Hello again
I was watching a show before I left today, and it was on, generation ME and the baby boomers who created them.
No manners, no care for another human being. Socially retarded, don't care what you think of them. And the worst part no compassion for our seniors or people with disabilities.
I see this every single day, in my travels. People do not offer me a seat on the bus or train. they push me. Even thought they see I walk with a cane and am disabled. But they do not care. Not concerned with anyone around them except themselves. Chivalry is out of the window. Health is gone. Communication is shot. They will text each other, while seating next to each other. Not speaking to each other the whole trip.
I see seniors get on the bus or train, and the seats that are for them or me, are taken up with kids. And do you think they get up and move, not a chance. But I do, I will give up my seat for anyone. I will stand it is OK.
Now this comes from parents wanting to be friends with their children. Not a chance. We are their to teach them manners and respect for the elderly and their seniors. As in excuse me sir or madam.
The word sorry is thrown around like a baseball, meaning nothing anymore. I do not use the word sorry except when it is really needed. I use the word excuse me. And this is proper. Table manners, to this generation, they have no clue. Even in restaurants, they give you a regular fork, instead of a salad fork. No body even knows how to hold a fork, spoon, knife. etc..... They do not know what glass is for what. Proper table edict.
I know all of this and I should be teaching this to our youth. This is important in life. Other cultures respect someone who knows edict and manners. The Japanese for one. I was raise with this part of my life always being their.
Speaking of manners. People who answer phones while speaking with someone else. It only took me once to learn this lesson. I was getting a ride back from dropping off my rental car and I was with another business man. We were talking and my phone rang. I immediately answered it. Well I over heard the business man tell the driver, that I was the rudest person, and raised without manners.
That is all it took. From that day on, if I am speaking with someone, I will not answer my phone Period. The other person always asks me if I am going to answer it, And I just say, I am speaking with you now. I have caller ID and voice mail. That is what they are for. And then I follow up with the only time I will answer the phone, is if a certain ring happens and that is the hospital about my mother. Who is sick.
Then If someone leaves a message on my voicemail. I usually just call them back to speak to them person to person. And they say, did you get my message. My reply is, no, but if you would like, I will hang up and check your message and I may or may not call you back. Or you could just tell me now. They always answer with, I will just tell you now.
Now about manners and the me generations.
I stopped going to the last church I attended for this reason and this reason alone.
It was Christmas time. A few weeks to go, actually a month before Christmas and my small group wanted to do something for Christmas. Well I suggested we call share ( A local organization that helps the needy) and choose one family, and give them the best Christmas they have had in a long time. This means, Decorate their yard, (if they have a yard) or their home. Right up there. And buy them great gifts and other necessary things for their home. And then give them a fantastic Christmas Dinner, with all the trimming and more. Have it a whole day affair.
And if it goes great, next year, pick two or three families. Well, what I got from the group, is lets pray about it. Again I almost became livid. Pray about it. Their response was, What if GOD does not want us to do this. Did not GOD in his own words tell us to love one anther and to do good for as many as we can. I am pretty sure it says that over and over again in the Bible. But I might be mistaken. Even though I have read the bible over and over again, daily for years now.
Well they then said why don't your call share and see what they say. I know what they will say. How many people can you help.
So we left it for that day, and the next week I brought it up again, and nothing. Remember we are now only a few weeks away from Christmas. One more week pasted by and still nothing from the group. So that was the end of that and that is when I decided it was over for that church. And new that the me generation even extended to the church and the baby boomers who occupy them.
I was completely lived and insulted. You see, I have seen this kind of no manners and I am only out for myself attitude for years now, while writing this blog. I do everything I can for my mother, I fight for her rights, with the hospitals, the doctors, the PGT
You see, by doing what I do for my mother. It is helping others see things differently.
I apply treatment to my mother. I care and love her. I help and do everything I can for her, every day. And again, I mean every single day. I spend more time traveling than I actually get to spend with my mother. 5 hours traveling for 2 hours of visiting. And this is me leaving Coquitlam at 1PM daily to get their, one half hour before her dinner. Everyday. day in and day out. I do this with all the love in my heart. And I don't do this for any other reason.
This is my mother and she is all I have left. I have seen my grandfather, than my father die of this disease and now mom has it. I did not get to spend as much time with the others as I would of liked to and I decided that this is going to be different. Mom needs me and I need her. We are one.
And all this time I write this blog. I ask for help, but not just for me, but for my mother. Through what I do and write. This will help many see and do things differently.
It is Christmas time and this is the time of the year when everyone is suppose to reach into their hearts and show love to their fellow man. I am hear and nothing. I go completely without, so my mother can have the best of things possible. Since the PGT is and does not help. Just take and take and take her money, until their will be nothing left and then they will just say good bye.
I have tried to get this company off the ground (www.adsaac.ca) but I need more time and resources. As in a phone. I try to explain this to the PGT and nothing. They tell me that this is exactly what they are about. But I really dont see it. Considering the new reports on them. (negative)
I have no one to speak with all the time. I go weeks without having a conversation with anyone else but my mother. Don't get me wrong, I love speaking with my mother. That is apparent, when I am none stop yapping the whole time I am their. To the point, mom will actually tell me to stop talking, so she can just listen to the music.
I write this so others will understand exactly what goes on and what one feels and thinks when they have a loved one with Alzheimer's and or Dementia. Everyone out their who are about to face this. And 49 to 60% of the baby boomers are going to develop Alzheimer's or Dementia in the next 20 years. Will maybe read this and understand what to expect. Both emotionally for them selves and their loved ones. Or what the physical degeneration will follow.
I have seen this for over 15 years now. And have been an extremely active part of this disease around my family. Their helping all the time. I have seen it all and know what is going to happen and what to tell everyone to not let the doctors and homes do to their loved ones.
By reading this you will know, exactly what to avoid. And what not to let the doctors do or give your loved ones. This has been nothing but a pain staking task. Not only helping mom, but also at the same time finishing an education. And wanting to do more. As well as wanting to start this business, to help our loved ones with this abuse.
This is all about the abuse of our parents, grandparent, husbands, sister, daughters. It is rampant and has to stop. Both physically, spiritually and financially.
I say that what I do is an important task that has to be done by someone. Someone who has the incite, to see the wrongs and the abuse. From being around this for many, many years now.
Yes it is not what everyone would think of as a job. But it is and it is an important one at that.
And now, it is Christmas again. And last year it was a horrible Christmas for mom and I. And if I don't get help right away. This Christmas will be even worse. Present less and nothingness is what is in store for mom and I this year. Unless someone or many people come through for us.
I have all the decorations for mom. But they are not any good. They are to old for this new facility. The tree is to big. The decorations are not shatterproof. And the lights, too old.
So everything has to be purchased again. I have spent hundreds and hundreds of dollars on deportation for mom over the years. I try to make a different theme for the tree every year. This is I wanted to make it blue lights and white decorations. Only white decorations. Mom always loves the new themes I come up with. Never ending ideas.
But how is this possible now. The PGT has made promises over the last few months. To the tune of $3000. and I have waited for this. This would do everything I need to get done. But no. Of course not. This what always happens with them. The PGT will make a promise and then it is next week, then next week it will be the next week. The tactic of the stall.
If I would have these funds moms Christmas would be great. As it is, all the clothing I have purchased for mom over the last few years, are gone. And what mom has are mostly the clothing of mine that I have also given her. The really nice things I have purchased her are gone. Of course. And allot of my clothing of mine I have given her are also gone.
I need to replace these items, The cross she wore for years that I bought her. White Gold. Gone. Mom never took this off, until someone took it off of her. Even when mom had a bath,. It was never taken off. Good right, NOT.
I say all this tonight, following what I saw on the show today. That society has lost the ability to see others needs and help them. I am not insulting anyone. I am just speaking in generalizations. Well in my case maybe more to do with the fact that I have always been honest about everything on this blog. My feelings, moms feelings and problems.
So once more I reach out at this time of the year. Christmas and the time of our Saviors birth, that I ask for all assistance I can get. In what every form that it may be.
I will need to go now. It is 1:29 am and I started writing this at 12:AM.
So GOD Bless and good night
Kris
