Hello again
Mom is getting better day by day. I see it, even though everyone else is giving me the same old crap they give everyone. I have heard it from others to many times to remember. What the staff and management of all care homes do and say to the family and patients.
Do not feed her, she might get food down into her lungs, Then she will choke to death, Excuse me, aspirate is the proper word they use. Essentially telling everyone that they believe it is time to let your loved one starve to death. That is what they do in all of these care homes. They let the patients starve to death. Though the patient might be hungry or thirsty. They just don't give a crap. " This is what we do, and they go peacefully.
NO THEY DON'T. THEY ARE STARVED TO DEATH.
Mom is hungry and thirsty.
The doctor said mom can have thickened water. So yesterday when I arrived I saw the sign, that mom can have thickened water. I thought, if she can have thickened water, the smoothie I make is even thicker. So I gave mom 6 teaspoons full. Each teaspoon, mom swallowed it and enjoyed it.
But then the universe came in and demanded that I don't give her anything but thickened water. Because she might, might, get it in her lungs and she could aspirate. Choke or start to cough. And die.
But what is it they are trying to do. It is starve my mother to death.
She already has not eaten any food for over a week. But Sunday December 27, 2015, mom ate 15 bites of food and swallowed every bite. Without a problem. But on December 28, 2015 the doctor comes in and pulls me aside and tells me not to feed mom, because... wait for it................ She might get food into her lungs and aspirate.. Even though mom ate and swallowed her food fine the night before. I was writing it down on the calender, exactly what mom was eating.
I started to complain that mom was ill at the beginning of December. It was not until I threatened to take her to emergency that anything was done. It was the very next day they did something about it. X-rays on her lungs and tested her for an infection. That is when they found out mom had a bladder infection. Almost to late. .
I listened and have only been giving her this water. And mom does not like it. Well I tried it and she is right it tastes horrible. But to get mom to take it, I am taking a teaspoon first and then mom gets one. So if I am drinking this horrid water, so mom will drink it.
So today, I was asked to come into the family room for a meeting and Lisa, the manager, tells me that the director will be joining us. I was in the middle of giving mom a spa treatment, so I was not just going to stop what I was doing. Lisa did say for me to take my time, and I did just that. Took my every so lovely sweet time, finishing mom' s spa treatment up.
The meeting went like this. The staff have been telling us that you are feeding your mother, they are finding food in her mouth. Each day and everyday. I expressed to them I have not fed mom any food at all, I have not made or bought any kind of food for her. And I do even eat in front of her, or drink anything but my tea. None of her regular beverages, at all. So I have no idea were the food came from or if what they are saying is actually the truth. Which of course is total BULLSHIT!
Then they go onto tell me not to feed mom anything but thickened water. That they follow the doctors orders. And I have to do the same. Or again,.... wait for it.......... Mom might get food in her lungs and aspirate. A common theme is it not. Again they say this thousands of times a year, In other words we are going to starve your mother to death. The exact meaning.
I even said to them, " What do you think I am, an idiot" I have heard you say this to me a dozen times. I hear you. But are you hearing me. You do not get to decide when and if my mother dies. You do not have that right. There is only one who makes that decision. And that is GOD and only GOD. Not you, not my sisters, not the staff. ONLY GOD MAKES THIS DECISION
The director proceeds to give me a letter. And tells me that if I don't obey them, they will institute supervised visits. As well as a few other things I tell them go ahead, and I will get there at 10 in the morning and leave at 10 at night, Have them sit there for those hours costing Fraser Health allot of money. Well we won't do that we will try to acomodate you and your hours.
That is when I told them, Try it, I will call every TV station, every New Paper and every Radio station. I have emails for over 100 newspapers, TV stations and Radio stations in Canada. Which I do have. And every email address from Sun Media Corporation. Which is a very large data base of emails addresses I will contact my MLA, MP Pivot legal Society.
At that point I told them they have no idea what I am willing to do to protect my mother from harm. None at all.
My sisters are behind this. I know it. They want mom to die, they want what little money that is left. They want this in their pockets.
I have heard that the staff or someone there, are giving information out to individuals that are not immediate family members. They don`t have any rights to obtain information.
The letter which was given to me today, , I will scan it in and then I will post it on this blog.
Basically, my view is that everyone's is trying to kill my mother. They won`t deny it, they just don`t respond to it when I say anything about it............. No response is a response.
Not very positive
I am extremely pissed off now. And getting madder by the second.
I need to go now, I have to eat and go to bed.
Please continue to pray for my mother and for myself as well
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
