A sunny day, but now it is raining. Nice.

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I get a phone call this afternoon, while on my way out to mom's.  It is one of the staff informing me that from now on, family and friends cannot use the microwave or use the fridge. If we need something warmed up in the microwave, we have to have one of the staff do it. We cannot even get a glass of water from the water and ice machine. We need to get a staff member to do this for us.

And on top of this, we, family members, cannot leave anything in the fridge. The memorandum states that this memorandum does not apply to those with fridges.

I have been trying and trying to get mom a fridge, but Fraser Health has said no over and over again.

Now they deny mom things she is use to having on a daily basis'. They say that I have to take everything home with me at night And bring it back the next day. No food, no drinks.

I can only carry so much without hurting my back. As it is I am carrying upwards of 50 lbs each day. Anything more, I just can't carry I push the limits of what I can carry allot. Some days it is even hard to walk, because I am carrying to much. Especially over the holiday season. When I make mom her smoothie, it is heavy. Then I bring her laundry home each night and back the next day. Plus I have to stop and get her fruit and drinks. Drinks I carry anyways. Somethings I need to bring home, and others, like the smoothie, would just ruin it. It would go bad carrying it back and forth. So who would pay for this.

Not Fraser Health. As it is they refused to pay for the repair or replacement of the night gowns that there staff have destroyed.

Come on now.

This is a Human Rights Violation, it is abuse, by the standard definition. To deny someone something they are use to having on a daily basis' is abuse.

So nothing in the fridge, and no fridge. They are going to have a choice or I will be calling the Human Rights Tribunal, Pivot legal advocacy and all the TV stations and papers. I will write what I wish to say and back it up with what is needed before I call Fraser Health on Monday.

We either are able to use the fridge or mom can have a fridge.

There reason is that we, family members bring in to many germs.

They refuse to give me a copy of the memorandum. Which I will insist that they do. It effects mom, then I have a right to see it, and have a copy of this.

So I solved the undershirt problem, and the manager thinks it is a great, great idea.  I will put it on her at night and put a new one on her the next night when I get her ready for bed.  The only time they need to replace it, is if she, mom, get extremely sick all over it.

Now Friday. It was a cold dinner tonight. Left over Harvest grain salad, avocado and sushi. And her desserts, as well as her chocolates.

Being Friday, I was going to wash her hair, but while I was doing the dishes, mom had her eye's closed and was already falling asleep,.. So I asked her if she just wanted to go to bed, and not have her hair done tonight. She replied, yes to going to bed right away.

I got he changed as quick as possible. I know the care aid this evening and she does not like it when I transfer mom to bed. I put an extra blanket on mom , and while we were waiting I took all the ornaments off the tree, and hauled them home tonight. I just have the Christmas tree to bring back, which I will do tomorrow. I have been bringing her Christmas decoration, a little bit at a time all week long. I can only carry so much.

After the aid put her to bed it was the spa treatment time. And because mom was so very tired, I only did her face and arms. And she complained about this. I just left it at that. Just her arms and face.

Then I just held her hand. Mom was reaching for my hand, while I was speaking with the nurse. The nurse didn't know what mom was doing. So I had to explain to her what mom was doing. Mom's eye's were closed when she was doing this. The nurse thought mom was trying to get out of bed. No I explained, she is just wanting to hold my hand while she falls asleep.

I was there until the last possible minute. I still needed to get to a store to pick up a few things for mom's new smoothie. And no I will not be changing bringing mom her smoothie in a larger container, to last a few days. Noting will be done differently until I speak with Fraser Health.

I need to go now, I have not been sleeping well for over a month now. I am waking up almost every hour. I am so tired. I am hungry, but my need for sleep is out weighing my need for food.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Still

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It was dense fog today, could barely see in front of one's self.

When I arrived mom was very tired. I brought her to her room and she was pointing to the bed. She wanted to go to bed. I just said to her, soon, after dinner and I will get you into bed right away. She was okay with that.

For being tired, mom ate well. This is a good thing. She has a great appetite and this is good. I do make sure mom is eating very healthy. I cook from fresh ingredients. Nothing from a can, or frozen anything.

After she got to bed, I gave her a snack and lot's to drink. Got her teeth brushed and was about to give mom her nightly spa treatment and the aid came in to change her. So when she was done I gave mom her spa treatment. Mom was very tired and only wanted just her face done. I missed last night giving her the full spa treatment, so I did this to night. Quickly, I might add.

Then just stayed with her for a while and held her hand while she fell off to sleep.

I forgot this one thing. While I was getting her ready for bed, mom was singing with me to the songs that were playing. Tired but in a good mood.

I was going to rant tonight, but no!

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

A foggy day in .................

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That is right, it is a very foggy day in the Vancouver area. The Lower Mainland. Very thick in some spots. It is creepy and beautiful at the same time.

I arrived at mom's very early today, Okay, for me, it was early.  4:15 pm. Mom was in her room again, And once again,they had the channel that has shows about unsolved murders. Or they put CNN on. Come on now, TCM or other channels that show nice older movies.

Will be taking care of this.

I made mom stew. Okay, the slow cooker made it, I just cut up the vegetables, meat and put it in the pot. Turned it on and 10 hours later, stew.

Mom was extremely thirsty today, So she drank allot before we even had dinner. Got everything together and off we went for dinner.

Mom could hardly wait for dinner. I told her last night I was making stew for her. Well she ate a big bowl of it. But they papaya was not ripe enough and neither of use could chew it. Need to get one or two more ripe one's to give to mom, until the one's she has ripen enough to eat. But she did eat her chocolate.

Being Wednesday, it is one of the day's I wash her hair. I don't just wash her hair, but I massage and scratch her scalp. And this completely relax's her and makes her very tired. Enough that she only wanted half her nightly spa treatment. It was okay with me. I just finished off our book we were reading. Held her hand, until her grip loosened. As it was I was falling asleep while holding her hand.

I packed up and sang to her, gave her, her nightly kisses and then left.

A month ago I ordered these, which I thought were physiotherapy balls for mom's hand, balls. Well, it turns out they are not. 3 of them are air filled and light up (toy) and 3 of them are glitter bead filled balls (toys). And two are soft yellow balls. These last two are of use to mom, but the others are simply toys, which I can get allot cheaper else where. I will contact them in the morning to return them.

I am tired and still have to do a few things, So I will let you go.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Maybe this year will bring the promises

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Mom had her hair done today and it looked good. Not to much hair spray. They of course did not dress mom appropriately for this time of the year. I had to put a blanket on her. They had a short sleeve shirt on her.

I have complained about this action, but to no avail. As it is with everything. This is abuse, no question about it. I am layered completely up. Because I am cold. And if I am cold what do you think a women in her 80`s feels.

And the meeting I had with the manager and director was a waste of my time. Nothing came from it. The promises that were made concerning fixing mom`s nightgowns have gone out the window.

These care aid need to be taught a lesson. And is about time someone does this. Or they will continue to believe that they can get away with murder. Literally. They could kill someone and they will continue to work. Nothing will happen to them. The management will tell you that there is a procedure and sorry you don`t get to know the outcome or the persons name that is being investigated. They will drag it out for so long that they think one will just give up .

So these Fucking care aids can get away with murder.

I know some of these care aids have read or are reading this Blog. To bad. Do you job. It is not you who tells a family member what is what. It is the family member who tells you how they want their loved one`s looked after and you do as they say.

Other than my daily bitch and they are now going to get worse. I will not be spelling out my plans on this Blog, until after they have been completed.

Well mom ate a good dinner this evening. I should know, I made it. When it was finished she was full.

And I put her into bed, I did not want mom to have to wait for an hour to get put into bed. So I did it and mom was happy. And by the time the care aid did come in, we were finished the complete spa treatment. And still had to wait.

But I just held her hand and it was Okay with her. finally the care aid did come in at 7:30. An hour after she should of been there. I ended up staying latter, as I need to make sure mom is completely relaxed before I leave and has had enough to drink as well. Then I need to pack up everything. This alone takes a good ten minutes or so.

This week I am taking down the Christmas decorations and tree. Remember I have to pack this on the bus, so it takes a few days to do this. Actually a week. I won`t be able to bring her tree back until the weekend.

I am packing up everything here,where I live. I am getting rid of things and now I need to bring more things back here. Not just the tree, but clothing as well. Before things go missing.

Anyways, tonight mom sang our good night song with me. As she has done in the past. I just love it when she does this. And it is a huge smile afterwards. Nothing beats these moments. Nothing at all.

I just need to be out their. Good luck with this. I have only been trying for two years now. Again, I can only afford so much. And that is that.

I didn`t think I had anything to say this evening. I wasn`t even going to write on here tonight. I am glad I did.

I was going to ask you to pray again. But that to seems to be a waste of time. I did not mean that if you do pray for me, that I feel that is a waste of time. What I mean`t is, even if some are or have prayed for me, it seems that nothing is happening, so it is a waste of time for all concerned.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland

It is really Raincouver today

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Here on the wet coast, we had and have a winter storm warning. We were to get up to 20 cm of snow. Instead I woke up this morning to pouring, freezing rain. And it has not let up all day long. Just pouring. And there is a wind on top of this. I have been freezing cold all day long. I have a water proof jacket, but where does the water go. It runs down the jacket and onto my pants. So the front of my legs have been wet all day. I am outside allot. I travel many klms per day and I am waiting for buses.

Now I have been having to go into the laundry all weekend long to dig mom's clothing out. They are at it again. There are signs up all over the room. And the roommate's husband does her laundry. So no laundry from that room, at all, should be going into the laundry.

On top of this, they are back at removing the undershirts from mom's drawer and putting them out of the way so I won't find them.

They are going to be given a choice. Either use the undershirts or I will be purchasing bras's for mom again. One or the other. No other choice, will they have.

And it is coming up to that time of the year again, where my mother's daughter's will be coming to visit and do some shopping.

I will be putting up more signs that state they are not to be given any of mom's clothing. They don't buy it, I do and I am not dressing them or their children. Nor is my mother. Period.

And if they do give them or tell them to take some of them, they are going to be held responsible for replacing them or getting them back. I already have a police file and I will have anyone who does not follow what I state will be charged.

It is I who make the decisions for mom. I say how I want her to be dressed and undressed. If they follow the directive on how I want mom to be dressed and undressed there would not be a problem with the undershirts. As I have no problem putting them on her or taking them off of mom.

These are just individuals who took an 8 month course to become a care aid. They no nothing about anything. I can do there job easily. After all I have been doing it for a decade now.

And since they are not following my directive on how I want mom dressed and undressed simply mean each and every time they do this they are abusing my mother,. As soon as they lift mom's left arm up over her head, that is abuse. It hurts her.

Okay, mom has been doing well these last several days. Eating everything I make her. And enjoying it. I have been getting her into bed. Not going to wait for these care aids to come and put mom into bed. Mom is tired after dinner and just doesn't want to sit in her chair any longer.

I am getting their earlier and staying a little later.

Again. just holding her hand and seeing the huge smile on her face, as she falls asleep, is worth being soaked today and everyday. Just love it.

I just wish I could be living out their.

My biggest problem is carrying everything. Especially the duffel bag which rubs on my pant leg and wears holes in them. I have had to throw out many pair of jeans because they are worn out in the one spot where the bag rubs. Living closer, I would not have to carry everything such distances. And it wouldn't ruin my jeans. That GOD I can only afford to buy them at thrift stores.

My tooth is better. But still can't eat allot.

Please pray for my moving.

GOD bless and good night


Kristopher Schmuland