Hello again.
Tonight my mother's roommate passed away, while we were in the room. She was alive when I took mom back to her room for her nightly sap treatment and then less than 15 minutes latter, I hear the roommates last breath. And that was that. I went to get some hot water to rinse mom's face and looked at her and said to myself that she is dead.
And not long after this, within a few minutes, a staff member came in and tried to wake her up. And of course could not. She ran out and got other staff members and the blood pressure machine. I said she passed away a few minutes ago.
I did, yesterday, after hearing the night before, to tell her. Daughter I give you peace. This is what I heard while praying for her. And this is what I did. And she received her peace.
I also while praying for her several days ago, asked GOD to take her pain away. And the next day I am their and the nurse tells another nurse that she doesn't feel pain anymore. Go figure. The miracle of GOD's word. I ask, and HE does. He tells me to tell her Daughter I give you peace. And then she passes away. Just like that tonight. I tell her and not long after that she passes away.
To weird, don't you think. Or is it just me listening to GOD.
Now the problem I do have with this is that her son has, for the last month, just comes in and within 5 minutes is gone. And tonight was the same thing. Even though I knew it was the last days for her. She passed away alone, with no one their holding her hand or the family coming together saying their good byes.
I felt that I should of said something to him the other night. That get everyone together as your mom is about to pass away. This I felt while in the elevator with him, yesterday. And sure enough, it was a correct feeling.
What I am writing about is this. Mom got very upset at the fact no one was their for her roommate. And looking at me as if I would ever do this to her. I told her that I was their every day when you were in for hip surgery, both times. And I stayed with her all day, until late when it was time for her to go to sleep. But she slept most of the time, anyways. But I was their. And I told mom that when it is time, I will be by her side all the time.
And by then we should have a place, so this doesn't happen. I want mom to be in a home, our home, not alone and everyone around her. Or at least myself. But I promised her I would be their for her, no matter what. And this what I have done and will do. This is why I spend so much time with mom.
I cannot leave mom alone, by herself. Especially when no one was their for mom's roommate tonight. Not a one. Not even a staff member. This also upset me that not a single member of her family was their. This I can see happening with my family. As it is they are not even around.
This is my motivation behind me being their for mom. For her to know someone is always going to be their for her. This I will not change. I always hope people that people understand this.
It is when someone passes away alone that I know I am doing the right thing. This is why I continually ask for help. And most likely will continue to do so. This is why it is so important to spend time with your loved one's. Nobody wants to die alone. With no one their holding your hand or seeing all of your family. Which mom's roommate didn't get a chance to have.
Mom tonight was tired. It is the weekend though and she usually is tired and not very hungry on the weekends. But I did feed her fruit, a pudding, cheese. She ate most of her dinner and a desert I brought her.
And after her spa treatment, she didn't want me to stop holding her hand and go. But I assured her that she is healthier than I am and will be their tomorrow, for her. She is just worried about being alone. That is not going to happen, ever. To mom, ever.
So I am still in need of $100.00 for my rent. And I do not eat much at all. Not very often as well. But I do survive though.
So I said my piece tonight. How upset both mother and I were that no one was their for mom's roommate.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland.
