Hello again
I get a phone call this afternoon, while on my way out to mom's. It is one of the staff informing me that from now on, family and friends cannot use the microwave or use the fridge. If we need something warmed up in the microwave, we have to have one of the staff do it. We cannot even get a glass of water from the water and ice machine. We need to get a staff member to do this for us.
And on top of this, we, family members, cannot leave anything in the fridge. The memorandum states that this memorandum does not apply to those with fridges.
I have been trying and trying to get mom a fridge, but Fraser Health has said no over and over again.
Now they deny mom things she is use to having on a daily basis'. They say that I have to take everything home with me at night And bring it back the next day. No food, no drinks.
I can only carry so much without hurting my back. As it is I am carrying upwards of 50 lbs each day. Anything more, I just can't carry I push the limits of what I can carry allot. Some days it is even hard to walk, because I am carrying to much. Especially over the holiday season. When I make mom her smoothie, it is heavy. Then I bring her laundry home each night and back the next day. Plus I have to stop and get her fruit and drinks. Drinks I carry anyways. Somethings I need to bring home, and others, like the smoothie, would just ruin it. It would go bad carrying it back and forth. So who would pay for this.
Not Fraser Health. As it is they refused to pay for the repair or replacement of the night gowns that there staff have destroyed.
Come on now.
This is a Human Rights Violation, it is abuse, by the standard definition. To deny someone something they are use to having on a daily basis' is abuse.
So nothing in the fridge, and no fridge. They are going to have a choice or I will be calling the Human Rights Tribunal, Pivot legal advocacy and all the TV stations and papers. I will write what I wish to say and back it up with what is needed before I call Fraser Health on Monday.
We either are able to use the fridge or mom can have a fridge.
There reason is that we, family members bring in to many germs.
They refuse to give me a copy of the memorandum. Which I will insist that they do. It effects mom, then I have a right to see it, and have a copy of this.
So I solved the undershirt problem, and the manager thinks it is a great, great idea. I will put it on her at night and put a new one on her the next night when I get her ready for bed. The only time they need to replace it, is if she, mom, get extremely sick all over it.
Now Friday. It was a cold dinner tonight. Left over Harvest grain salad, avocado and sushi. And her desserts, as well as her chocolates.
Being Friday, I was going to wash her hair, but while I was doing the dishes, mom had her eye's closed and was already falling asleep,.. So I asked her if she just wanted to go to bed, and not have her hair done tonight. She replied, yes to going to bed right away.
I got he changed as quick as possible. I know the care aid this evening and she does not like it when I transfer mom to bed. I put an extra blanket on mom , and while we were waiting I took all the ornaments off the tree, and hauled them home tonight. I just have the Christmas tree to bring back, which I will do tomorrow. I have been bringing her Christmas decoration, a little bit at a time all week long. I can only carry so much.
After the aid put her to bed it was the spa treatment time. And because mom was so very tired, I only did her face and arms. And she complained about this. I just left it at that. Just her arms and face.
Then I just held her hand. Mom was reaching for my hand, while I was speaking with the nurse. The nurse didn't know what mom was doing. So I had to explain to her what mom was doing. Mom's eye's were closed when she was doing this. The nurse thought mom was trying to get out of bed. No I explained, she is just wanting to hold my hand while she falls asleep.
I was there until the last possible minute. I still needed to get to a store to pick up a few things for mom's new smoothie. And no I will not be changing bringing mom her smoothie in a larger container, to last a few days. Noting will be done differently until I speak with Fraser Health.
I need to go now, I have not been sleeping well for over a month now. I am waking up almost every hour. I am so tired. I am hungry, but my need for sleep is out weighing my need for food.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
