Hello again
As mentioned Sundays are the most difficult day of the week for me. I need to be alone all day. I can't be around people or I will just break down. As it is I break down anyways.
My mom was a very strong and caring women. She worked and looked after us kids. I can always remember mom doing something for someone. Be it sewing something for them. Giving them a perm, Cooking a huge meal and inviting others, less fortunate over for a holiday meal.
Mom drove me to all my swim team practices. 4 am daily. And to the meets. A remarkable women.
It was very difficult to watch mom decline the way she did. First it was her short term memory, Repeating the same tasks. Then mom had a few small strokes. She broke her hip and that was that. My sister decided that she no longer wanted to take care of mom. I am glad about that. She wasn't looking after that well at all. Not feeding her properly. So when mom went into a seniors home, I was happy for her. OK no I wasn't. I wanted to look after her. But I did not own a home, just rented and the PGT was not going to help with that. Turned down. So a home was the best place for her.
She was going to get a nice room, three meal a day, snacks. Plus the snacks I brought each day. And dad was in the same home as mom.
Yes it was a long way for me to travel, but I was out voted. Actually, the girls said they would be there to look after mom, And guess what, they weren't! Though a long way, I made sure I was there as much as I could. That was 6 days a week. However way I could get there. Which was walking, bus, hitchhiking, train. Anyway I could get out there, I did it. I needed to be there for mom. No matter what. No matter what. And that is what I did.
It was nice, a nice place, Great staff, I could visit day and mom at the same time. But dad was in real bad shape when he got there. A serious stroke and that was the death of him. He slept allot. So I spent most of my time just hanging out with mom. We would talk, laugh and watch TV together. We would go down and be part of whatever was going on. Sometimes mom just wanted to do her own thing without me being there. I understood, and left.
But all of it was great. Mom could speak at that point. So she had some Dementia, I worked around it. I understood and dealt with it. And we did have many great conversations. I learned allot about her. I asked questions, so to keep mom's memory sharp. And it worked.
She participated in many of the functions that were happening at the home. I loved that mom was getting involved.
Dad was getting worse, day by day. It was not a good time for him. And very difficult for mom as well. To see her war veteran husband decline like that. Dam it was hard on me.
I continued to travel out there all the time.
I will continue the story tomorrow night. I just want to watch something and go to sleep. A big day tomorrow.
I ask for your help. Again. But this time I am only asking for help to give mom a funeral service. She has not had one yet and it is coming up to two months since she passed away.
I know I was asking for funds to hire a lawyer but I am going to do most of it myself and to represnet myself in the Supreme Court. The will is going to take a least a year to finalize. So I have time to look after that. But it is the service that is the most important thing right now.
So I ask for any help you can spare. All of it going to the service at the moment.
https://www.gofundme.com/ka556fdk
Please read it, It was changed.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
