Hello again
Today, when I arrived the nurse found me to let me know that mom is out of liquid B-Complex. So I proceeded to inform her of the situation. The nurse then told me that she would go through mom's chart and let me know if the doctor had seen the request and/or approved it.
A few hours later the nurse came back to me to tell me that mom's doctor was in today and approved it once again.
Now is it a fictional individual that the PGT is telling me, that they told her that mom cannot take the supplements or is it an individual who is just speaking nonsense and has their own agenda.
Whatever it is I will be giving the manager a redacted copy of the email which I received from the PGT.
Now through all this today, mom was just smiling away. She knows I am there to look after her and her needs. I think she loves it when I do whatever is necessary to protect her. I do my best to not say or do anything in front of her. I just need mom to remain calm, relaxed and happy.
I have said this before. I leave my stuff in my imaginary bucket at the door. Then I allow myself to pick it up when I leave. Therefore when I am visiting with mom, it is all about her. I won't answer my phone or talk about issues in front of her. I tell whomever it is I will not speak on this while I am with mom. I will come in early or we can speak before I leave when mom is in bed. Asleep.
I needed to leave early, so I could get to this store to pick up; some frozen berries for mom's smoothies. The store I was at last night did not have what it was I was looking for. Neither did this store. So I had to pick up the smaller bags. Waste of money. Not a value for my buck. On the good side, I ended up with enough points that I have $20.00 worth of free groceries now. So when they get the stock in I will be able to stock up on mom's fruit and a few other things.
Okay, I can see by my writing I am getting tired. Been this way.
Yes mom. Another healthy dinner and then tonight, I took her and washed and styled her hair. Afterwards it was a quick spa treatment. Okay not so quick. The full version. Then I had to pack up and get going. Mom understood. I will just stay later tomorrow night.
Need to go and at least try to eat something. I have not been very hungry lately. My right arm is really bothering me. The shaking that is. And my hearing is also a real bother. I need to hear. It is really worrying me. I need to be able to hear what the staff are saying to me to be effective.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher Schmuland
Friday, March 27, 2015
Thursday, March 26, 2015
Lies
Hello again
So the the case manager at the PGT sends me an email telling me that her contact at Al Hogg has stated that the doctor has said he doesn't approve, at this time, of mom taking either the Vega One supplement or the liquid B-Complex supplement.
I wrote back letting her know that I would be informed if this was the case. I would be told to not, at this moment in time, bring anymore of these products in.
Upon arrival today, being Thursday, I immediately asked the nurse if there is a stop order for mom's supplements. We throughly checked the chart and nothing. Both supplements were approved by the doctor
More lies from either Janet or Sherri. It could be someone else. If so that means there is someone else who is lying to the PGT. from Al Hogg.
I am expecting lies from the staff. it is part of there nature to cover up, deny and lie to the children of the residents. They don't want to have it get out that there staff is abusing the residents. As in my case. "We don't know who was on that morning that slammed the lift bar into your mother head" OK I was paraphrasing.
As well as all the other bruises that mom has obtained from the staff with the typical response "We don't know what happened"
Enough for now.
Mom seemed in good spirits today, happy as usual. To see me anyways. Thirsty, as usual. After the nurse and I went through mom's chart, I got her down to her room and let mom drink as much as she wanted. And a little snack while I was getting everything ready for dinner.
I turned the new on. Mom is interested in watching the news each night while she has dinner. I turn her chair towards the TV so she doesn't have to strain her neck. I made her a very nice and healthy dinner this evening. So we turned down the served dinner. And mom ate every single bit of it. And when done and I changed her for the night. I sat next to her, covered her in a blanket. While we waited for the staff to come in. Then mom just pulled my hand closer to her,, then started to drift off to sleep. Maybe not to sleep. But closed her eye's/.
Maybe not even that. When mom is finished dinner and I then turn the Radio on, when she grabs my hand, her eye's start to close. Mom fights it, but her eye's do this open and closing thing. It is funny and sweet at the same time.
And nothing else differed tonight. The spa treatment, then held her hand while I waited for it to be the time I have to leave. Usually about a half hour.
And here I am. 3 hours or so after I left the home.
I am very tired as of late. I tossed and turned all night last night. And when I woke up this morning I was covered in sweat. Soaking wet. No idea why. Oh well.
So I leave you with your thoughts.
GOD Bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
I ask again if you or anyone you know have any stories of mistreatment of your loved one's or others at the hands of staff, please write me and I will post it on my blog.
I am planning to add a page for just that, Stories of abuse or acts of extreme kindness. I have one already in mind, I am awaiting approval to publish it.
So write me, tell me everything.
So the the case manager at the PGT sends me an email telling me that her contact at Al Hogg has stated that the doctor has said he doesn't approve, at this time, of mom taking either the Vega One supplement or the liquid B-Complex supplement.
I wrote back letting her know that I would be informed if this was the case. I would be told to not, at this moment in time, bring anymore of these products in.
Upon arrival today, being Thursday, I immediately asked the nurse if there is a stop order for mom's supplements. We throughly checked the chart and nothing. Both supplements were approved by the doctor
More lies from either Janet or Sherri. It could be someone else. If so that means there is someone else who is lying to the PGT. from Al Hogg.
I am expecting lies from the staff. it is part of there nature to cover up, deny and lie to the children of the residents. They don't want to have it get out that there staff is abusing the residents. As in my case. "We don't know who was on that morning that slammed the lift bar into your mother head" OK I was paraphrasing.
As well as all the other bruises that mom has obtained from the staff with the typical response "We don't know what happened"
Enough for now.
Mom seemed in good spirits today, happy as usual. To see me anyways. Thirsty, as usual. After the nurse and I went through mom's chart, I got her down to her room and let mom drink as much as she wanted. And a little snack while I was getting everything ready for dinner.
I turned the new on. Mom is interested in watching the news each night while she has dinner. I turn her chair towards the TV so she doesn't have to strain her neck. I made her a very nice and healthy dinner this evening. So we turned down the served dinner. And mom ate every single bit of it. And when done and I changed her for the night. I sat next to her, covered her in a blanket. While we waited for the staff to come in. Then mom just pulled my hand closer to her,, then started to drift off to sleep. Maybe not to sleep. But closed her eye's/.
Maybe not even that. When mom is finished dinner and I then turn the Radio on, when she grabs my hand, her eye's start to close. Mom fights it, but her eye's do this open and closing thing. It is funny and sweet at the same time.
And nothing else differed tonight. The spa treatment, then held her hand while I waited for it to be the time I have to leave. Usually about a half hour.
And here I am. 3 hours or so after I left the home.
I am very tired as of late. I tossed and turned all night last night. And when I woke up this morning I was covered in sweat. Soaking wet. No idea why. Oh well.
So I leave you with your thoughts.
GOD Bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
I ask again if you or anyone you know have any stories of mistreatment of your loved one's or others at the hands of staff, please write me and I will post it on my blog.
I am planning to add a page for just that, Stories of abuse or acts of extreme kindness. I have one already in mind, I am awaiting approval to publish it.
So write me, tell me everything.
Wow the skies have opened up.
Hello again
Usually when I travel to White Rock to see mom, I tend to go through many different weather systems. But not today. From the mountains to the ocean, just hard rain. It is okay, I don't melt, I may rust though.
I tried to get to mom's early so I could hand deliver the cease and desist order to Janet herself. I will be mailing the others out. Two to the newspapers and one to Pivot Legal Society.
But I could not get there in time. So I will try again tomorrow.
Well mom looked great today. A big smile and she then reached for my hand. Didn't want to let go. I know mom is glad to see me and I her. Even pushing mom down to her room, she wanted to hold my hand. I did the best I could. When I let go, she got upset. So I was pushing her from behind and reaching forward to hold her hand.
I had to be quick about giving her something to drink and a snack. As it was approaching five, dinner time. I made sure I brought her something good to eat. This way we didn't need the served dinner. And mom ate all of it.
Afterwards I washed and styled her hair. And once down mom was falling asleep. So I needed to get her ready for bed right away. Which I did. Then I pulled the chair up to her and sat there with her, while we waited for the care staff to come to put her to bed. We were done early, so it wasn't 6:30 yet. A little time. Mom grabbed my hand, pulled it close to her and started to drift off.
When the care staff was done, mom only wanted part of her spa treatment done. I know this. When she is really tired like this, she doesn't want her legs done. Just the upper body.
And off she went to sleep. Mom was out cold very early this evening. So I was able to leave early.
This I did, as I am tired as well.
Please Pray
Kristopher Schmuland
Usually when I travel to White Rock to see mom, I tend to go through many different weather systems. But not today. From the mountains to the ocean, just hard rain. It is okay, I don't melt, I may rust though.
I tried to get to mom's early so I could hand deliver the cease and desist order to Janet herself. I will be mailing the others out. Two to the newspapers and one to Pivot Legal Society.
But I could not get there in time. So I will try again tomorrow.
Well mom looked great today. A big smile and she then reached for my hand. Didn't want to let go. I know mom is glad to see me and I her. Even pushing mom down to her room, she wanted to hold my hand. I did the best I could. When I let go, she got upset. So I was pushing her from behind and reaching forward to hold her hand.
I had to be quick about giving her something to drink and a snack. As it was approaching five, dinner time. I made sure I brought her something good to eat. This way we didn't need the served dinner. And mom ate all of it.
Afterwards I washed and styled her hair. And once down mom was falling asleep. So I needed to get her ready for bed right away. Which I did. Then I pulled the chair up to her and sat there with her, while we waited for the care staff to come to put her to bed. We were done early, so it wasn't 6:30 yet. A little time. Mom grabbed my hand, pulled it close to her and started to drift off.
When the care staff was done, mom only wanted part of her spa treatment done. I know this. When she is really tired like this, she doesn't want her legs done. Just the upper body.
And off she went to sleep. Mom was out cold very early this evening. So I was able to leave early.
This I did, as I am tired as well.
Please Pray
Kristopher Schmuland
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Help I need somebody
Hello again
Today I met with the manager and delivered a hard copy of the cease and desist letter and we had a nice discussion. We went through all my complaints one by one. Janet Bowers the OT will not be purchasing any clothing for my mother. What we are going to do is, when I find another seamstress, we will go through mom's clothing and have a few at a time adapted to suit all of our needs.
The nightgowns will be done according to the managers and my previous agreement on where it should be cut and sewn to. Cut up and seamed to 3 "from the top of the nightgown. As we agreed upon two months ago.
But when I mentioned that one of the staff members where calling or called the PGT she was very interested in that. Not to happy about this. I started to change the subject and all she wanted to do was get back to a staff member calling the PGT. So I let the manager read the email. After I informed her it was the PGT who let me know about this. Concerning mom gaining weight
After the manager read the PGT's email I proceeded to let her know that in January I discussed this with Kim and let her know, at the time, that I knew mom was gaining weight and I am going to do something about it. It will take time, she understands this.
The manager informed me that Janet will not be making any purchases of adaptive clothing. At which point I mentioned that it would not be in her best interest and that I would file a civil suit against her alone, not Fraser Health.
Okay, now for more about mom.
After I was done with the manager I saw mom by the window looking out and she seemed like she was enjoying the view. Beautiful day, finally. Big smile on her face. We went back to her room and did the usual thing, drinks a small snack before dinner and then dinner. Mom has cut down on the amount of what she is eating. I have noticed this. I have also reduced the size of the portions I bring her. I do feel guilty about this. I want mom to eat as much as she wants. But that is not a good idea. That won't keep her healthy.
Afterwards she was looking forward to the spa treatment and me singing to her. She holds my hand and I sing along with the music playing. Soft jazz. And we both know the lyrics to the songs.
I just love it that when I leave mom is so completely relaxed it almost puts me to sleep. After I pack up I always stay for awhile, just holding her hand. She won't go to sleep until I sing our good night song to her. She waits. When she is really tired I sing it to her early.
Well I am extremely tired. The stress from this over the weekend, writing to all these people, coupled with me not getting much sleep has made me extremely tired today.
I still need to deal with the PGT and this new case manager. The regional manager still has not returned my call. I will try again tomorrow morning.
I NEED TO LIVE IN WHITE ROCK. PLEASE PRAY FOR MOM AND I. THANK YOU.
It benefits mom more than me. Okay as much. I would get to spend more time with her. That is all I want. To be there more often.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Today I met with the manager and delivered a hard copy of the cease and desist letter and we had a nice discussion. We went through all my complaints one by one. Janet Bowers the OT will not be purchasing any clothing for my mother. What we are going to do is, when I find another seamstress, we will go through mom's clothing and have a few at a time adapted to suit all of our needs.
The nightgowns will be done according to the managers and my previous agreement on where it should be cut and sewn to. Cut up and seamed to 3 "from the top of the nightgown. As we agreed upon two months ago.
But when I mentioned that one of the staff members where calling or called the PGT she was very interested in that. Not to happy about this. I started to change the subject and all she wanted to do was get back to a staff member calling the PGT. So I let the manager read the email. After I informed her it was the PGT who let me know about this. Concerning mom gaining weight
After the manager read the PGT's email I proceeded to let her know that in January I discussed this with Kim and let her know, at the time, that I knew mom was gaining weight and I am going to do something about it. It will take time, she understands this.
The manager informed me that Janet will not be making any purchases of adaptive clothing. At which point I mentioned that it would not be in her best interest and that I would file a civil suit against her alone, not Fraser Health.
Okay, now for more about mom.
After I was done with the manager I saw mom by the window looking out and she seemed like she was enjoying the view. Beautiful day, finally. Big smile on her face. We went back to her room and did the usual thing, drinks a small snack before dinner and then dinner. Mom has cut down on the amount of what she is eating. I have noticed this. I have also reduced the size of the portions I bring her. I do feel guilty about this. I want mom to eat as much as she wants. But that is not a good idea. That won't keep her healthy.
Afterwards she was looking forward to the spa treatment and me singing to her. She holds my hand and I sing along with the music playing. Soft jazz. And we both know the lyrics to the songs.
I just love it that when I leave mom is so completely relaxed it almost puts me to sleep. After I pack up I always stay for awhile, just holding her hand. She won't go to sleep until I sing our good night song to her. She waits. When she is really tired I sing it to her early.
Well I am extremely tired. The stress from this over the weekend, writing to all these people, coupled with me not getting much sleep has made me extremely tired today.
I still need to deal with the PGT and this new case manager. The regional manager still has not returned my call. I will try again tomorrow morning.
I NEED TO LIVE IN WHITE ROCK. PLEASE PRAY FOR MOM AND I. THANK YOU.
It benefits mom more than me. Okay as much. I would get to spend more time with her. That is all I want. To be there more often.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Monday, March 23, 2015
Very stressful weekend
Hello again
I have not written anything on his Blog, as it states I have had a very stressful weekend. I tell you about it in a minute.
First if anyone wants to know. It was a sprained finger and hand that is all it was. Not broken.
Mom, Mary, is doing fine. Healthy and I guess happy. Again for someone in her position. Not being able to do anything. It really guilts me every time I see her. That I haven't been able to take her outside. I travel so much. It seems that no matter how early I leave, I always get their at the same time. If it is not one thing, it is another that delays me.
So mom needs to loose some weight, I have mentioned this before. I have been letting her know that we both need to loose ten pounds. Since Christmas I have been cutting down on her dinner. Slowly cutting back the portions. I just spoiled her at Christmas. So she gained some weight I knew this and the LPN and myself discussed this in January. We are working on it. It doesn't take long to gain weight, yet it sure takes a long time to loose it. Doesn't it!
Just to point this out, what the staff are like, excuse me, some of the staff are like. One of the staff members at Al Hogg called the PGT and told them about my supplementing mom's dinners with home cooked meals. I am not supplementing mom's served diners. I am giving mom a home cooked meal. I tend to bring mom allot of vegetarian dinners, and mom likes to have some meat with her meals, so I take the meat portion from the tray and leave the rest.Telling the PGT that mom has gained weight and other health issues. Again it was already discussed and it is being taken care of.
Now mom ate well over the weekend, Not to much of course She enjoyed the spa treatments greatly. Was very relaxed. I sang as much as I could to her. I have a sore throat now. All good. And tonight mom was singing along with the music. As was I.
Now what happened to cause me to have a stressful weekend was on Friday, 5:30 pm after the case manager finished working at the PGT, she sends me an email telling me that Janet Bowers the OT Occupational therapist at Al Hogg is going to be buying adaptive clothing from now on. That the PGT is not going to assist me with funds to have the nightgowns I purchased with my own funds adapted. And no undershirts either. So I have nightgowns that, for now, I can't do anything with. I will have to find some cash to get them altered.
I found it cowardly that this case manager at the PGT would send the email at that time, not even giving me the opportunity to respond to it or her.
First of all I make the decisions on what mom wears and doesn't wear. Janet Bowers at Al Hogg does not have Commitee of person. So she can't make any decisions like this without asking me first. Janet thinks because the PGT told her she could that it is all okay. NOT! The PGT does not have the power to tell Janet this. The PGT only can agree to pay for the clothing. That is it.
I replied that mom has a closet full of clothing that can be adapted. Check it out, the adaptive clothing that is sold are the ugliest things anyone has seen. Made of crap, nothing natural about them. And mom is use to wearing clothing made of natural fabrics.
I have even told the PGT that from now on I am going to try to purchase the clothing for mom myself. I will find a way.
I have been extremely pissed off all weekend long. So I wrote Janet a cease and desist order, spelling out exactly what is going to be done. That the PGT can't make these decisions and you will not be purchasing any and all clothing for my mother.
It says more than this. Allot more. This women Janet is nothing but obstinate and rude. Each meeting with her is a waste of my time. I did mention her before. it is the same women who didn't care that the staff tore my mother's nightgowns. .
So I was busy writing a Cease and Desist Order for Janet Bowers and any other staff member who would or might make these decisions. I finished it and saved it to draft. I kept looking at the order and email, but not certain I should send it. It wasn't until 2 am that I decided that I have to send it otherwise Janet will take future liberties that are hers not to make.
I didn't just send it to Janet, I sent it to the manager, the director, a women at the complaint office, 2 reporter at the Vancouver Sun and Pivot Legal Society. I think that is it. I did this to stop Janet from saying she didn't receive it. The cease and desist order was in the body of the email. So I copied and pasted the order into my word processor, than printed out a half dozen of the orders to hand deliver to each of the recipients at Al Hogg. Then I will mail the order to the other recipients at the new paper and the legal society. This I did to cover my own bottom. To say to a judge if I decide to take civil action against Janet Bowers OT at Al Hogg. If she does purchase any of the clothing.
I took the letters with me today, but I missed a bus, I watched it pull out as the train was pulling into the station. I needed to be their before 4 pm. I would of been but I had to wait until the next bus So when I arrived at Al Hogg all were gone for the day.
This is going to take along time to go through. So I will have to do this over the next few days. Or I should just paste the emails up on here. Including the email from the PGT,
So for today I will have to let you all go. I was up late contemplating whether to send the email or not.
GOD bless and good night.
Please pray that I can find a place out their in White Rock. Especially now that this is going on. I need to be their during the day to catch this person to stop them from doing anything I disagree with
Kristopher Schmuland
I have not written anything on his Blog, as it states I have had a very stressful weekend. I tell you about it in a minute.
First if anyone wants to know. It was a sprained finger and hand that is all it was. Not broken.
Mom, Mary, is doing fine. Healthy and I guess happy. Again for someone in her position. Not being able to do anything. It really guilts me every time I see her. That I haven't been able to take her outside. I travel so much. It seems that no matter how early I leave, I always get their at the same time. If it is not one thing, it is another that delays me.
So mom needs to loose some weight, I have mentioned this before. I have been letting her know that we both need to loose ten pounds. Since Christmas I have been cutting down on her dinner. Slowly cutting back the portions. I just spoiled her at Christmas. So she gained some weight I knew this and the LPN and myself discussed this in January. We are working on it. It doesn't take long to gain weight, yet it sure takes a long time to loose it. Doesn't it!
Just to point this out, what the staff are like, excuse me, some of the staff are like. One of the staff members at Al Hogg called the PGT and told them about my supplementing mom's dinners with home cooked meals. I am not supplementing mom's served diners. I am giving mom a home cooked meal. I tend to bring mom allot of vegetarian dinners, and mom likes to have some meat with her meals, so I take the meat portion from the tray and leave the rest.Telling the PGT that mom has gained weight and other health issues. Again it was already discussed and it is being taken care of.
Now mom ate well over the weekend, Not to much of course She enjoyed the spa treatments greatly. Was very relaxed. I sang as much as I could to her. I have a sore throat now. All good. And tonight mom was singing along with the music. As was I.
Now what happened to cause me to have a stressful weekend was on Friday, 5:30 pm after the case manager finished working at the PGT, she sends me an email telling me that Janet Bowers the OT Occupational therapist at Al Hogg is going to be buying adaptive clothing from now on. That the PGT is not going to assist me with funds to have the nightgowns I purchased with my own funds adapted. And no undershirts either. So I have nightgowns that, for now, I can't do anything with. I will have to find some cash to get them altered.
I found it cowardly that this case manager at the PGT would send the email at that time, not even giving me the opportunity to respond to it or her.
First of all I make the decisions on what mom wears and doesn't wear. Janet Bowers at Al Hogg does not have Commitee of person. So she can't make any decisions like this without asking me first. Janet thinks because the PGT told her she could that it is all okay. NOT! The PGT does not have the power to tell Janet this. The PGT only can agree to pay for the clothing. That is it.
I replied that mom has a closet full of clothing that can be adapted. Check it out, the adaptive clothing that is sold are the ugliest things anyone has seen. Made of crap, nothing natural about them. And mom is use to wearing clothing made of natural fabrics.
I have even told the PGT that from now on I am going to try to purchase the clothing for mom myself. I will find a way.
I have been extremely pissed off all weekend long. So I wrote Janet a cease and desist order, spelling out exactly what is going to be done. That the PGT can't make these decisions and you will not be purchasing any and all clothing for my mother.
It says more than this. Allot more. This women Janet is nothing but obstinate and rude. Each meeting with her is a waste of my time. I did mention her before. it is the same women who didn't care that the staff tore my mother's nightgowns. .
So I was busy writing a Cease and Desist Order for Janet Bowers and any other staff member who would or might make these decisions. I finished it and saved it to draft. I kept looking at the order and email, but not certain I should send it. It wasn't until 2 am that I decided that I have to send it otherwise Janet will take future liberties that are hers not to make.
I didn't just send it to Janet, I sent it to the manager, the director, a women at the complaint office, 2 reporter at the Vancouver Sun and Pivot Legal Society. I think that is it. I did this to stop Janet from saying she didn't receive it. The cease and desist order was in the body of the email. So I copied and pasted the order into my word processor, than printed out a half dozen of the orders to hand deliver to each of the recipients at Al Hogg. Then I will mail the order to the other recipients at the new paper and the legal society. This I did to cover my own bottom. To say to a judge if I decide to take civil action against Janet Bowers OT at Al Hogg. If she does purchase any of the clothing.
I took the letters with me today, but I missed a bus, I watched it pull out as the train was pulling into the station. I needed to be their before 4 pm. I would of been but I had to wait until the next bus So when I arrived at Al Hogg all were gone for the day.
This is going to take along time to go through. So I will have to do this over the next few days. Or I should just paste the emails up on here. Including the email from the PGT,
So for today I will have to let you all go. I was up late contemplating whether to send the email or not.
GOD bless and good night.
Please pray that I can find a place out their in White Rock. Especially now that this is going on. I need to be their during the day to catch this person to stop them from doing anything I disagree with
Kristopher Schmuland
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