Hello again
So today I was able to wash mom's hair. Normally I wash it Wednesday's and Friday's. But because of the dental work mom had done yesterday, she was to tired for me to do this.
So I asked if the room was available and everyone said yes, go ahead and was your mom's hair. So I got everything from her room, then the girl asked me how long I will be, that she needs to use this room. Within 10 minutes of them telling me it was OK to wash my mother's hair.
Really!
We have it down pat. 10 minutes to wash and dry it. But the girl was hovering around in the tub room. Rushing us. Being a nag. Wouldn't leave us alone. Just stayed in the room the entire time I was washing mom's hair.
Trust me I will be bringing this up tomorrow.
I brought mom dinner, as nice dinner. I knew she would be hungry after last night. Just eating fruit. Big smiles on mom's face when I served her the dinner I made for her.
We were almost finished when they finally brought the dinner that the home was serving. The girl tries to leave the tray. Even after I said to her, we don't need it, mom is almost finished dinner and on to dessert. You don't want anything from the tray. No, mom is finished dinner.
Now if I didn't bring mom dinner, she would of waited a half hour to be served and cold food at that.
Really!
Tonight I found out that another resident was not doing well. I spoke to her grandson. And the doctor told the grandson that his grandmother is dying and it will be only a matter of days.
Well the grandson, didn't take this lightly. He got her transferred to the hospital for tests. And she is back in her room, doing better. It was just a blockage in the bowels. They did what was needed to be done.
This is how they work. When someone is very ill, they don't send them for tests to see what is wrong, they just say they are dying. They stop feeding them. And let them starve to death. Yes that is what I said.
I hear it all the time. "They haven't eaten in several days, so it is a matter of time, now" Of course it is a matter of time. They are starved to death.
I don't make this up. This is a routine with every resident that is very sick. I would guess that 8 out of 10 of the deaths could of been prevented. By simply taking them for testing. And this is at all the extended care facilities. Yes everyone of them. The residents are their for maintenance, not treatment.
There is a reason for someone being ill.
This is why most homes are not my biggest fans. I will tell the truth and write about it. I need to let everyone know what it is like in our care facilities. Where we send our loved one's to be looked after by people who are only doing this for the job. Most don't care.
Excuse me, to be warehoused.
If I had a place where I could bring mom, I would do it in a heart beat. I would look after her 24/7, without blinking an eye. I don't though. This is why I what and need to be living in White Rock. Not to free up time, but to spend more time with my mother. Seeing that I am not able to have her live with me. I wish that I had the money and a place that this could happen. A van to take her around to where mom wants to go and needs to go.
While speaking with the grandson, he told me that his grandmother was on 3 different anti psychotic medication. This is what I have researched thoroughly, and put a stop to this nonsense with my mother. I had my mother off of these killers very quickly. OK, it took me 4 months of fighting with the Psychiatrists. But I prevailed. And I explained to the grandson that these drugs are killers, that they should not be given to our seniors. That the FDA has put a black box warning on these drugs.
Not to give to seniors, as it may cause strokes, heart attacks, death.
He took everything I said to him, to heart and he will be speaking with the doctor about this. I explained my story with mom and what I had to do to get her off of these drugs.
Well back to mom.
After we finished washing her hair, it was off to bed for mom. She is still feeling the affects of the Adivan she was given yesterday.
She was put into bed, stretched out, relaxed, grabbed my hand and started to fall asleep. It was very early. I just turned to TV on and stayed until the usual time that I would leave.
For me, my shoulder is very bad today. My arm is numb and shaking. My headache is worse. And I am having a hard time standing straight.
That is all I am going to say about that.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
