Hello again
So I want to start by saying that mom is very tired lately. This is due to the hallucinations of her roommate. She is constantly calling for the nurses or the care aids. The TV is on all the time and it is loud. No matter what the staff does, the TV goes back on. The lights are on all the time. The roommate gets upset and yells at the staff and gets very agitated.
Mom needs to move. And maybe, the person that is married to one of the family members, can pass this on to my sister's. So maybe they can complain as well.
I certainly will be doing this, first thing in the morning. And I won't be asking that they move mom. But telling them. First off, it is not mom who should be moved, it is the roommate.
Mom does not want to be around her anymore. She is to disrupted to mom's sleep. Mom has been tired, when I arrive and not eating much at all. She just grabs my hand and wants to go to sleep. I do everything I can to get mom to eat something. Yet it is not much.
This is a direct result of mom's roommate keeping her awake. I have watched and studied the roommate. When her hallucinations flare up, mom looses sleep.
The women should not be in this place with this problem. She should be in another hospital where they can find out what is needed to help alleviate the hallucinations. Get her on the proper medication and stabilize the women. Before she is put back in with others. So she is not disturbing other residents.. There is such a place next door. A temporary psychiatric facility. Their function is to stabilize these individuals and then place them back out into the community. Usually 3 to 6 months.
The time is now to get this done. Move mom or actually move the roommate.
Now for a little about myself.
I do complain about my sister's and there lack of, well, anything to do with mom. They don't really help mom and I am sure they don't understand mom at all.
But I do spend allot of time with self deprecating examination of my life. I am 50 and I have nothing. I can't even afford to rent a proper place in White Rock. I am very limited with my budget and it is stopping from moving to White Rock. Furniture is not the problem. I can find everything I need to furnish a place. Well except a proper bed. And a decent TV. Which I don't have. And I can't watch what I have on my computer on the old TV's. There is two things, then I need new. A bed and a TV. No money to rent a proper place, so I don't see money for the bed or TV.
My life is looking after my mother. I made this decision and I have no regrets. Mom just holding my hand is enough to make it all worth while. The trust that she has for me. The comfort. This is what I want and need to do. So I guess I am very OK with everything. NOT. What I am not OK with is living so far away. If something were to happen to mom I just can't get their. And this really worry's me the most. I want to be able to be their for her lunch and then back for dinner. To get her out and about. To see different places around White Rock.
I am very good with being mom's caregiver. I just have been looking for some help. Not help with looking after mom. But help with moving to White Rock. To be close so I can also deal with whatever needs to be taken care of with the staff. Dealing with all the issues that surround mom's care.
Mom does not want me to leave at night until she falls asleep. She just holds on tightly, to my hand and won't let go.
I wish I could stay, I need to leave to get home before midnight. If I don't catch the 8 pm bus, from White Rock. It is after 11:30 when I get home. This alone is a major problem for me. It is so late and I still have things to do when I get home at night. As in writing this blog, answering emails. And watch a little something.
I pray to GOD all the time for help and nothing. I always thank GOD every night for HIM healing her.
Time for me to go again. I have so much to say write about. I could go on for a very long time.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
