Hello again
So tonight mom barely ate again. This is five days now, that she is not eating. All mom wants to do when I get their is go to bed.
I try to feed her, but she just doesn't like what is being served to her.
I write the PGT and tell them that mom needs some home cooked meals. But what does he say to me. "The home provides meals for her, so I won't help you with this" I write back that mom isn't eating and doesn't' like what she is being served. He writes back to me with the same response.
Now I make her meals whenever I can. Again I will spend whatever money I have on mom before myself. And that is exactly what I do. I try and try.
Now mom new me today and had no episodes of not remembering. I washed her hair and styled it. Then it was time for the spa treatment.
When I was going to put her to bed. I thought, let's get her up and try to walk. Get some exercise. I asked her if she wanted to get up and walk. And in a clear voice she said to me " WHY" I asked her again and "WHY" is what she told me. Clearly spoken.
Now this is mom saying that what is the point in doing this. The staff is not going to get my up walking, anytime soon. I have no dignity, they are forcing me to go to the bathroom in my pants. Even though, at Oceanside they took me to the bathroom and I didn't have to go in my pants. How disgusting.
They don't even let me push myself around, they have my legs up all the time.
I just hugged her and told her, I am moving to White Rock so I can be here more often and do for you whatever it is that I need to do, To help you with everything. To get you up walking. To make sure they take you to the bathroom. To make sure they let you move around on your own. To see to it that they don't keep you tilted back all day. So your eyes are being abused by the lights.
When mom first moved in I told them that the lights bother mom and not to let her directly face them. But do you think they listen. NOT A CHANCE IN HELL!
This is the abuse that the organization I am starting is trying to stop. To allow each person dignity in their lives. Which is lacking.
I have seen many violations at the Al Hogg pavilion. The clients have rights and they just ignore them.
That is OK I am writing a letter of complaint to give to the human rights tribunal.
I WILL NOT TOLERATE MY MOTHER BEING ABUSED BY ANYBODY.
I WILL FIGHT AND FIGHT FOR HER, NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES.
This is not just for the management of the Al Hogg pavilion, it is also for the PGT.
Mom is not wanting to be alive, she is wanting to just give up. Not going to happen.
What I see happening is the management thinks they know everything and they don't listen to the children.
Now I am wanting all of mom's and dad's photo's, and the PGT tells me to go to welfare. I just wrote them, demanding the photo's.
Mom area is sparse and needs to be familar. She needs a look back and to remember her life. Her wedding photo's, dad's army pics. All the family photo's.
I am getting very sick and tired of this nonsense with the PGT and the homes that abuse it clients.
It is not my problem if they don't have the staff to toilet mom. This is what she needs and that is all that it is to it.
Remember we all have rights, even one who has Dementia. She deserves to be treated with respect. As we all do.
It is time the PGT keeps it's word and help me get to White Rock. Once I am their, I will take care of the rest. I need to stop all of this traveling, so I can concentrate on developing my organization. And to start a business writing Representation Agreements and other interests that is associated with seniors and their abuse issue's.
Again if their is anyone out their who is interested in giving a helping hand. Whatever that may be. I would be very grateful.
I am a Christian and I believe in GOD and I believe in Jesus Christ. I believe in love. To love one another. This is the greatest of commandments that GOD gave us.
And I hope that who ever reads this believes in the same values that I believe in. That if your neighbour is in need, to help them out. This is the true work of GOD.
I need to go now, bed time.
GOD bless and good night\
Kris Schmuland
I do this, not out of selfish needs, but for the love I have for my mother. I will gladly give up my life for my mother's.
