I arrived to find mom extremely tired. I am not sure what it is. She does have a little bit of a cough. I will have to rub Vicks on her tomorrow night before I go.
And when she is tired like this she leans allot. So I have to put something behind her right shoulder to help keep her up straight. I really hate doing this with her. But it is the only way to keep her up straight. This is putting a strain on her neck and back. Her neck is becoming stiff. So I am massaging her neck lately. Trying to loosen it up. She slides in the chair and is leaning. When this happens, she gets her head caught between the head rest and the chair.
Do you think anyone even gives a crap. Does anyone even help her. NO! It has been a very long time since mom has been leaning and I have brought it up several time. But the OT has not a clue what to do. I do though.
Being Monday, mom was to get her hair done. Didn't happen. Tomorrow is the Christmas pot luck dinner. As soon as we finished dinner, I took her in and washed and styled her hair. This way it will be clean for tomorrow. And when I get their, I will go early, I will just give it a quick style.
I got her changed for bed, Because of washing her hair, we were later than usual. The care aid came in when we just got back to her room. I explained why we were late and if she could come back in a few minutes. I didn't expect her to be back right away. I got her changed and brushed her teeth. Covered her in a blanket while we waited. Mom had her eye's closed and just relaxing or trying to fall asleep.
The care aid did what she needed to do and I went and made some hot water for my tea. When I came back I gave mom her spa treatment. She was a little bit grumpy while doing this. She just wanted to sleep. I quickly finished, so I could just hold her hand for a while. Which I did. It was after I gave her something more to drink that mom just wanted to sleep. I asked her if she wanted me to leave. She clearly said yes. I can be very hot, warm blooded. and when holding her hand she gets to hot.
I sang to her and packed and left.
Now the staff are continuing to remove the undershirts again. This time they through it on the Blue Ray player behind the TV. I immediately went to the nurses station and said if they do this again and wreck the Blue Ray Player, they are replacing it. I also mentioned that I will now file a complaint. Not within, not to the manager, but I will now go outside with my complaints.
As it turns out, my meeting was a waist of time. The staff are going to get away with nothing being done to them. As mentioned they could kill my mom and nothing would every happen to them. BULLSHIT.
Time to take them down a notch or two. PERIOD!
I will include one of the photo's of the bruise on mom' temple area. As you can see it is a square edge, exactly like the end of the lift bar
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I can't even get the name of the person/care aid who was responsible for this. This is the day after, it got worse after this. It took over a week to go away.
As mentioned before, I brought the lift bar down and put it up against the bruise. Perfect fit/match to the end of the lift bar.
Over the next few days I will be including more of the photo's I have.
This is why it is so important for me to be living out in White Rock. To get their during the day. To have more time to deal with these issues. Instead of spending it on the bus.
As you can tell I am very pissed off about this. I wish someone would just want to help me out. So I can effectively deal with this. I was not asking for funds. I been down that road already. Maybe legal advice. Or something.
Isn't it shitty that I have to deal with this before Christmas. That I have to deal with the bullshit staff being to lazy to actually remove an undershirt and complaining about it all the time.
I have the nurses and care aid's union's numbers and the people to speak to at each union.
Well I have to go. Need to get up early to get ready for tomorrow night. Will be dressing up for a change.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher Schmuland
