Saturday, January 7, 2012

Mom is happy

PRIMER CHRISTY CLARK THE LEADER OF BRITISH COLUMBIA IS ALLOWING THE PUBLIC GUARDIAN AND TRUSTE OF BC. TO AND HAS

RUINED CHRISTMAS FOR MOTHER AND I

AND

CONTINUE TO ABUSE BOTH MY MOTHER AND I. MOTHER HAVING DEMENTIA AND LUNG CANCER, AND MYSELF HAVING TO WALK WITH A CANE AND HAVE HIP AND KNEE PROBLEMS.


Hello again


Mom is happy today, as I was able to be their for her. Thanks to my so called friend I borrowed money from.

But here is the twist. I spoke to the social worker today and mom will be moving within the next 2 weeks, most likely next week sometime. So I have nothing to get mom settled in. As in a dinner for her, rather than the hospital food. Nice to have when one moves. Especially when it is someone with Dementia. And moving into a new place.

I do not have funds to buy mom a TV. Which she will need. An Internet radio. To play her music. Things for her room, to make it  feel like home, or a variation of that.

Some nice bedding, etc...etc.... Mom needs all of this. This is what upsets me about the PGT, Them telling me they will help me with so much and they decided to be, excuse me, assholes. This is what I mean by showing their true colours. They abusive organization that they are.

I should be living in White Rock already.

Now I want to take you step by step what happens in a typical evening, when I visit mom every night.

So when I arrive at mom's place. I first undue the seat belt they make her wear. And then big hugs and kisses. I give mom something to drink, as she is usually parched. Dinner comes, I feed her what she likes out of the dinner. And then I cut up fruit and cheese that I bring. She has her juice, a coke and tea. These are the three things mom drinks. Mom likes the hot earl grey from Starbucks. Mom loves, Asian pear and cheese. This she eats allot of.

Now mom lets me know when it is time for her to go and have her spa treatment.  I take her bake to her room, I turn the bathroom light on, turn the other two lights off. I raise mom's legs and put them on the chair, that is in the room.

At this point I turn the music on, which is on my paper weight of a phone. No service. I go and get towels, face cloth's and hand towels. As well as a blanket. I cover her legs with the blanket/.

I then place a hand towel around her neck area, I brush her teeth. And give her water to rise her mouth. Now is the time for the spa therapy. I take everything out of my bag for her. All products to give mom her spa treatment. I fill a large water bottle with hot water. And then pour some into a cup that I have.

I take a face cloth, and dip it into the hot water. And dab hot water all over her face and neck. I then take out the cleanser, and rub it into her skin, cleaning her face. I use a new face cloth and dip this into the hot water to take the cleanser off. And then another cloth to make sure all the cleanser is gone.

I give mom a hug and kiss. I then put lip balm on her, then moisturiser on, and then eye serum. This is her face treatment, Now for her feet.

I take off her slippers and socks. put a couple of towels on my knee's and place her feet upon these towels. I put hot water on her feet. I then use the cleanser and clean her feet. I take fresh,clean towels and dip it into the water and do a first cleaning of her feet. I then move her feet, away and hold them up and pour hot water all over her feet. Yes it runs all over the floor, I fill the bottle up again and pour the full bottle of hot water all over her feet again. Mom just loves this. And I do to. As the floor is now covered in water. I dry her feet and put lotion all over her feet and lower legs.

I clean up the puddle of water I made, or the small lake. I get the staff to take mom to the washroom and get her ready for bed. When mom comes back, I wash her arms, the same way. And then put hand lotion on her and then regular lotion on the rest of her arms. Now mom is so relaxed it is not funny. I brush her hair. I don't know. 50 times.

I pick her up from the wheel chair and put her into her bed. At which time I clean up and get ready to go. Oh but I do not leave at this point, I still have things to do. I make mom very comfortable in bed and put my things outside the room. I turn all the lights out and while I am giving mom good night hugs and kisses. I sing mom a good night song. Nothing you or anyone knows. I make it up every night. A new song every night for mom. Usually with the words, Have a good sleep, see you tomorrow, I love my mother. I love you mom. I use all of these and make a new song every night. This is what mom wants. And this is what mom deserves. we hug and I tell her I love her and mom closes her eyes and I leave. Singing



So I will come to an end now.

GOD bless and good night

Kris

I need the money that has been promised to me now, not when they decide that they are going to stop abusing my mother and I. The $10,000.00 that has been promised

This is why I always ask.

Friday, January 6, 2012

Alzheimer's awareness month

PRIMER CHRISTY CLARK. THE LEADER OF THE PROVINCE OF BRITISH COLUMBIA IS ALLOWING THE PUBLIC GUARDIAN AND TRUSTEE OF BC TO 

RUIN CHRISTMAS FOR MY MOTHER AND I

AND TO

CONTINUE TO ABUSE MY MOTHER AND I






Hello again


I see that allot of everyone is tuning out of my blog. That is OK. I write this as it is necessary so others may experience the actual, events, feelings, frustrations and emotions of a caregiver for someone with this debilitating and progressive disease.  As well, and the most important, what is and has been happening to my mother, as mom has to deal with the drugs and doctors

What I write is the truth, I do not fabricate anything. What I write about my thoughts and feeling are exactly what is going on at that moment in time.

I do the right thing, and this should be built into everyone. To do the right thing, no matter what and how hard it may seem. How emotional it may be, and how one has to hold back the tears.

I do not do this for my mother, because it is the right thing to do. Even though this is the way I was raised. I do this because my parents raised me well. In the last many years I have found out exactly how well they have raised me. I go everyday, without even thinking about it.  I go to be their for my mother.

The last several days, that I have missed, have been hard on mom. When I am not their, mom thinks that I don't love her anymore or that I am mad at her.

Last night, I went to Queensboro, an isolated community, within the lowermainland. With sporadic, at best, buss service. I went a borrowed enough money, from someone I hate to borrow from, to get a bus pass and some things for mom. Fruit, drinks, etc... etc... I will have to repay, with high interest of course, because of the nature of the loan, and who I borrowed from. I only have to the end of the month. And the $200. I borrowed is now $400.  I went in the rain, waited 45 minutes. and then because the bus service is bad. I had to walk  1 and a half klms over the bridge to get to the Sky Train station to get home.  I was completely drenched by the time I got home. Right through to my underwear. A real rain storm, it was last night. Blowing winds.

Yes everyone knows one of these people you can borrow from with extremely high interest rates.

So today when I arrived at Oceanside, all the staff were saying to me you have missed 3 days, what happened, your mom has not had a good time. So without hesitation, I told each one, who asked the truth. That the PGT is playing games and have promised so much and not carried through with any of it. As it was with Christmas, A nothing Christmas. A present-less Christmas. Yes but mom and I had each other and that is the best Christmas one could ask for.

How the PGT has helped me with a bus pass each month. Because I have been a poor starving student,. and broke. When mom was in Coquitlam, I walked to see her. How the PGT is playing a huge game with me. To show that they are the god, and all powerful. But little do they know, they are abusing my mother, and this is showing exactly the type of organization they really are. I went on and on to each of the staff member who showed the slightest interest in why I could not make it.

I have no problem anymore telling my story to anyone who will listen. I will not be pushed around by the PGT and they will not continue to abuse my mother, as they are doing. It is I they have a problem with. As I fight for all of my mothers rights. And will continue to do.

The PGT is showing their true colours. and I am glad.

As I have been waiting until they do this. To catch them in their lies. As the protector of the elderly.

Excuse me BULL SHIT

I have so many stories about the PGT and the way they treat people it is not funny.

GOD bless and good night

Kris

Thursday, January 5, 2012

3 days and counting

Hello again

It has been three days and counting now, that I have not seen mom. And I know it is causing her great anxiety.

Mom is being discharged and is moving. This is the most important time for me to be their for her. The transition from where she is to her new home.

It is very hard on seniors to move to begin with, but having to move again, after only three months of being where she is. This can be life threatening. Their is a large percentage of seniors who pass away, after being moved, after getting comfortable in the place she is in.

Mom will be dealing with an entirely new staff. When mom moved to where she is. Well just about all the staff were from Valley View. Now with this move, their will be no one mom will know.

Now here is the number one reason I should be with her everyday. And spend more time with her than I have been. I need to be their the day she moves and walk her over their and help her get settled in. And to help her get use to the new environment and staff. The new routine, etc...

You understand, I hope. That the most important time for me to be with mom is when she is moving. But not just this, but always.

I spend allot of time, talking with her and getting her to talk to me. I found out why mom was not eating her dinner. And I am the one who puts her to bed and gets her walking. No one else is doing this.

I was banned from walking her, but the staff have not done this, at all. They don't want me to put her to bed. But this is what mom wants. So where does mom's voice come in to play.

Mom has rights as a human being. But everyone ignores these rights.

Now I ask, for your help, not for me, but for my mother.

Dementia is hard enough for my mother and all seniors to deal with, let alone having to keep on moving and having to deal with new staff, new routines, new everything.

This is a devastating disease, And I have been around this now for over 12 years and have learned so much. I can consider myself an expert.  And I do.

Now here we are 3 days and counting that the PGT is abusing my mother. By me not being their it is abusing mom. Considering mom is use to me being with her every single day. And not missing days because of the wrong doing of the few. The PGT.

I ask for your response and help. This is the right thing to do. And I am doing the right thing and will not stop. Even if others think I should be doing other things.

GOD bless and good night

Kris

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Today

Hello again

Today was the first time I have missed a day in a very long time. And today was a day I should of been their. As mom was assessed today and was discharged, so mom will be moving. And because of the PGT I could not be their to celebrate with her. I have nothing and am completely broke.

If the PGT were to of kept theri word I would be set and be in White Rock already. In a nice place that I could bring mom over and spend the day or night. But no, they have a problem and cannot keep their word.

Mom did not handle the other day when I got their late. A for me to not be their at all is going to upset her very much. Thank GOD it was after the assessment that I did not make it.

I do not know what to do tomorrow, I need to be their, I can't keep missing days. Mom needs me their with her everyday. And not to mention mom has not missed her spa treatment in along time. This relaxes her and helps mom stay calm.

I beg of anyone. O forget it.

Their was one person who said they would help me, but they do not return my calls. So that is that. I can count another person off my list of people who pretends to be my friend.

I need to be their at the hospital, mom will be moving in the next few weeks and needs more now than ever. To be with her through her move and to be their to keep her calm. And to make sure mom is completely comfortable with the move. And I am the only one who can do this.

GOD bless and good night

Kris

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Release the hounds

Hello again

PRIMER CHRISTY CLARK IS AllOWING THE PUBIC GUARDIAN AND TRUSTEE OF BC TO AND ARE

RUIN CHRISTMAS FOR MY MOTHER AND I. MOM HAS DEMENTIA AND LUNG CANCER AND I WALK WITH A CANE.

ABUSING BOTH MY MOTHER AND I

So I was able to make it out to see mom today.And for the first time in about 4 years mom said Hi to me. Clearly. This made me feel great. That everything I do is worth it. Just to hear mom actually say Hi to me is a wonderful experience.

Just to hear those words makes me know that my therapy is working.

GOD tells me to do the right thing. And all religions in the world say that I am doing the right thing by being their for mom, no matter what anyone tells me. Or says about it. Just keep doing the right thing. To look after her and be her advocate. Fight for her rights and make sure someone speaks for her.

GOD bless and good night

Oh yea I was thinking today, that I don't know what a meal is anymore. And I hope people pray that I am able to make it out to see mom everyday.

Kris

Monday, January 2, 2012

I have not begun to fight.

Hello again

PRIMER CHRISTY CLARK IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE PUBLIC GUARDIAN AND TRUSTEE OF BC THAT HAVE/ ARE ;

RUINED CHRISTMAS FOR MY MOTHER, WHO HAS DEMENTIA AND LUNG CANCER, AND MYSELF, WHO WALKS WITH A CANE AND IS MY MOTHER'S ADVOCATE.

ABUSING MY MOTHER AND MYSELF

Today I was extremely depressed I couldn't go see my mother. And my roommate came home and helped me out for today. I didn't even get to White Rock until 8PM. And mom was not even asleep, but in  bed. And was a handful for the staff. Mom was upset. I don't blame her.

But I got their and rushed in and gave mom a huge hug. And apologized to her for being late. And just hugged her and gave her kisses. Mom kept wanting hugs. She was so glad to see me.

I put on her moisturiser, and eye serum and put lotion on her feet and hands and arms. Mom was smiling greatly.

Now if it were not for my roommate mom would not of been able to see me today. I have a huge over whelming surge of emotions today. And about this. I  believe this was a miracle and GOD will bless my roommate greatly.

Mom cannot sleep without me being their. It is part of her day. And cannot be missed. Mom needs to have me their everyday. And cannot be change, or even have me not be their for even a day.

This is the PGT for you. They do not care about the abuse they are causing their clients  Or even what they do. Or even say. This is the ultimate proof about how they deal with people.

The proof is now. And what they are doing now. To deny mom my visits, and to deny me being able to visit mom everyday. To deny mom her lotions and creams. And to deny mom her fruit and drinks and snacks. This is the ultimate abuse I have always spoken of .

Right in front of your face. I knew, I would catch them in their abusive nature, one day. And this is the day.

I don't have any money to buy a pass or anything else she needs.

But remember, if I am not their everyday. Mom will not go to bed without a fuss and then the hospital will use drugs to calm her down. This is the fault of the PGT and CHRISTY CLARK PREMIER OF BC who is allowing this kind of abuse to take place.

Mom needs me their, I am the only one who gives a dam about her and is the only one who will fight for what is right and protect her rights. Someone has to. Mom cannot speak for herself, so someone has to speak for her.

It is a good thing that the PGT has now shown exactly what they are like. ABUSIVE TO THEIR CLIENTS, as I have always stated.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Happy New years to all

PREMIER CHRISTY CLARK IS ALLOWING THE PGT  RUIN CHRISTMAS FOR MY MOTHER AND I AND ARE  ALLOWING THE PGT TO ABUSE MY MOTHER AND MYSELF.


Hello again

So today I went to see mom, maybe for the last time in a while. I do not have a bus pass for January and no money to buy it. And I am completely out of all of mom's things. As in her creams, and lotions, and facial products. Then their is her fruit and drinks and snacks. Let alone some dinners for her. It would be so nice to bring mom a nice new years dinner.

I want to start by saying this, I do not do this for me. I do this because my mother deserves to have someone their for her. To fight for her, to help her, to care for her. Mom did all these things for me and it is my turn to do this for her. Mom knows this and she does not have any problem with me helping her. And when she wants to do it herself she does. We are comfortable and mom knows this, so she does not have a problem with any of this. Including, if I have to, take her to the washroom, After all I wash her face, lower legs, hands and arms, I brush her hair. I put her to bed. I get her up and walking. I sing to her. I talk to her, as I would talk to you, all the time/. Some times I just won't shut up. I will dance with her. Even though she is in the wheel chair. I am always telling her. that she can walk, talk, use her left arm and dance. She can sing. etc.... etc.....


So Christmas Eve I came home to no one and ate oats, and Christmas Day the same thing. And it is New Years Eve and I am eating nothing tonight. And tomorrow the same.

Now I want to tell you of the promises that the PGT has made to me in the last few months. And then nothing:

Help me get a car $5000.
Help me move to White Rock and get household needs $2500.
A lump sum cheque for $7000.
Help me get a phone and pay the plan for a year. $1500.
Help me get clothing $1000.

There is a few other things, but at this time I forget. So all of this was made as a promise and then I was told they did not say this.

As this is the normal way the PGT works, Make promises and then deny them. And then they tell you they will think about it.

So today, will be the first time in three and a half years that I won't be their to see mom. This is due to the PGT and their own problems. They just don't get it that mom is going to suffer. And I will too.

I have allot to say, but I am going now. As I am starving and I am going to bed.

GOD bless and good night

Kris



"The difference between the impossible
and the possible lies in a
person's determination."
- Tommy Lasorda