Saturday, April 28, 2012

It is not going to work

Hello again

I am not going to be able to continue to use my phone as a hotspot. It takes to much data to do this. And I just don't have an unlimited plan.

So back to the web site I need to be up and running. It is a place for someone in trouble to go to for immediate listings of help.

It is a place for seniors to go to for legal help. To find it. I keep looking and there is nothing online that has the resources that I want to be able to offer on my site. To find listings for legal aid, non profit agencies.

up to date information on treatments for Alzheimer's. Information on seniors abuse and what is being done about it.

Mom tonight was tired. This is the typical scenario, on the weekends mom is very tired. She was not very hungry either. I brought her prawns and perigees. Didn't like the perigees, and only ate a few prawns. This is not usual. Mom loves prawns. She ate some desert though.

Again they served mom a sandwich for dinner. I mentioned this to the staff and they are going to speak with the dietitian. Not till Monday now.

Mom just wanted to have her spa treatment done and go to bed. And speaking of beds. The other women's bed is in the way. There is allot of space in the room for her bed, but no, they have to put it right in the way of mom's bed. I bump into it all the time. Which means I disturb the women. I have mentioned this to them, but to no avail.

I am not a huge man, but I am 6' and 195 lbs. And alittle clumsy. I walk into things, I trip etc..... I need to walk around the bed for mom. To close her drapes and get her bed ready.

You know I still can't describe the feeling I feel serving my mother. And GOD. The feeling is just this warm, spiritual, out of this world feeling.

So I will have to go now. I need to get to bed. I don't know when I will be able to write again. I will try to write from my phone. Less costly than using it as a hotspot.

I ask that y'all pray for me. Ok if you don't. I am waiting on GOD for the funds to come for me to pay this bill.

But first I would rather have funds to buy groceries for mom.

Anyways,

GOD bless and good night.

Kris

  

Friday, April 27, 2012

Hotspot

Hello again

Well, my Internet and the other services are now gone. So I have my phone plugged into the USB port and am using the phone as my hot spot. The problem is that I only have a 3gb plan on my phone. And this is not much. But I think I am still on the unlimited free time I got with my new contract. I will have to phone Rogers tomorrow and find out. But I think it was only for a month and the month is almost up. And maybe see if I can get an Internet connection through them. Right I can, but I need a $100.00 deposit. This will be a business connection. As with my phone.

The Internet conection is everything to me. It is my entertainment, my communication tool etc.......

Now I was late getting to see mom today. As the landlady was over and getting Telus installed in the house.

I am with Telus and cannot get their connection, because I owe them money. I explained that it is because, 1, I spend my money on mom first. 2, I have not had any extra funds. I

I only have so much and that it that. I am trying to start a organization. www.adsaac.com.. But I have not been able to pay the monthly fee to keep my web site up and running. I worked for hours to build it to where it is now.

It is a wonderful idea, a resource site that offers the ability to have representative agreements written, counselling and a resource to agencies that assit our loved one's with abuse issues. I was going to start with Vancouver, listing all the resources that are available and then my province and then Canada. City by city. This is something that is desperately needed. There is no web site that has complete listings of who to call for help with seniors abuse related issues. Where to get help!

I hate to loose this work and site.

Now today with mom. Before I left today, I made mom honey mustard chicken breast with a baked potato. And a salad. I got their just after 5 pm. I have been getting their around 4 - 4:30 pm. I warmed the dinner up and mom was really hungry today. She couldn't wait and was anxious.

They, once again, served mom 3/4 of a sandwich. Where is the dinner. I would love to bring mom dinners every night. I just don't have the money for groceries. I will spend whatever I have on doing this for mom, before I eat. And it is as simple as that! I will eat popcorn, so I can give mom delicious meals. Yes the home supplies mom with dinners. But I have mentioned to you what they have been giving mom lately.

On top of mom eating, she was also wanting to have the spa treatment done.

I would like mention something about Dementia. People have what is known as sun downer. This is where the individual is lively during the day and at night they get worse. They experience more confusion and other symptoms of their disease. I am always their for mom in the evening. So sometimes mom is very, I would have to say, grumpy and anxious, very tired.  I don't see mom during the day, when they say she is lively. Yet I don't care what mom is like. She can get mad at me, and swear at me. I will still love her and always will love her. When she gets mad because she needs to go to the bathroom. She squeezes my hand and gets very angry. I just tell her I love her. I tell her that she should get mad at me, rather than the staff.

Allot of people lately have been telling me I am a good son. I just turn and say, if I am a good son. It is my mother who taught me to be this way. To give of myself. I am here to serve mom, and that is the way it is to be.  I am here to serve GOD and my mother. This is my service in life at this moment in time.

I am extremely happy with this arrangement. I believe that this is what GOD wants me to do. Period.

So after dinner, I gave mom her spa treatment. It makes me extremely happy and fills my soul with joy to have mom so relaxed because of this. I finish and mom just wants to hold my hand while waiting for a staff member to get her ready for bed. Mom loves the music I play for her on my phone. If I have the phone on the bed beside her. She reaches for it. Mom loves it when I put the phone on her chest. She can feel the music and gets the best sound from this. We are all built for a purpose, we all have a purpose. And mom and GOD is one of my purposes. I also believe that the organization is another one of my purposes.  It is sound.

I am so happy when I leave at night. I am so filled with joy I am ready to tear up just thinking about it.

Tonight, after the staff got mom ready for bed, which includes putting her to bed. I had to finish the spa treatment, by putting lotion on her arms and hands. Separate lotion for her hands and arms. She was very tired and became mad at me and wanted to scratch me. But this is the illness. Mom was tired and just wanted to sleep. I just told her I loved her and sang to her. Gave her big hugs and kisses. She just smiled and I knew it was all good. I sang our good night song to her and she closed her eye's and went to sleep. It make me so happy and. Well I can't describe how I feel inside of me. It is something I have never felt before.

I am going to stay longer at night and just hold mom's hand while she falls asleep. I know mom will love this and so will I. I am doing GOD's will.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Thursday, April 26, 2012

With Love

Hello again

I am still here. Wow. I think not. The way things go, I'll be just ready to hit the publish button and bamm, the Internet will be terminated.

I don't think this will happen tonight. But maybe tomorrow. This is an odd  thing, as I have been posting for years now, everyday, mostly. And all this time I have had and kept up to date with a  Internet connection. This is the first time in years I have no funds to pay my bill. Well it has been more like many months, since I paid the bill.

As I stated, there were more important things to do with my money. As in spending it on my mother. Again mom is first, which means I will spend my money on mom first before anything else. Yes including the Internet bill.

I do everything to make mom happy. When mom is happy, I am happy. No my happiness does not depend on my mother's happiness. But, dam, it feels really good, when mom smiles and enjoys the things I do for her.

As in tonight. Before I left today, I made mom a two cheese omelet, and bacon. Plus I brought mom a few slices or bread which I toasted at the home. And warmed up the omelet and bacon.

It has been years and years since I made bacon. I usually eat the chicken bacon. Which mom does not like at all. But tonight mom loved everything. You could tell, after each bite she closed her eyes and enjoyed it. I had an avocado to go with it.

And what they gave mom for dinner was a cheese sandwich. A process cheese sandwich. The plastic cheese. And again it was not a full sandwich. 3/4 of a sandwich. Just like last night. It was a egg salad sandwich. 3/4 of a sandwich.

What is with this. I don't know how long I can keep bringing mom dinners. I try to bring her dinners, But funds are at a 0 balance for me now. But I do have a few things left to bring her.

For tomorrow it is honey mustard chicken breast with a potato and onion bake and a healthy salad that I make on a regular basis'. And I will have my usual, popcorn tonight and tomorrow. I am Ok with this. As in last nights dinner, the omelet and bacon. I don't eat pork, and eggs bother my stomach. So I don't eat eggs. Or cheese much.

I do what I do to make mom feel good. It makes mom feel good when I make her dinners. Mom loves my cooking. It makes mom feel good when I give her the nightly spa treatment. It makes mom feel good when I feed her. I know she can do it herself, but she wants me to do it and that is fine with me.


.It is weird, though, when I know what mom wants, when she says nothing. It freaks her out a little bit. But she smiles as it is exactly what she wants. Again I am not sure where my gifts come from, but I have had them all my life. Except for the few years I suppressed them, as they made me feel weird and people thought I was very strange when I could tell them what they were thinking and when they were lying to me. Which I never suppressed this gift. It has only been developed. And I am an expert at being able to tell when someone is lying.

Yes my back is killing me, and is getting worse. I don't have the proper bags to carry the things I carry. But this is Ok as well. I can't leave anything their. As my sister's will take it. This is the one major bone of contention that I have.

I have to forgive, though. It is part of my belief system. And I try and try. I can and do, most of the time. I am very glad the one sister visits mom once a week. But again she drives and I take transit. Yes everyday. And it is kind of fun. I meet and speak with a multitude of individuals with many different stories.

So I still have not heard anything from the manager, concerning my email and wanting to meet.

I do, after all, need a car, or a really good backpack and a other bag. As in a portfolio bag. Messenger bag.  And I could use a few pairs of pants that actually fit. I have to now, put another hole in my belt. I am getting smaller and smaller. This is good, I guess. I do work out at home with bands and push up bars. Every other day.

Mom is it for me. I will and have done anything and everything for her. This is my work. My calling. To love unconditionally, and do whatever is necessary to be there for someone. Mom has made me a better person. I thank GOD everyday for the opportunity to serve my mother. I thank GOD everyday, I have a mother who thought me the values of life.

GOD bless and good night.

I may be back tomorrow, we will see.

Kris



Wednesday, April 25, 2012

mom is not too happy

Hello again

So since the last time I wrote to y'all, they have not taken mom to the washroom, the food is well not great.

I wrote to the manager 4 days ago now, and no reply.

This to me, states they don't give a crap about what other people think, Especially the children of the people who rent their.

Yes I say rent, as mom pays so they work for mom. Not the other way around. We are going to have a serious problem.

I am disgusted by those who think they know everything and think they are always right. Or what they say is the only thing that matters.

I will be correcting this attitude. In our meeting I outlined what mom's routines are. They just ignored what I said.

The staff is rude, Example: Sunday is mom's bath day. I got their at 4:30 and I didn't see mom, I looked and looked. Well she was in her corner and in bed. I was very worried. I asked the nurse, why is mom in bed. She tells me it was her bath day. Again I ask Why is mom in bed. On bath day we put them in their bed's . Again I say, Why!

You have to talk to.... I don't even know what she even said.

And when I got into her room. Mom was so mad, she was gripping the rail on the bed and I had an extremely difficult time getting her to let go. She was swearing away. Very legible I might add.

So my back is killing me, I have had to bring allot of things for her, and carry the laundry home on the weekend, and bring it back the next day. Plus everything else that I had at home for her.

I brought a comforter and pillow cases. I only have two comforters and two sets of pillow cases. I now have one of each.

This is Ok though. I will give mom the other set if she needs it. I have asked for the funds to get her a couple sets of new items.

I have a TV and stereo for her. But the last couple of days my back has been killing me. This is why I have not written anything for the last few days. I get home and I am exhausted. I make a few things for mom and then I try to relax and watch some TV. Well I lie down and I am out like a light.

I have to figure out how to carry everything for her. Besides buying a car. I need new bags, and I have no way of getting them. Everything I carry their and back is for mom and what is in the bags stay in the bags, except for what is needed to go into the fridge.

I don't even have a brief case anymore.

But wow is me, cry me a pity pot. I don't think so.

Well this week might be my last week I will be able to write this blog. My Internet bill is outstanding and is rather large. Money has had to be allocated to other things the last little while. Mom!

So the bill is overdue and I don't have anything to my name. I am trying to sell the new clothing, well older, but never worn clothing that is rather large. Well extremely large for me now. But to no avail. No bits, not even one.

I have other things I have placed on Craigslist, again no bits. Not a one. I assumed that I could get rid of everything before the bill was due again. Now it is going to be disconnected, sometime this week.

I will write until the end. And then some. Unless I get serious help, as in the next few days. The Internet and cable is gone.

I don't have a TV and the cable is connected to the computer. I think I will be lost for awhile. This is my everything. My entertainment, the way I get the music for mom, and now the way for me to download movies and older TV shows for mom. The way I communicate with, well, the world.

I am trying to get as much downloaded as possible before the end.

Anyways. Back to mom. Enough about my problems.

Now mom does not like being stuck in a corner. She is talking up a storm lately. I have to try to slow her down. When she talks a mile a minute I have a hard time getting everything she is saying.

Ok I don't hear her words, but I understand her anyways. Call it what you will. But I pick up on things, I hear things. I read her mind. whatever you want to say. I have this gift. If I am connected to someone, I can read themI can read her mind and know what she is saying. Think whatever you want, but we all have gifts, but we never used them or use them.

Now this place is not very good. I know if mom stays their the way it is, she will not do well over time. Mom will get worse, quickly. They are not even caring about what mom or I want or what mom needs are.

They are only interested in themselves and their opinion.

So, I am in pain and need to get say goodnight for now. I am having a hard time sitting here typing.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris

Sunday, April 22, 2012

It has been a few days

Hello again

Well this last week, on transit, has been a week of racism. I have seen and heard allot of white people speak badly about several different races. Very derogatory, and extremely rude. Stating things as If they can't read the sign I am not going to tell them. And, on the bus, you go and sit at the back of the bus. Then telling the driver, I don't like them.

I could not believe it. I am white, but I like the multiculturalism of Vancouver. Personally, I have dated many different races. I have friends of all colours, shapes and sizes. I don't care if your skin is purple, green, blue or whatever. And my dating. If you are attractive, I could care less what your race is. Beauty is beauty, no matter what colour one is.

Mom now

I have enough money to get mom a nice TV. A 19" TV. So I put the funds in my drawer today. So it is safe and I don't loose it. Then  tonight I go to the superstore, a box grocery store. I decided to check the electronics department. Oh yea, it was no tax day. I did not even know this until I got their.

Well I saw a perfect TV and on sale. Cheaper than what I saw at London Drugs, and a better make. Of course I did not bring the funds, and there was no way I could talk them into holding it for me and me not paying the tax. But it is still on sale. I would of saved $15.00 in tax.

And tonight was a night I could of used my roommates to be up when I got home. At 9:30 pm, they were both asleep. Well passed out. So  I could of got a ride or used one of their cars. I could not carry it back, to far with the other things I had.

So mom's room, is just to small. And the fact that it is right besides a power sub station. Which can cause serious health hazards.

I think I might of mentioned this already.

They still are not taking her to the toilet. I told them she goes to the washroom, not in the bed pan. How embarrassing for her. And mom lets me know she is not happy about it. Yet she does not want me to take her to the bathroom. She let me know this very clearly.

The room is to small, or the corner mom is forced to live in. I can't even move around without fear of falling on mom. It has almost happened twice now. I caught myself before it happened.

Other than mom needs to be moved to the other side of the ward. Because of the substation. And needing to take mom to the washroom, instead of the bed pan. And the space is to small for us to do what is needed every night. Her spa treatment being the main issue.

So it is 1:22 am and I need to get to bed now.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris