Stress

Hello again

I am dealing with a drunk chick upstairs. Constantly accusing everyone or everything. The police are here every other day about her. The landlord is being an idiot about this.

I am not getting any rest. The landlord is over here and staying until late, discussing this mess. I am not even able to write. I am trying.

I need real help to get out of here. I need prayers, big time.

Now I haven't even been able to write the complaint office back. I was just able to finish the letter to the manager of Al Hogg. At least that is done. So if everything goes without stress this weekend, I will be able to get the letter off to the complaint office and print out the letters to give to the manager of Al Hogg.

As this whole nonsense has to stop and stop now. There is no more waiting. Mom is suffering. She is tired and does not want to eat.

I would like to state this. I have been studying,reading everything I can get my hands on, regarding this disease and strokes. I am not an expert, but I do know what I am talking about.

But the biggest thing I can say about being a caregiver is to Love your loved one's, Be patient, have understanding and compassion. It is not your loved one it is the disease.

Now mom tonight was more than happy to see me, and not very hungry, but I got her what she wanted for dinner and she did eat most of it. Slowly though. I have lots of time.

Afterwards I washed her hair and got her ready for bed. While waiting for mom to be put into bed, I read mom over half a dozen pages in the story we are reading.

Mom is loving this story and I am enjoying reading this to her. Because of my voice, I have not been able to sing to mom. But I do hold her hand while she falls asleep. I stand there and let her relax, and just hold her hand.

Mom needs me to be their for her. She depends on me being their every night. And I am fine with this. It takes a commitment and some are not able to do this. For whatever reason. Once one makes this kind of commitment, one has to follow through with it. No backing out. For however long it is for.

If I had the money, I would move mom in with me and take care of her full time. As it is I can't even find a place out in white Rock that I can afford. And this pisses me off.

I just want to be available to mom more often. Mom is my life and I am committed to taking care of her.

It is a matter of principal and doing what is right for your loved one. By living in White Rock, I can take her to her appointments. Be there for her while at the dentist. Get the things done that are needed to get mom the proper treatment she needs.

Well it is late and time to go. I will try to write more tomorrow.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

I am very..............

Hello again

This week I contacted the complaint office and was able to speak with someone their. They asked me to send the letters I have written to them and they will contact the home to see what is happening.

I am not sure if this office has contacted the home, as the manager has not mentioned anything yet.

Another person passed away this week, someone I knew well. Today as a matter of fact. I got off the bus and it hit me that this person has passed today. I get all kinds of feelings all the time, and they are mostly right.

Mom was tried again today. The roommate and her delusions. When she is this way it is hard for her to eat. Not hungry but is hungry. I did manage to get her to eat enough. As well as her fruit and smoothie.

I washed her hair this evening, it needed it. And mom just loved this. She was completely relaxed afterwards. I got her changed and the staff member got her into bed. When I came back from making some tea,. mom was ready for sleep. I gave her the spa treatment and stood their and held her hand for quite a while. Actually until 8 pm. Yes I don't usually stay this long, but I needed too.

I am exhausted, there has been major issues here where I live and it has kept me up at night. Last night the police where here, upstairs, at midnight. The one drunk women was hauled off to jail. It was loud and kept me up. The landlord has been trying to get rid of her. But no luck.

I really do have much to say, but I am so tired that I need to go to bed. I have to eat yet. I am behind in the things I need to do at night when I get home. It has been horrible this week. The women is completely crazy. So I am just going to leave it this way tonight and write more tomorrow.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

I have started

Hello again

This morning I made the first of many phone calls, that hopefully will help to have mom moved to a new room. But I still think it is the roommate who should be moving.

I phoned the Patient Quality Care Office, for Fraser Health BC. I could only leave a message, and that someone will be contacting me within two business days. I just need to write a letter explaining my complaint to them, so I can include it in an email, with  copies of the two letters I wrote to the managers of Al Hogg. One to the previous manager and one to this new manger.

I went to print the new one out last night and noted it needed revisions. This is almost complete. I also need to get the exact spelling of the new managers name and job tittle. I thought I had it, but I lost the business card. Miss placed it, lost it. If I don't put things in the proper place, things go missing.

Tomorrow I will call the MLA for White Rock, as well as make an appointment to see a lawyer with Pivot legal society. Plus to make an appointment to see my own doctor.

So before I left today I made mom her dinner and did some more of her laundry. Brought a bunch of it out to her today.

I was running late today. Didn't get much sleep. Dealing with the upstairs tenants and the police. One of the upstairs tenants is suffering from paranoid delusions and is thinking everyone is out to get her. Making accusations that everyone is verbally assaulting her. and she has driven one of the tenants to move and the other staying at a friends house. She is alone.

I got to mom's on time and feed her diner. Which she loved. Plus she ate part of the dinner served to her.

Tonight I was able to get back to reading to her. We were able to get through 6 pages before the staff came in to put her to bed. We are getting into this book.

I gave her the nightly spa treatment, held her hand, sang to her, danced a little bit with her. I have decided that I am going to write to her favorite musicians and see if I can get an 8 x 10 auto graphed photo of them for mom. And if they can make it out to Mary. You never know until one tries.

I needed to leave a little earlier tonight. As I had to write a letter for the landlord about this women and her behavior.

Now mom is doing fine, great actually, considering. I love her smile, especially when I am holding her hand while she is falling asleep. And I leave with mom having this huge smile on her face. I promised her that I would stay latter tomorrow night, and I will.

I just wish I could be living out their, closer to her. So the time I spend traveling, for more constructive purposes. Getting the advocacy organization going. Spending more time with mom. Getting my life back together. Again I spend upwards of 7 hours a day traveling. That is a full time job, just traveling. Yet I will continue to do this for mom and will not complain to anyone. I just say to everyone, that this is the most important thing in my life that I am doing. Taking care of someone who has no one else to do this for her. To make sure my mother's life has meaning. To make her happy and comfortable.

Mom relies on me and I her. It is OK that I am not pursuing the career path I was educated in. I chose to look after mom. It is worth every moment. No regrets and there won't be any.

The truth is mom keeps me going. Having been involved in many car accidents and being injured, having to now walk with a cane for the rest of my life. In constant pain. Yet it is all worth the traveling to see mom smile as she does.

It is really late and I have not even eaten yet. Have to go

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland