Hello again
So I am going to start by saying the PGT is refusing me assistance. And on top of Stephen Flynn, case manager of my mother, and his supervisor Leanne Dospital are threatening to have me cut off from Welfare. The only way I can pay my rent. And well not live or eat, but pay my rent. I need this.
So I stopped writing his name on this blog. But for today I write his name and the email he sent me. Which he does not like me to publish.
So here it is the email.
"Flynn, Stephen SFlynn@trustee.bc.ca
Kris,
First of all we have had this discussion ten times. The answer is no.
This moving fiasco is a problem of your own creation. Not the landlord, not the Ministry and not the Public Guardian and Trustee. It has nothing to do with me, my care of your mother’s finances, or our work.
When I provided you with the $200 yesterday, it was not to assist you to pay your rent. It was to provide you with funds to move your things. If you are not going to move your things, I am requesting you return this money.
If you do not, you are going to find that I can say no quite abit.
You clearly stated to me this money was for you to move your and your mothers belongings into the home of your Great Aunt. So whether you intentionally lied to me, or lied to me about the purposes for these funds in the belief you would be able to move the effects, does not matter to me. You know now that you don’t want to use the money for moving, you want to pay your rent with it.
I never agreed to provide you with an additional $200 for rent.I will ensure the Ministry knows that you have received these funds.
If your mother needs a fan for her room, tell the staff at Dr.Hogg and they can purchase one for her out of her comforts allowance.
I want you to return the $200 to this office by the end of business on Friday July 20. End of story.""
Now after speaking with the ministry and finding out they would pay for part of the rent. And them telling me I have to come up with the rest of the rent myself. I asked them about borrowing the money and if I have to pay it back dollar for dollar. No I don't, but I need to come up with the rest. And I am short $100.00
And I know it was my mess and I leaped to soon, without taking everything into consideration.
Now there is a national Alzheimer's conference in Vancouver this past week. If I knew this is the way Stephen would act, I would of been at the conference with picket sign in tow.
Now tonight I didn't even leave the Al Hogg pavilion until 9 pm. As the staff didn't even get to changing mom until after 8pm. And this is not acceptable.
You would never let a baby sit in their diapers for any length of time. But it is OK to let our loved one's Seniors with Alzheimer's do so. This is serious abuse. But they don't see it that way. There has been many times that mom is messy and it is several hours that I know she has been sitting in her filth. What is the difference between a baby sitting in their diapers or a senior. Nothing except age. Respect is missing.
I was then told that they were going to wait until I left to change mom. When was this the case. When did I ever leave before mom was changed and I fixed the bed, tucked her in. Put on the final lotion and more lip balm. And then sing her our good night song. NEVER!
I stay until mom is ready for me to leave. She lets me know. And I plan on staying now, until she falls asleep. I feel this is what she wants me to do.
And today I found mom in her room, put in front of the TV. But that is not the problem. She is staring at her roommate who is dying. And might not even be alive when I get their tomorrow.
Mom ate most of dinner and lots of fruit. Then she ate two of her Lindor chocolates. Then off to have the spa treatment done. And all mom wanted to do was go to sleep. I did tell her no matter how fast I go we still have to wait for the staff to come and change her. And wait we did. Over two hours. Nice isn't it.
For my friend Kseniya, I started a web site to funds raise for her. A free one. Limited though. But I haven't had time to do anything with it. Except the title. I really would like to help somehow.
I need to go to bed now, myself.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
