Hello again
I finally found out what they really think of my mother. They don't give a crap about what she feels. I heard it directly from an LPN tonight.
I asked for them to do something about the roommate. To turn her TV down, Which I have repeatedly have asked them to do, and what I was told is we will do this, and I replied that she will turn it right back up. Well we can't take the remote away from her. Then I asked about the lights, and I was told that the roommate hallucinates and it is worse when the lights are off. But we turn everything off at 11 PM. And of course the roommate turns everything right back on.
So my mom wanting to sleep in peace, doesn't even matter. Only the roommate matters. And I have sisters who do nothing about anything. And then there is, Debbie ( named changed), who is male biased. She told me when mom moved their that it is a women's job to look after their parents, not a males job. Why are you doing this. And since then, every time I make a decision, Debbie calls my, never their, Sisters and undermines my decisions.
I asked them to move the roommate within two weeks of her moving in. And nothing has been done about it. I am very tired and pissed off at these people. I will be calling a seniors advocate to speak with them and have someone attend a meeting with me and the home's staff. So they are not going to be able to play games with me.
I will be contacting the MLA for White Rock, and phoning the complaint department back on Tuesday. Monday being a holiday.
What I am saying is this is complete abuse of my mother. This roommate is even starting to get on my nerves. She is constantly asking me to do things. Even though I am in the middle of looking after mom. And then just keeps asking for things.
I am done with them.
So I need to stop now. Need to go to bed.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
Saturday, November 9, 2013
Friday, November 8, 2013
I have to do something
Hello again
First I would like to mention about what I wrote yesterday. That I am not attracted to women my age. Lets be real about this. I am poor, so they aren't attracted to me either.
It has been almost two weeks since I have had a conversation with anyone. It is true that if you are not engaged in conversations on a daily basis's, you will soon find yourself not able to have a conversation with anyone. You just won't be able to speak, or nothing will come out of you that is coherent. I use to be a wonderful conversationalist, but not anymore. I am brilliant and do have allot to say, but it is not coming out of me.
So I guess that is that. I say this as someone was trying to speak with me tonight and I couldn't even complete a logical sentence. I was thinking it, but it wasn't coming out the way it was in my mind.
Now to the real reason I write this.
Today is the 4 day that mom has been constipated. They gave her something last night, then again this morning. Then nothing, so again this evening. And nothing.
Mom was hungry, but couldn't eat as much as she wanted too. To full. I asked if they had a hot water bottle, and the person I asked looked at me as if he never heard of such a thing. It was true! Then I asked a nurse and they don't have these anymore. Someone was burned. So I got hot cloths and placed these on her stomach. Plus before I left I rubbed Vicks on her stomach. It warms up, so what the hell.
What the problem is, is that they are giving her to much Tylenol. 6 times a day. This alone, causes constipation. Yet they keep giving it to mom and everyone else.
NO BODY SHOULD BE TAKING ANY KIND OF TYLENOL. IT CAN CAUSE LIVER DAMAGE!
This is my opinion and it is factual.
Now I will be phoning in the morning, plus I will be going to my health food store and getting something that is natural that I can give her daily, to help counteract the effects of Tylenol.
Now if this doesn't work, I will go to China Town and speak with a Chinese Herbalist, that I have gone to in the past, and see what he can recommend.
But the main issue is the over use of Tylenol. Which I will be speaking with the nurse about cutting it out and substituting something else for the pain and relaxation.
Back, after looking up some natural remedies to help stop constipation. Senna is a Herb that is a natural stimulant to the bowels. Drinking 1 to 2 liters of water everyday, this is not going to happen with mom. To much water for her. There are teas one is called "smooth move" by Traditional Medicines and the other is called "Good night cleanse" by Celestial Seasonings. And to eat 20 grams of fiber a day.
I think I will start with the tea
It is Friday today and this means fish for mom. Good oils.
Well midnight again, so I will have to stop writing for now. Need to eat something and watch what I downloaded.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
First I would like to mention about what I wrote yesterday. That I am not attracted to women my age. Lets be real about this. I am poor, so they aren't attracted to me either.
It has been almost two weeks since I have had a conversation with anyone. It is true that if you are not engaged in conversations on a daily basis's, you will soon find yourself not able to have a conversation with anyone. You just won't be able to speak, or nothing will come out of you that is coherent. I use to be a wonderful conversationalist, but not anymore. I am brilliant and do have allot to say, but it is not coming out of me.
So I guess that is that. I say this as someone was trying to speak with me tonight and I couldn't even complete a logical sentence. I was thinking it, but it wasn't coming out the way it was in my mind.
Now to the real reason I write this.
Today is the 4 day that mom has been constipated. They gave her something last night, then again this morning. Then nothing, so again this evening. And nothing.
Mom was hungry, but couldn't eat as much as she wanted too. To full. I asked if they had a hot water bottle, and the person I asked looked at me as if he never heard of such a thing. It was true! Then I asked a nurse and they don't have these anymore. Someone was burned. So I got hot cloths and placed these on her stomach. Plus before I left I rubbed Vicks on her stomach. It warms up, so what the hell.
What the problem is, is that they are giving her to much Tylenol. 6 times a day. This alone, causes constipation. Yet they keep giving it to mom and everyone else.
NO BODY SHOULD BE TAKING ANY KIND OF TYLENOL. IT CAN CAUSE LIVER DAMAGE!
This is my opinion and it is factual.
Now I will be phoning in the morning, plus I will be going to my health food store and getting something that is natural that I can give her daily, to help counteract the effects of Tylenol.
Now if this doesn't work, I will go to China Town and speak with a Chinese Herbalist, that I have gone to in the past, and see what he can recommend.
But the main issue is the over use of Tylenol. Which I will be speaking with the nurse about cutting it out and substituting something else for the pain and relaxation.
Back, after looking up some natural remedies to help stop constipation. Senna is a Herb that is a natural stimulant to the bowels. Drinking 1 to 2 liters of water everyday, this is not going to happen with mom. To much water for her. There are teas one is called "smooth move" by Traditional Medicines and the other is called "Good night cleanse" by Celestial Seasonings. And to eat 20 grams of fiber a day.
I think I will start with the tea
It is Friday today and this means fish for mom. Good oils.
Well midnight again, so I will have to stop writing for now. Need to eat something and watch what I downloaded.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
We will see
Hello again
The worst thing about being an alcoholic during my 30's, I did not drink or smoke pot through out my 20's. I knew I had a problem with pot and booze in my teens. Oh where was I, Oh yea, The worst thing is I did/ was not able to meet someone special, maybe I did and I let her go. I was in love and did let her go. Being an alcoholic and pot head. She did not want to stick around. To meet that someone special, get to know each other, get married, have a family and settle down. buy a home etc..............................................
Now that I am 50 I am not attracted to the women my age. I still have hopes of have children. I would be a great father. I know it and everyone else knows it. But I am to screwed up. I don't have it together. And if I want someone younger, to be attracted to me, I need money. This I don't have.
I have just been thinking about his lately. If this did happen, I would not be able to do what I do for my mother. And I am happy that I get to do this, take care of her. It would of been nice to be able to have both. But I am happy anyways.
OK, I am pissed off that I can't find a place in White Rock, that I can afford. I am pissed off that my add's have had no responses. I explained my circumstances, but no one give a shit about someone else but themselves.
No one gives a crap that the one thing I want to do in my life is to look after my mother and by being closer to her I can help her out even more. But no one wants to give someone a break in this world.
The world is full of extremely selfish individuals. Absolutely full. Everyone tells others that they help other's but it is not even close to the truth. Just like most people who go to church. Good one day a week and then they are there true self's the rest of the week. We call them Sunday Christians.
Enough of me now.
So far the staff putting mom to bed is actually working out better. They are putting her to bed around 6 PM and changing her at the same time. Thus leaving allot of time for me to do what is needed. Instead of me putting her to bed right after dinner and then waiting for an hour for the staff to change her. We will leave it this way, and see how it goes. So far so good.
But the roommate is starting to become even more troubled. Now she is playing with the bed. Constantly raising it up and down. Talking away to her delusions. Calling the nurses all the time. The lights on, the TV extremely loud.
Mom is not getting the rest she needs or deserves!
But mom is eating very well and allot. Well I am feeding her nutritious meals. Yet she is not regular. Which is starting to concern me.
I washed her hair today, after dinner, got her ready for bed, read to her for a few minutes. Not very long.
I have ordered mom's elevating leg rests. I can't wait until she gets them. It will provide so much more support for her. So her legs are not just hanging there in mid air. But they are expensive. It is OK, mom's extended health care will cover it. Only problem, it is going to take a week to two weeks for them to get here. Apparently they have to come from the other side of the world. LOL!
But mom is healthy and I am very happy about this. I do need to speak with her doctor. That is a chore unto it's self.
There is a seminar on stroke victims and their caregivers next week and I plan on attending this to speak with a doctor or someone who knows something about it.
Getting late again, this time change is getting hard to get use to.
So GOD bless and good night.
I am going to enter another contest to see if I can win something. GOD knows that I have entered enough of them. But I will keep on with it.
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
The worst thing about being an alcoholic during my 30's, I did not drink or smoke pot through out my 20's. I knew I had a problem with pot and booze in my teens. Oh where was I, Oh yea, The worst thing is I did/ was not able to meet someone special, maybe I did and I let her go. I was in love and did let her go. Being an alcoholic and pot head. She did not want to stick around. To meet that someone special, get to know each other, get married, have a family and settle down. buy a home etc..............................................
Now that I am 50 I am not attracted to the women my age. I still have hopes of have children. I would be a great father. I know it and everyone else knows it. But I am to screwed up. I don't have it together. And if I want someone younger, to be attracted to me, I need money. This I don't have.
I have just been thinking about his lately. If this did happen, I would not be able to do what I do for my mother. And I am happy that I get to do this, take care of her. It would of been nice to be able to have both. But I am happy anyways.
OK, I am pissed off that I can't find a place in White Rock, that I can afford. I am pissed off that my add's have had no responses. I explained my circumstances, but no one give a shit about someone else but themselves.
No one gives a crap that the one thing I want to do in my life is to look after my mother and by being closer to her I can help her out even more. But no one wants to give someone a break in this world.
The world is full of extremely selfish individuals. Absolutely full. Everyone tells others that they help other's but it is not even close to the truth. Just like most people who go to church. Good one day a week and then they are there true self's the rest of the week. We call them Sunday Christians.
Enough of me now.
So far the staff putting mom to bed is actually working out better. They are putting her to bed around 6 PM and changing her at the same time. Thus leaving allot of time for me to do what is needed. Instead of me putting her to bed right after dinner and then waiting for an hour for the staff to change her. We will leave it this way, and see how it goes. So far so good.
But the roommate is starting to become even more troubled. Now she is playing with the bed. Constantly raising it up and down. Talking away to her delusions. Calling the nurses all the time. The lights on, the TV extremely loud.
Mom is not getting the rest she needs or deserves!
But mom is eating very well and allot. Well I am feeding her nutritious meals. Yet she is not regular. Which is starting to concern me.
I washed her hair today, after dinner, got her ready for bed, read to her for a few minutes. Not very long.
I have ordered mom's elevating leg rests. I can't wait until she gets them. It will provide so much more support for her. So her legs are not just hanging there in mid air. But they are expensive. It is OK, mom's extended health care will cover it. Only problem, it is going to take a week to two weeks for them to get here. Apparently they have to come from the other side of the world. LOL!
But mom is healthy and I am very happy about this. I do need to speak with her doctor. That is a chore unto it's self.
There is a seminar on stroke victims and their caregivers next week and I plan on attending this to speak with a doctor or someone who knows something about it.
Getting late again, this time change is getting hard to get use to.
So GOD bless and good night.
I am going to enter another contest to see if I can win something. GOD knows that I have entered enough of them. But I will keep on with it.
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
Monday, November 4, 2013
Oh it's a beautiful day
Hello again
I can't say it enough. The best part of my day is when I visit my mother and see her smiling face. And when I hold her hand while she falls asleep, with a huge smile on her face. The fact that she wants to hold my hand.
Even though I do not like to be touched by anyone. Mom is the exception. Otherwise, No, No and No. I get off or will not get on a bus if it is to full. I will not allow anyone to hug me. I don't even like to shake hands with anyone.
It makes for a lonely existence I do say.
It is going to be a quick blog this evening
The new nurse who is replacing the nurse I don't like, was praising me like crazy this evening. I thanked her and told her to please not praise me. It is GOD who you should be praising. It is HE who is allowing me to do this.
Mom raised me very well and it shows. This is what the nurse also told me.
Nothing is more important in this world than to look after my mother. Nothing. Nothing will stop me from being there for mom. Nothing.
It is what I am suppose to be doing with my life. To give up everything for the sake of another. To give of one's life for another.
Yes I would like things, like a girlfriend. To busy. Not just with looking after mom, but I need to move to White Rock and look after that need.
I need to go now
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
I can't say it enough. The best part of my day is when I visit my mother and see her smiling face. And when I hold her hand while she falls asleep, with a huge smile on her face. The fact that she wants to hold my hand.
Even though I do not like to be touched by anyone. Mom is the exception. Otherwise, No, No and No. I get off or will not get on a bus if it is to full. I will not allow anyone to hug me. I don't even like to shake hands with anyone.
It makes for a lonely existence I do say.
It is going to be a quick blog this evening
The new nurse who is replacing the nurse I don't like, was praising me like crazy this evening. I thanked her and told her to please not praise me. It is GOD who you should be praising. It is HE who is allowing me to do this.
Mom raised me very well and it shows. This is what the nurse also told me.
Nothing is more important in this world than to look after my mother. Nothing. Nothing will stop me from being there for mom. Nothing.
It is what I am suppose to be doing with my life. To give up everything for the sake of another. To give of one's life for another.
Yes I would like things, like a girlfriend. To busy. Not just with looking after mom, but I need to move to White Rock and look after that need.
I need to go now
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Sunday, November 3, 2013
It is another day
Hello again
A nice day today, the sun is shinning, yet it is cold outside. Mom was, as usual, happy to see me. Bath day so she was in bed, with way to many covers on her. She was wet with sweat.
I removed a few of these blankets and put her comforter on her instead. Much better. Mom ate the dinner I brought, plus part of the dinner served.
Still, mom is constipated. 3 or 4 days now.
Many people have been staring at me lately. I have no idea why. It is not as if I am that attractive. I didn't have anything on my face. Trust me I kept checking. But no one spoke with me or said hello.
Oh well!
I forgot that White Rock is an Ocean community, and colder than by the mountains where I reside.
But being in bed made for her spa treatment to be quick.
I love it when mom sings along with the music. And I love it that mom just wants to hold my hand while she falls off to sleep.
Again, mom did not want to let go of my hand when it was time for me to leave. I feel so bad that I am not close by, so I can stay later and just walk home.
You noticed I said home. I don't have a home. I am just staying somewhere and I hate coming here every single night. I don't want to be here anymore.
I figured it out. I just need two thousand dollars to get me through 6 months and I will have enough income to make it. But when you don't have two pennies to rub together, that is allot of money.
Well time to go again
I am tired, especially since it was daylight saving time last night and me being an insomniac.
So please pray for what I need.
Again, I do everything to make my mother's life better. This is why I need to be closer to her. To spend more time with her.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
A nice day today, the sun is shinning, yet it is cold outside. Mom was, as usual, happy to see me. Bath day so she was in bed, with way to many covers on her. She was wet with sweat.
I removed a few of these blankets and put her comforter on her instead. Much better. Mom ate the dinner I brought, plus part of the dinner served.
Still, mom is constipated. 3 or 4 days now.
Many people have been staring at me lately. I have no idea why. It is not as if I am that attractive. I didn't have anything on my face. Trust me I kept checking. But no one spoke with me or said hello.
Oh well!
I forgot that White Rock is an Ocean community, and colder than by the mountains where I reside.
But being in bed made for her spa treatment to be quick.
I love it when mom sings along with the music. And I love it that mom just wants to hold my hand while she falls off to sleep.
Again, mom did not want to let go of my hand when it was time for me to leave. I feel so bad that I am not close by, so I can stay later and just walk home.
You noticed I said home. I don't have a home. I am just staying somewhere and I hate coming here every single night. I don't want to be here anymore.
I figured it out. I just need two thousand dollars to get me through 6 months and I will have enough income to make it. But when you don't have two pennies to rub together, that is allot of money.
Well time to go again
I am tired, especially since it was daylight saving time last night and me being an insomniac.
So please pray for what I need.
Again, I do everything to make my mother's life better. This is why I need to be closer to her. To spend more time with her.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
We need to do more
Hello again
Yes it has been two days since my last post. Just tired last night and went to bed when I got home,..
Mom has not had to wait, as the care aid that is on, is very good and doesn't understand, herself, why this is the way it is.
Mom has eaten a very lot these last few days, but has not been able to go to the bathroom. Constipated. She is just filling up and no where to go.
We will be speaking with the nurse tomorrow.
Her roommate was asleep when I arrived today and when mom and I returned to the room. No TV playing, no hallucinations or delusions. Not talking to no one. After getting mom in bed and giving mom her nightly spa treatment, I turned out the lights and just stood there and held mom's hand while she fell off to sleep.
I had only to turn the stereo on, at volume 6, instead of the usual 10. The difference, no TV blaring in the background.
I just have to get this new nurse to give mom her nightly medication before I leave, so mom is woken up, to be given the medication. I speak with her tomorrow. It should not be a problem. I don't think, anyways. She seems to appreciate my being their for mom.
There are more and more people coming up to me telling me about their issues with this place. I have not done anything to warrant this. I am very easy to speak with. This happens all the time. People tell me all about their problems and before I know it, I know everything about them. I know allot about allot of people. But I never say anything to anyone else concerning what others tell me. Trust is important. Bringing respect.
Again no fridge for mom's room. And can't get one for my room. I need to buy groceries and have not been able to. He even emptied the salt box. It was full, as I rarely use salt for anything. Everything already has enough salt on it.
Still waiting for a price on the wheel chair leg rests. Inclining leg rests. Should be Monday. Mom really needs these.
I am mad now, mad at the fact that I can't find a place close to mom. No one gets it. I only want to help mom out even more than I am now. To be within walking distance. So I can stay longer at night. And be their for her lunch.
I don't need much. But I would like a TV again. Something I can hook my laptop too. The CRT TV's just are not good enough anymore. Can't hook anything up to them. The laptop does not have the proper connections. RCA.
It has been a very long time since I actually watched TV. I don't mean the downloads I do every night. I mean to just be able to turn the TV on and randomly watch something, nothing, anything. Nonsense if I want to.
But I think I have done something to GOD to have no help from anyone. I am a good person, I help. I do for other's without expecting anything in return.
I really must of pissed GOD off to ignore me.
I just want to help my mother. And I just need a few things. I don't ask for much. But I do ask for some help. Be it pots and pans, cutlery, dishes etc... I can get furniture from somewhere.
Everything I do I do to make my mother's life better. I give everything and I want to give even more. My mother deserves everything. All I can give and more. To make her life better. To make her life happier. To let her know someone loves her and cares for her.
And I am that person, her son.
I am going to end this for the night. Tired and hungry, so to bed to watch something, I go.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Yes it has been two days since my last post. Just tired last night and went to bed when I got home,..
Mom has not had to wait, as the care aid that is on, is very good and doesn't understand, herself, why this is the way it is.
Mom has eaten a very lot these last few days, but has not been able to go to the bathroom. Constipated. She is just filling up and no where to go.
We will be speaking with the nurse tomorrow.
Her roommate was asleep when I arrived today and when mom and I returned to the room. No TV playing, no hallucinations or delusions. Not talking to no one. After getting mom in bed and giving mom her nightly spa treatment, I turned out the lights and just stood there and held mom's hand while she fell off to sleep.
I had only to turn the stereo on, at volume 6, instead of the usual 10. The difference, no TV blaring in the background.
I just have to get this new nurse to give mom her nightly medication before I leave, so mom is woken up, to be given the medication. I speak with her tomorrow. It should not be a problem. I don't think, anyways. She seems to appreciate my being their for mom.
There are more and more people coming up to me telling me about their issues with this place. I have not done anything to warrant this. I am very easy to speak with. This happens all the time. People tell me all about their problems and before I know it, I know everything about them. I know allot about allot of people. But I never say anything to anyone else concerning what others tell me. Trust is important. Bringing respect.
Again no fridge for mom's room. And can't get one for my room. I need to buy groceries and have not been able to. He even emptied the salt box. It was full, as I rarely use salt for anything. Everything already has enough salt on it.
Still waiting for a price on the wheel chair leg rests. Inclining leg rests. Should be Monday. Mom really needs these.
I am mad now, mad at the fact that I can't find a place close to mom. No one gets it. I only want to help mom out even more than I am now. To be within walking distance. So I can stay longer at night. And be their for her lunch.
I don't need much. But I would like a TV again. Something I can hook my laptop too. The CRT TV's just are not good enough anymore. Can't hook anything up to them. The laptop does not have the proper connections. RCA.
It has been a very long time since I actually watched TV. I don't mean the downloads I do every night. I mean to just be able to turn the TV on and randomly watch something, nothing, anything. Nonsense if I want to.
But I think I have done something to GOD to have no help from anyone. I am a good person, I help. I do for other's without expecting anything in return.
I really must of pissed GOD off to ignore me.
I just want to help my mother. And I just need a few things. I don't ask for much. But I do ask for some help. Be it pots and pans, cutlery, dishes etc... I can get furniture from somewhere.
Everything I do I do to make my mother's life better. I give everything and I want to give even more. My mother deserves everything. All I can give and more. To make her life better. To make her life happier. To let her know someone loves her and cares for her.
And I am that person, her son.
I am going to end this for the night. Tired and hungry, so to bed to watch something, I go.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
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