Hello again
Please take what I say as truth. When dealing with assisted living homes. You, not they, are in charge of your loved one's health care. Not the LPN's the care aids, the social workers, the occupational therapist, or the doctor's. You make the decision on what your loved one gets for medication, for dinner's, how they are treated etc....... etc.......
Research all medication they are given. Search the FDA data base for the side effects for individuals with Alzheimer's/Dementia. And for any warnings that the FDA has issued for the medications that your loved one's are given.
Don't be intimidated by the home, go above their heads to the organization its self. Or the governing body. If you have any issues. Don't take things lightly.
THIS IS WHAT THEY EXPECT US TO DO. FOR US NOT TO DO ANYTHING.
PROVE THEM WRONG BY TAKING MATTERS IN YOUR HANDS.
IT IS FOR THE BETTERMENT OF OUR LOVED ONE'S THAT WE BE PROACTIVE.
Yet you have to be their, go their and be an active part of your loved one's life in order for this to be affective. If you go once a week, they will not take you seriously. I believe one should spend as much time as possible with their loved one's. I am the exception, there are not to many people who do what I do. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that the time you spend with your loved one is not enough.
I just believe, that our loved one's were there for us all the time, so it is our turn to do the same.
Tonight I was not able to bring mom any dinner. The mother Hubbard syndrome. Broke and nothing at home to make for her. Or even myself. Please understand, I would and have gone without so mom can have a nutritious meal. But this time I have nothing. I am feeling extremely guilty about this now and will be feeling this way tomorrow, as I won't be able to bring her anything.
One thing I have noticed over the years is that I have developed Social Dysfunctional disorder. Meaning I have a hard time making and keeping friends. Being isolated and lonely has caused this disorder to flourish.
If I had one wish this wish would be to win the lottery and then buy a home to move mom in with me and take care of her full time.
This is just a wish. A wish that I would love to come true. I already know how to look after her.
Well it is late again, I had allot more to say, but I need to go to bed. I am very tired tonight.
Please, I ask again, that all of you who believe, pray that I find a place in White Rock that I can afford, by the end of August.
Thank You
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
