I was going to write about our day, but I chose to include this letter that I wrote as a reply to a comment that was addressed to myself. Well emailed to me. From Olive Brutus
Again you are......................
I think you need to go back to school and learn to read. If you read the Blog, you would notice it states that this women is the one complaining to all who would listen. Not me. And that this women is nice to my face and does all of this when I am not around. Two faced is the proper word.
This new roommate has only been their less than three weeks and started to complain within a week of her being placed in with my mother.
If you understand anything at all about peoples behaviors, you should know that if I give into or they give into, anything this women complains about, she will want everything. It is obvious you have no idea how to read people.
First fool, I am not doing anything differently, than I do everyday for my mother.
Secondly, I chose not to speak with the manager, yesterday, as I threw my back out and was not in any kind of mood to speak with her. If I spoke to her yesterday, I might of spoken out of pain and said things that would not be pleasant. So I decided to wait until today, when I feel a little better. Which I do.
The manager is their everyday. And is available to speak with. A dated letter needs to accompany said conversation to prove that I addressed this issue and what my intentions are.
And I did speak with the manager today and they are going to try to move her. Period. We had a good talk today, as I felt better than yesterday and was as pleasant but firm.
Concerning the other roommate. I made complaints after complaints. But nothing was done until I filed a complaint with the Patient care quality office, that something was done about it. That is how mom was moved.
You have no idea what lengths I have gone through to protect my mother. You would not have the balls to do what I have done.
I will, however, continue to read to my mother, I will continue to sing to her, I will continue to play music for her. You are the ignorant one. Why should my mother have to go without anything that makes her happy and keeps her healthy. I do not have the music on at a level that would be a bother to her. I only turn the volume up if there is no one in the room. When I leave at night, I face the stereo towards my mother and turn the music down. I am not going to turn it down so low that mom cannot even hear it. Not going to happen.
You write, what about this poor women.
And what about my mother, she is stuck in a wheelchair, can`t read for herself, can`t feed herself, can`t`even use her left arm,thanks to the side effects of the anti psychotic medication that the doctors at her previous places have given her. It was a huge battle to get mom off of these drugs. Fighting with 6 different individuals, doctors, social workers, therapists, nurses etc. My mother is completely dependent on everyone for everything.
This women can feed herself, can read for herself. All she wants to do is complain like you do. You, like most people do not have it in them to do what I do. Who will fight and fight for the rights of someone who can`t defend themselves. This is not an insult to you or others. Some people have what it takes and others don`t.
I will go to any lengths to defend my mother. Whatever it takes, that is what I will do.
You and the rest of my family have no clue what is going on.
Now, I do not use social media, except for this Blog and a occasional tweet. I don't even have a Linkdin account. I have contacted Linkdin and told them that is not my account and please remove it. They are going to remove it within a few days. Thanks for the heads up. I do, however, have a facebook and Twitter account but don't use it, often.
Again, if you don't like what I write, DON'T READ IT!
REALLY!
I boils down to this. You are a selfish individual. You only write to complain. What about writing about the good that I do, not just for my mother but the other residents as well. As well as the fact I am there everyday and have been as long as mom has been in White Rock, and years before this at all the places mom has lived. Once I arrive, the staff do not have to do anything for mom except change her diapers. What I do for my mother, no one would do this. I go to see her no matter what I feel like, in pain, depressed etc... I just don`t stop. Or the fact that my family does nothing except complain like you do. Or my family goes to visits. once a month or so, and just sits there and stares at each other. Like the morons they are. Including yourself.
I have some nasty words for you but I will not lower myself to your level.
Sincerely,
The Jerk
This women only writes to try to insult me. I know she is well meaning. Concerned for herself and not be able to give to others. To reach out and help someone. Last year she wrote to brag about how her family helps people at Christmas. At Christmas is the key word. Not any other time of the year, but at Christmas.
I don`t brag to people about what I do. I don`t even like being given praise for what I am doing. It is simply the right thing to do.
When asked what I do. I tell people I am but a humble individual who has been given a rare opportunity to do what is right in this world and care for someone else. That is what I do, and I leave it at that.
So I will write tomorrow about real issue and what has been going on.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
