Hello again
I arrived to mom trying to get her comforter off of her. I felt her and she was so hot. No wonder she was trying to take the comforter off.
I rushed to get this off of her and then as quickly as possible gave mom drinks. And did she ever drink. She didn't want the ice water yesterday, but oh yea, today she drank and drank the ice water.
Mom couldn't get enough to drink. But, alas, she was full. I unpacked my bags, need new one's again. I go through these like crazy. And then set up for dinner.
Oh yea, it is Saturday, and it is bath day. So they put mom back to bed afterwards.
Mom ate well for dinner. Enjoyed her dessert. I told her I was going to read to her after the spa treatment. But forgot until right now.
I was trying to find this show we both like, but couldn't. Her TV doesn't have a show listings. Nor do anyone else's TV. All the TV's are routed through a central server in the hospital. So no cable listings on any TV.
I guess I was carrying to much. Because both arms are very tried tonight. I am finding it difficult to type. Or something else is going on.
Well we finished everything and I, as usual, just stood there and held mom's hand. She won't go completely to sleep until I sing to her. Then she will close her eye's and I would hope fall asleep. I leave at this point.
Really, this is why I need to be living out their. To stay until I know mom is completely asleep.
Mom is fine, and healthy and happy.
But not me. Oh yea I am happy. Happy that mom is doing well. Comparatively speaking.
I need to go, it is to uncomfortable to continue to type.
So until we meet again
GOD bless and good night.
My faith is still day to day
Kris Schmuland
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Now it is or maybe not
Hello again
I don't fool myself into thinking that mom is all right. I know this is not the same women who raised me.The vibrant, caring person she used to be.
You know what, yes she is. Mom is there, under the problems associated with the strokes and dementia. OK yes the strokes have made her dependent on everyone.
I still have conversations with my mother. I know she can't do allot of things anymore. That she can't speak. Use her left arm and hand. She tries though.
I know there are problems. But I don't want mom to be treated so differently that she gets depressed. I know mom is aware of what is happening to her.
And mom knows that I will always be their for her, taking care of her. And this makes her happy
That is all that matters.
Mom's happiness.
Until the end. And I hope that is a long ways off.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
I don't fool myself into thinking that mom is all right. I know this is not the same women who raised me.The vibrant, caring person she used to be.
You know what, yes she is. Mom is there, under the problems associated with the strokes and dementia. OK yes the strokes have made her dependent on everyone.
I still have conversations with my mother. I know she can't do allot of things anymore. That she can't speak. Use her left arm and hand. She tries though.
I know there are problems. But I don't want mom to be treated so differently that she gets depressed. I know mom is aware of what is happening to her.
And mom knows that I will always be their for her, taking care of her. And this makes her happy
That is all that matters.
Mom's happiness.
Until the end. And I hope that is a long ways off.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Friday, July 18, 2014
Can it be
Hello again
First off I am terrible at spelling. Before spell check. I would always carry a dictionary around with me. And to my surprise. OK, not really. I knew it was spelled wrong.
But I do apologize for spelling quiet wrong all this time. I have been spelling it quite. It was today that it came to me the correct spelling.
So please except my apologies for the huge error.
Today, was a good day for mom. Very hungry and we finished diner early. Apparently. I brought her chicken and rice. Mom really liked it. And of course she ate some of the served dinner.
We got to her room and I quickly change her. Then back to the book. We both are really getting excited about what is going on.
I have the movie, but I won't watch it until we finish the book. And we will watch it together.
And finishing dinner early, we were done everything else early. So after mom was put to bed. She was ready to sleep. Of course I stood there and held her hand. If I let go, mom will reach her hand out to find mine.
I find this so fascinating. That she is so comfortable holding my hand, she will automatically close her eye's. Even while we are eating dinner. I let go, her eye's open. I grab her hand and her eye's close.
I am not use to someone being that secure, knowing that I am there and everything is OK. Just not use to this.
I guess it revolves around my not liking to be touched. This does make for a lonely existence though. Really, I do not like to be touched. At all. By anyone. I just make an exception for mom. And sometimes, this is even hard for me. To much!. But I won't stop.
I don't and won't shack someone's hand. Do not hug me. If the bus is to crowded, I will get off and catch another one. If someone is sitting to close to me, I will get up and stand.
Yes this is my serious problem. Along with the injuries I have suffered threw car accidents over the years and the injuries I am suffering with now, because of the bus accident.
And I am getting very lonely.
Again tonight I stayed latter. Mom has been going to sleep earlier and I have been staying latter.
OK, midnight. I need to get going. I am tired from being up late writing. It takes longer only using one hand to type. As mentioned , if I have the keyboard right up against me, I can use both hands. But need to take breaks every few minutes.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
First off I am terrible at spelling. Before spell check. I would always carry a dictionary around with me. And to my surprise. OK, not really. I knew it was spelled wrong.
But I do apologize for spelling quiet wrong all this time. I have been spelling it quite. It was today that it came to me the correct spelling.
So please except my apologies for the huge error.
Today, was a good day for mom. Very hungry and we finished diner early. Apparently. I brought her chicken and rice. Mom really liked it. And of course she ate some of the served dinner.
We got to her room and I quickly change her. Then back to the book. We both are really getting excited about what is going on.
I have the movie, but I won't watch it until we finish the book. And we will watch it together.
And finishing dinner early, we were done everything else early. So after mom was put to bed. She was ready to sleep. Of course I stood there and held her hand. If I let go, mom will reach her hand out to find mine.
I find this so fascinating. That she is so comfortable holding my hand, she will automatically close her eye's. Even while we are eating dinner. I let go, her eye's open. I grab her hand and her eye's close.
I am not use to someone being that secure, knowing that I am there and everything is OK. Just not use to this.
I guess it revolves around my not liking to be touched. This does make for a lonely existence though. Really, I do not like to be touched. At all. By anyone. I just make an exception for mom. And sometimes, this is even hard for me. To much!. But I won't stop.
I don't and won't shack someone's hand. Do not hug me. If the bus is to crowded, I will get off and catch another one. If someone is sitting to close to me, I will get up and stand.
Yes this is my serious problem. Along with the injuries I have suffered threw car accidents over the years and the injuries I am suffering with now, because of the bus accident.
And I am getting very lonely.
Again tonight I stayed latter. Mom has been going to sleep earlier and I have been staying latter.
OK, midnight. I need to get going. I am tired from being up late writing. It takes longer only using one hand to type. As mentioned , if I have the keyboard right up against me, I can use both hands. But need to take breaks every few minutes.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Thursday, July 17, 2014
I know what love is, devotion
Hello again
I was very busy on the phone today. More so than usual. All to do with my mother. And making sure she gets the best care and the right things for her. Clothing I am speaking about.
I have been mom's personal shopper for a decade and it is part of my existence. Part of what I do. I enjoy doing it as well.
The OT where mom is has been at me to get mom adaptive clothing. Well it is very expensive and just ugly.
She wanted me to look through the catalog. I did and there is nothing that mom would wear, or has ever worn.
I have had nothing but problems with this women. She thinks she makes the decisions when it comes to my mother and she speaks in a condescending manner to me. " I'm busy, I don't have time to deal with this." Make the time. You are not getting anything for my mother without my permission. Period.
Well mom tonight was tired. She just wanted to hold my hand, and when she is like this, mom will have her eye's closed while I feed her dinner. This was the case tonight.
It being Wednesday, it is her day to have her hair washed by me. Which is what we did right after dinner.
And then the spa treatment. Mom barely wanted this done. Mom was trying to push my hands away while I washed her face. I just did her face and legs and feet tonight. And stayed until 8 again holding her hand while she slept.
When mom's grip loosens, I know she is fully asleep. This is when I left
I was up very late last night and did not get much sleep, so I am signing off for now.
GOD bless and good night.
Still trying to raise funds for the cushion The ROHO cushion
Please pray for me, to receive GOD's help and direction.
Oh I need to move. The landlord is renting it out to his relatives. So September 1 is my deadline.
Kris Schmuland
I was very busy on the phone today. More so than usual. All to do with my mother. And making sure she gets the best care and the right things for her. Clothing I am speaking about.
I have been mom's personal shopper for a decade and it is part of my existence. Part of what I do. I enjoy doing it as well.
The OT where mom is has been at me to get mom adaptive clothing. Well it is very expensive and just ugly.
She wanted me to look through the catalog. I did and there is nothing that mom would wear, or has ever worn.
I have had nothing but problems with this women. She thinks she makes the decisions when it comes to my mother and she speaks in a condescending manner to me. " I'm busy, I don't have time to deal with this." Make the time. You are not getting anything for my mother without my permission. Period.
Well mom tonight was tired. She just wanted to hold my hand, and when she is like this, mom will have her eye's closed while I feed her dinner. This was the case tonight.
It being Wednesday, it is her day to have her hair washed by me. Which is what we did right after dinner.
And then the spa treatment. Mom barely wanted this done. Mom was trying to push my hands away while I washed her face. I just did her face and legs and feet tonight. And stayed until 8 again holding her hand while she slept.
When mom's grip loosens, I know she is fully asleep. This is when I left
I was up very late last night and did not get much sleep, so I am signing off for now.
GOD bless and good night.
Still trying to raise funds for the cushion The ROHO cushion
Please pray for me, to receive GOD's help and direction.
Oh I need to move. The landlord is renting it out to his relatives. So September 1 is my deadline.
Kris Schmuland
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Well it has been a ruff few days
Hello again
I have not written as I have been in real pain, my arm has been hurting me. I have had to write some very important emails. And by the time I was finished with them it was late.
So I arrived today and mom's eyes lite up. A huge smile on her face. I put the pain I was feeling, in check. I needed to be their for mom and out of my own self pity
It was very hot at her home today, so we ate dinner in her room, where she has a fan and was much cooler. To the point I had to turn the fan off. Mom was a little chilled.
Mom ate and ate tonight. And barely ate her fruit. But she did, none the less.
I quickly got her ready for bed, so we could get back into the book. She is really enjoying this book. The life of Pi.
Sad to say we were only able to get through a few pages before the care aid came in and transfered mom to bed.
I gave her the nightly spa treatment and then proceeded to exercise her legs. Mom is able to bend her legs more and more with each passing day. It took a long time to get stiff, so I expect it will take a long time for her to be able to bend her knee's again. I am going very slowly.
We ended up finishing early, and I ended up staying latter. I love to just stand there and hold her hand while she falls asleep. But she needs to here our good night song, before she is completely relaxed. She is so use to hearing it, before bed.
I usually leave at 7:45, but tonight I left at 8:15. This is why I need to be living in White Rock. Just to stay as late as I want, without having to leave.
Now it has come to my attention. And done behind my back. That the home wants to buy mom clothing that has Velcro closures in the back.
Have you ever seen any of these cloths. They look like crap. They are polyester and feel horrible. We already went through this. Mom refused to wear them, And I told the individual that mom will not wear this and I won't let her. I told them what she likes and how to buy them. One size bigger.
It seems the lazy staff don't like to dress mom in her clothing. It is to difficult for them. I always buy one size bigger. I always buy pants with elastic waists.
The summer clothing I have purchased is the same. But I guess I needed to buy two sizes larger. I spoke with the OT about this the other day, and it was agreed upon that I would just buy larger sizes. But this women went behind my back.
We have been there and done that. And it isn't going to happen again.
Mom likes to dress a certain way, and has always like to dress this way. And this is the way she is going to continue to dress. Period
Just look these clothing lines up. Womens adaptive clothing, for seniors. You will see what I mean.
Why on earth has someone not come up with a clothing line that makes seniors with special needs, more attractive. Come on now. No one would want to wear this stuff. The only reason they even stay in business is there is no real competition.
OK it is now getting late. I wanted to be in bed already
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
I have not written as I have been in real pain, my arm has been hurting me. I have had to write some very important emails. And by the time I was finished with them it was late.
So I arrived today and mom's eyes lite up. A huge smile on her face. I put the pain I was feeling, in check. I needed to be their for mom and out of my own self pity
It was very hot at her home today, so we ate dinner in her room, where she has a fan and was much cooler. To the point I had to turn the fan off. Mom was a little chilled.
Mom ate and ate tonight. And barely ate her fruit. But she did, none the less.
I quickly got her ready for bed, so we could get back into the book. She is really enjoying this book. The life of Pi.
Sad to say we were only able to get through a few pages before the care aid came in and transfered mom to bed.
I gave her the nightly spa treatment and then proceeded to exercise her legs. Mom is able to bend her legs more and more with each passing day. It took a long time to get stiff, so I expect it will take a long time for her to be able to bend her knee's again. I am going very slowly.
We ended up finishing early, and I ended up staying latter. I love to just stand there and hold her hand while she falls asleep. But she needs to here our good night song, before she is completely relaxed. She is so use to hearing it, before bed.
I usually leave at 7:45, but tonight I left at 8:15. This is why I need to be living in White Rock. Just to stay as late as I want, without having to leave.
Now it has come to my attention. And done behind my back. That the home wants to buy mom clothing that has Velcro closures in the back.
Have you ever seen any of these cloths. They look like crap. They are polyester and feel horrible. We already went through this. Mom refused to wear them, And I told the individual that mom will not wear this and I won't let her. I told them what she likes and how to buy them. One size bigger.
It seems the lazy staff don't like to dress mom in her clothing. It is to difficult for them. I always buy one size bigger. I always buy pants with elastic waists.
The summer clothing I have purchased is the same. But I guess I needed to buy two sizes larger. I spoke with the OT about this the other day, and it was agreed upon that I would just buy larger sizes. But this women went behind my back.
We have been there and done that. And it isn't going to happen again.
Mom likes to dress a certain way, and has always like to dress this way. And this is the way she is going to continue to dress. Period
Just look these clothing lines up. Womens adaptive clothing, for seniors. You will see what I mean.
Why on earth has someone not come up with a clothing line that makes seniors with special needs, more attractive. Come on now. No one would want to wear this stuff. The only reason they even stay in business is there is no real competition.
OK it is now getting late. I wanted to be in bed already
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
Sunday, July 13, 2014
I have reached a mile stone
Hello again
I first want to thank all of you for reading my Blog. I am now over 25,000 views. I have been waiting patiently for this to happen.
So thank you to all you readers from all over the world.
Mom is fine today, up and about. She ate well at dinner.
Her room is cool, the fan is working great for her.
I did the usual things tonight. Feed her dinner, changed the sheets on the bed.( very difficult with one arm working properly) But I managed. Got her ready for bed. Read to her, the book is getting exciting.
And after mom was put into bed. It was the usual spa treatment.
The nurse came in to give mom her nightly medication and asked me, well didn't ask me, but said, you come in from Coquitlam everyday. I said yes. That was that. I guess she just found out. I don't usually see this nurse.
I stood there while she fell back to sleep. She was asleep before the nurse came in. I always make sure mom gets a drink of something good, after she gets the medication.
The room was nice and cool when I left.
Not much else to say this evening.
Need to write a very important email. So I need to go.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
I first want to thank all of you for reading my Blog. I am now over 25,000 views. I have been waiting patiently for this to happen.
So thank you to all you readers from all over the world.
Mom is fine today, up and about. She ate well at dinner.
Her room is cool, the fan is working great for her.
I did the usual things tonight. Feed her dinner, changed the sheets on the bed.( very difficult with one arm working properly) But I managed. Got her ready for bed. Read to her, the book is getting exciting.
And after mom was put into bed. It was the usual spa treatment.
The nurse came in to give mom her nightly medication and asked me, well didn't ask me, but said, you come in from Coquitlam everyday. I said yes. That was that. I guess she just found out. I don't usually see this nurse.
I stood there while she fell back to sleep. She was asleep before the nurse came in. I always make sure mom gets a drink of something good, after she gets the medication.
The room was nice and cool when I left.
Not much else to say this evening.
Need to write a very important email. So I need to go.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
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