Hello again
Well another day of dreaming that when I leave mom's place all I have to do is walk a few blocks and I am home. I stay latter to make sure mom is fully asleep.
Just a simple wish! Isn't it.
Of course we all dream of winning the lottery. Again just a dream for us all. I enter contests all the time, but I never win anything. Oh yea I won a $50. e-card last Christmas. Not the one that just passed.
So I arrived early so I could speak with the manager again. I am not comfortable bending over backwards for staff that have done nothing but provide hassles since September and an OT who finds nothing wrong with the staff tearing mom's clothing like they have. I don't see anything wrong with this. As I am telling her it is unexceptionable behavior. And to explain to the manager where I would like the nightgowns sewn too. I am compromising. Just to the seam of the gowns. Around the neck line.
Anyways, I like the fact that I got mom to eat Sushi at the age of 80. Very cool. Still no one has a definitive age for mom. 1928, 1929 or 1930 I ask three different people and get three different answers.
So as mentioned it was Sushi night for mom. She likes this once in awhile. It was good that I bring dinner, as mom was not even given the served dinner tonight. The one staff came in and asked if mom was done with her dinner. Well I guess she would be done if she was given her dinner. So the girl goes and finds mom's dinner. She didn't hear me when I said not to bother, because mom is finished now and onto dessert. She apologized. I said it was okay. Not to worry.
I will have to stop here and say this. I don't have any problems with the night staff. It is just the day staff, whom I do not even know, that I have a problem with.
Now after dinner, we all know I get mom changed into her nightgown and ready for bed. While taking her shirt off I noticed the bottom of the shirt was wet. When I got it off of her, I smelled it and it was wet with urine. So as I was taking off her pants I noticed the the bottom and down her legs were wet as well. And the seat of her chair was wet. I put on some gloves and I took her diaper off. I didn't want mom sitting in urine any longer than she had too. I put an extra bottom cover on her bed and then put her to bed. I had put a nightgown on her and new undershirt. I pushed the button for the care aid to come. Then checked mom again. When transferring her to bed I got her nightgown wet with urine, so I needed to change her again. I said to the care aid, mom's cushion on her chair needs to be cleaned and I need to change mom's nightgown again. She started to help me, but to many people makes for complications. And I do very well at changing mom myself, without needing any help.
For mom to have made that kind of mess, she would of had to of gone to the bathroom at least several times over. Meaning mom had been siting in soiled diapers for hours. I was not impressed. This care aid started at 3:00 pm. And didn't even check to see if mom needed a change. Really now! Part of the job. Get on shift and check your charges! This is the exact kind of nonsense that I have to keep dealing with. I didn't bother getting into it with her. I will just bring it up when I write the complaint office again.
Oh yea I did manage to get mom personal health number. I don't know if I mentioned it at all. But I have it, but it is in a box, packed, and I have no idea what box it is in. Actually, I don't know what is in what box. It will be a surprise when I finally move to White Rock. If my dream does come true.
After this everything went as normal. The spa treatment, more to drink, something for a snack and then pack up, and hold her hand while she falls asleep.
Please pray that something good happens for mom and I. As in a I get a phone call from someone telling me that they have a perfect place for me. Provided that what I am saying about taking care of my mother is actually true.
Yes, most people do not believe I do what I do for my mother. That I have stopped my life to look after her. I don't think of it as stopping my life. I think of it as a new chapter of learning something that I needed to learn.
I was and am willing to do whatever it takes to look after mom. And travel as far as it takes to do this.
I have so far traveled all over the Lower Mainland to take care of mom. All the different places she has been in, and in all the different cities through out the Lower Mainland she has lived. And getting there anyway I could.
I heard a story. Of someone who traveled great distances to get to where they needed to be. And someone heard about this, started a go fund me page. And raise allot of funds for this individual.
That would be nice. I tried this for myself and failed miserably at it. I guess it has to come from someone else. I tried anyways.
Please continue to pray for mom and I.
If not for me, but for mom.
My Mother My Hero. For going through all that she is going through. With strength and courage.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
