Hello again
So as the days are going on, mom is enjoying her new space.
The girls, mom's daughters, came today. All I see is a card. No flowers for their mother. Come on now!. One card for an entire family. Really! There have been times when I wanted to get mom flowers and I had no money to do so. So I went around and picked some flowers for mom.
It is that simple. They both have homes, is it to difficult to pick some of your flowers or even bring her a plant. I am glad to take care of it. As I do anyways.
The Christmas poinsettia lasted until March. It would of lasted longer, but the staff members kept over watering it. Even though I left a note to please not water the plants.
After everything my parents have done for the girls, they could not even bring mom flowers. Mom was happy they came, she told me so. But it seems they are not that affectionate towards mom.
What she has is not contagious! It is mom.......
To bad if you can't handle what is happening to her. Suck it up, as I have always said, and just be their for her. As I am.
I know mom is sick and has many problems. But I don't let them bother me. I am just their for her. In what ever way I can/
To me it is to be their everyday and do whatever I can for her. It is the little things that matter. As wiping her nose, her mouth, her eyes. Washing her hands, changing her at night. Doing her laundry. Making sure mom has fresh fruit and her smoothie, that she loves.
To sing to her, to stand with her while she is falling asleep, holding her hand. To just talk to her the way that we speak to each other.
To ask her what she wants, To give mom the choice each time. To notice when mom is not feeling well, or is tired or just wants to go to bed. Or even when her diaper is dirty.
It is the little things that make her life more enjoyable.
Yes I like to spoil mom, and she should be spoiled.
After all mom did a great job raising me. And I will in turn do everything to look after her.
And for me, I am in more pain today than I have felt in a long time. This dam headache won't go away. And I am having a hard time using my right arm, because of the elbow issue.
Can't carry what I normally carry each day. By the time I get home I can barely mover.
Still need a place. Someone I know needed a place for a few months or less, while he is in town looking after his mother. Who is in the same way as my mother. And we have the same case manager at the PGT.
It is a temporary fix. Still need a place. Can't live her much longer.
Please pray for me that GOD puts a place in my way ASAP
GOD bless and goodnight
Kris Schmuland
Saturday, May 10, 2014
Wednesday, May 7, 2014
Really I am not impressed
Hello again'
I am in pain all the time as it is, I don't need to be in more pain. Or to not be able to carry what I am use too. Just doing my normal things, each day, is hurting. My neck is cracking all the time, when I try to turn it. Yes, you say, "then don't turn it" It is hard not to, when one has to keep an eye out for everything.
So I was just making mom a pasta dinner for tomorrow. Fresh pasta and a nice sauce. Well I opened a jar of sauce and the bottom broke. Pasta sauce everywhere. And I don't know if and where glass is, so I through everything away. Well I rinsed the pasta off and put it out in the communal dish, for the raccoons and crows. This is where the left overs go....
I couldn't serve mom any of this. I still have pasta left over and I need to go get my printer tomorrow morning. I will pick up another jar of sauce and make it before I leave. Hopefully I have time.
The one main thing about mom in her new room, is that she no longer wants me to put my phone on her chest to listen to music. She just wants to listen to the stereo. Sounds so much better anyways. When she gets into bed, there is a large smile on her face. She seems so much more relaxed and happy.
I stayed with as long as I could tonight. The staff is coming in latter. They are casuals and not familiar with mom's routine. Changed and in bed before 7 pm. This gives me enough time for her spa treatment and hold her hand while she falls asleep.
I will just have to stay latter.
I am in this empty place, no furniture and I haven't paid rent yet. I don't have the whole amount. I hate to do this to the landlord, but no choice. He takes half or nothing.
I still haven't found an affordable place yet. I am getting really worried.
Anyways I need to go, I am in pain and want to lie down and relax.
Please pray a place comes my way soon.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
I am in pain all the time as it is, I don't need to be in more pain. Or to not be able to carry what I am use too. Just doing my normal things, each day, is hurting. My neck is cracking all the time, when I try to turn it. Yes, you say, "then don't turn it" It is hard not to, when one has to keep an eye out for everything.
So I was just making mom a pasta dinner for tomorrow. Fresh pasta and a nice sauce. Well I opened a jar of sauce and the bottom broke. Pasta sauce everywhere. And I don't know if and where glass is, so I through everything away. Well I rinsed the pasta off and put it out in the communal dish, for the raccoons and crows. This is where the left overs go....
I couldn't serve mom any of this. I still have pasta left over and I need to go get my printer tomorrow morning. I will pick up another jar of sauce and make it before I leave. Hopefully I have time.
The one main thing about mom in her new room, is that she no longer wants me to put my phone on her chest to listen to music. She just wants to listen to the stereo. Sounds so much better anyways. When she gets into bed, there is a large smile on her face. She seems so much more relaxed and happy.
I stayed with as long as I could tonight. The staff is coming in latter. They are casuals and not familiar with mom's routine. Changed and in bed before 7 pm. This gives me enough time for her spa treatment and hold her hand while she falls asleep.
I will just have to stay latter.
I am in this empty place, no furniture and I haven't paid rent yet. I don't have the whole amount. I hate to do this to the landlord, but no choice. He takes half or nothing.
I still haven't found an affordable place yet. I am getting really worried.
Anyways I need to go, I am in pain and want to lie down and relax.
Please pray a place comes my way soon.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Monday, May 5, 2014
A good and bad day
Hello again
I say this as it is a good day for mom. She is more relaxed and feeling comfortable in her new space. I don't even need to put my phone on her chest, as before. Mom just wants the stereo on. Her smiles are larger and even her left hand is more relaxed.
I just have to get the staff to start getting mom into bed before 7 as they are to do. They all know I travel 3 hours to get home each day. Mom is to be put into bed between 6:00 and 6:30 pm.
Mom ate well, but wanted to go to bed, and when she was in bed, was hungry still. I just had cookies in the room. Not even any fruit. I couldn't make it to the store today. T&T The opposite direction I was going today.. And would not have had the time to get their and then to mom's.
Other than this, mom is fine, no changes with her Dementia/strokes. This is a great thing. I am hoping that things are going to improve now that the noise is gone. She is getting there.
For me, I had to pick up some groceries and drinks for mom. I carry a hell of allot everyday to and from mom's. And when I get her drinks, I am picking up two 6 packs of her coke. The larger bottles. Plus her juice and water. And I do this without any problems.
Well not today. My bags were full and then I had a large bag full of her drinks and by the time I got home, I am in serious pain. The two short blocks I needed to walk after getting off the bus, was, well, hell. Very painful. Normally it takes me less than 5 minutes to get home. Tonight, 15 minutes. I had to stop and put the bag down and rest.
I can barely stand now. And even the movement of typing is painful.
I have to go, it is late and I need to get up early. It is a busy week. I might not be able to write on my blog for a few days. I need to get up extra early the next few days. And remember I don't even get home until 11pm.
By the way, a friend, sort of, got back into town and needed a place for a few months. So I have someone to help with rent for now.
I know him, as his mom is in the same state as my mother and we have the same trustee. He works oversee's and comes into town, 3 times a year for a few months to take care of his mother.
I need to look at a place this Friday. We will see
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
I say this as it is a good day for mom. She is more relaxed and feeling comfortable in her new space. I don't even need to put my phone on her chest, as before. Mom just wants the stereo on. Her smiles are larger and even her left hand is more relaxed.
I just have to get the staff to start getting mom into bed before 7 as they are to do. They all know I travel 3 hours to get home each day. Mom is to be put into bed between 6:00 and 6:30 pm.
Mom ate well, but wanted to go to bed, and when she was in bed, was hungry still. I just had cookies in the room. Not even any fruit. I couldn't make it to the store today. T&T The opposite direction I was going today.. And would not have had the time to get their and then to mom's.
Other than this, mom is fine, no changes with her Dementia/strokes. This is a great thing. I am hoping that things are going to improve now that the noise is gone. She is getting there.
For me, I had to pick up some groceries and drinks for mom. I carry a hell of allot everyday to and from mom's. And when I get her drinks, I am picking up two 6 packs of her coke. The larger bottles. Plus her juice and water. And I do this without any problems.
Well not today. My bags were full and then I had a large bag full of her drinks and by the time I got home, I am in serious pain. The two short blocks I needed to walk after getting off the bus, was, well, hell. Very painful. Normally it takes me less than 5 minutes to get home. Tonight, 15 minutes. I had to stop and put the bag down and rest.
I can barely stand now. And even the movement of typing is painful.
I have to go, it is late and I need to get up early. It is a busy week. I might not be able to write on my blog for a few days. I need to get up extra early the next few days. And remember I don't even get home until 11pm.
By the way, a friend, sort of, got back into town and needed a place for a few months. So I have someone to help with rent for now.
I know him, as his mom is in the same state as my mother and we have the same trustee. He works oversee's and comes into town, 3 times a year for a few months to take care of his mother.
I need to look at a place this Friday. We will see
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Sunday, May 4, 2014
It just poured
Hello again
It use to be mom's bath day, but since we switched rooms, it is now Saturday for bath day. So today was different. You get use to a certain routine. I am not the only one who is off, mom is as well.
It is when mom is very tired I get worried. It is the weekend though and mom seems to be very tired. It could be just the rain. We will see what she is like tomorrow.
Mom seems more relaxed in her new space. Instead of having the phone on her chest, mom just wants to listen to the stereo. It sounds better anyways. We sat their, while waiting for mom to get changed. Speaking of this. The casual staff seem to be coming into change mom after 7 pm. Knowing full well that I need to leave by 7:50 pm. By coming in at this time, it makes me have to rush to get mom's spa treatment done. I like to spend a good while, just standing there and hold mom's hand, while she falls asleep.
The nurse even has brought it up, every night. But to no avail. It is not fair to mom, who needs this comfort, of me holding her hand at the end of her day.
Mom's left hand seems to be relaxing and will open up within a week. I can almost guarantee it. She is speaking, a little. Of course it is going to take mom a little while to get use to the quite of her new room. Being around noise for a year and a half. Sleeping or not to noise, hallucinations and delusions.
Myself I am in extreme pain, my right elbow is hurting and I have no clue how this happened. I don't remember hitting it in the accident. But it happened so fast, I am not sure of it.
Can't turn my neck left or right. And my back is hurting. I am having a hard time carrying what I normally carry each day. I bring things back and forth to mom's daily. Her laundry, dinner, drinks and other things. Tomorrow I have to get her drinks. Since they are on sale, I need to buy them. I am not looking forward to having to carry them home.
I am having to take extra pain killers. Which I am not happy about. I also have to get a printer this week and carry that home.
Anyways, I am there for the long haul, when it comes to looking after mom. Not going anywhere.
I still have not found a place, The landlord will be taking me to the rental board for eviction. I just can't afford to pay the $1050 it cost for this whole place.
Have to go. Need some rest. Get off my feet and just lay down. After I pray.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
It use to be mom's bath day, but since we switched rooms, it is now Saturday for bath day. So today was different. You get use to a certain routine. I am not the only one who is off, mom is as well.
It is when mom is very tired I get worried. It is the weekend though and mom seems to be very tired. It could be just the rain. We will see what she is like tomorrow.
Mom seems more relaxed in her new space. Instead of having the phone on her chest, mom just wants to listen to the stereo. It sounds better anyways. We sat their, while waiting for mom to get changed. Speaking of this. The casual staff seem to be coming into change mom after 7 pm. Knowing full well that I need to leave by 7:50 pm. By coming in at this time, it makes me have to rush to get mom's spa treatment done. I like to spend a good while, just standing there and hold mom's hand, while she falls asleep.
The nurse even has brought it up, every night. But to no avail. It is not fair to mom, who needs this comfort, of me holding her hand at the end of her day.
Mom's left hand seems to be relaxing and will open up within a week. I can almost guarantee it. She is speaking, a little. Of course it is going to take mom a little while to get use to the quite of her new room. Being around noise for a year and a half. Sleeping or not to noise, hallucinations and delusions.
Myself I am in extreme pain, my right elbow is hurting and I have no clue how this happened. I don't remember hitting it in the accident. But it happened so fast, I am not sure of it.
Can't turn my neck left or right. And my back is hurting. I am having a hard time carrying what I normally carry each day. I bring things back and forth to mom's daily. Her laundry, dinner, drinks and other things. Tomorrow I have to get her drinks. Since they are on sale, I need to buy them. I am not looking forward to having to carry them home.
I am having to take extra pain killers. Which I am not happy about. I also have to get a printer this week and carry that home.
Anyways, I am there for the long haul, when it comes to looking after mom. Not going anywhere.
I still have not found a place, The landlord will be taking me to the rental board for eviction. I just can't afford to pay the $1050 it cost for this whole place.
Have to go. Need some rest. Get off my feet and just lay down. After I pray.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
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