Hello again
It there any help for dedicated caregivers who give up their lives to make sure their loved one's are well taken care of.
I think not.
Considering I have written dozens of papers and many leaders and not even one reply.
I do this and don't have a problem with doing anything and everything for mom. But it would be nice if I could get some help. Especially since I am disabled and in pain everyday, all day. And just want to move to be closer to mom, to do more for her and for myself, which in turn allows me to do more for mom. Just to eliminate the 6 hours a day of traveling, is beneficial to both of us.
I try and try and I guess I will keep trying to find some kind of help. Maybe I should make a sign and go stand in Vancouver at the Art Gallery. The sign should read. " Is there any help for caregivers, I think not!"
Maybe I will, once I find a place. And this unto it's self is freaking me out immensely. I have no idea what I am going to do. There is a place 2 blocks from mom's, but it is, again, just a little to much for me. I mean just out of my reach. It is ideal. Insuite washer and dryer, cable, Internet etc...... 2 blocks away. I wish, I wish, I wish.
Mom is doing fine today, but very tired. We know why. The complaint department finally received my letters, so I now, tomorrow, I need to print them out and bring to the manager, and speak with her about my next move.
And being this tired, mom is not that hungry. It takes an effort to get mom to eat, but I do. Even though it takes time. OK with me, I have lots of time when it comes to mom. However long it takes for her to eat, is how long it takes.
I know I do say the same things about what I do for mom. But there is more. The little things are what counts. And these things are very important to mom.
Just holding her hand. Then there is the many stops I make just to get her the things that make her happy. 6 different places today.
When the staff come in to change her and put her to bed, it is important that I be in the room, otherwise mom fights with the staff and when I am in there with them mom is calm, she holds my hand and doesn't take her eye's off of me.
Wiping her eye's of sleet, feeding her, wiping her mouth, to keep her clean. Giving her the nightly spa treatment. Massaging her feet each night to relax her. Allowing mom to help when she can. And she tries. Mom helps when I am getting her undressed for bed.
To be able to understand her, her facial expressions, each and every small one. I have been taking care of mom for a very long time now, and I am hopping it is going to be for a long time to come.
To make her healthy dinners each night. Mom has had a papaya and avocado every single night for many years now. They are extremely healthy for her. Plus knowing the exact dessert she likes.
These are but a few of the smaller things I do for mom each day. To make her life more enjoyable. I can never say this enough.
Mom relies on me to be their for her. And I rely on mom to be their for me. Mom is my life, and this is what I have such a problem with, when it comes to getting help. NO ONE CARES how much or how little I do for her. NO ONE CARES if I am homeless or not. If I have anything or not.
I don't have a problem with moving into an empty place. I have a chair. I can get an older TV (Tube TV) yes a tube TV. I have a bedroom suite. My bed is very old and worn out. I just need pots and pans and the other important kitchen items. As in knives, forks, spoons. Pots and pans etc.......
Closer to mom is all I want right now. This is something I need to do. And I can't afford to pay for this place myself.
Mom needs me now, more than ever.
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
