Hello again
I am happy to report that mom is well. She is not presenting signs of any diminishing capacity. Her Dementia is staying it's course. Not moving forward. And mom has been steady for quite some time now. This is not to say that things can't change in a instant. They can, of course. I have not noticed anything different in her behavior, mood, no changes in her body. In fact, mom is bending her legs more and more each month, as long as I keep exercising her legs. Her stiffness is getting better in her legs and left arm. om is moving her left arm more and more. I now need to work on her left hand as well. This does hurt her when I open her left hand and straighten it out. I have to do this several times a week to clean it and put lotion on her palm.
I will have to open her left palm this weekend, as I need to do her nails. Cut them and file them. They get to long and her nails are very strong, so they cut her and she can cut the staff or myself. Both mom and I have hard nails. When my nails are long and have not been cut in a few weeks, I will wake up in the morning and find small cuts on my face and arms. But I will have to get some help with cutting her nails. Mom tends to move around allot and I don't want to cut her fingers.
Lets see now, mom was a bit tired today. She usually is on Fridays. She ate very well. I nice meal and plenty of fruit. Then after dinner, being Friday, I washed and styled her hair. I put a warm blanket on her when I do this. In the tub room there is a warmer, with towels and blankets in it. I help myself. This relaxes mom and it is easier to wash her hair. Okay, it is never a problem washing her hair. Mom enjoys it to much. Especially since they only give mom a bath once a week and don't do anything else for her in between. Except they wash her when they change her. I do the rest everyday. I keep her clean and put lotion on her.
The care aid got her into bed, I did my usual spa treatment. But I have added a neck massage to the routine This mom can't wait for each night. I see it in her face. And when done, a very big smile comes upon her face and a sigh of relaxation. By the time I am done, now, mom is ready to go to sleep. She grabs my hand, pulls it close to her and that is it. Except the nurse comes in and wakes her to give her the nightly medicine and is tastes horrible. I immediately have to clean her mouth and teeth, then give her something to drink. Followed by a lotion touch up.
It is only when I sing our goodnight song to her, will she truly fall asleep. She waits for this each night. Our nightly ritual. Then she yawns and is now ready for sleep.
So I stand there, hold her hand. I watch some TV, on mute. They stereo is on. In fact mom like to watch the news while I feed her and as soon as dinner is done, it is time to turn the music on. That is the way mom likes it, so that is the way it is. And the music plays all night for her. At a decent volume, so not to disturb her roommate.
I stand holding her hand for as long as I can before I have to leave. Until about 7:50 pm. 10 minute walk to the bus stop. Then my 3 hour ride back to this place where I am staying. I really do hate living her. And I don't hate much. I dislike allot of things and people, but not hate. It is such a very strong word. With such a deep meaning.
Well I am done for tonight. Not sure if I will write tomorrow, but we will see.
Nothing to write about myself. The same old. Needing to move, broke and very poor. Need hearing aids and can't afford them. I am not enjoying not being able to hear as well as I am use to. As mentioned can't hear behind me now. Also very depressed.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
