Hello again
It still bothers me about the email telling me to get a grip on reality.
Well I think I have a perfect grip on reality. In 10 years that I have been dealing with Alzheimer's and Dementia in my family. I have not once come across anyone else who even comes close to what I do for their loved one.
Where mom is now. I see maybe 5 people on a regular basis's that care enough to come and visit, more than once a week or every two weeks.
And my asking for help. Why shouldn't I ask for help. If a dog can get $18,000.00 in donations, I think why wouldn't a human being get that much and more.
Get a job, Buy me a car, so I can get to my mother's for her dinner time.
ONCE AGAIN. I LEAVE MY HOUSE AT 1;30 EVERYDAY. TO GET TO OCEANSIDE FOR 5:00
Then I don't even get home until. Well I just walked in the door. I arrived home early tonight. Then I sat down and started to write this.
I had nothing for mom, for dinner tonight. And it turns out that tonight would of been a very good night to have something for her.
What she was given tonight would not even be considered dinner by your standards. A little bit of cut up Turkey. Rice, which mom does not want and boiled, canned string beans. Where is the nutrition in this. Plain rice, nothing. Boiled string beans, nothing. As I say and will continue to say, If you boil something, you might as well drink the water that you boiled it in. As there is absolutely no nutrition left in the vegetable after you boil it.
Mom ate the turkey, after I put BBQ sauce on it. Yes I brought BBQ sauce. And that was it for that dinner. It is lucky, all I had was a Asian pear and a little bit of cheese left. Plus a frozen dessert. Which I made from the fruit that was going to go bad. So I always throw it in the freezer and make a frozen dessert out of it.
This is all she had for dinner tonight. She was not impressed and neither was I. I broke down several times on the way their today. Because I had nothing for her. I got their late because of it.
It is very hard to not be able to give mom a good meal at night. It takes it's toll on me. And mom sees this too.
I could not even buy her a fresh coke or a new juice. And especially the water she likes. I took in my roommates empties and bought the pear with that. This is how broke I actually am.
Now mom is moving on Monday. You think it would be a good thing. Well in a way it is . She is leaving the care of the staff from Riverview.
But little to my surprise. The social worker neglected to tell me, after several dozen conversations on this subject. That it is a shared room.
The social worker did willfully mislead me into thinking it was her own room. By omission of the fact. Gross misconduct on their part.
A pattern that is and has been apparent from the start. It is in my sister's best interest that he has in mind.
With statements like. "They don't have to cross the bridge to get here. It is a straight drive down 16 th Avenue for them to get here. It is closer for them."
I always come back with They drive and I don't, so who cares what they think, when the one comes once a week and the other never comes. I am here every single day and you still allow them to take mom's possession's. Her jewelry, clothing etc... After many conversations with me about they are not to remove anything/.
Well, I have gone to the Police about this and something is going to be done about it.
I said I would if everything is not returned.
This is just the start. This is the last straw.
If the social worker told me that it was a shared room. He knew I would of stopped this move in it's tracks. This is a malicious action taken on behalf of the social worker. Knowing full well I would not of allowed such a move.
Now my mother is going to suffer. We spend time together in private. I feed her in her room. I give her the nightly spa treatment in her room. We listen to music, we sing, I sing to her.
Her privacy is gone. How is this beneficial to my mother's health and well being. It detracts from this. And it is going to cause mom undue stress. Having to be forced to live with someone, after living in and having a private room.
The social worker knew well in advance that it and most of the rooms in the Al Hogg building were shared rooms.
But not once did he mention it to me. Because he knew that I would of said no.
By all means mom is not stuck their. I will do everything in my power to change this. Yes it is not good for mom to keep moving. But to force someone into a situation that they know is not conducive to better health and well being. Is completely malicious.
I am not a nasty person. But I will take heed to anyone who hurts my mother. And I will react. Not verbally. But civilly. We have courts and I plan on using them
Mom is moving, as I said, and when anyone moves they need things. Since, where she is now, they do not allow anything. She can now have things.
I wanted to go into the place this weekend and decorated it for her. So when she moves on Monday, it would be relaxing for her. Visually appealing.
The PGT is doing exactly what they always do when mom moves. "Does she need it" No she needs nothing. Let's leave her room bare, with nothing in it. So it looks like a cold unhappy place to live.
They did this before, and I settled and ICBC claim early so I went out and bought mom a brand new bedroom suite. Since my sister's took everything that my parents owned when they conned mom and dad into selling their house in Coquitlam.
What happened to this furniture. Your guess is as good as mine. I bought beautiful prints, that I had framed to match each other. Everything was ruined and then disappeared. Without a trace. Except for a few items, which were completely ruined and scratched beyond help.
So now on top of the fact that I have nothing to make and bring mom for dinner, I have no coin to buy her the drinks and snacks she likes. I can't go in and decorate her new place. So the move, and living with someone will be made somewhat easier.
And my aunt is now in White Rock, as it is time for her. And a few blocks away. I wanted to take her their on Monday. Well, weather permitting, I can at least do this. I wanted to get mom a nice dinner, from the best fish and chip place in White Rock. Down on the walk, by the beach.
Not going to happen.
Mom needs a TV and a stereo that I can download the type of music mom listens too. Or at least have a CD player so I can burn music.
The TV, so I can bring Variety shows, that she use to watch, and enjoyed. Beautiful pictures/prints for her part of the wall.
Now I know someone from the Al Hogg pavilion may have or are reading this. So I want to let you know that I don't know anything about you. And I have only had a problem with the staff of Riverview.
I watched for three years, and I saw things that would make you scream and your skin crawl. I don't blame them for any of this mess.
I blame only the social worker, for his malicious omission of the fact it was a shared accommodation and the PGT for their usual Crap.
The abuse my mother has suffered at the hands of the PGT and Riverview. Mom should be walking, as she can.
And if I make any complaints. The director makes threats against me. Stating that she will ban me from seeing my mother.
You know I don't care about me at all. I will eat popcorn for dinner as I have been doing for the last week. I have none anymore, so I go without again. Oh well. I just care about getting things for mom, Getting mom her drinks and snacks. Give her dinners every night, as I can.
This and this alone is my sole purpose. To make mom as comfortable as possible. To give the best, and to give her everything.
As you can tell I have been and am extremely pissed.
So GOD forgive me and GOD bless
Good night.
Kris
Please excuse me for my lengthy rant.
