24 Hrs is all it took

Hello again

Happy Valentines Day.

So for mom's dinner I was going to bring her a pork rib dinner, ended up with beef brisket and it was all fat. Mom did not like it. Why would she. So the dinner was ruined. I was upset and wrote the company

This is the letter I wrote to the company tonight Save on Foods

"The store is the new White Rock location. I went to purchase a dinner, ribs. I wait in line and the women tells me there are no beef ribs left and asks if I want pork. I say no. I walk 3 steps away and here comes the beef ribs. I now get back in line and wait again. I asked if I could have half beef and half pork. NO she states. So I ask for the beef brisket dinner. Well I get to where am going. Only to find out just about all of the beef brisket is fat. The cauliflower is old and hard.

This dinner was for my mother, who is in an extended health care facility, in White Rock. She is completely dependent on everyone for every thing. She has mild dementia and has had several strokes. So she can't speak because of the strokes. Can't use her left arm and is wheelchair dependent. I am their everyday, I travel from Coquitlam, by bus, everyday, to feed her and put her to bed. I make sure mom gets good healthy meals. And your new deli is a great place to get this.

Except for today. Mom dinner was ruined. And on top of this I had to deal with this rude women serving me. It is not the first time she has served me, only to be rude. She is cheap with the sides. One small scoop of the beans. One time she was going to put it in with the ribs, on the container. I asked if she could not put that in there. She responded by telling me there are no container. Only to have another girl come up behind her and tell her that there is containers. Another time I came just before 8 pm and asked if there was any ribs left. She says NO, we are closed. I say you close at 8 pm She says we are out of ribs, only to have another girl come up and say sure there is, they are right here. Every single time I have to deal with her she is rude. She should not be dealing with the public.

It was around 4:30 pm February 14, at the Save on Foods on 16 and 152 street South Surrey/White Rock. She is older in her 50's and Indian.

My mother's Valentine dinner was ruined she could not eat it. "

Now I ended up going into Vancouver today to pick something up. Only find out it was not there and the person who told me it would be ready, was not even in the office today. I spoke to this person yesterday, and they assured me it would be ready for pick up. And having to wait and wait, for another person to come and tell me that the person was not in the office and will be back on Monday. That there was nothing even in file related to this.

Now this caused me to be late getting on the train and then a much latter bus to White Rock.  Because of this I didn't have the time to pick up the rest of the items I wanted to make mom's Valentines dinner great. So the dinner was crap and I didn't get everything else I wanted.

Mom did eat the dinner served from the home.

Afterwards I washed her hair, and got her changed for bed. Mom was tired. This is why I wash her hair before dinner. She is tired afterwards, and this is when I get black eye's. She wants her hair washed, but doesn't. It was OK tonight.

Mom just wanted her spa treatment done and her nightly foot massage. Which is exactly what I did. And held her hand while she fell asleep.

Now onto another thing.

I entered this contest the other day to win a new Galaxy note 3 smart phone from Rogers Communications in Canada. One of the big three service providers.  You write a poem and one could win two smart phone's  One for yourself and one for your loved one. Or whoever. So I enter this contest.

Well the next day I opened my in box and their were over 100 poems from this contest. And they just kept coming. For a total of 492 poems. Spam. It is OK on the laptop, I can just check one and send it to the deleted box. And then just have it blocked. But on my phone, there is not that feature. So I had to individually delete them. And this took a very long time. I had already fixed the issue on my laptop. But there still was over 100 email spam I had to delete by checking them off individually. This took allot of time.

Last night, as soon as I got home, I wrote  ROGERS COMMUNICATIONS and simply said to them. To stop this immediately or I will be writing the CRTC of Canada, and file a complaint for excessive unwanted spamming.

Today I received a letter from the president of Rogers office. They apologized I think, and said that I brought this on myself. That I must of checked a box that allows them to send everything or everyone's poems to my email address. I don't think so.

They want me to contact them so we can speak further about this situation. I have already wrote an email to the CRTC in Word. I will call them on Monday and speak about this.

They also wasted allot of my time, having to remove those emails. I told them that I should be receiving this phone for all of my trouble. We will see what happens on Monday. If I don't get satisfaction, I will send my letter off.

24 hrs for all of this to take place.

OK it is now time to go, I wasted enough of your time.

GOD Bless and good night

Kris Schmuland 

We are the same

Hello again

So today I had to deal with some important issues. I now don't have much of a choice but to get things done. My life will collapse if I don't take care of these matters.

I am really tired of people telling me that GOD will bless me for how I take care of my mother. And this person who mentioned this, also said to me that of all the many years she has worked in health care, she has never seen anyone who is as devoted as I am. Who comes and takes care of his mother every single day, no matter what.

I do appreciate that greatly. Again I just wish GOD would bless me now, not latter, so I can share the blessings with mom.

I didn't get a chance to wash mom's hair yesterday or today. I didn't get their until 4:50 and mom is to tired after eating that she just wants to get out of the wheelchair.

She ate well tonight. I made her a very delicious dinner. I had to leave early last night so I told her I would stay latter tonight. Which I did. I just got home a few minutes ago. I wanted to write tonight, as I didn't get a chance to last night. I wanted to go to bed, I needed to get up early. Didn't sleep anyways.

I stayed until mom was completely asleep and her hand relaxed and let go of my hand. I had already sang our good night song to her. I just love the fact that she goes to sleep with a smile on her face.

Mom does have a grip.

I need to get going now. I need to eat and get some sleep. Or try

GOD bless and good night

Rain, Rain and raincouver

Hello again

I am very tired this evening, but I need to do my laundry. I have been doing mom's laundry, only to forget to do my own. 

I fell asleep on top of the bed last night, to wake up at 6 am, cold and very tired. The laptop repeating, whatever it was I started to watch. I have no idea. I just reached over and turned the computer off. And, well, the rest of my sleep was very restless. I only ended up getting a few hours of good sleep. I had to get up earlier than normal. Had things to do. 

The only things I wish for is to be living in White Rock, closer to mom, so I can be their more often for her and get things done quicker.

And I can't even get this done. This is causing me to even be more depressed

Last night I found a letter that I wrote and delivered to the previous manager, complaining about the roommate. In 2012. That is how little this place cares about what the children or the loved one's of the residents, think or ask to happen. Absolutely nothing. 

So, anyways, mom was exceedingly happy to see me today. Reaching out her hand, immediately, upon seeing me. To grab and hold on tight. Closing her eye's and completely relaxing. I brought her a nice dinner,which she ate and then some. 

Again, as soon as mom hit the pillow, she was almost fast asleep. Wanting, but not wanting her spa treatment. And afterwards she was off into slumber-land. I had to wake her up so she could take her nightly medicine and have something to drink before I left. 

I didn't leave right away. And when I did leave, mom was fast asleep. 

I do feel guilty that I can't stay longer. And it bothered me all the way home. As it usually does.

I have nothing, so I want to do as much as I can for her. 

Bed time, right after the laundry finishes

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland 

I am not fine

Hello again

Today mom was very tired. Twitching while she was eating. You know the twitch one gets when they are falling asleep. She was hungry, but didn't want to eat much. I did, manage to get mom to eat most of her dinner. I don't force her to eat. When one is full, one is full. Simple as that.

I arrived early, and we started dinner before the other's. A new smoothie today. And  brought her to her room to get her ready for bed. Mom wanted me to transfer her to the bed. But that can't happen.. So I read to her for a while. Waiting for the staff to come in and transfer her to the bed and get her changed. It is a story we started a while ago...  I asked mom if she wanted me to read to her, and she said yes very clearly.

After we put her to bed, I stayed and helped with her changing. Mom is not embarrassed about me being their helping out. She said to me a long time ago that when you get older, sometimes you can't control your bladder and bowls. I have even changed her diaper before several times. Which means cleaning her. You put on gloves and it becomes clinical.

Mom fell asleep very quickly tonight. I had to wake her up so she could get her medicine. And to give her something to drink before I left. Tonight I was able to stay until mom fell asleep, while holding her hand. Mom holds on tight, until she is asleep, and then relaxes. Most of the time.

I had to ask the staff to come in and turn the roommates TV down. The children use to get her to wear headphones, but no more. They don't seem to even care.

Anyways enough complaining.

Time to go

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Still cold

Hello again

I have been told that a place will come up soon. By someone who believes in GOD,as I do. But my response is when. It has been over two years and still nothing. Not even a shared accommodation in White Rock. Come on now. I have a continuous add on Craigslist and all I get is responses form people who live way out of the way. Or in Vancouver. Not White Rock/South Surrey.

Money is evil. It is what that is stopping me from moving to White Rock. To be closer to mom. Tonight I needed to leave a little early. Not wanting too. As mom was not asleep yet. All I want to do is be close by, so I can stay until mom falls asleep. Whatever the time maybe. Not having to leave at a certain time, so I can get back to Coquitlam before Midnight. I just want to be close enough so I could walk their and back. This way I can stay until mom falls asleep.

I needed to do laundry tonight. The towels that I use for her nightly spa treatment. Plus other clothing of mom's and, of course some of my own laundry. And I needed to get to a grocery store, for mom's dinner tomorrow.

The place where I live is a pig sty. The roommates just don't clean or even take their garbage out. I clean up after myself. But that is it. I stop cleaning, as I am not a maid. If I was paid, sure I would clean. I have already told the landlord this. But I am not their maid.

What is it that I am to do then.

This cold is causing more and more pain. My knee's are killing me. My back went out again. As it does every other month.


That was my bitch for tonight. There is more but it is mom's time now.

Mom was very tired this evening. Did not eat what she usually eats. But she ate. The roommate is having a serious bout of hallucinations. Keeping mom up at night.

And again the management has done nothing about it. Even though I keep asking them to move the roommate. Or even mom.

I have been extremely patient with them. So now I need, no, am going to take the matter into my own hands and go above their heads.

I am a very kind man, but piss me off and look out. I will only take so much.

Mom has taught me to be patient and my dad taught me to take things into my own hands to get things done.

My mother taught me to sew, to cook and to give to others. I mend everything of mom's. I cook all her dinners. Mom taught me compassion and understanding.

So I bought mom new pillows, and they need to be broken in, but so far mom seems to like them. She looks comfortable while she lay's in bed, with her head resting on the new pillows.

I was able to give mom a complete spa treatment tonight.

Mom just knows when I arrive, she must sense me. Even if I walk softly, mom's hand goes out, for me to grab it.  I know mom wanting to hold my hand the entire time I am their, makes her feel safe and wanted. And this I will do for her, without hesitation.

She is looking good, and doing well. For someone who is stuck in a wheelchair, not being able to speak or even feed herself. But over all, I think she is doing well. Maybe the smile on her face, tells me this.

When I am their, mom does not even acknowledge anyone else. Even it they are right beside her and speaking with her. Mom will just look at me.

OK, the laundry is almost done and I need to make something to eat. pasta tonight. I am not very hungry, just tired and wanting to relax and watch a movie.

I have to start bringing my laptop, so mom and I can watch the shows I have downloaded for her.

Well it is time, again, to say good night

GOD bless

Kris Schmuland