movie and this is what we watched while eating dinner and afterwards. But by the time we finished the spa treatment, mom was almost asleep. So I just stood there and held her hand,. Mom fell asleep and I watched the rest of the movie.
I sang to her our goodnight song. Mom woke up enough to tell me she loved me. And fell back to sleep.
This is when I turn everything off and kiss her on her forehead.
Still I have not been able to find a place, that I can afford.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A.Schmuland
Blah, Blah, Blah and Blah
Today is Saturday and bath day for mom. As usual. So she is in bed. Now there is a large container with a swing lid, sitting right beside the night stand. There are four signs up stating the family does laundry. Plus my sign asking if they would not put mom's clothing in the laundry, as I, her son, will do it;
Do you think that these, individuals, could actually read the signs. NO. Since this container has been their, only three times has the laundry been placed in it. And today, the dirty sheet, yes I said sheet. Singular. As they didn't even bother to change mom's sheets today. But anyways. the bottom sheet was put into the container. Yet I had to go to the laundry room and dig out mom's undershirt and nightgown.
REALLY!
What I have to say is this. If I am injured or catch anything, because of there negligence, I am going to speak with a lawyer. I am done being nice about this. It has been going on now for almost two months. Enough is enough. PERIOD. As it is I am suffering injuries because of the accident. My back goes out, my right arm is not working properly. Or should I say, my right elbow is in extreme pain all the time and wakes me up at night.
Enough of my rants for now.
In bed and thirsty. I gave her so much to drink tonight. Needed to remove some of the covers. I made mom a really good smoothie today. And it was extremely cold. As I put it in the freezer as soon as I made it and it sat in there for 2 hours before I left today. Then it was surrounded by frozen water. So it stayed really cold.
I made her a nice sweet and sour meatball dinner. With everything else, mom ate well, as usual.
I changed her sheets. With the help of a care aid. And then her spa treatment.
When I arrived I put in a movie and this is what we watched while eating dinner and afterwards. But by the time we finished the spa treatment, mom was almost asleep. So I just stood there and held her hand,. Mom fell asleep and I watched the rest of the movie.
I sang to her our goodnight song. Mom woke up enough to tell me she loved me. And fell back to sleep.
This is when I turn everything off and kiss her on her forehead.
Still I have not been able to find a place, that I can afford.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A.Schmuland
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