Hello again
Well mom is still not eating properly. I can only get her to eat 15 bites of food, This is even difficult. As she just chews and chews the food. And she doesn't swallow it. It takes her a very long time to swallow her food.
Mom drinks well enough. No problem drinking. But the smoothie, she wants to chew. I keep telling her it is a drink, to just drink it and swallow as you do with your other beverages. I give her the smoothie by spoon, It is in a larger container and I need to give it to her this way. I see her excepting the smoothie as food, because I use a spoon to give it to her. Tomorrow I will put some of the smoothie in a bottle and see how that goes. But it is difficult for mom to swallow food.
Just 15 bites full, that is all I am asking her to eat. And mom is only eating half the avocado and papaya, plus maybe 1 or 2 of her chocolates. This is not good, Mom usually eat the whole papaya and avocado. And the box of 3 Lindt chocolates.
Mom, Mary has been very tired when I arrive and this has been going on for about 3 weeks now. I do not know why. And the staff have no answers either. Or they are giving her something and not telling me. This is something I could see my sister's arranging. Give her this, but don't tell are brother. Well they took the picture of her husband, my father away, without explanation. So I can see them doing this.
So mom being tired, when I arrive. I am getting there allot earlier than normal. So I am getting the staff to put her into bed. And I just feed mom in bed, each night. This gets mom comfortable. I do have to prop her up, so she doesn't lean over. I really hate doing this. But if I don't mom will lean way over and her head is down as well. Making it difficult to feed her. I take the towels out from her side as soon as dinner is over.
Then it is her spa treatment. As mentioned, I had funds put aside for a winter jacket and boots. Mom needs her spa treatment each day. This mom has had, each night, for over 4 years.
But thanks to Gail Anderson or Schmuland and Marilyn Hamon, sister's and Karen Bajwa of the Public Guardian and Trustee of BC the funds have been taken away for me to purchase these lotions for her. At Christmas time at that. Scrooge or bullshit or just greedy sister's and a PGT case manager who is completely discriminatory against me.
I know for a fact that my sister's can't wait for mom to pass away. The sooner she passes the more money they will get. This is the way they look at things. They have no respect for their mother. Otherwise they would be there for her. Bring a piece of fruit for her or a drink or even a chocolate bar. What they get mom for gifts, they get out of the dollar store. The cheap ass lotions and soaps, that I have to throw away. They are just crap, period. They are mostly water and don't absorb into the skin.
Have some respect for your mother. I can't leave any of the lotions in mom's drawers, as they steal them. So many times. Last year I had all of these sample bags in one of mom's drawers. I got them with purchases of her lotions. They come in handy when I am running out and need something to tide me over until the funds got into my account to cover the lotions. There were 6 of them in the drawer and guess what they came to visit and they were gone.
Mom and dad did so much for them. Isn't it about time they do something for their mother. Or if they can't handle mom the way she is. Don't stop me from giving mom something she has had, the nightly spa treatment, for the entire time she has been there.
That is just low, very low of them. Look it is not a secret that I don't like them. I forgive them for being the way that they are. But I don't have to like them. I have always know what they were like. Even from a child I could see them for what they are. Never a doubt in my mind.
We never got along. I just tolerated them. They are stranger to me. I don't give a crap if they come or not. I prefer if they don't come, but it is there mother so I don't say anything bad about them to mom. I bite my tongue.
Not caring enough about there mom to visit her, Don't take away the one thing she looks forward to each day. The daily spa treatment
I ask for help allot, well not that much. Yet I do ask.
I really don't give a crap about myself, what I get or have. Which is nothing. I started this with nothing and I haven't lost anything yet. I don't care about Christmas.
I only care about my mom being healthy and happy. Her having a good Christmas, Excuse me, a great Christmas... Considering it might just be her last. I do hope not, though.
I just want my mom to be good. To live a long and good life, she has already, 87 years, but she can still ;live longer.
This may be selfish, that is OK if you think it is.
I am asking for y'all to reach down and help me make this the best Christmas ever for mom.
Please do this for my mother.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
