Hello again
I would like to start by saying that mom had her appetite back today. She ate most of her dinner, an avocado and cheese. Plus ice cream and chocolate and Carmel sauce. And three of her Lindt chocolates.
The most mom has eaten in over a week. For dinner at least. But according to the social worker, mom eats all of her breakfast and lunch. But I don't believe anything this women tells me anymore. As she has lied to me more than a few times. Excuse me, she told me many non truths. An example " We have 50 people living here and one staff member" Not my problem, nor is it mom's problem. Hire more people, they are charging mom enough.
Now after dinner tonight, I brought mom back to her room. She was tired and wanted to go to bed. But since the social worker called and yelled at me, I told mom that at this moment I can't put her to bed. But last night, the care aide put her to bed immediately after dinner.
But not tonight. Mom wanted me to get her changed and put her to bed. This is what she kept motioning me to do. But I said it won't be long. Considering last night. I thought the staff member would be right in. Not so.
Look, I have never seen this staff member before. And it is not her fault that the social worker never wrote any of this down for everyone else. She didn't even know that I was not to put her to bed.
But mom and I had to wait until 7:30 pm for mom to be put into bed and changed. By this time mom was angry. I knew this, as I know what mom is thinking and she was complaining the entire time we were waiting for someone to come in a get mom ready for bed. Anyways, when I left the room, for them to change mom, I heard the care aide, come out and ask for help. I knew exactly why. Mom was pissed off that she had to wait for over and hour.
You see, I take her to bed, right after dinner. I change her into her night gown, I put her into the bed, and then I give mom her nightly spa treatment. And by the time the staff comes along, it is usually about 6:45 pm. Mom is completely relaxed and ready to be changed. Then I finish off, with her spa treatment and sing to her our good night song. At this time, the nurse came in to give mom her nightly medication, and mentioned to me that mom was in a bad mood. That she fought back when we tired to change her.
Well I told the social worker this numerous times. Mom has a routine and when it is broken, she gets upset. Mom likes to be in bed by 7 pm. What are they not getting.
Mom is not happy with this arrangement. It has to change. This is ABUSE. Mom wants certain things and that is what she is going to get.
Lie to me once, shame on you. Twice, it's on.
So people have been asking me lately, if I like money. As I don't have any and because of my traveling I have not been able to do anything towards making money. Besides writing this blog. And I don't make any money doing this.
I tell them if I am given a choice between mom and money. I would choose my mother any day. She is my family, and as far as I am concerned, the only family I have left. So my mother is more important than money.
I really hope people can understand this. But so far, no one can. As everyone tells me that if I want any help, to get a job. What about Christian beliefs. The moral thing to do. Doesn't Jesus say to love one another and to give unto them. And I was told that if you need help ask for it, and it will be given unto them.
Now it is now only 4 days until I am to move. I have paid rent from the 15th of the month, and nothing of mine is moved. If I had a vehicle I would have everything moved in a day.
Right I have only a couple of dozen boxes and half a dozen bags to move. I have a kettle, some knives. That is it for an entire apartment that I need to furnish.
I have to say this, though, I like Coquitlam. Everything is right here. Everything. I am moving as it is the right thing to do. To be closer to mom, to be able to have her over. That was and is the idea behind my move.
The case manager has made many promises, since mom was forcibly moved to White Rock. And one of them was to help me get out their and set up. As I wrote before, I was promised a large cheque, for $7000.00 or more. I was promised that I would get help with my dentures. None of these were fulfilled. He has denied them. Then he tells me to contact his manager. I have and nothing.
I have explained that this move is about mom. Getting her out, for lunches, dinners and just for a visit. I could not do this, living with another person. Yet I could not afford to rent an apartment. So I looked around for a basement suite, and found this. It is cheaper than what I pay now. $550.00 per month and everything included. Cable, heat, lights, Internet. Not furniture, bedding, dishes, cutlery, shared laundry etc........ I presently pay $565.00 per month and laundry privileges was taken away from everyone in this house.
So I ask again, anyone willing to assist me out. Would be greatly appreciated.
The other day I walked into a pole and I have had a very large headache since then. Or maybe I am so stressed out, as I have nothing to bring to my new home. Excuse me, mom's and my new home. It is as much mom's as it is mine. It is hard for me right now. I have a bed here. But travel 6 - 8 hours a day to visit with mom. I move and I have no furniture, nothing for mom to sit on, or for me to sleep on.
I am told, by many, to shop around. I say, I would do this if I had money. I require a lifting recliner for mom, and this alone is expensive. I really didn't think they were that expensive. $899.00. I have called all around and have looked all over the Internet for the best deal in the lower mainland. The price is the same all over North America. Except for a few places in the deep south.
But I need to finish for today. I didn't even want to write anything today. I am extremely tired.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
