So I am still having blackouts, but not the hour long one's I have had. They are just a mire 20-30 minutes.
But at the same time I have been mistaken for a blind person over hald a dozen times now, in the last few weeks.
I can't eat, not sleeping well. The other morning I woke up with blood on my pillow and realized my ear was bleeding during the night. I have this incredible headache and it won't go away.
It is as if the staff at Ocean side are diliberatly leaving the bar down. Well I keep asking them to raise it up and it never happens.
Now on Sunday, this one nurse, or care aid, who I know abuses the patients, Have seen it with my very own eyes many times, while she was working at Valley View and twice at Oceanside. Was spowting ligalous and slanderous statements about me.
You know I would write about it, but I wrote the director that very night and I am just going to put that email on this site next, below.
This would be Kris Schmuland, son of Mary Schmuland.
Tonight there has been an issue that has been precipitated by the staff themselves.
On my blog, I do not write what I see and hear. I try not to write to many negative things about Oceanside. But I do write. As I mentioned in our meeting that this is the same staff as Valleyview, with the same attitude. The attitude that they are gods. And can do what ever they so wish.
This is the same staff that allowed mom to be sexually assaulted by another patient. Then deny it happened. This is the same staff that crippled mom. This is the same staff that refused to do anything to help mom out. As I mentioned that we will see.
A leopard does not change it’s spots.
So this evening. I arrived and took mom to the furthest reaches of the ward. To be away from all staff and patients. To avoid confrontation with the staff. I always clean up and make sure their is nothing for any other patient to get into.
I then take mom to her room and proceed to give mom her nightly spa treatment. This includes, Washing her face, feet, lower legs and arms.
All I ask from any of the staff is to get her changed and toileted. I ask that they take mom before I wash her lower legs and feet so I do not get mom’s clothing wet and then mom sitting in wet clothing for how ever long it takes for the staff to keep their word. And then I finished her spa treatment and let the staff put her to bed.
But my main problem is and always has been.
A person’s word is their bond. And if this cannot be kept, then everything they say after this is meaningless. I live by this rule and was raised by this rule. I apply it in every area of my life.
So the big issue is when I ask to take mom to the toilet and get her ready for bed. They respond by saying, in a few minutes. This turns out to be a half hour or more. On average I wait patiently. But in the mean time, mom has to go to the bathroom and mom get angry and then takes it out on me. A left hook, a scratch to the face, etc.... I take it so as the staff does not have mom hurting them.
This new issue started a few weeks ago now, when I was told mom would be next. They continued to pass by doing everything else, but assist mom. Mom was getting upset and I asked and asked and was met with hostility.
Now one of the issues are walking my mother. I was given a incoherent scribble of a letter demanding that I not walk mom. For her safety. Which means they they are worried about their own liability. Which they have stated on numerous occasions.
So I suggest I go to a lawyer and have a letter drawn up absolving the staff, Oceanside, Fraser Health and Peace arch of any and all liability.
No response.
Then after weeks of me putting mom to bed, tell me that I can’t even do this. As they are afraid of me hurting myself. Again, they are only concerned about their own liability.
I tell them to check with Worksafe BC. So I do, and they are not and would not be held responsible for any damages.
Now tonight. When they came to take mom to the washroom and get her ready for bed. I mention that this is a blanket that I brought and could it please not leave the room. This staff member proceeds to tell me that they are putting mom to bed right after they take her to the washroom. I say. I have just washed mom’s hair and I have not finished yet. I have her feet to do and I cannot wash. I was stopped and yelled at by this person. Telling me that this is what we are going to do and this is what my manager told us to do.
Then I tried pointing out that this is something we always....... Stopped and told to stop pointing my finger at her. I reply, I am not pointing my finger at you. As I looked down and was speaking with my hands, as I always do.
She proceeded to tell me to stop yelling at her and she is not going to listen to anything I say. What she says goes. I say I am not yelling at you. I cannot yell right now, as I blew my voice out last week singing to mom and have been barely able to speak.
Then all of a sudden their is an on slot of staff standing their and I am just standing in mom’s room. They are all yelling at me, telling me what is what and that I have no rights. A nurse comes over and tell me, I really don’t know what she said.
But this one, LeAnn or Leah. Tells me I have to leave. Oh right she tells me she is going to call security, and I responded by saying go ahead. Security comes I leave and I tell them if you or anyone tries to ban me from seeing mom, I will go to the police. I will be back tomorrow. They would not let me say goodbye to mom. I had to do it while mom was on the toilet. How humiliating to mom. And I tell them mom is not going to like this.
Which this care aid tells me mom is OK. Not a single staff member knows anything about mom and what she likes and dislikes. They spend no time with her. They did not even keep their word on walking her. I am not allow and they will, but never have. This is going to change. And change quickly.
Now a few days ago, one care aid finds a blanket in the washroom. Picks it up and tells me that it is wet. I tell her it has been in the bathroom in the same stop for two days. Nothing to do with me.
The very next day 5 days ago, now. They removed the towels and blankets from the open area, on the west side and proceed to tell me that it was done as someone was getting into it and it is for safety reasons. Meanwhile the carts are out in the open. So this is Leah that told me this.
I use towels as I need them to wash mom’s feet and arms and face. I always clean and dry the entire area and their is never a drop of water on the floor. In fact mom’s room is the cleanest room on the ward.
Her comes a good one. They tell me they do this so I don’t get hurt. Well because of this I now have to carry towels from home every day and they are denying mom a blanket. I have to bring this as well.
I am disabled, walk with a cane. On top of what I carry, I have more to carry and it is very awkward and I have not injured my back. I am in extreme pain and still have to travel to see mom. So I will be seeing my doctor and reporting this.
On top of the fact I have suffered a serious concussion, as a result of the negligence of the staff. I have walked into that bar many many times. After repeatedly asking them to raise it, when finished putting mom to bed, as I am tall and it is at my heads height that they leave it.
As soon as I get their I raise it and then they put mom to bed and leave it down. Again I asked repeatedly to please put it up after putting mom to bed and I will lower it afterwards. As I am not even allowed in my mother’s room when putting her to bed.
I am seriously injured.
I will be speaking to a lawyer this week. This is the result of the staff’s negligence and it is their fault I am injured, So when I speak with my lawyer I will be bringing up this new injury.
Mom requires me to be their. She expects my visits. And if you deprive mom of my visits, this is called abuse. I have not missed anytime with her in a very long time. Expect when it is unexpected or I have no way of getting their. I can count only 25 days in the last 6 years I have missed.
I did go to the police station immediately after leaving the hospital. But it is South Surrey and they were closed. I will, however go their if any action is taken against me.
I do not yell, I can’t yell, I can barely speak. And after visiting mom I cannot even speak at all.
This needs an urgent reply
Kris Schmuland
604.552.0557
So it sounds, again, you take the word of someone who I have seen, physically and verbally abuse patients, their at Oceanside. This is a women who I have caught trying to abuse my mother and have stopped it. Abruptly slamming my mother’s wheelchair backwards.
Now if she and others tell you I threatened them, If I told them I would go to the police after I leave their a threat, then I did threatened them. But if I go to the police, is that a threat. I do not, and have not threatened anyone their or anywhere else. I am an adult, not a child.
I will not stand by and be libelled and slandered by someone, who abuses patients and not do something about it.
Above was the email I sent to the director
So this is exactly what happened and I wrote this down as soon as I got home that night.
Now I am waiting for the director to contact me to arrange a meeting. By the conversation went on the phone, I dont know if I should have legal reprensentation with me, at our meeting. If any of the employees from Oceanside are present at the meeting. It might be a good idea I do so.
Anyways, I have not been able to eat much, sleep well, I have an incredible headache that wont go away and I have a nice mark on my forehead that is the exact shape of the bar.
GOD and good night
Kris
