Hello again
I could not write last night as I got home after 12:00 am. And this due to the fact that the staff are making mom wait to be changed and taken to the bathroom. Tonight it was an hour that mom had to wait and she waited so long that mom actually went to the bathroom in her pants. Yes you heard me, in her pants.
As she waits, she gets mad at me, this is OK. I would rather mom get mad at me, then the staff. If she gets mad at the staff, they give her drugs, which they have been giving her anyways. To calm her down. And then she gets labeled as non complient and her discharge will be held off.
This is exactly how they do things around their. They make things up. They make my mother wait and wait. Meanwhile they chat with each other, and the halls are bare. They walk by the room, knowing mom needs to go to the bathroom.
They know anyways. As when I am finished with mom's beauty treatment. I open the door for the staff to know that mom is ready. This is nothing new. I have always done this. But now it is just abuse. Making mom wait so long that she had to go to the bathroom in her pants.
When I was putting mom to bed at night, I had mom in bed by 7:00pm. This is the time mom likes to be in bed. Now that the staff are playing a game with me, which by the way, they will loose, Mom does not get to bed until 8 :00 pm. Trust me on this one, I have a near perfect memory.
Now tell me what to think about this. So if I do not speak up for mom, and kiss their ass' mom get to bed at a normal time. But because I do speak up. They abuse her.
I WANT MY MOTHER OUT OF THEIR NOW!
To get away from these people.
And the worst one of all is this care aid named Heather. You see heather seems to think that this is her mother,or soemthing like that. She does not treat mom as a person, but as a baby. And I have seen her force feed mom, not giving mom time to finish what she is already chewing, before giving her more. This is becasue these staff members are to busy talking to each other. Not paying any attention to the paitient. To busy waitng for their breaks. And then dropping what they are doing and going on their break.
Now Heather, seems to think she can dictate to me what is what. Not so my dear. I am her son and I tell you what is going to happen.
She tells me to return the junk I threw out, that my sisters keep bringing mom, Lotions and creams etc.... that they buy at WallMart for pennies. I keep leaving messages to tell them not to bring or buy anymore of these items, as mom is covered. I take care of my mothers beauty products myself and they are not junk.
I just turned around and said if you would not keep allowing my sisters to take my mothers jewlery and clothing.
Now, mind you, at the present time and for a few months now, I have not been able to purchase these products. So I have received some of my mothers money to get them.
But if it were not for the PGT abusing my mother and myself. I would be able to purchase these products as I would not of had to buy everything at once. All of Junuary, the PGT refused to help mom out. With drinks, snacks, anything. Nothing.
And now, their still is not enough funds to get mom what she needs. Even though the PGT tells me that their is over $500.00 available and the hospital tells me, that this is not so. So they both try to play me.
Now the social worker is telling me to turn in the receipts. I do, and I am not going to go out of my way to make sure that the accountants can understand them.
They went to school for many years to understand this. I have not received enough to do anymore than get a few things. And certainly not a pair of shoes for mom.
I ordered some of these aire bras for mom, off the TV. The staff say, that it is to difficult for them to be messing around with bras. To bad, it is your job to treat these people with dignity and respect. Not to be so lazy that you cant even put a bra on them.
The hospital tells me I should not write anything about them, Well I say this.They should not of hired a single person from Valley View.
My mother is a human being and deserves the respect she should have. Not treated like a baby. Mom speaks and understands everything. GET IT.
I am extremely pissed off today and have been for a few days now.
I have been trying to get a copy of the incident report of the complaint from one of the staff members. But it seems every time I ask for it, I get sent to speak to someone else.
I even tried sending an email to the director tonight and it would not go through. I want and am entitled to a copy of this report.
I have to go now, as my back is just killing me. I now, have to bring my own towels to wash mom, as well as blankets to keep her warm, Tonight for example mom was dressed so poorly that when I got their she was cold. They don't do anything about her left arm.So I put a glove on her left hand tonight to keep the circulation going. Before they have to cut it off.
I have had to carry the blankets and towels out their and back and with no proper bags to carry everything in, I have injured myself. On top of the fact I have a concussions from walking into the bar, which I always raise up and then it is back down again.
I want to know why I cant be in my mothers room when they put her to bed.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
