Mom being well or not

Hello again

I am not sure where I left off the last time I wrote or even when I wrote. I am having problems with my wifi. So I will just continue, instead of trying to load the posts page.

Well the doctor and I have a difference of opinion. Mom, is very sick. The bladder infection has really taken it's toll out on her. The doctor thinks only a month. I say let us leave it up to GOD, who has the final say. And this is just the doctors opinion. None of us know, what actually will happen.

Mom today, was bright eyed, and it is only day one of the new antibiotics. So none of know what tomorrow will bring

Mom has gone through one 7 day dose of antibiotics. They did help a bit, And now she is going through another 7 day cycle of antibiotics. As well as intravenous drip, to put some sugar into her system.

They are telling me not to give mom anything to eat. She has a small problem with drinking. It was only the beginning of the week that they said not to feed her. As she is having some issues with swallowing. Mom eats for me and drinks for me.

I am getting there at 2 pm and just sitting beside her, holding her hand until 8:30 pm. I wash her daily, still sing to her. But I don't eat infront of her. She wants food, but I can't give it to her at this moment in time, so I don't eat infront of her.

I am making her as comfortable as I can.

Tomorrow, I am going to try and get her up for a bit. I spoke with the nurse and he agreed we can try and do this. All she has been doing is lying in bed. Getting her up will make the world of difference.

I believe anyways. And each day after that.

It is up to mom on what she wants.

She is a very strong women. The doctor tells me she is frail. I don't think so. She still has her iron grip. She still pulls my arm, as we did when she exercised her arm. .

I am loosing it, however. I am barely keeping it together. I am not hungry, nor I am getting enough sleep. I try. I go to bed, fall asleep and wake up two hours later, than just toss and turn the rest of the night.

I am worried that I am going to get that call, in the middle of the night. Telling me to get there as soon as possible. No buses running then. It is a $125.00 cab fare. I called them today. I just don't have it. So what then. I can't get out there until at least 9 am. This could be hours after they called. And the girls could be there in 20 minutes

I am worried that she is going to pass away and I am not there for her. Worried I don't have the money to have her buried as she told me before she lost her speech. I am worried that I don't have the cab fare out there. If I were to get that call

I need to go and try to eat something and get some sleep. Maybe I will put on a drama.


Please continue to pray

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland.

Maybe since I am part Russian/Prussian , I should ask President Putin for help. My country doesn't seem to want to help with anything.

Mom is still sick

Hello again

Excuse me again,for not writing sooner. But I have been leaving early and arriving back in Coquitlam late. Not much time for anything else.  Relax, bed and get up and go. I have been arriving very early to be with mom.

This Bladder infection is taking it's toll out on mom. Heavy antibiotics are causing her to be very lethargic all the time. Very sleepy.

Mom is stable

Mom is not eating or drinking to much. Well the staff cannot get her to eat or drink anything. But mom will drink and eat for me.

Mom is not eating much for me, but she is eating a little. And drinking allot.

Fluids are the most important thing to get into her. And keep giving them to her. As much as she will take.

Now I am getting there at 2 pm and staying until 9 pm daily. I just need to be there with mom, to show her that she is loved and well taken care of.

No Christmas here for mom or myself. Yet I do not have Christmas anyways. I have always just made sure mom has a great Christmas.

I still have everything to make her a Christmas dinner. After she gets well. I pray daily  for this to happen. I have others praying as well.

My gripe is that, mom is very sick and this is the time she should be pampered and shown great love. But KB of the PGT doesn't think she should have her liquid B-Complex,and lotions to make her feel better. This is the time she should have these. The B-Complex is vital to her survival as well as the pampering that she would get from the daily spa treatments.

But it is not KB of the PGT, but also the girls.

I need to go and try to eat something. I have not been eating, at all. Just tired and stressed. All I want to do is watch something to fall asleep too and get up and get on my way to mom's. No time to eat. I just want to get to mom's and give her something to drink and look after her.

Even if that mean just sitting there holding her hand, while she rests. Talking to her, singing to her.

So please pray for mom.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

They just wouldn't listen

Hello again

It has been a few days, maybe more since I last wrote to you. But here is the news. Not very good news, But new, none the less.

Last Friday, after complaining and telling the staff that something was wrong with mom, they finally did something about it. Well basically, it was when I threatened to take mom to Emergency, that they called the Doctor and something was started. I arrived last Friday, just in time, for mom to be wheeled off to have an x ray of her lungs. Then that day the Doctor ordered a urine sample. Mom was not feeling well. But mom did eat some dinner. It was on Saturday, that they found out mom has a bladder infection.

Hmmmm. I started telling them, at the beginning of the month that there was something wrong with mom. They just kept telling me that she doesn`t have a fever, her blood pressure is fine. I always repeat this. ``She doesn`t have to have a fever to be sick or something wrong with her.`` And here we are, mom has a bladder infection.

Sunday I was on my way out to see her and I get a phone call telling me that mom was not doing very well and this could be it for her. It could be. But it isn`t going to be.

She has a treatable infection. They put mom on a heavy dose of antibiotics. Intravenously As well as  a saline solution. Which the Doctor ordered, to start with, a weeks worth of both

3 weeks after I started to tell them something was wrong with her.

Now they have her on a death watch. I ordered that her food be pureed, for now. So she can eat. They could not get her to take anything. I could and can. She ate for me, she drank lots of liquids for me. The nurses excuse me LPN`s came in tonight telling me that mom is on a pureed diet, that she had a swallowing test. Not to feed her the food, but give her the thickened juice. That is it.

This Janet, excuse me, The bitch, thinks she knows mom. Well the only person that actually knows my mother is myself. Not a single other person. Telling the staff to let me know not to feed her.

This Janet and my sisters are trying to kill my mother. Janet because she doesn`t give a crap. And my sisters, because the sooner she passes, the more money they will get.

I am very pissed off right now. As you may tell. But no one is going to kill my mother. They are going to feed her and that is that. Or I call the police. None of this starving my mother.

She will let me feed her, she will let me give her drinks. Mom will let me give her, her daily medicine. They tell me she won`t let us give her the medicine. Obviously they aren`t even trying

GOD bless and good night

I won`t be saying anything about this time of the year. Because there is not Christmas here.

NOTHING AT ALL IS HAPPENING FOR CHRISTMAS.

I know I won`t have anything, as usual. But I will wait until mom is better and I will make her a dinner.

Kris Schmuland

Not sure

Hello again

Well today is one of those rainy and partial snowy days. Nothing is sticking where I am and where mom is. To bad. It would of been nice. It brightens up things.

I arrived very early today. I had a doctors appointment, so I went first to see mom, drop off my things, give mom a kiss and told her I will be back shortly. Which I was. Needing x-rays on my hip. It is really sore, can barely walk on it by the time I get back to Coquitlam

So people think that I think that I am something. Well folks I have already stated numerous times that I am nothing. A nobody. Looser in most peoples views. I don't date because I have nothing, and anyone my age wants a man that is stable and has things. Which I am and have none of that.

I have problems, I am an accident waiting to happen. I just mind my own business and the accidents come to me. Like this last one. I am just trying to get off the bus and the driver, drives away before I even had a chance to put my cane on the ground or even grab hold of the bar to assist me in getting off of the bus. But no, he starts to drive away, no very slow at that, and the door closes on me, pushing me off the bus and into the bus post.

I can't make this shit up. I am very creative, but this is just out of my league.

So I am injured, AGAIN. But I don't care.

Again, I am stating I am a nobody. I am just a son who is trying to do the right thing by his mother. Nothing more. I get nothing out of this. I am still poor. Live with holes in my boots and shoes. I would rather mom have everything than myself having anything. It is OK with me.

I started out with nothing, going into this, and I haven't lost anything yet. Still the same. .

I was the one who was there for my dad before he passed. I was there, at the home, 4 or 4 days a week. No one else. And then there for mom, while in the same home as dad. I was there for mom for each of her hip surgeries. Through out her ordeal at Vally view. And I am the one who spends 7 hours a day traveling to make sure mom has someone there for her. To keep her company. To laugh with her, to make her laugh. To sing with her, to see her singing along with the music. I am the one who found the perfect music to make mom's life better. To keep her clean. To wash her, give her a daily spa treatment, keeping her calm and relaxed though out the night and the next day. It is I who is there when she is feeling bad, or sick. Holding her hand, wiping her nose, cleaning her eye's. I get her ready for bed, I put her to bed. I am the one, every night feeding mom.

If there are problems with the care, it is I who addresses these issues. I make sure mom is not getting any medication that is going to harm her in anyway. I am the one fighting the PGT and making sure mom gets good food, a vitamin supplement (which the PGT has stopped providing the funds for) no thank to my sisters. I am the one who holds mom's hand while she falls asleep. I am the one freaking out each night, worrying about her.

I am the one who, every year, decorates her room for Christmas. Each year I try to make it more festive. I see no one else bringing mom the poinsettia every year.

I try to make mom feel as home as possible. Her own sheets, pillow cases, pillows and duvet covers.

No one else is doing this, but me. No one else is visiting her like I do. None of her grand or great grand children every come. Not even her own brother. I just don't care if they do or not. I am there!

But again, I am a nobody, I take care of putting myself down all the time. I am completely self deprecating. So what anyone says about me, oh well.

I KNOW THE TRUTH

Last night mom was wide awake, I got some great pictures of her with the Christmas tree. I got some good pictures of her and I. Mom ate better than usual as of late. 17 bites of food, rather than the 15 bites of food. Beautiful smiles.

But tonight mom did not eat well. From what I understand, speaking with the nurses, mom did not eat much of her breakfast or lunch. I did, however, got her to eat 10 bites of her dinner. We will see what tomorrow brings. I am very worried right now. I did have them take her blood pressure. It was in her normal range. So that is good.

Mom is drinking very well and as much or more than usual.  This is a very good thing. To keep fluid in her.

Mom was a little grumpy today. But when she is like this, I just keep telling her I love her. And sing more to her, than normal. It makes her laugh. And she grabs my hand and pulls it closer to her and holds on tight.

This I love. Her iron grip.

So I had other things to say, You know it is good enough that I know the truth.

Yes one last thing. Mom had a locked box with all sorts of interesting papers in it. I am just putting this out there, that I was smart enough to make photo copies of every piece of paper in the box. Before it suddenly went missing. With everything else. Again, I made photo copies of every piece of paper in that locked box.  These copies are sitting nicely in a safe deposit box.

I am very worried about mom tonight. As usual, but really, more than usual. I requested that the doctor contact me so we can discuss this. If I can't get any answers I will just take her to the emergency room.

GOD bless and good night.

Please pray for my mother.

Kris Schmuland

Mom is still not..............

Hello again

Well mom is still not eating properly. I can only get her to eat 15 bites of food, This is even difficult. As she just chews and chews the food. And she doesn't swallow it. It takes her a very long time to swallow her food.

Mom drinks well enough. No problem drinking. But the smoothie, she wants to chew. I keep telling her it is a drink, to just drink it and swallow as you do with your other beverages. I give her the smoothie by spoon, It is in a larger container and I need to give it to her this way. I see her excepting the smoothie as food, because I use a spoon to give it to her. Tomorrow I will put some of the smoothie in a bottle and see how that goes. But it is difficult for mom to swallow food.

Just 15 bites full, that is all I am asking her to eat. And mom is only eating half the avocado and papaya, plus maybe 1 or 2 of her chocolates. This is not good, Mom usually eat the whole papaya and avocado. And the box of 3 Lindt chocolates.

Mom, Mary has been very tired when I arrive and this has been going on for about 3 weeks now. I do not know why. And the staff have no answers either. Or they are giving her something and not telling me. This is something I could see my sister's arranging. Give her this, but don't tell are brother. Well they took the picture of her husband, my father away, without explanation. So I can see them doing this.

So mom being tired, when I arrive. I am getting there allot earlier than normal. So I am getting the staff to put her into bed. And I just feed mom in bed, each night. This gets mom comfortable. I do have to prop her up, so she doesn't lean over. I really hate doing this. But if I don't mom will lean way over and her head is down as well. Making it difficult to feed her. I take the towels out from her side as soon as dinner is over.

Then it is her spa treatment. As mentioned, I had funds put aside for a winter jacket and boots. Mom needs her spa treatment each day. This mom has had, each night, for over 4 years.

But thanks to Gail Anderson or Schmuland and Marilyn Hamon, sister's and Karen Bajwa of the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC the funds have been taken away for me to purchase these lotions for her. At Christmas time at that. Scrooge or bullshit or just greedy sister's and a PGT case manager who is completely discriminatory against me.

I know for a fact that my sister's can't wait for mom to pass away. The sooner she passes the more money they will get. This is the way they look at things. They have no respect for their mother. Otherwise they would be there for her. Bring a piece of fruit for her or a drink or even a chocolate bar. What they get mom for gifts, they get out of the dollar store. The cheap ass lotions and soaps, that I have to throw away. They are just crap, period. They are mostly water and don't absorb into the skin.

Have some respect for your mother. I can't leave any of the lotions in mom's drawers, as they steal them. So many times. Last year I had all of these sample bags in one of mom's drawers. I got them with purchases of her lotions. They come in handy when I am running out and need something to tide me over until the funds got into my account to cover the lotions. There were 6 of them in the drawer and guess what they came to visit and they were gone.

Mom and dad did so much for them. Isn't it about time they do something for their mother. Or if they can't handle mom the way she is. Don't stop me from giving mom something she has had, the nightly spa treatment, for the entire time she has been there.

That is just low, very low of them. Look it is not a secret that I don't like them. I forgive them for being the way that they are. But I don't have to like them. I have always know what they were like. Even from a child I could see them for what they are. Never a doubt in my mind.

We never got along. I just tolerated them. They are stranger to me. I don't give a crap if they come or not. I prefer if they don't come, but it is there mother so I don't say anything bad about them to mom. I bite my tongue.

Not caring enough about there mom to visit her, Don't take away the one thing she looks forward to each day. The daily spa treatment

I ask for help allot, well not that much. Yet I do ask.

I really don't give a crap about myself, what I get or have. Which is nothing.  I started this with nothing and I haven't lost anything yet. I don't care about Christmas.

I only care about my mom being healthy and happy. Her having a good Christmas, Excuse me, a great Christmas... Considering it might just be her last. I do hope not, though.

I just want my mom to be good. To live a long and good life, she has already, 87 years, but she can still ;live longer.

This may be selfish, that is OK if you think it is.

I am asking for y'all to reach down and help me make this the best Christmas ever for mom.

Please do this for my mother.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland

I am not sure of anything anymore.

Hello again

Well mom is still not eating much for dinner.No reports of mom not being able to eat her lunch. But they would not tell me anyways. The day staff just don't care.

It is as if mom was given something. The way she is eating and being so very tired at dinner time, is the same way mom acted when they gave her the Ativan. Listless, not being able to eat allot.

I am trying to get her to eat.  I just tell her all she has to eat is 15 bits and swallow them. Then we get on to dessert.

This mom has been doing, but taking about an hour and a half to do this, including dessert. It is a patient process. Sometimes the food just comes out of her mouth. I give her plenty to drink while she is eating. To help her swallow. This helps out. But not completely.

I am going to try to speak with her doctor. Try is the word. I have only spoken with them once in the 4 years mom has been there. Not a very good track record.

I checked tonight is mom's back is all bruised up. This is a sign that her skin is deteriorating. And breaking down. As most people who are on their last legs, there back is all black and blue.

Mom's back and skin are fine. But I need her to eat more than she is. Again it is like someone has been giving her something, or given her something.

They just don't seem to get it. One day mom was fine and the very next day this started to happen.

When it comes to the medication and the staff being truthful to me, it is highly suspect. I just don't trust any of the nurses or day staff.

Well mom's room is as decorated as I can get it to be. I don't have anymore money to decorated anymore. The tree is up, the lights are on. I have pictures on the wall and everything else that has been in the boxes.

If this is going to be mom's last Christmas, I really want to go all out with the decorations for her room. Can anyone please help me to give mom the best Christmas every. I need it to be. If this might be her last.

I have to get her eating habit changed, She is so tired. All she wants is her spa treatment. And thanks to Karen Bajwa, Gail Anderson/Schmuland and Marilyn Hamon. The latter are mom's daughters.  I will not be able to give her this nightly treatment after the end of this month, maybe half way through January. I need to picket the PGT.  This is the one thing that makes mom's day, each and everyday.

No one see's the smile, contentment, the peace, the relaxation that I see on mom's face and through out her body. It is beautiful and calming to me as well.

And these are the same daughters who took the picture of mom's husband off of the wall and took it home with them. Yet they keep saying they don't take her clothing or anything else. They didn't see mom crying each night. They weren't the one's wiping the tears from her eye's.

I was!

I may call them low and what they did even lower. But don't get me wrong. I don't think myself to be special by any means. I am just a son who is trying to do the right thing by his mother. To take care of her the way she took care of her family, when we were in need.

That is all. Other than that, I am nothing. A nobody. I don't think I am special or a big shot. As they think I act like. No not at all.

I have nothing, I gladly give up boots to prevent my feet getting wet, as they have been lately. But oh well. Mom needs thing more than I do. Or a warm winter jacket. Mom needs things. I will just put more things on. Layer up. And I can handle a wet foot. No big deal.

As long as my mother gets to have her nightly spa treatment I am fine with what I have.

All my entertainment is on this laptop. I have no TV or stereo. I would like a TV and stereo. But mom is first and I am last.

People still can't believe I travel all this time to take care of mom. It does and doesn't bother me. I want to live out there, I need to live out there. Yet I will keep doing what I am doing, no matter what. Time goes by. Yes I have thing I am working on. They are getting done slowly. That is OK as well. Yes I could use all the time that I spend traveling to be there more for mom and to finish off one important thing I am working on.


To be honest here. I don't like Christmas and haven't in a very long time. I love decorating mom's room for her, I love cooking a Christmas dinner for her. I love just  being with her Christmas Eve and Christmas day, so mom can enjoy herself. Knowing that she is loved.

But I leave mom's place Christmas Eve and come back to nobody and nothing. And I come back Christmas day to nobody and nothing. No Christmas dinner or presents. I don't even know what a Christmas dinner is like anymore. It has been over 12 years since I had a Christmas dinner. I think even longer. I don't even know what a present is. Again over 12 years since I received a gift for Christmas or my birthday. Which I don't even acknowledge, anymore.

This time of the year is a very lonely time of year for me. I see all the families doing there thing. Parties, well I don't care about parties.,. I am so use to being alone on these days.

I spend 4 hours Christmas Eve with mom and the same Christmas day. But again. I leave and know I will be getting back to nothing. A dark and lonely place. A place I just don't want to be. A place where nothing works right. No friends. Ok I have no time for friendships. Really I don't And I am so use to being alone, I really don't know if I could even handle being with anyone.

But it is a very lonely and depressing time of the year for me. I want to do so much for mom, but I don't have what it takes, financially to do this.

I am broke and my cupboards are bare. I am not even hungry most of the time. As it is tonight. I have nothing, but I want nothing. Part of my depression.

I just don't give a crap about myself, as long as mom has a great Christmas, I don't care what happens to me.

Because of this last bus incident, I am left with 3 cracked ribs and a cracked sternum. I just can't make this stuff up.

I JUST WANT TO LIVE CLOSER TO MOM.Especially now that his is going on with her

Please help  me, help  mom out, by giving her a great Christmas.

GOD bless and goodnight


Kristopher Schmuland

It is fast approaching.

Hello again

I want to say this first. I do not like Christmas. I have not had a Christmas that I have liked for many years. I do Christmas for mom. If she is happy on Christmas Day than I am happy. Other than that, I come back to a empty, lonely place. A place that I don't want to be............. A place that is taking away so much time that I could spend with mom. I don't want to be here, at all. I only want to live in White Rock close to mom. So I could of had her over for an actual Christmas Dinner.

But no, that is not and has not happened in, well, ever. It is such a shame. I have come to realize I am a very good person. I may of had and still have problems. But I am a very good person. I don't know of anyone who does what I do for mom, nor does any of the staff at Al Hogg. 1 percent of the population.

I just don't like Christmas. I thought it would be different this year.

I am still very disgusted by what my sister's did. Taking away the picture of mom's husband, their father and mine.

It is a good thing that my mind told me to take a photo of the picture. I enlarged it and took it to the library to have it printed. Just a few problems. It has a snow flake in it.... I posted the pic. I will have to take it to London Drugs and have them remove the snow flake and make it as close to the original as possible. I just have to come up with the $50.00 to do this. My pockets are empty............................ Broke, broke and broke.

But I brought the print and mom just smiled. It is on her wall now. So she can look at it again.

You know folks, my sister's have never even brought mom a poinsettia or any flowers. Not a piece of fruit or anything. But they sure know how to take. That is there middle names. TAKERS.


Mom has not been doing well with her eating and swallowing. I have only been able to get her to eat 15 bites each night. And those are very small bites. Each bite takes mom, at least 10 minutes to swallow. That is with my rubbing her neck, coaching her to swallow, giving her something to drink with each bite. but at least mom is eating something.

I am going to be taking her to the emergency room, very soon if this does not clear up.  Mom has not even been eating her chocolate. And that she loves.

If the hospital can't find out what is wrong with mom, this might be her last Christmas with us. She needs to eat more than what she is eating.. This can't go on like this without something seriously going on.

I need your help to make this Christmas the best Christmas possible. If this is gong to be her last Christmas. I need your help.

I have decorated her room, At least I was able to do this for her. I won't be able to get mom a Poinsettia or even Christmas gifts. I needed to use the funds I had for her gifts on a blender and her spa treatment products. Since my sister's decided that mom doesn't need them anymore. Or anything. I was going to get a pair of boots. Since everything I have has holes in the bottom of the boot or in the side. Not waterproof. Wet feet is what I have been experiencing as of late.

This is the only place I am complaining about this. No one else knows this. Why tell them, nobody gives a rats ass about this.

I am only concerned with mom. That is why I gave up that idea. Mom's spa treatment is more important. And having a blender for her smoothie's is also very important. Yes she is still drinking them. THANK GOD for that.

All I want for Christmas is to live close by mom. I now need to do this even more. So I can be there, if something happens.

I do hope this is not the case.

I am about to have a breakdown, so I need to go now.

Please pray and help if you can. Again I need to make this Christmas the best it can be. Just in case.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

I do beg of you for your help.

My father

This is a photo of my father. I should say sketch of my dad. This has been hanging on the wall at the foot of my mother's bed for years

Now it is gone

This was a gift from the sister's, to my mother as a remembrance of my father. . Remember it was a gift. 

You don't take gifts back.

Mom always looked at that picture every single day. I would see her, look and smile. From her bed mom could see this perfectly. 

This is the work of my mother's daughters The same daughter's who think mom doesn't need a spa treatment each night. Or as of a matter of fact. They don't think mom needs anything. 

They took it. Disgusting is the only way for me to describe it. I thought they were lower down on the food chain. But this is even lower than one could even possibly think, someone could go. To their own mother at that. 

TO THEIR OWN MOTHER. THIS IS WHAT THEY DO. Gail Anderson/Schmuland and Marilyn Hamon. The most disgusting human beings that walk the earth. 

This is the women who gave them life. This is the Father and Mother who gave them tens of thousands of dollars. Who did everything for them. Baby sat, did all there sewing. Cooked Christmas dinner's for them. Gave up everything for them. To make sure they were OK. 

Yet they cannot even bring there mother a single piece of fruit, a drink, a chocolate bar or even a home cooked meal. Nothing. Oh yea they keep saying that they bring mom lots of clothing. 

Maybe three articles of clothing a year. And it is the eldest daughter who actually purchases them and brings them to mom. But never the right size of fabric mom can wear. 

But they can sure take her clothing. Hundreds of dollars worth of clothing has been taken by them over the years. Maybe over a thousand dollars worth. 

It is not them who sews up the torn clothing. I do this. Yes needle and thread. I don't have a sewing machine or I would even be doing the alterations on mom's clothing, if I had a sewing machine. And again, I can sew. 

I have wondering why, when mom looks at the wall, she starts to cry.  The picture of her husband was taken by her daughter's.

I have no reason why they would take it. Except they think I am going to take it.

LOOSER'S

This is what they do to their mother. They are making her cry every single day. Because I am the one who sees mom crying. I am the one wiping the tears from her eyes and say to her don't cry,  I am here for you.

It was not until tonight I realized the drawing was gone. I was walking up to the bus stop in White Rock, when it hit me. The picture was gone. And mom has been crying for at least two weeks. 

The pair of them don't want mom to have anything

No fresh fruit. No smoothie. No treats at all. And now not even a picture of her husband

And not even the spa treatment she has been receiving for over 4 years. Or her own shampoo, gel, body wash and underarm deodorant. (Dove)

They think the crappy food, shampoo etc... from the home is good enough for her. They use there own shampoo, the one they like. But there mother can't have the shampoo, gel, body wash or deodorant. 

I buy mom a certain toothpaste as everything else makes mom gag. This one doesn't. So it is OK if their mother chocks on the toothpaste.

They eat nice home cooked meals every night. But they don't want their mother to have a home cooked meal each night.. There mother has to eat this hospital food everyday. 

That  is the reason I cook for mom, to give her one meal a day that isn't the hospital food. 

Does anyone actually like hospital food. I know the two of them don't. 

I am not a petty man, but this has crossed the line. I am going to tell every staff member, every daughter that comes to see there parent. The ones I know. Exactly what the two of them have done. And this will get around the entire hospital. 

Remember I am there every single day. And I know them all. The day staff, the night staff, the over night staff, the kitchen staff, the management. ( Even the director etc......) I will be telling them all. 

And last but not least I will be writing the news, Papers, Radio and TV etc... and let them know about the abuse that is being perpetrated on my mother.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Karen Bajwa, of the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC, Gail Anderson/Schmuland and Marilyn Harmon are behind this.

They are up to something. But I will put a stop to whatever they think they are trying to get away with. 

They are selfish no good for nothing bitches. To do this to their own mother. And I am being polite.

They took this picture of my mother's husband, their father, away from my mother. My father. The most disgusting thing anyone can do.

This is a photo of the picture. I took this a few Christmas's ago. I am going to see if the photo shop can get this acrylic snow flake out of the picture. And enlarge it, print it. I know it will cost allot of money that I don't have. 

It is lucky I took this picture. But it is not excuse for them taking the picture away from there mother. 

GOD knows. Revenge is mine saith the LORD............ 

The PGT are ................................

Hello again

Excuse me for not writing sooner, but I am not sleeping well, due to my  cracked ribs. I fall asleep then I am awake a few hours later. I keep rolling over onto my right side. Which is where the cracked sternum and cracked ribs are. Two weeks I have not had a decent night sleep.

On top of this the stress at knowing after this month  mom will no longer be able to have her spa treatments, that she has been receiving for over 4 years. Thanks to Karen Bajwa and Gail Anderson/Schmuland, whatever she calls herself now. The Pot head, who should not be making any decision for mom. Until she is lucid. Which from going through this, is many years to bring one's mind back to somewhat of a normal state that it was before starting to smoke pot.

It took me a very long time to get my ability to remember conversations back.  To be able to recall what was said, or in the case of speaking with people, than not seeing them for awhile. I can remember exactly what we  spoke about the last time speaking with them and everything else about them.

Anyways, The PGT have not responded to me in anyway what so every. Mom needs her spa treatment. It has been part of her life for over 4 years and to suddenly take it away from her is abuse. And this is what Karen Bajwa and my pot head sister are up too.

The girls just want money. They think the sooner mom passes the more money they will get. Think again. I will challenge the will and let the lawyers use it all up.

I don't want any of it and I am going to make sure the girls get none of it. They have already abused mom and dad enough over the years. Enough is enough

So far no TV station I wrote to has responded to me. Or the one newspaper I wrote. I was waiting to see if they would but no. I will keep writing. Next it will be the Prime Ministers office, as well as AP press, and other radio and newspapers.

I wrote it down here but nothing. On facebook, but nothing.

I guess and old lady of 87 years old means nothing to everyone. That she looks forward to this one thing each day and now is being taken away from her, by Karen Bajwa and whatever her name is. The pot head.

My mother has grandchildren and great grandchildren and a brother and his family. But do any of them actually visit mom. NO They don't. Mainly the one sister, not the Pot head, she is usually to stoned.

But this is once in a while, not anywhere near as much as they believe they go.

When I ask for help, What I am saying is my mother needs your help. To continue with the spa treatment. Funds for this, or just purchase the Biotherm products and mail them to me.

Please help my mother.

I really don't care about myself.  I don't care if I eat or have shoes/boots without holes in them, or a warm winter jacket. If I freeze,and have wet socks, so be it. Period

I need my mother to have this spa treatment daily as she has been for over 4 years now.

That is the help I am asking for. Not for me but her Mary Schmuland.

Please help my mother.

I am going to bed now. I need to try to get some sleep. If only 4 hours straight, this would be nice.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland

Write to the PGT tell them mom needs this. That this is abuse taking it away from her.

We keep moving forward

Hello again

Well mom is doing OK, back to her problems with eating and swallowing. Trying to find out if she is on any different type of medicine. Tomorrow

Now in a past blog I mentioned I had to return a jacket and boots to get mom her cosmetics. I wasn't complaining about it. I was just stating fact. I would do it again and over and over again.

I will just have to make due with what I have. So my feet get wet. It is only water.

Mom needs to have the spa treatment, it is and has been part of her life for over 4 years now. So this is not going to change and I won't let a drug addict or Karen Bajwa stop this. I will do whatever it takes to make sure mom will continue to receive her cosmetics.

Whatever it takes. These fools have no idea what I am willing to do.

Now I just have a few things to do and mom's room is decorated for Christmas

All I want for Christmas is some help.

I have been taking care of mom and my father, who passed away 8 years ago this December 28, for over a decade and I have been doing everything myself. With no help from anyone.

I have had to deal with the PGT the care homes, the hospital prescribing mom to much of a bad medicine. I have fought for her rights. I have been threatened with law suits over this blog.

I find and buy her clothing. I make sure she is well fed, clean, happy etc.......

Everything a good son should be doing for his mother.

I just would like some kind of help.

I don't even know what kind of help I am even asking for.

I don't have friends or a girlfriend. I just don't have time for this.

I get home late, I get somethings done. Then in the morning I try to get more things done.

I have been researching a project for a few years now.

I have to deal with Karen Bajwa of the PGT now. And put a stop to my pot head sister.

I do everything for mom. I mean everything, without a break

Over 4 years daily I have been traveling to White Rock and back to Coquitlam,

It is over 180 km's a day that I travel, carrying all sorts of things.

I never complain about doing this for mom. In fact I am ever so blessed to have this opportunity.

I just would like some help.

Whatever form this takes.

I hope you understand.

Everyone needs help. Even my drug addict sister and the other one.

Please a little help.

Mom and I would very much appreciate it.

GOD bless and goodnight

Kris Schmuland

Shameful and disgusting

Hello again

I will first start out by saying this is the absolute most disgusting thing the PGT has ever done. Especially right before Christmas. To an 87 year old women, who doesn't have much in her life. Can't feed herself, doesn't speak anymore, verbally, Can't even give herself something to drink.

Completely dependent on everyone for everything. That is why I am there, to be her voice, her arms, her legs. to make sure mom gets the best possible care/.

It is the two sisters that don't have a clue how to take care of their mother.Who are never there. don't now what is even going on.

And there friends write me and tell me I am an asshole. So be it, I am an asshole, when it comes to someone trying to do harm to my mother.

And to think the PGT would rather listen to a drug addict/Pot head over someone who is there taking care of their mother.

This Karen Bajwa Case manager for the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC totally ignores me. Didn't even inform me that this was happening.

This is just rude and immoral.

That is Ok, I have written all of the TV news stations in the Greater Vancouver area. Next it will be all the news papers and radio stations.

Immoral and disgusting.

Now mom is doing better. As I mentioned she was having problems chewing and swallowing. Today it was much better. Hopefully tomorrow better yet.

I have dragged all of her Christmas decorations and tree out to White Rock. It hurt this time, considering I have two broken ribs. And a banged up knee. Did it anyways.

I have set up the tree, put the lights up and the ornaments up as well. Next to tackle the window. Today, I hope. I have an idea and a plan for her windows. One wall left to do as well'

My feet got wet today. All of my shoes and boots have holes in the soles. I can't afford new boots or a winter jacket anymore. I had purchased both of them, but took them back so I could get mom her cosmetics for her daily spa treatment. They were nice shoes and the jacket was warm.

Anyways mom watched me setting up the tree, as I sang Christmas song to her. I saw that she was singing along as well.

We have another Christmas movie to watch, today. Oh did I not mention, I bring movies for us to watch. Every Saturday, bath day for mom. We watch a movie. She is in bed, so I put the movie on when I arrive and mom watches them while I feed her. I am facing the other way while I feed her. So I don't really get to see it. Just listen to them. I can see mom intently watching the movies. See her laugh, chuckle,

I arrived early today, not as early as I wanted. I just missed the bus, that would of gotten me there at 2:30 had to wait half an hour for the next one, Then needed to grab mom a few things. It was very late when I left, just got home at 11:30 pm.

But mom is liking her room, full of Christmas beauty.

Now to use my computer skills to do whatever it is I need to do to admonish these individuals for what they are dong to mom.

So I say adieu

GOD bless and goodnight

Kris Schmuland

And she did just that

Hello again

Well the  drug addict sister and Karen Bajwa of the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC have decided that mom does not need to have a spa treatment, she doesn't need the lotions for the spa treatment. Or mom doesn't need the shampoo, gel and body wash that I pick up for her each month.

The spa treatment that mom has been receiving for over 4 years now. Every single day. Never a day without it.

The drug addict sister Gail Anderson/Schmuland of Maple Ridge BC or whatever she is calling herself these days, and Karen Bajwa of the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC. Hasting street Vancouver BC. 604.660.4444  are absolutely despicable. Shameful.

This is the PGT's idea of taking care of there clients. ABUSE at it's finest.

This will kill mom

This is an 87 year old women who is completely dependent on everyone for everything. To do this to my mother. Especially at Christmas,  is even lower than low.

She doesn't have much in her life. She looks forward to this spa treatment each and every night. The smile it puts on her face each night. She is so relaxed and happy. It bring me to tears. Just the look on her face when I am done. Euphoria.

And this is what my low down sisters think of their mother. NOTHING AT ALL. They are there, maybe 3 or 4 times a year. Brings her, maybe one piece of clothing twice a year. Always the wrong size or material that mom just can't wear. Wool. But they can take and take from mom. Hundreds of dollars of clothing has been taken by them. Of course they deny it. Who else is going to clean out her closet like that. Another resident. I think not. They can't even bring mom a piece of fruit or a drink or even some chocolate or candy. NOTHING AT ALL.

Yet if it were not for my parents they wouldn't have home. Mom and day bailed them out so many times, I lost track of it. But having a great memory, I know what each of the two sisters have done to my parents. Hundreds of thousands of dollars, they swindled out of my parents.

But the drug addict and the oppressed sisters (who by the way can't make a decision by herself, for the life of her) don't think mom needs any of it.

Mom has so little as it is. I try to make my mother's life as happy as I can and this spa treatment is part of what makes her happy. If the two sisters knew anything about their mother, they would agree.

But the disgusting morals of Karen Bajwa and the two sisters are out to simply put it. Kill my mother. Because without this care mom would of passed away along time ago.

I have written CTV news I will share the letter with you. As well as post two photo's of my mother. One when I first started the spa treatment and the other is now. This letter I will be sending to every media outlet and social media that I can.

Hello

My name is Kristopher Schmuland and I want to tell you about the abuse the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC perpetrates on it's  senior clients.

My mother Mary Schmuland has Dementia and has had strokes. This has left her completely dependent on other's for everything. 

Karen Bajwa case manager to my mother Mary Schmuland, of the PGT of BC decided in her infinite wisdom to stop the payments for my mother's cosmetics.  With the help of my sister's. One being a pot head and the other can't make a decision if her life depended on it. 

I am not a rich man, I am poor and disabled. I have Parkinson's disease and injuries from some car accidents. I walk with a cane. I carry all sorts of things back and forth to White Rock. I do mom's laundry, Bring her clean sheets each week. And carry many other things for her.  

I travel to White Rock, to the Peace Arch Hospital, from Coquitlam, BC. By bus each and everyday. I have been doing this for over 4 years now. I have never missed a day. It is 3 hours each way and I spend between 3 - 4 hours each day taking care of my mother. 

Once I arrive, the staff don't have to do anything. I take care of mom. I feed her and brush her teeth, I get her ready for bed. Changing her into her nightgown.  Sing to her, laugh with her. I buy all of her clothing, sew them if needed. Bring fresh fruit and snack for her. 

And the two sisters come, maybe 3 times a year. They don't know what happens at the home. There is problems and I am the one who is there taking care of them. What medication mom is on, what medication I have stopped them giving to mom. What mom's likes and dislikes are. 

I wash her hair and style it,  three times a week. as they only give her a bath once a week. So I keep her clean. This is part of the spa treatment. Washing her up each day. 

My mother doesn't have much to look forward to each day. But she knows she is going to get a daily spa treatment. Everyday for over 4 years now. 

There wasn't a problem until this case manager took over from another manager Stephen Flynn. She is completely discriminatory against me. 

Karen Bajwa speaking with my drug addict sister, decided that mom doesn't need this. So the funds were stopped.

This Karen Bajwa didn't even have the decency to let me know this was happening. I had to find out for myself. 

My mother is in a wheelchair, can't feed herself, can't even blow her own nose. Or give herself something to drink.   The one thing she looks forward to each day is the spa treatment. 

And this women. Karen Bajwa would rather listen to a drug addict than someone who is there everyday, taking care of her. Karen Bajwa even tells me that mom doesn't even need her smoothie. Full of vitamins and minerals.  Another thing my mother has had each and everyday for over 4 yeears. 

Yes I did have a drinking problem and I smoked allot of pot. But I quit, My parents got sick and I couldn't very well take care of them if I was a drunk and drug addict. That was almost 13 years ago now. This January will be 13 years. And the whole time I have taken care of my father and mother, Now, since dad passed away, it has been my mother, for 8 years now. 

It is my responsibility to take care of her. Mom looked after me when I was young, my turn to take care of her. I wouldn't have it any other way.

This women Karen Bajwa won't even return any emails.  Yet she discusses these things with the drug addict. 

Karen Bajwa is shameful and despicable. To do this to a 87 year old women, who looks forward to having her spa treatment, everyday. 

And right before Christmas.!

As I said I am poor. I can't afford to purchase her cosmetics, lotions etc..... The funds did come from her account and I would go and get them, And every night I give mom a spa treatment and massage her neck and feet. 

I purchase some of the cosmetic when I have extra money. As much as I can.

Mom is first and I am last. This is my motto. Period.

Karen Bajwa does not care about anybody but herself. No compassion for a 87 year old women who only wants a spa treatment each night. And now she can't have it. 

This will kill my mother

And because of a drug addict and this ................ Karen Bajwa mom is going to have to go without her daily spa treatment. 

Mom will be OK for December, I think. But not January on. . I had a little money put aside for new boots and a winter jacket. My boots and shoes all have holes in the soles of them and I don't have a jacket to keep me warm, while traveling to and from White Rock.  I layer and layer, to the point where it is uncomfortable and I can't zip up my rain jacket. And I am still cold. 

I can't stop mom having this spa treatment. It keeps her going. I know we are in a loosing battle with Dementia/Alzheimer's, but until that time, mom should be pampered. Keeping her happy. This keeps her happy. So I gladly give up the new boot/shoes and jacket for mom. Mom is first and I am last. I will just have to make due. I just don't like wet feet. But, again. Mom needs her daily spa treatment. 

Whatever it takes I will do to assist my mother. Even if it means to picket the PGT. As I have done before. Or post this all over social media. Or whatever it takes. I will do it. 

Karen Bajwa

Case Manager

Public Guardian and Trustee of BC

When I use the term drug addict I am referring to pot head. It is still a drug and clouds your minds. 

Please if you can share this, please do it for my mother. If you can help out in anyway

Please pray for my mother that she gets to continue with her spa treatments.

GOD bless and goodnight 

MIcah 6:8

Kristopher Schmuland

If there was something nice about the PGT, I would write it down here.

I am writing this and stating for legal purposes that this is my opinion and just that. My opinion. 

The PGT and my drug addict sister

Hello again

Well I am going to start off with this. KB of the PGT would rather listen to a drug addict than someone who completely devotes themselves to taking care of their mother. Of course I am speaking of my one sister who is a known drug addict. Pot head, but pot is still a drug and clouds your perception of things.

Not to be trusted, a lier and thief etc....... Lives in a home that was paid for by my parents hard earned money. And was to be paid back. But her and her ex husband left my parents sitting at the Notary public for hours. Waiting for them to come in and sign a repayment schedule. But never showed up. Close to $100,000.00 dollars my parents were swindled out of. And then they paid for every single repair plus her mortgage and pad rent. Until they were not able to do it anymore. Plus, plus and plus. There is one things that I should bring up, but I won't sink any lower. Even the bank said they should charge them. But being the beautiful people, my father and mother are, they did not do this. Yet she and the other sister continued to take as much as they could from my parents.

Yes I did get funds from them. My parents would not help me with a home because I was single. But then they offered. But I refused to take the help. I said to them, I have seen what my sisters have done to you and if I can't buy a home on my own, then I will have to just rent.  This is what I am doing. I have no home. I can't stand being here. I have to share a place with people who are pigs. I just want to live closer to my mother. To help her more and be there more often. Have her over for lunch or dinner. Whatever it may be. Just to make sure I am there for her.

I took care of my father, when he was alive and now I take care of my mother. I travel hours each day and I don't get anything for doing it. It is done out of love of my parents. To honour your mother and father. To do for them, what they did for you. They took care of me, they allowed me to develop my intelligence and creative side, as well.

I have no problem doing this for my mother. But KB of the PGT and the pot head are trying to take away what mom looks forward to each day.

Mom's spa treatment.

I am poor, so the funds for mom's cosmetics come from her account. And are used each and everyday. 7 days a week. Mom gets washed and then lotion on her legs and arms. A foot massage. Then I wash her face and apply different lotion to her face. Lotion to help her look younger. And this works. Then mom gets a neck and shoulder massage. Everyday, without fail.  Everyone tells me she has such beautiful skin. That she looks allot younger than she is.

I have written KB of the PGT many times. With a simple question. Yet no reply. KB's typical way of doing this it to reply to me at the end of Friday. 4:30 pm. This way I don't have a chance to write her back.

Not going to happen this time.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Bad connection

Hello again

I have not been writing as the Internet in the house is not working properly. I was on the phone, this morning, for over an hour, to find out a technician needs to come out.

So here I am, many days later. On Friday I was called and informed that the OT and Dietitian was coming out to see mom that day. And I needed to get there early. I packed up quickly and out the door I went to arrive before 4 pm. I just got there and they were there just within 10 minutes of me getting there. It is lucky I had dinner for mom. So we started.

It was actually a good visit or observation that day. They never told me I needed to remove anything from mom's diet. On the contrary, they mentioned, it is not about removing things from mom's diet, it is about making the food suitable for mom. Using a blender to bring the food to a level that mom can eat. This way I can add more and more to mom's diet. A good thing. They didn't have a problem with the smoothie consistency.

Mom ate very well. Of course it was her favorite salad. The second day though. So mom did not eat as much as Thursday, but allot.

Mom has been well, A little tired as of late. Saturday was bath day, so mom is in bed already when I arrive. I put on a movie for us to watch. Cinderella 2015 mom enjoyed it, as did I.  But Sunday, mom was asleep when I arrived, so I got help to put her to bed, before dinner and fed her in bed. She did the sleep eating, as I like to describe it. She keeps her eyes closed and allows me to feed her. And she ate.

Today she seems to have a bit of a cold. It doesn't help that they dressed her in a short sleeve shirt. It is cold out, come on now.

But mom ate. And only wanted  part of her spa treatment done.

Now the PGT has not replied to any of my emails. And I can't seem to print anything out, from online. Which I need to do. To fill out this form and send it off. I guess I will have to go down to the office again. If they don't answer my emails I will continue to just go the office. I just don't care.

I will stop them as well as my mother's daughters from doing anything that will interfere with mom's health and happiness. What ever it takes.

Now I need to go as last weekend I was in another accident and I have a cracked sternum and a cracked rib, plus something is wrong with my right shoulder and right leg. I feel pain differently than most people. Something I have tired, over and over again, to get my doctor to understand. But he doesn't. I have had stitches with no freezing, I go to the dentist and have work done without freezing. I cut myself all the time and it is not until I see blood that I realize I have cut myself. As far as I can remember, it has been this way. So when I feel pain it is serious.

Well anyways, typing is actually hurting me. Even though I have the keyboard tucked right up to me. My arm is going numb.

So I will let you go for now.


I don't even know if I can post this right away. I certainly haven't been able to send an email tonight or last night. I can't even download any of the shows I like to watch on Mondays.

GOD bless and good night. Ouch!

Kris Schmuland

Mistake

Hello again


So my mother's daughters were not there when the dietitian and OT were there. There I said it. I know when to admit my mistakes.

Now tonight, mom was slow chewing, it took her awhile to finish chewing and to swallow her food. She doesn't eat as much as she should, by chewing slowly. I even make each piece very small The nature of the disease.

I am going to make mom, her favorite salad this week, we will see how she does with this.

Now back to the Dietitian and the OT. The PGT used my mother's money to pay for this, and I have not heard anything from either of them. I will be going into the PGT office this week and demanding a copy of both reports. Since my mother's money paid for this unnecessary expense, I will be getting a copy of this. JUSTICE.

By the time I finished feeding mom, my right shoulder was burning. And changing mom, she was fighting all the way. I mentioned to her that I was in pain and could she relax and not fight me. As it was hurting to much. But I continued even thought she was resisting. The nature of the disease.

By the time I left I was and still am in extreme pain. Look another accident on board, OK while I was getting off the bus.

I mentioned to mom that no matter how much pain I am in I will still do whatever I do now. Extra pain medication I guess.

So saying all this, I need to go now. I am hurting and I will be seeing my doctor tomorrow.

GOD bless and good night.

Mr. Kristopher Schmuland

At it still

Hello again

It is another windy and rainy day in Vancouver. Fall is here.

I arrived to find out my mother's daughters were there today. And it is interesting that the private Dietitian and OT were also there today. What I was told is that I can't be there when they test my mother.

But this is the PGT and KB attempting to try and screw me over. Little do they know I will just save this information and use it as ammunition against them. Discrimination. Plain and simple.

They would rather take the word of a pot head who never visits over the son who is there all the time, no matter what it is like out side or how I feel. In serious pain, barely able to walk or use my right arm. But I am there and I am taking care of my mother.

I need a sewing machine. I wrote to the PGT KB of the PGT, told them to tell my mother's daughters to bring my mother's sewing machines back so I can repair mom's clothing. Yea it hasn't happened so far.

I will be making a trip down to the office this week. It costs to much to constantly be bringing the clothing, for simple repairs, to a seamstress. Where I can do it myself.' With the aid of a sewing machine. It took me 4 days to repair a nightgown, because the staff keep tearing them, Needle and thread. I only have so much time in the morning to work on ,mom's clothing. And there is many items that need a simple repair.

Now mom looked great today, she said she enjoyed her visit with her daughters. I am very glad she did. But they only came today because the Dietitian and the OT came today. Let us see if they will be speaking with me. Or not.

But mom is always happy to see me. And tonight I spent as much time with her as I could. I just didn't want to leave her side. Mom loved me for this. I stayed until she was completely asleep.

Of course the usual spa treatment and neck massage. She ate very well.

Though, because of a recent injury, I am now going to have to feed her with my left hand.  By the time I finished feeding mom tonight, my right shoulder was burning. As it is now. But I will finish this and still write to the PGT KB. Just check it out and you can figure who I am speaking about.

Now I do have to go. I actually found something to make for dinner. Even though I have no desire to eat. In to much pain.

Please pray for mom and I. Please pray that I find a place soon. I am having a hard time carrying everything I do. I need to get a granny bag.


GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

A Sunday night and cold

Hello again

It is starting to look allot like winter. OK it is cold out and in White Rock it was very windy, making even colder.

I have no idea but I am just cold all the time now.

So anyway, I arrived and got mom to her room, Then realized she needed to be changed. I went and got a care aid and we got her changed and into bed, By the time this was done, mom was now getting tired. But she didn't have dinner yet. I kept telling her it is not bed time, we need to eat first.

I was able to get mom to eat, at first she was hesitant, but soon was getting into eating. A nice diner and dessert. Then it was her nightly spa treatment.

Mom really loves this and I am glad. I just want to make her happy.

Saturday night we watched How the Grinch stole Christmas. Mom enjoyed this. I have a few more Christmas movies for us to watch and mom wants me to get the nut cracker ballet. I will do this tonight after this.

It has just been typical days.

I ended up getting a blender and it makes the best smoothies. I should of got one a long time ago. So much easier than the hand blender. Not as fast though, but better.

I am in real pain tonight. Something happened and it is bad.

My heart goes out to all in Paris.

It is just hurting to much to continue to type

Please pray for mom and I. That I find a place close to her.

GOD bless and good night.

Kristopher Schmuland

Starting to feel better

Hello again

Well mom is finally feeling better. She ate allot more today. So that is a good sign. It is very weird, she had the flu shot and then got sick, with the flu,.....


Last night we had to put her to bed before dinner because of an accident, she was Ok with this. I just fed her in bed. But we were not able to wash and style her hair. As it is every Wednesday. Not either today, The tub room was busy after dinner.

It is crazy windy and raining here in the Lower Mainland. A typical fall, back to being the wet coast.

Now I got mom to bed early tonight and gave her a very good spa treatment and had extra time to massage her neck and shoulder. This helps  to loosen her left arm.

I do need to speak to the management again, it is the staff who are causing the extra pain mom is having with her left arm. I explained to them how she needs to be dressed and undressed, Do you think they listen. Well you know the answer to that.

They pull her left arm over her head to dress her, I have seen it with the night staff. And stopped them in there tracks. They pull mom`s left arm over her head to dress her. I have mentioned that they should not be doing this and to put her clothing on left arm first and to take it off right arm first. Not to pull this over her head.

It is called abuse. By continuing to do the same thing, causing pain to my mother. Thinking they know better.

They only have to take an 8 month course and that is it. They are taught a certain way and they stick to this way. They don`t even bother with researching newer approaches to care.

And I don`t care what anyone thinks I know more about this then they do and I cold easily do the job of an LPN. I am a research junkie. And have read more on this subject than all of them combined. It has been over 12 years now, since I have been doing this.

Sure I am bragging, but I need to. As no one else will do this for me. Being alone and all. Yes I said alone. It is that time of the year when everyone is talking about family. I have no family, except for mom.

I am starting to decorate her room. I have been playing Christmas music for her already, and singing away. Acting goofy. Mom is joining me in singing the songs. I just love it. It is making her very happy.

At least someone is trying to make mom happy. This is my job and I am thankful that I get to do this for mom.

Hands down this is the best thing I have done in my life. And would never trade this for any amount of money.

I am doing what GOD tells me to do. Honour your mother and father. Show them the respect they deserve.

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland

It is getting harder for me to keep carrying everything that I do. It is hurting my back. For the last two weeks I have had a very sore back.

Please pray that I find a place right away. I just wish to spend as much time with mom as I can. No, mom is healthy and doing well. So don`t worry.

Thanks for your prayers.

Mom is sick

Hello again

The last few days mom has been not feeling well. The other day her nose was just pouring, wouldn't stop until I put Vicks on her.

Then today, mom  was in bed and no one knew why. Well except for me. Mom is sick. It is a funny thing, mom never got sick until the doctor started to put her on certain medication. Which I stopped both as soon as I knew she was put on these. Since then her immune system has suffered.

And now the proof. Upset stomach and hot and cold. I mentioned this to the nurse the other day, they told me they would keep and eye on her. The next day they tell me mom's nose has not run at all. I simple stated that she is sick.

Why is it that they just don't believe I know when my mother is not feeling well and actually sick. Then today mom did not eat much at all. She didn't even eat her papaya. She just had a few mouths full and that was it. Not even the apple pie, I made for her. Not well. I always keep an eye out for any changes in mom. Even slight changes.

So they may now believe me that mom is sick. Because of certain things. Wouldn't someone who is there all the time and knows her extremely well not know what is going on with their mother. I would think so.

I just kept her warm, held her hand. Just gave mom a quick spa treatment tonight.

By the time I gave her something to drink, for her last drinks from me each night. Mom was out cold. Even with the nurse coming in and me turning on the light to show her how to operate the stereo. This did not even wake her up.

Yet she knew when I sang to her and then her smile as I finished. Just beautiful

This past week I have been dealing with the PGT My own way. There is more to do and more paperwork to file on them.

They just don't get it. They will not be taking advice from my mother's pot head daughter. Never going to happen. If I have to go to the media and let them know that the PGT is listening to a pot head and a suppressed women, over someone who is actually there every single day and knows what is going on down to the tiniest detail.  I think they might find this interesting.

Enjoy each moment you have with one another, for it is these precious moments that actually matter the most in life, To take care of the ones you love brings our world closer together Bringing that bond which makes our lives better.

I need to go and get some rest myself. I have been kept up at night. The upstairs person has this heater that is just loud and has waken me up through-out the night for the last 4 nights. I finally went upstairs today and brought this up with him.

Maybe tonight I will get to sleep straight through the night


Pleas pray for mom

GOD bless and goodnight.

To touch our soul

Still no word

Hello again

Well mom is still going without her smoothie. I simply can't afford to buy a blender. I need shoes, as all of mine now have holes in the soles of them. My boots are falling apart at the seam. I was wondering why my one foot was getting so wet, the other day. Then I was going to put the boots on yesterday, and saw the sole coming off the boot. My runners are full of holes, my boots are falling apart and my casual shoes, well the sole is splitting in half, of both shoes.

It is now the rainy season here in the lower mainland. Not very good. I have no way of paying for new shoes. I need fall and winter clothing. It is getting colder here with each passing day. 3 c tonight, snow on the mountains today, and very windy

Wet feet here I come! no choice. And the zipper has broken on my waterproof jacket. I now need to contact the company to see where in Vancouver does one get this type of jacket fixed and if it covered. Even though I found it. One never knows, if one does not ask.

I left today, thinking, it is sunny out, so it will be warm. Half way to mom's it became very cold out. It became very windy out. And I became very cold. I had my hand on my down vest, but decided, it is sunny out I won't need it. Right!

Tomorrow, whether I need it or not I am wearing it. I can just take it off if I am to hot. My backpack is tearing, but that is OK, I will just sew it up. No problem there.

So I am working on a few things, but,at the moment I can't play my cards. As things progress I will keep you informed.

Now mom is still not use to the time change. Because of an incident we could not eat in her room tonight. Tomorrow we will be back.  We had the dinner in an old spot we use to eat in, and this took longer as we had to set everything up.

But we managed fine and then off to get her ready for bed . Because of being late, the care aid came in as we got back to her room. We just needed a few minutes. The care aid tried to help change mom, and mom did not like this at all. I have been the only one getting mom ready for bed in a very long time. She will not allow anyone else to do this. As soon as the care aid stopped trying to help change mom. Everything was OK again. I guess she didn't know.

Mom trusts no one else to do this for her. There is a certain way in which mom likes to be undressed and dressed. It is only through me, that she will trust.

Anyways we got mom in bed and changed her diaper. I then quickly went and did the dishes. Came back and mom was ready to sleep, but still wanted the full spa treatment. Washing her feet as well. I am more than willing to do this for her.

Tonight I stayed allot later just so I could hold mom's hand while she fell asleep. But I needed to leave and mom didn't want to let go of my hand. She wanted me to stay longer. If I lived out there I would stay. Period.


I am poor I live very poorly. I am disabled with many problems. But I do my best. I make sure, no matter how much pain I am in, to be there taking care of my mother. Beats the lazy ass sisters I have, including the stoner. Look I smoked pot and was an alcoholic. But I have been sober and not smoking pot for 12 years now. January 6, it will be year 13. I barely smoke cigarettes anymore. To prove my sister is a stoner I am willing to take a drug test. Bring it on!

One thing I am not, is unintelligent. It is the opposite. I have a very high IQ and this is to my advantage, when dealing with the PGT. They assume they can pull things over on me and I won't know what to do, to stop them. I guess they will just have to wait and find out. Won't they.

Please pray for mom. That she keeps doing well.

GOD bless and good night

Kristopher Schmuland

Halloween

Hello again

Yes a while since I have been writing.

I have been dealing with a few things. That which I cannot bring up at the moment.

Well bath day for mom and she was in bed.This time though, I arrived to find mom's bed turned so mom could see the TV. I thanked whom ever did this. It was not until latter that I found out who it was. I thanked him.

And mom was very thirsty and hot. So I gave mom as much to drink as she wanted. Which was allot.

It was breakfast in bed as usual on Saturday's And mom really enjoyed it. Ate just about everything.

As soon as we finished dinner, mom was ready to sleep. The music was playing, it was soft and relaxing.

I needed to get the spa treatment finished quickly. Before mom became grumpy. Since she was so tired. This I did for her and then packed up and then just held her hand. I stayed later as I have been leaving earlier than normal. Even though I stayed mom did not want to let go of my hand.

It is OK I love this.It is the greatest feeling in the world.

This is what I do.

Anyways, I have a sister who is a stoner. In other words a drug addict. She is trying to make decisions for my mother. Never going to happen.

No drug addict is ever going to make health care or any other decisions about my mother.

I asked that you pray for mom and I. At this point I really do need your prayers. I have some things that I need GOD to guide me through and mom needs me to be closer to her.


GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

I am trying to get ADSAAC started again

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The meeting

Hello again

Well today was the big meeting and it was exactly as I said it was going to be about. It was an attack on me. All the was through. The PGT violated my privacy rights, as I said they would do. Bringing up funding in front of the Al Hogg staff. None of there business.

This has nothing to do with my mother`s care. It was about humiliation. Which by the way didn`t work.

I will not be humiliated by the PGT or anyone else. For that matter.

I am so angry right now. If I had the money for a lawyer I would of been on the phone the minute the meeting was over.

I now have some things to take care of . Action to be taken

There was a phone conference with one of my mother`s daughter. All she did was lie on the phone. I am a single mother. Yea her son is almost 30 years old. Doesn`t count unless one has school age children. I bring her clothing all the time. Not so. It is I who is filling mom`s closet with clothing. Take the time to search for the best deals on the best quality of clothing.

Mom is not there. When we visit all she does it just sit there, and when we smile she smile back. So mom is not there anymore. If they took the time to actually get to know there mother they would find mom to be very with it. And alive. And when you visit once every three or four months. Really, do you even think she is going to care if you are there or not. NOT.

It was an attack. The PGT accused me of lying to them.

I was going to bring up exactly what the PGT is to everyone. But it was not for me to stick my foot in my mouth. They did a good enough job doing that for themselves.

I remember every single thing that was said by each individual at that meeting. Everything.

With a little help for a friend. So to speak. I will not confirm or deny.

But mom was very happy to see me when I arrived today. I arrived at 12: noon. and the meeting was not until 1:30.So I spent time with mom talking to her, sitting with her. Holding her hand.

As always, as soon as mom holds my hand she feels safe and relaxed. Warmth. She just wanted to close her eye`s and nap.

I let her know I will be going for a meeting and will see her right after.Then I needed to go and have an x-ray done on my ankle.

I came back, fed her dinner and then washed her hair. We finished really early. So we sat for a half and hour while we waited for the staff to come in to put her into bed. I could of had her put into be earlier but I just wanted mom to know she was loved and to just sit with her while she listens to music is what I like to do for her.

I will write more on this tomorrow.

I am extremely tired and have not slept well these last few days. I need to eat something. I don`t want to cook. So I don`t know. My downloads are done.

I think I will just to bed and watch something.

GOD bless and good night

Kris Schmuland

Now is the time mom and I really need your prayers. I need to be closer to her.

A meeting

Hello again

Excuse me for not writing sooner, but I have been preparing for a meeting with staff of AL Hogg and my mother's case manager from the PGT.

This meeting acording to the PGT is to deal with communication. This is further from the truth than anyone could say.

It is about abuse, taking away from my mother.

One example. The hand blender broke, so I cannot make smoothies for my mother at the moment.. I ask for assistance with this, a proper blender. NO ANSWER FROM THE PGT. They want me to go through AL Hogg, So I ask the manger to make the request for me.

First of all she tells me that this is not for them to be making decisions on. She is not my mother and does not control my mother's funds. (The manager of Al Hogg is who I am writing about now.) But the manager does it anyways. We get along very well.

Still no answer from the PGT.

Then I receive a letter from the supervisor CK. Telling me that we had this discussion in previous emails where all requests need to go through Al Hogg.

But it did!

To lazy to read the emails or it is the case manager who neglected to inform the supervisor that this happened.

So mom is now going without thanks to the PGT. This is ABUSE. This is the definition of ABUSE. To deny access to................

The meeting is this Wednesday.

She writes me and tells me that I should come into this meeting with an open mind.

I have been writing about the abuse at the hands of the PGT for over 7 years now. And nothing has changed.

Now I have to deal with a case manager who is a bigot, is completely discriminatory in her dealing with  me.

According to KB I am lessor of a person because I don't work.

Though I am taking care of my mother every single day and have been for many, many years. Sure I don't get paid to do this. But I should not be. It is my job to look after my mother as she took care of me.

This first email is about the meeting and the threats that are being made. To take away from what my mother is currently getting. ABUSE

And most of what is to be discussed is of no concern of the PGT They cannot get involved in the care of my mother. They do not make any decision on this matter. and cannot.

The second email is a response and further threats.

This case manage is trying to use the PGT and her position to circumvent my decisions when it comes to my mother.

The PGT just doesn't get it. I AM NOT AFRAID OF THE PGT! At all ................... I will do whatever it takes to stop them from abusing my mother.

Since I am poor I am considered indigent and can file any and all the court papers I want for free. FREE!

CK the supervisor whats me to come into the meeting with an open mind. I have dealt with the PGT for over a decade and have seen the abuse. Not to mention the dozens of letters I have received with complaints about the PGT.

Mad, yes I am very mad.

Read the emails below. Really read them. Read between the lines.

Hi Kris,

We have been discussing the meeting at the facility today and what we would think would be the points of discussion regarding your mother’s care.  We don’t have a formal agenda but you can expect that the following issues will be discussed:

Care Team issues/concerns 

Family issues/concerns

Requests for funds for your mother’s needs- direct billing to suppliers, allowances that are currently being provided and what needs to be adjusted

Modified Clothing needs

Feeding issues- what is appropriate, swallowing issues, what the facility provides, any additional issues that the care team staff may have

Current needs of your mother and who will be providing for these – facility vs family

Anticipated needs of your mother in the future

These are the issues that we would like discussed on our end.  Please note I have put in both the Care Team’s issues and the family issues on the list but I don’t know the specifics of what you will be wanting to discuss and what the care team may want to talk about.

My staff is not going to consider any further requests before the meeting. I thought that we had been clear in my previous email that these would need to come to our office through the facility.  The request that you have made for a blender can be discussed at the meeting.  Approval for this would need to come through the care team as it directly relates to the swallowing issues that your mother has and what they think is appropriate for your mother at this time. 

As I indicated in my last email to you as well, the meeting will result in some changes being made about who is providing what for your mother and this may result in a change to the funds that are being provided to  you.  This is part of the discussion that my staff will want to explore with both you and the care team at the meeting. 

Email #2

It’s unfortunate that you feel that the meeting isn’t about your mother and is about you.  You are not the focus of the meeting the current and future needs of your mother is what is being discussed.  As you have been intimately involved in providing things for your mother the discussion may impact going forward but again, this is directly related to your mother’s needs. 

We are still planning to have a productive meeting at the facility with you and your mother’s care team.  And we hope that you will come to the discussion table with an open mind.  There will be some changes but what these changes will be is what we will discuss next week. 

Please pray that GOD stands beside me through out this meeting. 

GOD bless and good night.

Kris Schmuland