Hello again
So I arrive at mom's and she was given her medication early, which makes her tired at dinner and she does not want to eat much. Mom just wants to go to sleep.
But I did get her to eat a fair bit. Plus lots of fruit, the smoothie, papaya and an Asian pear. So she was full. I got her ready for bed quickly. brushed her teeth, left handed, as I am having difficulties using my right arm. Then the care aid came in to put her to bed and change her pad.
This time there was a new person, who she was training. I waited and spoke with them. When they finished and left, I went to grab something from the closet, I almost bashed my eye on the lift. The care aid did not put it up high enough. I was at eye level and could of done some real damage.
I have asked, polietly, for them to raise the bar as high as it can go. I am taller than most of them. This is what I keep writing about, the poor care the residents and there caregivers get. They just don't care and don't listen to anyone. Even though I have asked many, many times to please raise the bar as high as it goes.
Well I am just going to print a note out and put it up right below the lift. So if I do accidentally injure myself, because of their neglect, I have proof that I did everything I could do to have them pay attention. To cover myself.
Mom was ready for her spa treatment, this I completed as quick as I could so mom could get to sleep. I finished and we had over half an hour for me to just be there for her, holding her hand. And when I sang mom her good night song and gave her the good night kisses, mom was sound asleep.
Now I am in more pain than normal. My right arm is extremely painful. Not functioning correctly. I have to place it right beside my body to use it without to much pain.
My back is killing me.
Now with this comes some annoyance, which is making me a little impatient. When mom is really tired, she tends to lean to one side. This makes it very difficult to feed her. I try to straighten her out, and ask her if she could not lean. This is not what one should be doing. Mom will not remember, she just does it again. And lately, it is hard on me. I am doing my best to just stay calm.
I am in pain, which I try to explain to mom, but she just reaches for my hand and leans over. I am trying to get things done, while, trying to keep mom's arms from getting in the way.
When she is this tried, mom is very impatient. Wants everything right now. And I am slower than before this accident. I, again, let mom know that I am slower than normal and she will have to be patient with me. That I will get to it as quickly as I can. Very politely I do say.
I don't get angry with mom. It is not her fault that this is happening to her. I just need to find a solution to this pain and learn to deal with it. As quickly as I can.
One solution is to take more pain medication. But it doesn't solve me having to carry all sorts of things to mom's and back.
Yes I can't carry nearly as much as I could before this. I have to bring things back and forth, otherwise things go missing. It is, having to carry it the distance. As a result of this bus accident.
If I lived right their, I wouldn't have to carry anything that great of a distance, as I do now. This is the better solution, then taking extra medication.
Otherwise mom is in good health. She is upset that she has to be in their and not getting out. I can see this in her eye's. Another reason for me living closer to her. To take her out, over for lunch or dinner.
I ask again to pray that I find a place, which I can afford.
Have to go, need to relax and do nothing. Watch some mind numbing TV show. Turn my brain off for a few hours
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
