Hello again
So it is Friday and it was to be a day for me to wash mom's hair. But I arrived to late and didn't start feeding her until it was after 5. It takes mom time to eat and have her dessert. Well we were not able to accomplish the hair wash tonight. It was my fault. I know mom missed this. I will, from now on, arrive early on Wednesday and Friday. To start dinner early and get it done by 6 pm.
Other than this, mom was a little bit tired tonight. It showed in her chewing and swallowing. The more tired she is the longer it takes for mom to chew and swallow her food. I wish I knew which days she would be less tired, so I can bring something easy for her to chew. I cannot predict this.
Other days it is not a problem. It is just these hair days that I need to arrive early. The staff come in a 6:30 to change her and put her to bed. When I say change her I mean her diapers. That is it.
After the staff came I just did her spa treatment than I went to wash the dishes. But there is this women who always wants to talk. A daughter of one of the residents. And she doesn't stop. If I let her she would talk for hours. And it is actually not talking, it is she complains all the time. I just want to do the dishes and get back to mom. So I can hold her hand while she falls asleep. Spend the quiet time with her. Not spend 15 minutes listening to this women complain. Look she is nice enough, but I am only there for a short time. And 4 hours is a short time for me, I just want to spend it with mom. I don't get involved. I am busy.
Mom is sitting alone all day, with no company, so it is my responsibility to take care of her. And I just love doing this for my mother. Without a doubt.....................
It is mom's birthday on Monday, October 12 and I ask again if you could send a birthday greeting to her and spread the news around. She is going to be 87 years old and needs to know she is loved by all.
Her name is Mary Rose Schmuland
You can send the greeting to my email, one of them, at mylastnameis@outlook.com
OK another day done and I am very tired.
I spent a half hour on the phone with an advocate giving her a backstory on KB of the PGT and what I feel this upcoming meeting will be about.
So I am tired. And need to go for tonight.
GOD bless and good night.
Kristopher Schmuland
Please pray that I find a place out in White Rock very soon. The back and forth is wearing on my body. Yet I will not stop, no matter what.
Friday, October 9, 2015
Thursday, October 8, 2015
getting closer
Hello again
Mom's Birthday is approaching very soon October 12, and I ask again if you would be so kind as to send her a Birthday greeting. She is 87 years old. That is a long life and I don't know how many more Birthday's she has in her. At least a few, but because of the nature of the disease, Dementia, and the strokes she has had over the years, and possibly even more strokes to come. We just don't know.
Today I went to the PGT office. As they are refusing to answer any of my emails, so I know where the office is and I just went there. And asked to speak with KB or CK or anyone. Since they are the case mangers of my mother's estate. I will be speaking with them.
I was able to speak with KB OK it was MP who was with her and did most of the talking. While KB just sat back. Her body language was deplorable. Her facial expressions the same. I read her very easily today. Complete disdain for me. Very obvious with her facial expressions and body language.
She, because I am disabled and am not working. thinks of me as a lessor person. A nobody. Though I spend hours a day traveling to and from White Rock, taking care of my mother. And having to do what I did today. Plus the emails, the research. Not just dealing with the PGT, but also having to speak to staff at Al Hogg and deal with constant issues there. Still see's me with contempt.
I did start the meeting by stating that they are the PGT and take care of my mother's estate, I will be speaking with them. And if KB doesn't want to speak with me, to bad. Then find someone who will. Time to get another Case Manager.
I believe, well I will speaking on this at another time.
Mom today was with other's when I arrived. I did speak with the manager and we had a good meeting. I asked if the staff can turn mom's bed slightly, on her bath day. So she can at least see the TV. Instead of having the TV on and mom not being able to see it. As well as not to just put mom in the corner. She needs stimulation.
Other than that, mom is always happy to see me. We had dinner and off to wash her hair. I scratch her scalp while washing it. Since she can't even scratch her own head, anymore. Someone needs to do this for her. And mom just loved this'
We got her changed and into bed. Then what she looks forward to each night. The spa treatment. We were done early, so I was able to just stand there and hold her hand longer than usual.
I left and realized once again. I can stay longer with mom. As I had to wait 20 minutes for a bus. So that is what I will do from now on.
I ask again to send my mother a birthday wish October 12, and please include a photo of your land/country. She would love to see this.
Mary Rose is her name and you can send it to mylastnameis@outlook.com
Thank you
GOD bless and good night.
Please pray that I find a place out in White Rock. Something I can afford
Kristopher Schmuland
Mom's Birthday is approaching very soon October 12, and I ask again if you would be so kind as to send her a Birthday greeting. She is 87 years old. That is a long life and I don't know how many more Birthday's she has in her. At least a few, but because of the nature of the disease, Dementia, and the strokes she has had over the years, and possibly even more strokes to come. We just don't know.
Today I went to the PGT office. As they are refusing to answer any of my emails, so I know where the office is and I just went there. And asked to speak with KB or CK or anyone. Since they are the case mangers of my mother's estate. I will be speaking with them.
I was able to speak with KB OK it was MP who was with her and did most of the talking. While KB just sat back. Her body language was deplorable. Her facial expressions the same. I read her very easily today. Complete disdain for me. Very obvious with her facial expressions and body language.
She, because I am disabled and am not working. thinks of me as a lessor person. A nobody. Though I spend hours a day traveling to and from White Rock, taking care of my mother. And having to do what I did today. Plus the emails, the research. Not just dealing with the PGT, but also having to speak to staff at Al Hogg and deal with constant issues there. Still see's me with contempt.
I did start the meeting by stating that they are the PGT and take care of my mother's estate, I will be speaking with them. And if KB doesn't want to speak with me, to bad. Then find someone who will. Time to get another Case Manager.
I believe, well I will speaking on this at another time.
Mom today was with other's when I arrived. I did speak with the manager and we had a good meeting. I asked if the staff can turn mom's bed slightly, on her bath day. So she can at least see the TV. Instead of having the TV on and mom not being able to see it. As well as not to just put mom in the corner. She needs stimulation.
Other than that, mom is always happy to see me. We had dinner and off to wash her hair. I scratch her scalp while washing it. Since she can't even scratch her own head, anymore. Someone needs to do this for her. And mom just loved this'
We got her changed and into bed. Then what she looks forward to each night. The spa treatment. We were done early, so I was able to just stand there and hold her hand longer than usual.
I left and realized once again. I can stay longer with mom. As I had to wait 20 minutes for a bus. So that is what I will do from now on.
I ask again to send my mother a birthday wish October 12, and please include a photo of your land/country. She would love to see this.
Mary Rose is her name and you can send it to mylastnameis@outlook.com
Thank you
GOD bless and good night.
Please pray that I find a place out in White Rock. Something I can afford
Kristopher Schmuland
Monday, October 5, 2015
A hot day and just nothing
Hello again
Today was a very hot day and beautiful, Yet I am waiting for fall and the rain to come. I miss it. It has been a long and hot year.
Now I arrived to find mom off in the corner by herself. Not even looking out of the window. Sure she can't speak, so does this mean she has to be isolated as well. Bull Shit I say. I will be addressing this issue tomorrow.
Anyways mom was feeling better today, a bigger smile on her face. Very happy to see me. But I can see that she is not 100% yet. This cold is going around.
I arrived early and so we got to her room early and started dinner early. It was over 1/2 hour until the served dinner arrived and it was wrong. This is the second time in a week that mom's served dinner was wrong. Well mom just had what I brought. She liked it and by the time the served dinner came, mom was full.
It was quickly getting her changed and then we had lots of time to sit and listen to music before the care aid came in to put mom to bed and change her.
I was sitting beside mom. Mom had a blanket on and was holding my hand. She pulled my hand up to her chin and just went to sleep. And because of the warmth, I started to fall asleep as well. And the care aid startled me when she came in.
We got mom into bed and changed. Mom was not happy about being awaken, but happy about getting changed.
Then of course it was her spa treatment time. This is especially good when mom is not feeling well. It relaxes her. But mom always looks forward to the neck massage. This relaxes her left arm and by the time I am finished she is able to move her left arm more.
I had to go and do the dishes. I avoided everyone, to get them done quickly and get back to my visit with mom. She was a little upset that it took me to long to get them done. I was back as soon as could. And then I needed to hunt down the nurse to give mom her nightly medication. And after I just held her hand for another half hour and packed up. At this point mom just wanted the lights out, TV off and the music turned down a bit.
You see, I watch the TV with the volume off while I am standing there holding mom's hand, while she falls asleep.
I sang our good night song to her, she sung along with me and I left.
It is only a week until my mothers Birthday and I ask again if you could send her Birthday wishes from where ever you may be. A photo of your country/City or of your yard.
It is her 87 th Birthday.
Her name is Mary-Rose
This would mean so much to her. This is for my mother. I would love to show her photo's and Birthday wishes from around the world.
It is October 12, Her Birthday.
Mom would love this.
I do thank you for considering it. She is a women who was strong all of her life, raised us kids. And now she is completely dependent on everyone for everything. She can't even scratch her head. I do this for her everyday. She can't grab and hold onto anything.
So please help me out here.
Please send everything to mylastnameis@outlook.com
Thank you
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Today was a very hot day and beautiful, Yet I am waiting for fall and the rain to come. I miss it. It has been a long and hot year.
Now I arrived to find mom off in the corner by herself. Not even looking out of the window. Sure she can't speak, so does this mean she has to be isolated as well. Bull Shit I say. I will be addressing this issue tomorrow.
Anyways mom was feeling better today, a bigger smile on her face. Very happy to see me. But I can see that she is not 100% yet. This cold is going around.
I arrived early and so we got to her room early and started dinner early. It was over 1/2 hour until the served dinner arrived and it was wrong. This is the second time in a week that mom's served dinner was wrong. Well mom just had what I brought. She liked it and by the time the served dinner came, mom was full.
It was quickly getting her changed and then we had lots of time to sit and listen to music before the care aid came in to put mom to bed and change her.
I was sitting beside mom. Mom had a blanket on and was holding my hand. She pulled my hand up to her chin and just went to sleep. And because of the warmth, I started to fall asleep as well. And the care aid startled me when she came in.
We got mom into bed and changed. Mom was not happy about being awaken, but happy about getting changed.
Then of course it was her spa treatment time. This is especially good when mom is not feeling well. It relaxes her. But mom always looks forward to the neck massage. This relaxes her left arm and by the time I am finished she is able to move her left arm more.
I had to go and do the dishes. I avoided everyone, to get them done quickly and get back to my visit with mom. She was a little upset that it took me to long to get them done. I was back as soon as could. And then I needed to hunt down the nurse to give mom her nightly medication. And after I just held her hand for another half hour and packed up. At this point mom just wanted the lights out, TV off and the music turned down a bit.
You see, I watch the TV with the volume off while I am standing there holding mom's hand, while she falls asleep.
I sang our good night song to her, she sung along with me and I left.
It is only a week until my mothers Birthday and I ask again if you could send her Birthday wishes from where ever you may be. A photo of your country/City or of your yard.
It is her 87 th Birthday.
Her name is Mary-Rose
This would mean so much to her. This is for my mother. I would love to show her photo's and Birthday wishes from around the world.
It is October 12, Her Birthday.
Mom would love this.
I do thank you for considering it. She is a women who was strong all of her life, raised us kids. And now she is completely dependent on everyone for everything. She can't even scratch her head. I do this for her everyday. She can't grab and hold onto anything.
So please help me out here.
Please send everything to mylastnameis@outlook.com
Thank you
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
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