Hello again
So Saturday and it is again, mom's bath day. They get her up, give her a bath and put her back to bed. But lately they have been putting on this channel that only plays show on murders and solving them. All day long.
I do not want mom to be exposed to this. There is so much else on that mom can enjoy. Channels with older shows that she watched, and movies that our of her day and age.
Something uplifting is what she needs.
It was very difficult tonight feeding mom and doing everything else for her. As my right arm is not good, when I use it, my headache gets worse. My back gets worse. It is from the turning back and forth.
I was feeding her in bed. And the tray is facing one direction and mom is in bed, in another direction.
But mom did eat allot tonight. She was very hungry. I say this is good. I had to take extra painkillers, just to be able to give mom her spa treatment.
As soon as I was finished mom's spa treatment, she immediately reached for my hand. Actually, she was reaching for my hand before I was finished.
When I am there visiting and helping her, I talk to her as much as possible. I try to keep her engaged. I sing to her, I tell her jokes etc......
Mom was smiling and in a good mood tonight. Not so much yesterday. But that was OK, as usual. I don't let it bother me when mom is in a bad mood. I just tell her I love her, give her hugs. Let her know it is OK
Mom has been falling asleep quickly the last few days. I hope she sleeps through the night. I make sure mom is comfortable before I leave each night.
It is becoming difficult to carry things now.. It really hurts my neck and arm. I will be needing a backpack with wheels.
Writing is almost out of the question. Just the act and motion of writing bothers my elbow and shoulder. which in turns puts a strain on my neck.
So I am going now, to just relax and lie on my bed, and watch something.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Saturday, June 7, 2014
Thursday, June 5, 2014
A day in the life of......
Hello again
Today was a bowel care day for mom. Which means she was in bed when I arrived today. I found this out by looking all over the place for mom and then down to her room. To find her in bed.
I immediately go to the nurses station to find out why mom was in bed. The nurse had no idea why. It was someone else that took the time to look in the daily log and tell me that it is a bowel care day for mom and she must still be leaking, so they kept her in bed.
But her TV was not on, just the radio, and at a very low volume. I don't even think mom could here it. Then again I am loosing my hearing so what do I know.
Anyway, mom was in a bad mood because of this, being in bed all day, with nobody around her, no entertainment, no TV. Just lying there by herself all day long.
Is this care? I think not!
This, in my opinion is abuse. No one wants to be stuck in bed with nothing to do, but stare at the walls. Especially when one has a perfectly good TV, a LCD at that, right there.
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Come on!
It was hard to get mom to eat, when she is this mood, the last thing she wants to do is eat. But I did get her to eat. A nice omelet, plus the beef she was served, the avocado and then her daily papaya. Even getting her to drink was difficult at first. It just took time and then it was OK.
She was so tired and bored. I quickly gave her the nightly spa treatment. Of course made sure her teeth were brushed.....
I had to go and do her dishes, and when I got back, mom was ready to sleep. It did not take long for mom to fall asleep. She reached for my hand and pulled it close to her, and off to sleep she went. She just needed to know that there was someone there that loved her.
A little trick to get someone who is with dementia is to hold the drink up to their upper lip. The bottom lip will open automatically.
Now the more I use my right arm, the less I can use it. It hurts my neck and shoulder.
I went to the doctor today to get him to send me for xrays, but I needed refills on my medication, so he wouldn't deal with the ICBC issue. He told me that he tells his patients that if it is WCB/ICBC to ony deal with this when seeing him. So now I need to go back next Tuesday to get this taken care of.
Great I think not. But I do understand. Keep it separate from everything else.
I am in serious pain today, I needed to take an extra painkiller
Enough about this. I will be calling ICBC tomorrow and letting them know this accident is causing me great discomfort and causing me extreme stress
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Today was a bowel care day for mom. Which means she was in bed when I arrived today. I found this out by looking all over the place for mom and then down to her room. To find her in bed.
I immediately go to the nurses station to find out why mom was in bed. The nurse had no idea why. It was someone else that took the time to look in the daily log and tell me that it is a bowel care day for mom and she must still be leaking, so they kept her in bed.
But her TV was not on, just the radio, and at a very low volume. I don't even think mom could here it. Then again I am loosing my hearing so what do I know.
Anyway, mom was in a bad mood because of this, being in bed all day, with nobody around her, no entertainment, no TV. Just lying there by herself all day long.
Is this care? I think not!
This, in my opinion is abuse. No one wants to be stuck in bed with nothing to do, but stare at the walls. Especially when one has a perfectly good TV, a LCD at that, right there.
o
Come on!
It was hard to get mom to eat, when she is this mood, the last thing she wants to do is eat. But I did get her to eat. A nice omelet, plus the beef she was served, the avocado and then her daily papaya. Even getting her to drink was difficult at first. It just took time and then it was OK.
She was so tired and bored. I quickly gave her the nightly spa treatment. Of course made sure her teeth were brushed.....
I had to go and do her dishes, and when I got back, mom was ready to sleep. It did not take long for mom to fall asleep. She reached for my hand and pulled it close to her, and off to sleep she went. She just needed to know that there was someone there that loved her.
A little trick to get someone who is with dementia is to hold the drink up to their upper lip. The bottom lip will open automatically.
Now the more I use my right arm, the less I can use it. It hurts my neck and shoulder.
I went to the doctor today to get him to send me for xrays, but I needed refills on my medication, so he wouldn't deal with the ICBC issue. He told me that he tells his patients that if it is WCB/ICBC to ony deal with this when seeing him. So now I need to go back next Tuesday to get this taken care of.
Great I think not. But I do understand. Keep it separate from everything else.
I am in serious pain today, I needed to take an extra painkiller
Enough about this. I will be calling ICBC tomorrow and letting them know this accident is causing me great discomfort and causing me extreme stress
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Wednesday, June 4, 2014
I am here, still
Hello again
The last few days have been tough, the pain I am experiencing, plus a care aid who is making up things.
Yesterday, it was 7:15 before the care aid came in to put mom to bed and change her pad. Well I didn't let mom sit in her chair for that long.
I read to her and then I had enough of waiting for the care aid, so I put mom to bed myself, then gave her the nightly spa treatment. And we still waited.
I had to go out and speak with the nurse. Then the care aid tells her that she checked earlier and I was busy with mom. Which I said " I don't think so, no one came in and asked me anything, nor did anyone knock on the door"
It was done and the care aid tonight, same one, still didn't get it.
I will be speaking with the manager tomorrow about this. And if nothing is done, I will go above their heads again.
Now tonight mom was very tired. She did not like what I brought her for dinner, so she ate what was served. It is all good. She ate right. That is all that matters.
I washed her hair and got her ready for bed. When I was changing her the care aid, at least, came in and asked if I was ready. A minute, I said. But when she returned, she said nothing to me. I find that extremely rude.
Mom was very tired, but when it came time for her to sleep, it seemed like she was, now, over tired. When I left, mom's eye's were still open. But because of the medication, she was a little dopey. But eye's open anyways.
I am finding that this accident is now causing me to not be able to do everything I use to do for mom... I am experiencing problems pushing mom's chair around. This gets me upset, as I want to take mom out for a walk. since it is beautiful out side.
I am also using my left hand more and more. Tomorrow I will be seeing my doctor and will be asking for xrays of my back, right shoulder, neck and right elbow.
I write and need the use of my right arm.
It is causing me big problems. It is affecting my life, greatly.
Time to go,
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
The last few days have been tough, the pain I am experiencing, plus a care aid who is making up things.
Yesterday, it was 7:15 before the care aid came in to put mom to bed and change her pad. Well I didn't let mom sit in her chair for that long.
I read to her and then I had enough of waiting for the care aid, so I put mom to bed myself, then gave her the nightly spa treatment. And we still waited.
I had to go out and speak with the nurse. Then the care aid tells her that she checked earlier and I was busy with mom. Which I said " I don't think so, no one came in and asked me anything, nor did anyone knock on the door"
It was done and the care aid tonight, same one, still didn't get it.
I will be speaking with the manager tomorrow about this. And if nothing is done, I will go above their heads again.
Now tonight mom was very tired. She did not like what I brought her for dinner, so she ate what was served. It is all good. She ate right. That is all that matters.
I washed her hair and got her ready for bed. When I was changing her the care aid, at least, came in and asked if I was ready. A minute, I said. But when she returned, she said nothing to me. I find that extremely rude.
Mom was very tired, but when it came time for her to sleep, it seemed like she was, now, over tired. When I left, mom's eye's were still open. But because of the medication, she was a little dopey. But eye's open anyways.
I am finding that this accident is now causing me to not be able to do everything I use to do for mom... I am experiencing problems pushing mom's chair around. This gets me upset, as I want to take mom out for a walk. since it is beautiful out side.
I am also using my left hand more and more. Tomorrow I will be seeing my doctor and will be asking for xrays of my back, right shoulder, neck and right elbow.
I write and need the use of my right arm.
It is causing me big problems. It is affecting my life, greatly.
Time to go,
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Monday, June 2, 2014
Am not
Hello again
Today mom had her hair done and when this is done mom gets very relaxed and tired. So she did not want to eat allot at dinner. But I did get her to eat most of it.
She did look forward to the Gold kiwi. It is back in season. Mom does not like the green kiwi, only the gold kiwi. It has been since last September since she has had any.
And worry me, did not know if mom was going to be around to experience them again. I get really worried about mom. And I am not sure how long mom has left. So I try not to think about it.
I just go and take care of her, I try to do the best I can. I make sure mom gets great food and lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.
But I worry allot about her. Everyday. I worry from the time I leave until the next day when I see her. I am worried all night. That the phone might ring and it is the home.
This depresses me even more than I am.
Anyways, mom wanted to go to bed, so I did the dishes and got her changed. Well the regular girl is not on and we had to wait for a long time for the casual girl to come. I read to her and then I noticed mom needed to get into bed.
As mentioned before, I am not to transfer mom to bed, because of an incident. But the agreement was that mom was to be put to bed between 6 and 6:30 pm. And it was getting on to 7 pm. They all know I take the bus and live 3 hours away, in Coquitlam. But this one casual girl is just rude. She won't even say a word to me. I have been nothing but nice to her. So I pushed the call button to get her attention. And I will continue to do this, until she gets it.
The nurse even put up a sign about this. The staff had a meeting about this, after the incident. I agreed to it as it gets mom in bed right after dinner and I have more time, after finishing her spa treatment, to just be their for mom while she falls asleep.
And when mom is put in bed at 7 pm I am rushing to get the spa treatment done and have time to hold mom's hand while she falls asleep.
If things don't improve I will just start putting her to bed myself, again.
I will have a conversation with the manager tomorrow, if I see her, about this.
Getting late, need to go to bed.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Today mom had her hair done and when this is done mom gets very relaxed and tired. So she did not want to eat allot at dinner. But I did get her to eat most of it.
She did look forward to the Gold kiwi. It is back in season. Mom does not like the green kiwi, only the gold kiwi. It has been since last September since she has had any.
And worry me, did not know if mom was going to be around to experience them again. I get really worried about mom. And I am not sure how long mom has left. So I try not to think about it.
I just go and take care of her, I try to do the best I can. I make sure mom gets great food and lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.
But I worry allot about her. Everyday. I worry from the time I leave until the next day when I see her. I am worried all night. That the phone might ring and it is the home.
This depresses me even more than I am.
Anyways, mom wanted to go to bed, so I did the dishes and got her changed. Well the regular girl is not on and we had to wait for a long time for the casual girl to come. I read to her and then I noticed mom needed to get into bed.
As mentioned before, I am not to transfer mom to bed, because of an incident. But the agreement was that mom was to be put to bed between 6 and 6:30 pm. And it was getting on to 7 pm. They all know I take the bus and live 3 hours away, in Coquitlam. But this one casual girl is just rude. She won't even say a word to me. I have been nothing but nice to her. So I pushed the call button to get her attention. And I will continue to do this, until she gets it.
The nurse even put up a sign about this. The staff had a meeting about this, after the incident. I agreed to it as it gets mom in bed right after dinner and I have more time, after finishing her spa treatment, to just be their for mom while she falls asleep.
And when mom is put in bed at 7 pm I am rushing to get the spa treatment done and have time to hold mom's hand while she falls asleep.
If things don't improve I will just start putting her to bed myself, again.
I will have a conversation with the manager tomorrow, if I see her, about this.
Getting late, need to go to bed.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
It is the way
Hello again
Part of life is for mom to have regular movements. This means to keep an eye out, to see if mom is going. They give mom Tylenol 4 times a day. And we all know that Tylenol can cause major constipation. Well it does with mom. And I am asking all the time if mom is going.
Today mom was not that hungry, but she did eat as much as she could. I felt her stomach and it was very hard. So mom needed to go.
When we got her into bed, the care aid and myself, she noticed mom was about to go. We put her up on the lift with the proper sling, so mom can go to the bathroom before her diapers are put on. Mom was trying and trying, but only a little bit was coming out. So we decided it would be best for mom to have a suppository to clean her out.
Well this was the start of a major poop. It took two suppositories to clean mom out. I have never seen that much come out of one individual. I don't think mom has gone all week long.
This is the way they take care of the residents. I have not been keeping up with asking if mom has gone. And this is the result of it.
And I think that the staff just writes it down that mom has gone. But I think they write it down when mom only goes a little bit.
Her stomach was much flatter then before and I could see a smile on mom's face, staying, I feel much better now.
The one problem was that mom was holding my hand, my right hand, and was squeezing my hand and pulling on my arm. This went on for 15 minutes. By the time we finished and got mom into her diaper, my arm was killing me.
I will not show mom that I am in pain. So I excused myself for a moment and went out of the room, to winse in pain. Holding my arm. .
I will be bringing this up tomorrow with the manager. This cannot and will not continue like this. This can cause serious problems for mom.
On the lighter side, while feeding mom I moved my hand away from holding hers. For a moment, while doing something. In a split second,mom reached out and grabbed my hand. It seems that mom needs to hold my hand the entire time I am their.
It is OK. It makes mom feel secure and whatever makes mom happy. It is that I am not the most affectionate individual. I don't like to be hugged.
Mom is the only person who I show affection too. I will hug her, hold her hand, etc..... But sometimes,when I am in serious pain, I don't want to be touched. I deal with it as well as I can, without showing mom that I am having a problem with it.
While with mom I do not show pain or that I have problems. I can't let mom know these things. Mom has enough problems to deal with as it is
OK I need to go now.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Part of life is for mom to have regular movements. This means to keep an eye out, to see if mom is going. They give mom Tylenol 4 times a day. And we all know that Tylenol can cause major constipation. Well it does with mom. And I am asking all the time if mom is going.
Today mom was not that hungry, but she did eat as much as she could. I felt her stomach and it was very hard. So mom needed to go.
When we got her into bed, the care aid and myself, she noticed mom was about to go. We put her up on the lift with the proper sling, so mom can go to the bathroom before her diapers are put on. Mom was trying and trying, but only a little bit was coming out. So we decided it would be best for mom to have a suppository to clean her out.
Well this was the start of a major poop. It took two suppositories to clean mom out. I have never seen that much come out of one individual. I don't think mom has gone all week long.
This is the way they take care of the residents. I have not been keeping up with asking if mom has gone. And this is the result of it.
And I think that the staff just writes it down that mom has gone. But I think they write it down when mom only goes a little bit.
Her stomach was much flatter then before and I could see a smile on mom's face, staying, I feel much better now.
The one problem was that mom was holding my hand, my right hand, and was squeezing my hand and pulling on my arm. This went on for 15 minutes. By the time we finished and got mom into her diaper, my arm was killing me.
I will not show mom that I am in pain. So I excused myself for a moment and went out of the room, to winse in pain. Holding my arm. .
I will be bringing this up tomorrow with the manager. This cannot and will not continue like this. This can cause serious problems for mom.
On the lighter side, while feeding mom I moved my hand away from holding hers. For a moment, while doing something. In a split second,mom reached out and grabbed my hand. It seems that mom needs to hold my hand the entire time I am their.
It is OK. It makes mom feel secure and whatever makes mom happy. It is that I am not the most affectionate individual. I don't like to be hugged.
Mom is the only person who I show affection too. I will hug her, hold her hand, etc..... But sometimes,when I am in serious pain, I don't want to be touched. I deal with it as well as I can, without showing mom that I am having a problem with it.
While with mom I do not show pain or that I have problems. I can't let mom know these things. Mom has enough problems to deal with as it is
OK I need to go now.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Sunday, June 1, 2014
Bath day
Hello again
It is mom's new bath day and when I arrived mom had removed one of the sheets the staff placed on her and she was hot.
I rushed to get her drinks into her. I rubbed the bottle of frozen water on her face to cool her off. And gave her allot to drink. Mom was dehydrated, as she is usually when I arrive.
I brought mom a quiche and some of the salad she likes. Two kinds. And this natural soda. Mom drank the whole bottle of this soda tonight.
I have been thinking and I am wondering if mom can still write. I could give her a small chalk board and some chalk to see if mom can write. I feel really guilty that I have not done this a long time ago. I will pick one up and just let mom try and try. Mom can use her right arm. She understands what I am saying.
I just want mom to be able to tell me what she wants for dinner. Instead of me just assuming she will like what I make.
I know mom likes my cooking, but maybe she wants something else or something special.
This is why I will pick up a small chalk board and will work with her everyday. I know mom would like to be able to express herself and let others know what it is she wants. Instead of everyone leaving her alone to do nothing.
I tried to adjust mom tonight and it was to painful for me to do. Some of the things I do for mom is becoming increasingly difficult for me. This is frustrating me greatly. And causing a little anxiety. OK allot.
I only want what is best for mom. And I need to be healthy to do this.
I already have enough problems. Loosing me hearing, walking with a cane, serious depression, not being able to find a place in white rock. I don't need the pain I am feeling from this accident.
I am waking up 4 or 5 times a night now. I am trying to sleep on my back, which I don't do usually. And it is my right side I usually sleep on, so during the night I roll and then I wake up from the pain.
Typing is now bothering me.
I need to go now. I have a few more things to do tonight. Which mean I will be getting to sleep around 3 am. Great, I don't think so.
GOD bless and good night
Please continue to pray, if you are, for me that I now find a place in White Rock ASAP
Kris Schmuland
It is mom's new bath day and when I arrived mom had removed one of the sheets the staff placed on her and she was hot.
I rushed to get her drinks into her. I rubbed the bottle of frozen water on her face to cool her off. And gave her allot to drink. Mom was dehydrated, as she is usually when I arrive.
I brought mom a quiche and some of the salad she likes. Two kinds. And this natural soda. Mom drank the whole bottle of this soda tonight.
I have been thinking and I am wondering if mom can still write. I could give her a small chalk board and some chalk to see if mom can write. I feel really guilty that I have not done this a long time ago. I will pick one up and just let mom try and try. Mom can use her right arm. She understands what I am saying.
I just want mom to be able to tell me what she wants for dinner. Instead of me just assuming she will like what I make.
I know mom likes my cooking, but maybe she wants something else or something special.
This is why I will pick up a small chalk board and will work with her everyday. I know mom would like to be able to express herself and let others know what it is she wants. Instead of everyone leaving her alone to do nothing.
I tried to adjust mom tonight and it was to painful for me to do. Some of the things I do for mom is becoming increasingly difficult for me. This is frustrating me greatly. And causing a little anxiety. OK allot.
I only want what is best for mom. And I need to be healthy to do this.
I already have enough problems. Loosing me hearing, walking with a cane, serious depression, not being able to find a place in white rock. I don't need the pain I am feeling from this accident.
I am waking up 4 or 5 times a night now. I am trying to sleep on my back, which I don't do usually. And it is my right side I usually sleep on, so during the night I roll and then I wake up from the pain.
Typing is now bothering me.
I need to go now. I have a few more things to do tonight. Which mean I will be getting to sleep around 3 am. Great, I don't think so.
GOD bless and good night
Please continue to pray, if you are, for me that I now find a place in White Rock ASAP
Kris Schmuland
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