Hello again
So today I found out that mom is not eating much of her lunch either. The one nurse mentioned to me that mom gets angry and then refuses to eat.
This is why I asked for the staff to add the a little bit of the Vega One to each of the four times Mary gets her medication. They faxed the information to the doctor and now I wait for a reply. And then bring this to the PGT for funds to cover this. As it is I have a large tub at home to add to the smoothies I make for her. And will need another tub to leave at the home.
I take it that this has been going on for some time now. As mom has been loosing weight.
This is how the home informs me of what is going on with mom. NOT! I say I want to be told of any medication changes, and dietary changes or concerning anything else. I have to ask constantly about her medication
With this attitude mom will become extremely sick. I am glad I am bringing these things up and asking the right questions.
It seems I am the only one who pays attention to the details of mom's life. I am the only one who is actually concerned about her health.
They seem to have no clue. If I were to leave this up to anyone, mom would not be doing well.
All this seems to leave me with needing to move to White Rock. So I can feed mom lunch as well. They seem to not be able to do this successfully. I am wondering if she is even eating her breakfast. But of course they will not tell me this . Because they don't want to appear useless........
Everything each and everyday is saying that I need to be living in White Rock, as mom needs me their to protect her and make sure she eats.
Tonight, Mary ate. I brought her some Chinese food, and mom liked this. Plus I bring mom eats a papaya everyday, and an avocado each day. I make sure mom gets fresh fruits and vegetables. They changed mom's diet to minced. They say she is not chewing her food.
I beg to differ. Mom chews her food fine around me. And it is not minced, but pureed.
I am getting worried, OK I am already worried. Something needs to be done, and it needs to be done now.
Well today I was told to get a job. I have a job, it is a full time job. Actually more than full time. It is 70 hours a week. Every week and has been this way for a very long time. It is a job that I love doing. I would never trade this job for anything. It is very rewarding.
I am my mother's caregiver. I spend up to 6 hours a day traveling, 3 - 4 hours a day visiting with mom and then there is the waiting for the bus and walking the bus stop. As well as purchasing the fruits mom eats everyday. And the other things I need to do for mom, before I even get out to White Rock.
This is what I told this person today. This left them with their mouth wide open. They didn't believe me that I do this for another person.
It is my mother. That is all that is to it.
I have found a few places, that are, again, close to the home where mom lives, but just out of my price range.
It is a bit of a dilemma. I need to be their for mom's sake. I need to be on disability. I need financial help.
I pray to GOD all the time. HE knows I need to be living out their to take care of mom.
I feel stuck where I am. I hate coming back here at night.
If it where not for money, I would be living there already.
Again, I ask for any kind of help. OK we all know what type of help I need.
I really don't care if I have furniture. As long as I have a bed and a couple of pots and pans. A few dishes. I am OK.
The rest of the place can sit empty. I just need the help to get their and pay for the rent.
Over and above what I make and can afford now. I can go without everything else. I really just need to be living out in White Rock. It is time.
Mom needs me more now then every before.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
