Hello again
So yesterday, I asked mom something and she looked at me, as if she did not even know what I was talking about. That blank look on her face.
Yes I don't admit it, but mom has slipped a bit since she has been at this new place. But not all to do with her. But the place itself, restricting mom and her movement, and refusing to toilet her. Keep her wheel chair tilted up all the time. All to make it easier for them. To not have to deal with the patients.
Remember I see and hear everything. Oops. I should not say this. They might think I am spying on them.
Mom is still sick and has bronchitis, I am sure of it. The problem is that mom has had pneumonia before and any lung/chest problems, could be bad for her.
Now tonight mom was very hungry, I brought her a chicken donair. So mom ate the whole donair, cheese, most of her dinner, that the hospital served, and a papaya. Oh yea some of her frozen fruit slushy/drink.
And then wanted to go to bed. As she became very tired after eating that much. It is like, they don't feed her. Or she isn't eating much of her lunch. Not as they say to me, that she eats everything.
My sister was their today, I could tell, by the mess she left in mom's room. She also left the TV on. I play music for mom all the time. I place my phone on her chest, so mom can not only her it, but feel the music as well.
But after the spa treatment, we had to wait for the staff to come in a change her. Well we waited and mom became agitated. And was trying to swing at me. I know she is sick and expect her to take a swing at me. But I have marks on my arm where mom got her nails into my arm. Not the first time, and won't be the last time.
And I did say to the staff member that mom was upset having to wait for so long and she might act out. Which she did. I know my mother and her moods.
After she finished changing mom I knew mom just wanted to sleep. So I told her no more fussing tonight. I won't put the lotion on her arms and hands. This I usually have to do before she gets changed. Otherwise mom gets upset when she is ready to sleep and I fuss with her. So I didn't.
Now you have to understand that the only thing that the staff member has to do is change her depends and clean her up. I do the rest and this is the way mom wants it. I am happy with this arrangement. I put her night gown on and get her into bed. Yes I use the lift to put her into bed. Even though other family members put there loved one to bed with out being hassled.
I am a male and it is sexual harassment. I get threatened with not being able to see mom. I can't even say what I feel and to stand up for mom's rights. Interesting don't you think. The way they conduct business. No family member involvement. When it comes to saying what you want or don't want your loved one to take or do. Or what you want for them.
They have family involvement when you comply with everything they say. And don't disagree with them. They simply say to you, let the professionals handle it. One could be a doctor and it would not matter. One could be around this disease for as long as some of them have been around it.
Or has seen so many abuses it is not funny. But none of this is taken into consideration. They are right, and everyone else is wrong.
Now I have an eviction notice and no one even cares if I become homeless.
BAD KARMA!
If one has the capacity to help someone, they have a moral obligation to do so. To be kind to the less fortunate.
Yes I am on a pity kick again. And I am less fortunate. I am bordering on being homeless and it is stressing me out. Which is effecting me when it comes to mom. I am not hearing her. I got a little agitated tonight. I kept trying to get her to sit up straight. As she was leaning over to much and this gets food and drinks all over her. And me.
To bad for me, as I should not be even concerned about mom leaning over to much. To be closer to me. Wanting to be hugged and loved. This is all she wanted. I never pushed her a way. I did try to sit her up straight a few times. She does know what is happening.
After dinner she was motioning for me to clean up the table. I like when she does this. Shows she is still cognisant.
Getting late again and I want to relax and try to get up early.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
