Hello again
Today is three weeks since mom passed away. It has been the most difficult three weeks of my life. I don't know what to do with myself. I am use to getting up and going, stopping along the way for mom's fruit and vegetables. Getting everything she likes.
I am grieving, I am mourning. But how can I when I have to deal with this nonsense of having to go to court to prove that I am the one who should be getting mom's ashes.
The, so called sisters. who did nothing for there mother. Not even a piece of fruit, did they bring. Not even a cold drink did they bring. Now they want everything. They think they can do what they want and the law does not apply to them.
Turn around, after plans were made, and cancel them, without even talking to me about it. We are all co-executers of her will. We all have to make the decision about her.
Not just the two of them. Just like they did for my father. Behind my back,
My dad did not even get the Veterans funeral he so deserved. Instead he was just cremated. And I was not even told about that. I had to find out from the funeral home, After I was arranging the Veterans funeral for him and when I called to let the funeral home know what was happening, is when I was told that dad was already cremated and the service was happening in a place I could not get to by bus. Just as it is now.
If it were not for the funeral director, I would not even have been in Mission to arrange anything. Which happened.
Actually, if I did not go downtown to the Public Guardian and Trustee's office that Friday, I would not of know it was canceled I had told many people that her service was going to be the next Friday. It was then I called the funeral home in Mission, to find out the girls had already made an appointment to have the service there, in Mission. A place that I can't get to by bus.
Because they are on their high horse, thinking they have the right to do anything they want. They don't care about the law. They, just like it has always been with them, think they are better than anyone and the law does not apply to them.
Yes I am repeating myself. But you really need to know what type of people I am dealing with. I did not get to go to my own fathers funeral. My dad. Because of them
Now they wanted to do the same for my mother. Who it was I, who looked after her for over a decade. Who was there for everything that happened to her. I saw and was there for all that mom went through.
I witnessed her decline, first hand. From not being able to use the phone anymore, to not being able to feed herself anymore. I was there. I looked after her. Not the two sisters
They were no where to be found.
When there were problems. It was I who had to file the complaints. I needed to have the meetings. I was on the phone getting things done. I spoke with all the staff, the management. I made sure that mom had everything she needed.
From her own sheets, to the proper food and nutrition for her. I made sure mom was given the supplements she needed. If they could not feed her. I was able to
Towards the end. the staff could not feed her. Only I was able to feed her. She didn't trust anyone else
Trust, who did she trust.
The answer is only me. Mom did not even trust her own daughters She would not let them do anything for her. Well they did nothing anyways.
I knew when the girls were there. I was told. I was also told how they interacted with mom. How long they stayed for. Everything. I know they just sat there. Not even holding mom's hand.
I always asked mom how her visit with them was. And most of the time she did not care if they were there or not. They did nothing for her.
I never once tried to stop the girls from coming. I never bad mouthed them in front of anyone. I encouraged that they visit mom.
I was always disappointed that they could not of even brought mom a drink, a chocolate bar or anything.
I am mourning, I am grieving and I should not be having to deal with this.
I need your help to bring mom home to were she wants to be. I know mom wants to be home with me.
I just ask for a little help from all of you
Just $1.00 Just $5.00. this is the price of one of your coffee's in the morning. Not very much to ask for.
I just need to hire a lawyer to assist me to bring this to the Supreme court and let the court decide who gets mom's ashes.
If the judge rules in their favor. so be it. I won't challenge that. I just don;t want mom's ashes to sit in the funeral home for who knows how long.
I am not challenging the will. It is split three ways. I just want mom.
Please donate to this cause.
https://gofundme.com/ka556fdk
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher W. A. Schmuland
