Hello again
This morning I made the first of many phone calls, that hopefully will help to have mom moved to a new room. But I still think it is the roommate who should be moving.
I phoned the Patient Quality Care Office, for Fraser Health BC. I could only leave a message, and that someone will be contacting me within two business days. I just need to write a letter explaining my complaint to them, so I can include it in an email, with copies of the two letters I wrote to the managers of Al Hogg. One to the previous manager and one to this new manger.
I went to print the new one out last night and noted it needed revisions. This is almost complete. I also need to get the exact spelling of the new managers name and job tittle. I thought I had it, but I lost the business card. Miss placed it, lost it. If I don't put things in the proper place, things go missing.
Tomorrow I will call the MLA for White Rock, as well as make an appointment to see a lawyer with Pivot legal society. Plus to make an appointment to see my own doctor.
So before I left today I made mom her dinner and did some more of her laundry. Brought a bunch of it out to her today.
I was running late today. Didn't get much sleep. Dealing with the upstairs tenants and the police. One of the upstairs tenants is suffering from paranoid delusions and is thinking everyone is out to get her. Making accusations that everyone is verbally assaulting her. and she has driven one of the tenants to move and the other staying at a friends house. She is alone.
I got to mom's on time and feed her diner. Which she loved. Plus she ate part of the dinner served to her.
Tonight I was able to get back to reading to her. We were able to get through 6 pages before the staff came in to put her to bed. We are getting into this book.
I gave her the nightly spa treatment, held her hand, sang to her, danced a little bit with her. I have decided that I am going to write to her favorite musicians and see if I can get an 8 x 10 auto graphed photo of them for mom. And if they can make it out to Mary. You never know until one tries.
I needed to leave a little earlier tonight. As I had to write a letter for the landlord about this women and her behavior.
Now mom is doing fine, great actually, considering. I love her smile, especially when I am holding her hand while she is falling asleep. And I leave with mom having this huge smile on her face. I promised her that I would stay latter tomorrow night, and I will.
I just wish I could be living out their, closer to her. So the time I spend traveling, for more constructive purposes. Getting the advocacy organization going. Spending more time with mom. Getting my life back together. Again I spend upwards of 7 hours a day traveling. That is a full time job, just traveling. Yet I will continue to do this for mom and will not complain to anyone. I just say to everyone, that this is the most important thing in my life that I am doing. Taking care of someone who has no one else to do this for her. To make sure my mother's life has meaning. To make her happy and comfortable.
Mom relies on me and I her. It is OK that I am not pursuing the career path I was educated in. I chose to look after mom. It is worth every moment. No regrets and there won't be any.
The truth is mom keeps me going. Having been involved in many car accidents and being injured, having to now walk with a cane for the rest of my life. In constant pain. Yet it is all worth the traveling to see mom smile as she does.
It is really late and I have not even eaten yet. Have to go
GOD bless and good night
Kris Schmuland
